107 Power dynamics for non-kinksters (part 2) How to share power when you were raised to be an entitled jerk & a martyr

Jung has this great quote “Where love rules, there is no will to power, and where power predominates, love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other.” The shadow of love is power in Jung's estimation.

I look around the world and that sure seems true on a grand scale. And in our daily life, I think we *mean* to center love rather than power in our close relationships...but in reality, most of us struggle with power.

We struggle to accept that we want unnegotiated power (entitlement)

or

We struggle to accept that we want to experience a lack of power (martyrdom)

or

We struggle to accept that having power--even power we didn't ask for-- means having great responsibility (cue the Spiderman theme song)

But we aren't taught how to share power with our partners. How to be real about the shadow element that is ruling so much of our love life.

This isn't an episode about the grand scale- we are talking about how we made a mess of our loving home by ignoring the power dynamics at work under the surface and WHAT we each did to reverse the problem.

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