Java with Juli - Conversations About God, Sex, & You

Troy and Melissa Haas, co-founders of HopeQuest, share their powerful testimonies on overcoming pornography addiction. They discuss how emotional pain often drives individuals to seek out porn, turning casual use into a compulsion. The conversation delves into the neuroscience of addiction, exploring how dopamine reinforces these behaviors and how childhood experiences shape vulnerabilities. Most importantly, they emphasize the importance of community support and emotional awareness in breaking free from the cycle of addiction, offering hope and resources for those affected.

Navigating the teenage years has never been easy, whether you’re the parent or the child. So as parents, how can you help your teenager or pre-teen have a better experience? What practically can you do to put them in a stronger position to navigate their teenage years safely, with more clarity about God’s love for them and design for their sexuality? Three guests – James Talbert, Josh Miller, and Chelsey Nutgren – join Juli to share some much-needed practical advice for raising surrendered kids in our current cultural moment.   Guests: James Talbert, Josh Miller, Chelsey Nugteren   James’ Website: Citizens Akron Josh’s Website: Riverwood Chapel Akron   Website: AXIS.org Website: Center for Humane Technology   Resource Series: Blog: Talking to Your Kids About Sex: Why, When, and How Blog: 5 Reasons You’re Not Talking to Your Kids About Sex (and How to Overcome Them) Blog: Sexual Integrity: The Heart of Sexually Discipling Your Kids   Find out more about donating to Authentic Intimacy.   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

James 4:1 so famously writes, “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you?” It’s not surprising that marriage is a hotbed for conflict. When you live so closely with someone else, it’s easy to see their flaws, shortcomings, and mistakes in high definition. So what can you do to stop constantly fighting? In this special session from Reclaim 2024, Brad Rhoads shares what helped cut fighting and elevate fun in his marriage. Guests: Brad Rhodes, Grace Marriage Brad’s Website: gracemarriage.com Brad’s Instagram: @grace_marriage   Blog: Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

We’ve talked about the fact that many women struggle to ‘flip the switch’ and enjoy married sex, and we’ve talked about what might contribute to that. But we haven’t talked about what husbands can do to help their wives enjoy sex. Juli shares a conversation from Gary Thomas’ Podcast where she was a panelist alongside Debra Fileta and Belah Rose.   Host: Gary Thomas   Featured Speakers: Dr. Juli Slattery, Debra Fileta, MA, LPC and Belah Rose   Gary’s Website: garythomas.com Gary’s Newsletter: garythomasbooks.substack.com   Book: Married Sex by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta, MA, LPC Book: Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery Book: God, Sex and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery   Juli’s Website: authenticintimacy.com Debra’s Website: debrafileta.com Belah’s Website: delightyourmarriage.com   Please support Joy and Zack Skarka on GoFundMe   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

There are so many challenges that come with leading a church well, especially when it comes to how to express their stance on Biblical sexuality. Many want to be a place where people can wrestle with the truth about God and sex and figure things out, while also being sure to prioritize biblical orthodoxy. How can they do both? Pastor Evan Wickham, from Park Hill Church in San Diego, joins Juli to share lessons he’s learned and what his church is doing to lead biblically with clarity and love.   NOTE: We had some technical issues with recording this episode, but wanted to make sure you got to hear a great conversation--thanks for being patient with us!   Guest: Evan Wickham   Park Hill’s Instagram: @prkhllchrch Evan’s Instagram: @evanwickham   Park Hill’s Website: parkhillsd.church   Join our email list!   Blog: Has God Changed His Mind About Sex?   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Historically, inside and outside the church, male sexuality has been talked about as a purely orgasm-driven experience. But is it possible we have oversimplified the male sexual experience? What if there’s more to the way men think and feel about sex than we’ve previously considered?  Dr. Corey Allan joins Juli for a very different conversation about male sexuality. Guest: Dr. Corey Allan Corey’s Website: smr.fm Corey’s Instagram: @sexymarriageradio   Resource: Purity Culture Failed Men Too   Sign up for the email list!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

As we work to change the purity narrative and undo many of its effects, we have to look at some of the continued harm it does to marriages. There’s still so much missing in the way Christian couples are taught about marital intimacy. How can Christians celebrate the gift of sex that God gave in marriage? Juli shares a conversation she had with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau, where he shared both what is missing and what is needed in the church when it comes to talking about the beauty of sex in marriage.   Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau, Institute for Sexual Wholeness   Institute for Sexual Wholeness   Book: The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Clifford and Joyce Penner Book: A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexual Intimacy by Douglas E. Rosenau   Podcast: #543 How the Old Testament Reveals God’s Heart for Women, Sex, and Covenant Love   Transcript 00:00 - Introduction to Christian Sexuality Conversations 03:14 - The Church’s Perspective on Sex in Marriage 16:26 - Understanding Female Sexuality and Mutual Pleasure 29:13 - Nuancing Gender and Desire in Sexual Conversations   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

One of the biggest criticisms of purity culture is the way it reduced sexuality to a list of do’s and don’ts, but there are lots of other reasons millennial men and women report feeling burned by it. Dr. Camden Morgante, author of “Recovering from Purity Culture”, shares some of the harmful narratives that formed the movement, and provides some alternative approaches to discussing sexuality.   Guest: Dr. Camden Morgante   Website: drcamden.com Instagram: @drcamden   Book: Recovering From Purity Culture by Dr. Camden Morgante Free Resource: Why You Still Need Boundaries As You Pursue Sexual Integrity   Sign up for our email list!   Timestamps 00:00 Introduction to Purity Culture 02:13 Camden’s Personal Journey and Professional Insights 05:58 Understanding the Harm of Purity Culture 09:52 Navigating Sexual Awakening in Adolescence 13:58 The Importance of Teaching Values 15:57 Dating Dynamics and Courtship Culture 22:08 Modesty and Its Misinterpretations 25:07 The Role of Patriarchy in Purity Culture 30:54 Steps Towards Healing and Wholeness 39:03 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

If questions about sex lead to questions about God, it’s important that we know and follow Jesus as He really is. Rick Lawrence, author of “Editing Jesus”, joins Juli to discuss how many American Christians make Jesus into an image other than Himself.   Guest: Rick Lawrence   Rick’s Website: ricklawrence.com Book: Editing Jesus: Confronting the Distorted Faith of the American Church by Rick Lawrence   Join our email list! Guide: “3 Reasons Questions About Sex Lead to Questions about God”   Timestamps 00:00 Understanding God and Sexuality 02:50 The Journey to “Editing Jesus” 06:11 Confronting Cultural Misunderstandings 08:57 The Mud Puddles of Scripture 11:57 The Hard Sayings of Jesus 15:12 Intimacy and Relationship with Jesus 18:02 The Challenge of Self-Centeredness 21:01 Joy vs Happiness in Faith 23:49 The Role of Suffering in Growth 27:01 Practical Steps to Know Jesus 29:52 Conclusion and Resources   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

In this special Q&A episode, Juli answers your questions about sex and marriage. You’ll hear answers to questions like, why did God make us sexual when it causes so much pain? Does sex matter in marriage? And, is it possible to be too focused on sex in marriage?   Join Juli and Hannah for a brief exploration of good biblical theology on sex and marriage.   Co-host: Hannah Nitz   Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz   Blog: Overcoming Sexual Shame and Fear in Marriage Blog: Help! How Much Sex is “Normal” for Married Couples?   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.