Relationship Advice

Trust is one of the hardest things to earn and easiest to lose in a relationship. If you’ve been lied to or if you have lied to your partner, this episode is for you. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why trust is so hard to get back in a relationship The three important stages for rebuilding trust How to create accountability in your relationship Forgiving your partner and moving forward in the relationship White lies and the negative effects they can have And much more! Paul holds two Masters degrees and has worked with hundreds of men, women, and couples for the last 14 years as a professional counselor. Paul and Shannon have enjoyed 25 years of marriage and have successfully raised 4 kids together. They’ve lived in Portland, Oregon most of their married life. They're the founders of SecureMarriage.com, an online library of marriage tools that will show you how to fight less, feel understood, and enjoy a deeper connection with your spouse. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/155 Interested in learning more about our new online course, Spark My Relationship? Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to build trust back into your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Intelliwhite: Intelliwhite is the fastest, clinically shown, at-home teeth whitening system in the world.  For 10% off Intelliwhite’s Cool Blue Whitening Kit visit shopintelliwhite.com and enter the promo code ido. Grove Collaborative makes it easy to discover amazing natural home and personal care products. Grove selects only the best non-toxic products, so you can shop with confidence knowing that everything on their site is good for you, your family, and the planet. For your FREE Mrs. Meyer's Gift Set (Mrs. Meyer's Hand Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Dish Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Multi-Surface Spray, Free Grove Walnut Scrubber Sponges) visit grove.co/chasesarah. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Forgiveness is a key skill for all of the relationships in our lives. Our ability to forgive has a direct impact on our personal happiness and the success of a relationship. Listen to today’s episode to learn how to forgive and reconcile with others. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why forgiveness is an individual process The four key steps to forgiveness Letting go of a transgression that continues to nag at you The amazing health benefits of not holding a grudge How to apologize and why it’s a key component to a healthy relationship And much more! Dr. Ryan Howes is a clinical psychologist in Pasadena, California who writes for Psychology Today and Psychotherapy Networker Magazine. He is also the founder of National Psychotherapy Day. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/154 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to forgive your partner? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get 10% off! Babbel: Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. The comprehensive learning system combines effective communication methods with state-of-the-art technology. Go to Babbel.com or download the app and enter the promo code ido to try it for free!   If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sherry Gaba, a licensed psychotherapist and author known for her expertise in addiction and mental health, shares invaluable insights on navigating relationships affected by addiction. She discusses the fine line between supporting and enabling an addict, emphasizing the necessity of allowing them to face consequences. Gaba highlights the importance of seeking professional help, setting boundaries, and protecting oneself from manipulative behaviors. Listeners gain practical strategies for fostering healthier connections while dealing with the emotional challenges of loving someone struggling with addiction.

In this discussion, Dale Sadler, a licensed professional counselor and author specializing in marriage and parenting, shares invaluable insights on the four phases of marriage: thriving, working, detached, and conflictual. He highlights the importance of creating a 'couple culture' through shared experiences and offers practical tips for shifting out of challenging phases. Dale also emphasizes the power of proactive actions to enhance emotional connections, making this an enlightening listen for anyone looking to enrich their relationship.

Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb, an Alternative Sexuality Specialist with over 25 years of experience, dives into the fascinating world of sexual personality types. She discusses the importance of knowing your and your partner's preferences, helping to avoid a bland 'vanilla' relationship. Tune in for insights on monogamish relationships and how to navigate them. Discover why the BDSM checklist is essential for clear communication about desires and boundaries, making your intimate life more fulfilling.

No one wants to think about divorce or death. Deny it all we want, one happens 50% of the time and the other 100%! Understanding the legal financial side of relationships is an important part of creating a successful relationship or marriage. Listen to today’s episode to learn how to get your finances in order! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding a prenup and it’s legal details Avoiding the unromantic stigma of prenups and doing what is practical for a successful relationship How to communicate about prenups and other important financial hurdles. Creating a post-nup if you married without a prenup Using separate bank accounts in your relationship And much more! Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/150 Hood River Couples Retreat: Join us in Hood River, Oregon for our Couple's Retreat July 28 - August 2, 2018. Strengthen your relationship in just 5 days while vacationing in the majestic Columbia River Gorge. Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling to navigate finances in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors ModCloth: ModCloth is the fun, friendly online store that has styles as unique as you. ModCloth’s mission to empower women to be the best version of themselves and that’s why their signature line of apparel is offered in a full-size range, from XXS to 4X. To get 15% off your purchase of $100 or more, go to ModCloth.com and enter code IDO at checkout. Hurry this offer expires on August 4th, (2018)! Foreplay Radio Sex Therapy: FOREPLAY – Radio Sex Therapy helps committed couples keep it hot! Their podcast features nationally-acclaimed sex therapist, author, and podcast host Laurie Watson and co-host, couples counselor, Dr. Adam Mathews. They talk about the vital topics of sexuality, marriage and committed partnership. Check them out! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Ali Binazir, author and clinical hypnotherapist, dives into relationship dynamics and personal growth. He discusses why good people often end up in bad relationships and emphasizes the importance of using practical spirituality for lasting connections. Dr. Binazir highlights self-worth, mindfulness, and the necessity of mutual growth with partners. He provides questions to consider when seeking a potential partner, advocating for deeper interactions over superficial online connections. His insights aim to help listeners attract the right partner or enhance their current relationship.

Kanja Farrell, a licensed marriage and family therapist and sex therapist, shares her expert insights on emotional hygiene and its crucial role in relationships. She provides practical tips for controlling emotions and transforming reactions into thoughtful responses. Kanja emphasizes the importance of creating a buffer period to decompress before engaging with partners. She also introduces body scan exercises to foster emotional stability. This lively discussion is packed with actionable advice to improve your relationship with yourself and others!

Cuddling on the couch is a favorite activity of many healthy relationships. Cuddling is very much in mainstream culture, and yet it can be complicated and filled with nuance. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the comfy, cozy and sometimes sexual world of cuddling.  In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understand the general differences between male and female desires from cuddling. Find out if cuddling should always lead to sex? Learn the science of cuddling and why it can feel so good and be such a positive element of a healthy relationship. How to cuddle in a way that is best for your partner. And much more! Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray is a sex researcher and relationship therapist. She is passionate about challenging norms and stereotypes about men and women's sex lives in order to promote stronger and more intimate relationships. She is a blogger for Psychology Today and Lifehack and is regularly sought after by media outlets, including Men's Health, Elle and Today's Parent for her expertise on sex, intimacy and romantic relationships. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/147 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you love to cuddle but your partner doesn't or vice versa? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Grove Collaborative makes it easy to discover amazing natural home and personal care products. Grove selects only the best non-toxic products, so you can shop with confidence knowing that everything on their site is good for you, your family, and the planet. For your FREE Mrs. Meyer's Gift Set (Mrs. Meyer's Hand Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Dish Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Multi-Surface Spray, Free Grove Walnut Scrubber Sponges) visit grove.co/chasesarah. FabFitFun – FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box with full­ size beauty, fitness, fashion and lifestyle products. #fabfitfunpartner Use promo code IDO for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Joe Kort, a renowned author and expert on gender and male sexuality, dives into the complexities of porn in relationships. He explains why it's not the porn itself that's problematic, but rather the lack of open communication about it. Topics include navigating social media 'stalking,' understanding individual erotic differences, and the emotional impact of pornography on intimacy. Dr. Kort advocates for healthy conversations to address partner fantasies and manage expectations, aiming to foster empathy and understanding in relationships.