The Healing Trauma Podcast

In this insightful discussion, Dr. Arielle Schwartz, a trauma expert and author, shares her expertise on healing and resilience. She highlights the nuances of complex trauma and the critical role of therapy and community in recovery. The conversation covers the significance of self-compassion and moving through emotional freeze, emphasizing personal stories of growth. Dr. Schwartz also touches on finding beauty amidst hardship and the necessity of connection, revealing how shared experiences can foster resilience and emotional well-being.

In this conversation, Monique Koven and Dr. Aimie Apigian discuss the topic of overwhelm and how it relates to trauma and our nervous system. They explore the concept of overwhelm as a trauma response and the ways in which our body tries to protect us from it. They also discuss the role of parts work in addressing overwhelm and how to work with the protector parts that prevent us from accessing the younger, overwhelmed parts. Aimie emphasizes the importance of collaboration and building trust with these parts. They also touch on the integration of biology, somatic work, and parts work in the healing journeytakeawaysOverwhelm is a trauma response that is different for trauma survivors compared to those who do not have a history of trauma.Our body remembers past experiences of overwhelm and tries to protect us from experiencing it again.Parts work is a tool for addressing overwhelm and involves working with the protector parts that prevent us from accessing the younger, overwhelmed parts.Collaboration and building trust with these parts is essential in the healing process.The integration of biology, somatic work, and parts work is important in addressing overwhelm and building a foundation of regulation.Find a list of my recommended books, trainings + resources for healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ Watch this episode on youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PADisclaimer: This episode and website contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this second conversation, Host Monique Koven and psychologist and author Dr. Lindsay Gibson discuss emotional immaturity and its impact on relationships. They explore the characteristics of emotional immaturity, such as egocentrism and poor empathy, and how it can manifest in various relationships. They also discuss the continuum of emotional maturity and the role of hope in dealing with emotionally immature individuals. Dr. Gibson offers insights into the experiences of those raised by emotionally immature parents and offers strategies for navigating relationships with emotionally immature people. She also shares information about her books on the topic.takeaways:Emotional immaturity can manifest in various relationships, including parent-child relationships, romantic relationships, and friendships.Emotional immaturity is characterized by egocentrism and poor empathy, where individuals prioritize their own needs and emotions over others.Emotional maturity is a continuum, and individuals can exhibit emotional immaturity in certain areas while being mature in others.Hope is important in dealing with emotionally immature individuals, but it is also important to recognize and set boundaries to protect oneself.Those raised by emotionally immature parents may have developed skills in caretaking and empathy, but it is important for them to prioritize their own needs and establish healthy boundaries in relationships.Listening to one's body and recognizing how relationships make them feel can help identify emotionally draining or unhealthy dynamics.Dr. Lindsay C Gibson's Books Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parentshttps://amzn.to/4ejxmnmDisentangling From Emotionally Immature People https://amzn.to/3XX304jSelf-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidencehttps://amzn.to/3MZrUtXIf you're struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner. Visit https://betterhelp.com/healingtrauma during signup and get 10% off your first month of therapy.Support the show Buy me A coffeeFind a list of my recommended books, trainings + resources for healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ Subscribe To My Youtube Channelhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PADisclaimer: This episode and website contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

