Sexual pain makes sex challenging, stressful, and a source of tension rather than a source of pleasure. Sadly, it’s a very present reality for many couples, and one that can quickly erode sexual intimacy for years or even decades. Many women are told to ‘watch porn’, ‘drink wine’, or ‘relax’, with no clear diagnosis found and no real solution given. Today’s guest, Jess Setiz, knows this reality all too well. Now a trauma-informed pelvic health practitioner, Jess struggled through painful sex for 8 years before she and her husband were able to find a solution that really worked. She joins Juli to share what she learned, and how she’s helping other women enjoy pleasurable, pain-free sex.   Guest: Jess Seitz   Website: painfreeintimacy.com Instagram: @painfree.intimacy Facebook Group   Java with Juli: #547 How to Talk to Your Spouse About Sex Check out more resources on sex in marriage   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, reveals shocking findings from a Barna Group study on pornography use, including its prevalence in the church. He discusses the harmful effects of porn addiction and emphasizes the importance of community support for healing. Stumbo advocates for open conversations about sexuality within church contexts, highlighting the necessity of safe spaces for education and recovery. He shares valuable resources that can help individuals and leaders navigate the challenges surrounding pornography.

What does it take to have good friendships, healthy family relationships, or a strong marriage? John Van Epp, creator of the RAM theoretical model, has some strong and well-researched ideas about what it takes to make your relationships stronger than ever.   Guest: Dr. John Van Epp   John’s Website: lovethinks.com Book: Endgame: The Church's Strategic Move to Save Faith and Family in America by John Van Epp and J.P. De Gance Book: Becoming Better Together  by John Van Epp Website: ramseries.com   Java with Juli: #539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It   Learn more about online book studies   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Talking about sex and sexual issues with your spouse can be intimidating. Dr Corey Allan breaks down why discussing sex can be challenging for married couples, and what husbands and wives can do about it.   Corey’s Website: smr.fm Corey’s Instagram: @sexymarriageradio   Explore more resources on sex in marriage!   Java with Juli: #528 The 3 Superpowers Your Sex Life is Missing Java with Juli: #534 Four Surprising Things Killing Your Wife’s Sex Drive Blog: How To Talk to Your Spouse About Sex   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Juli and Hannah answer your questions about sex and singleness in this week’s special Java with Juli episode.   Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz   Explore resources on Singleness and Dating   Check out our online book studies!   Partner with Authentic Intimacy— donate today!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Raising your kids to love and know Jesus has never been easy, and in a culture saturated with messages about human sexuality, it can feel next to impossible to raise your kids with biblical values and a Christian sexual ethic. How do we effectively disciple our kids? Dr. George Barna, founder of the Barna Group and America’s foremost faith and culture researcher, joins Juli to talk about his new book, “Raising Spiritual Champions”, and what parents can do to equip their kids with a robust faith.   Website: georgebarna.com Book: Raising Spiritual Champions by Dr. George Barna   Trying to teach your kids about Christian sexuality? Check out our free resource, “10 Questions and Answers Your Child May Ask About Sexuality”   Partner with Authentic Intimacy— donate today!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

How do you know you’ve started menopause? Can you get pregnant during menopause? What happens to your sex drive during menopause? Experts Dr. Debra Taylor, LMFT and Dr. Michael Sytsma, CST, CPS, join Juli to share some crucial information about menopause, options for easing symptoms, and how husbands can be sympathetic supporters at this pivotal moment in a woman’s life.   Guests: Dr. Debra Taylor, LMFT and Dr. Michael Sytsma, CST, CPS   Debra’s Website: debraltaylortherapy.com Mike’s Website: intimatemarriage.org Mike’s Instagram: @buildingintimatemarriages @drsytsma   Find out more about our Online Book Study groups! Partner with Authentic Intimacy!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Was the God of the Old Testament less benevolent than the God of the New Testament? Or are too many of us missing the greater truths and narratives woven into a beautiful, historic text? Dr. Sandra Richter, author of The Epic of Eden, joins Juli to bring a rich and refreshing perspective to women, God, and the Old Testament.   Guest: Dr. Sandra Richter   Sandra’s Website: linktr.ee/sandralynrichter Sandra’s Instagram: @sandralynrichter   Book: The Epic of Eden: A Christian Entry into the Old Testament by Dr. Sandra Richter Book: Deborah Bible Study Guide plus Streaming Video: Unlikely Heroes and the Book of Judges (Epic of Eden) by Dr. Sandra Richter   Donate to Authentic Intimacy!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

What should a pastor with a porn problem do? How should his church respond? Pastor Garrett Kell joins Juli on the podcast to talk about his years-long struggle with porn, coming clean, and how his church responded to his sin.   Garrett’s Instagram: @j.garrett.kell Book: Pure in Heart: Sexual Sin and the Promises of God by J. Garrett Kell   Donate to Authentic Intimacy on Giving Tuesday!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Purity culture taught a lot of unhelpful things and left a lot of questions unanswered for believers. While it’s clear a new approach is needed, it’s challenging to know how to leave legalism behind and teach a true-to-scripture vision of sexuality. Noah Filipiak, the author of Beyond the Battle, joins Juli to share where he sees a need to educate today’s youth, and why he wrote his new book, “Needed Navigation”.   Guest: Noah Filipiak   Book: Beyond the Battle by Noah Filipiak Book: Needed Navigation: A Teen’s Guide to His or Her Identity in Christ in a Sex & Porn-Filled World by Noah Filipiak   Java with Juli: #535 What Men Weren’t Taught About Sex (with Sam Jolman) Partner with AI   SUBMIT A QUESTION FOR THE SHOW!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.