You cannot to heal from Trauma until you gently learn to become friends with your nervous system. Many survivors have adapted to trauma by shutting down or disconnecting from their feelings and sensations.This makes sense when you live in a dangerous and threatening environment. However the patterns of disconnection remain long after the trauma is over.  Welcome to a brand new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast. In this first healing trauma conversation, host Monique Koven and Trauma expert Deb Dana discuss the Polyvagal theory and trauma healing. They emphasize the importance of understanding the nervous system and how it shapes our experiences. They highlight the need to start making the nervous system a friend, rather than trying to solve problems without considering its role. They discuss the concept of glimmers, which are small moments of safety and regulation that can reshape the nervous system. Glimmers are seen as a way to build capacity for processing trauma and unresolved experiences..The polyvagal theory is a foundational concept in understanding trauma and the nervous system.It is important to recognize and appreciate the wisdom of the nervous system and its survival responses. Befriending the nervous system and working with it can lead to a sense of safety and regulation. Glimmers, small moments of safety and regulation, can reshape the nervous system and build capacity for processing trauma. Deb Dana's books: Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory https://amzn.to/3N2lFpiPolyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connectionhttps://amzn.to/3zxn1VWDeb Dana's Website https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/Monique's Website: https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/Support the showFind a list of my recommended books, trainings + resources for healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ Watch this episode on youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PADisclaimer: This episode and website contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This is the final episode of the *faith edition* of the Healing Trauma Podcast. We do plan to be back with a new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast. For those of you who support the HTP podcast, content will continue to be shared through your Spotify subscription feed. You are also invited to join me in an upcoming Zoom call so I can have the chance to meet you. The details and zoom link will be found in the in the next podcast episode. I look forward to meeting you! In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host & trauma therapist Dr. Mark McNear interviews trauma therapist and author Sam Jolen. They discuss the importance of addressing sexual trauma and the challenges survivors face in opening up about their experiences. Sam shares his own journey of healing and how therapy helped him connect with his story. They also explore the concept of trauma and the role of play in the healing process. Sam emphasizes the importance of kindness and self-compassion in the journey of healing from trauma.TakeawaysSexual trauma survivors often hold their trauma as shame and may struggle to open up about their experiences.Therapy can provide a safe space for survivors to connect with their stories and begin the healing process.Trauma is a wound that overwhelms with negative felt experience and lacks a source of love or comfort.Play can be a healing tool that allows survivors to reconnect with joy and pleasure. Kindness and self-compassion are essential in the journey of healing from trauma.Support the showFind a list of my recommended books, trainings + resources for healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ Watch this episode on youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PADisclaimer: This episode and website contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This healing conversation delves into the author's book, 'It Wasn't Roaring, It Was Weeping,' and explores themes of family, trauma and transformation. Lisa Jo shares her emotional response to the book and engages in a deep discussion about her personal journey and the impact of generational trauma. The conversation offers insights into the complexity of parent-child relationships, and the potential for healing and transformation. TakeawaysThe power of forgiveness and its impact on personal healing and transformationThe complexity of parent-child relationships and the potential for repair and growthThe impact of generational trauma and the importance of self-reflection and changeThe emotional response to the author's book and the deep connection it fosters with readersThe power of forgiveness and its impact on personal healing and transformationYoutubehttps://youtu.be/6pakEcXK4kILisa-Jo Resources and Websitehttps://outoftheordinarypodcast.com/https://lisajobaker.com/books/https://lisajobaker.com/Buy Me A Coffee https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast Monique's Websitehttps://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/Find a list of my recommended books, trainings + resources for healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ Watch this episode on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PADisclaimer: This episode and website contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation, Monique Koven and Alison Cook discuss the importance of acknowledging and embracing our emotions rather than brushing them aside or numbing them. They explore the concept of naming our emotions as a way to bring order and relief to our inner world. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and curiosity when it comes to our emotions, and the importance of pausing and reflecting before taking action. The conversation also touches on the healing journey of trauma survivors and the role of framing our emotions in a healthy way. Overall, the conversation highlights the practices of naming, awareness, framing, and braving as essential tools for emotional well-being.Key words emotions, naming, order, relief, self-compassion, curiosity, pausing, reflecting, trauma, healing, framing, braving, emotional. The conversation is based on themes in Alision’s new book “ I Shouldn’t Feel This Way.” Takeaways Acknowledging and embracing our emotions is important for our emotional well-being. Naming our emotions brings order and relief to our inner world. Self-compassion and curiosity are key in dealing with our emotions. Pausing and reflecting before taking action allows for wiser decision-making. The healing journey of trauma survivors involves learning to name and honor their emotions. Framing our emotions in a healthy way helps us understand and respond to them effectively. Braving involves taking action based on our emotional awareness and understanding. Embracing Our Emotions: The Key to Emotional Well-being Healing Trauma: Learning to Name and Honor Our Emotions "I shouldn't feel this way has become for me a little bit of a, oh, I feel something. I feel something I don't want to feel." "The truth sets us free. This is what I feel. I'm not gaslighting myself. I'm not trying to dupe myself into not feeling what I really feel." "Numbing is to try to keep those emotions outside of our conscious awareness. Naming is bringing them up into the surface and looking at them."Dr. Alison Cook's Website & Resources dralisoncook.comSupport the showFind a list of my recommended books, trainings + resources for healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ Subscribe and watch on Youtubehttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PADisclaimer: This episode and website contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

With Mother's Day approaching I'm re-releasing a special episode with psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz.In this episode, Monique Koven and Dr. Arielle Schwartz discuss the complexities of Mother's Day and the impact it can have on individuals with trauma. They explore the range of emotions that can arise, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion and attending to the sacred wounds of the past. They also discuss the role of attachment and how our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self. The conversation highlights the healing potential of acknowledging and validating our feelings and offering love and compassion to ourselves.KeywordsMother's Day, trauma, emotions, self-compassion, attachment Mother's Day can bring up a range of complex emotions for individuals with trauma, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame. It is important to practice self-compassion and attend to the sacred wounds of the past. Our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self and can lead to feelings of responsibility and confusion. Acknowledging and validating our feelings is essential for healing and creating space for self-love and compassion. Attachment plays a significant role in our relationship with our mothers and our ability to offer love and compassion to ourselves. The Range of Emotions on Mother's Day Practicing Self-Compassion and Healing Sacred Wounds "Mother's Day is approaching, we start to feel this almost as countdown of a complexity of feelings." "We learn to push down our authentic feelings because somebody else gave us this message that they couldn't handle our feelings." "What is true for you is welcome here now."Grateful for Dr. Arielle Schwartz enormous contribution to the work of Trauma Recovery and Healing. Check out her website for details on her books and resources.https://drarielleschwartz.com/ Show your support with a coffeehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast*Reset Your Nervous System Free 7 Day Conference link: https://xz684.isrefer.com/go/RYNSSC/moniqueFind a list of my recommended books, trainings + resources for healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ Subscribe and watch episodes on Youtubehttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PADisclaimer: This episode and website contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Monique Koven, host of The Healing Trauma podcast, shares her powerful journey of healing from trauma. She discusses the impact of childhood trauma and the importance of correctly identifying and addressing trauma symptoms. The podcast also explores navigating trauma's lingering effects, understanding body responses, and healing through gratitude and glimmers.

In this trauma healing conversation, I am joined with Tricia Lott Williford & Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, authors of the book, You Are Safe Now: A Survivor's Guide to Listening to Your Gut, Healing from Abuse, and Living in Freedom. This conversation is so unique as you will hear from both sides of the Trauma healing journey. Tricia shares from her perspective of feeling stuck in overwhelm & PTSD, and how she was able to slowly move through with the gentle support and guidance of her skilled therapist. Jana shares what it was like working with Tricia and what really helped and supported her through. They talk about the process of untangling the trauma and coming to the understanding of grooming, manipulation and sexual and spiritual abuse by a person of trust.Youtube https://youtu.be/gbGys_jRHCwAbout The bookYou Are Safe Now offers a survivor’s first hand story of abuse in the church, including an explanation of the nature of abusers and their common tactics; a compassionate, nuanced discussion of trauma responses; research, examples, and statistics to identify abusive dynamics, predation, grooming, and psychological manipulation; and practical tools and resources to facilitate recovery. For survivors of abuse, counselors, therapists, pastors who treat survivors, and those who support survivors in their healing, You Are Safe Now is an indispensable resource.Get the book here https://hubs.la/Q02jwKsh0About The Guests & AuthorsTricia Lott Williford is a writer, blogger, teacher, and co-host of the podcast Let’s Talk Soon with her brother Rob. A prolific writer and ghostwriter, Tricia is the author of many books. She lives in Colorado with her family. Connect with her and followher writing at https://www.tricialottwilliford.com/.Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, and trained in EMDR, is a seasoned therapist with decades of expertise in counseling victims of trauma, grief, and addiction. Jana has presented internationally as a mental health educator with an emphasis in oncology.Jana lives in Colorado with her family.Disclosure: This episode includes paid promotion. The guest’s comments represent their own views and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Healing Trauma Podcast or its hosts. This episode should be considered sponsored content.BUY ME A COFFEEhttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheHealingtraumapodcast⁠Find a list of my recommended books, trainings + resources for healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ Subscribe and watch on youtubehttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PADisclaimer: This episode and website contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy