The Healing Trauma Podcast

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest Host, Dr. Mark McNear interviews Benjamin Fry, a psychotherapist and founder of Khiron Clinics. Benjamin shares his personal journey through trauma, detailing his experiences with anxiety, suicidal ideation, and the impact of his early childhood loss. He discusses the complexities of trauma, the importance of understanding its effects on relationships, and the ongoing process of healing. The conversation also touches on the innovative approaches in trauma therapy, including EMDR and somatic experiencing, and the potential of technology in understanding and managing trauma responses.takeawaysBenjamin Fry shares his journey through trauma and recovery.He emphasizes the exaggerated physiological reactions to stress and anxiety.The importance of understanding trauma's impact on relationships is highlighted.Healing trauma is an ongoing process, not a one-time fix.The role of early childhood experiences in shaping adult behavior is discussed.Innovative therapies like EMDR and somatic experiencing are effective in trauma recovery.The significance of community and relational dynamics in healing is explored.Benjamin's passion lies in helping others navigate their trauma.Benjamin Fry is the founder of Khiron Clinics, one of the world's leading residential trauma-treatment centers, and Televagal, an innovative mental health technology platform. An accredited psychotherapist, couples therapist, speaker, author, and entrepreneur, he has written four books, including The Invisible Lion: How to Tame your Nervous System and Heal your Trauma. With a diverse career spanning psychology, media, and business, Benjamin read Physics and Philosophy at Oxford and then attended film school, directing a feature-length film distributed by HBO and Paramount.Khiron Clinicshttps://khironclinics.comBenjamin Fryhttps://www.benjaminfry.co.ukBenjamin's Book:The Invisible Lion: How Tame your Nervous system and heal your Traumahttps://amzn.to/3DRKgvTDisclosure: Today's guest appearance is part of a paid promotional feature. The views and opinions expressed are those of the guest and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Healing Trauma Podcast or its hosts. Please consider this episode as sponsored content.Mark McNear website:https://markmcnear.com/IG https://www.instagram.com/drmarkmcnearFollow Monique on IGhttps://www.instagram.com/thehealingtraumapodcast/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Monique is chatting with psychologist and author Dr. Sherrie Campbell. Sherrie shares her insights on navigating the complexities of emotional abuse and toxic family dynamics. Drawing from her personal experiences and professional expertise, she discusses the importance of establishing boundaries, taking responsibility for one's own healing, and transforming pain into purpose. Dr. Campbell emphasizes that not all parents are good and that recognizing toxic relationships is crucial for mental health and personal growth. The conversation highlights the journey of healing and the empowerment that comes from understanding one's worth and setting healthy boundaries.takeawaysDr. Sherrie Campbell has written multiple books on toxic family dynamics.Emotional abuse can be subtle and often goes unrecognized.Establishing boundaries is essential for personal healing.It's important to take responsibility for your own mental health.Healing involves becoming the person you were meant to be.Not all parents are good, and it's okay to cut ties.Self-care is not selfish; it's necessary for well-being.Recognizing toxic relationships is crucial for mental health.Transforming pain into purpose can lead to personal growth.It's never too late to realize that your life matters.To Get in Touch with Dr. Sherrie:https://drsherriecampbell.com/Sherapy Sessions: Cutting Toxic Family Ties Podcast:https://drsherriecampbell.com/cutting...*Sherrie's Books:Adult Survivors Of Emotionally Abusive Parents:https://amzn.to/4ihLAaaAdult Survivors Of Toxic Family Membershttps://amzn.to/4ilVw2p Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today I am sharing my second interview with trauma therapist and author of Aundi Kolber. Her latest book is Take What You Need, Soft Words For Hard Days. We continue our conversation on the necessity of compassion and gentleness in the healing process. Aundi emphasizes the ebb and flow of healing, the significance of recognizing and validating personal needs, and the impact of developmental trauma on emotional health. She also explores the role of shame in hindering healing and the necessity of embodied knowledge in therapy. The discussion concludes with a focus on the power of language in facilitating healing and the hope that her book can serve as a valuable resource for those on their healing journeys.Podcast highlights:Healing should be approached with gentleness and compassion.The process of healing is not linear; it has ebbs and flows.Compassion is essential in therapeutic settings.Recognizing and validating our needs is crucial for healing.Developmental trauma can have long-lasting effects on individuals.Shame can prevent us from expressing our needs and seeking help.Our bodies possess wisdom about our needs, even when we are unaware.Healing often requires a thawing process to access buried emotions.Language can be a powerful tool for healing and connection.Resources like books can provide support on the healing journey.Grab Aundi’s book “Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days” You can also find her previous books, Strong Like Water and Try Softer.https://amzn.to/4hLIxqYAundi Kolber’s – Website and Instagram Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Monique is joined by the incredible Aundi Kolber, a trauma therapist and bestselling author of Try Softer. Aundi will be with us over the the next two episodes. Aundi discusses her latest book, 'Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Times,' focusing on the importance of gentleness and compassion in healing. She emphasizes the need for safety and empowerment in the healing process, highlighting the role of self-compassion and the significance of relationships.Some highlights of the conversation:Our capacity for aliveness can be discovered through gentle practicesSafety and compassion are essential for learning and healing.Self-compassion is often lacking in trauma survivors.Finding glimmers of aliveness can enhance emotional well-being.The body holds wisdom that can guide healing.Compassionate resourcing helps convey safety to our bodies.Understanding our limits is crucial for personal growth.Connection with others is vital for healing.Healing is a journey that requires patience and self-kindnessAundiKolber.comAundi's book :Take what You Need Soft Words For Hard Dayshttps://amzn.to/41a0kSQ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation, Monique is chatting with trauma therapist Lauren Auer about the importance of setting boundaries, especially for trauma survivors. They explore the discomfort and challenges that come with establishing personal limits, the emotional toll of boundary-setting, and the necessity of self-care in maintaining healthy relationships. The discussion emphasizes that while setting boundaries can be difficult, it is essential for emotional well-being and personal growth.You can find Lauren here:website : steadfastcounseling.comInstagram: InstagramTikTok: YourTraumaTherapist (@yourtraumatherapist) | TikTokSubstack: Your Trauma Therapist | Substack Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation, Monique Koven and returning guest trauma specialist and psychologist Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia discuss the profound impact of being seen in relationships, particularly between mothers and daughters. Deniz explores how early attachment experiences shape our sense of self and emotional health, leading to patterns that persist into adulthood. The discussion delves into the effects of emotional immaturity in parenting, the connection between trauma and self-perception, and the importance of reconnecting with our bodies to express emotions. Monique emphasizes the challenges of navigating relationships with emotionally immature parents and they discuss the journey towards authenticity, highlighting the need for compassion and boundaries in healing.Find Deniz here:https://www.drdeniz.com/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation, Monique welcomes back certified master parenting trainer Sarah R Moore as part of a cycle breakers parenting series. They discuss the importance of understanding discipline in parenting through a trauma-informed lens. Sarah emphasizes that discipline should be viewed as a teaching opportunity rather than punishment, highlighting the impact of attachment on children's development. The discussion covers the significance of creating emotional safety, practical techniques for mindful parenting, and the power of repair in relationships. Sarah also shares insights on how to break cycles of negative parenting and offers support through coaching programs for parents. Podcast takeawaysDiscipline is about teaching, not punishment.Children's attachment styles are influenced by parenting methods.Fear-based discipline can lead to unhealthy adult relationships.Creating emotional safety is crucial for children's learning.Cycle breaking starts with inner safety for parents.Mindful parenting techniques can be practiced in six seconds.Repairing relationships after conflict is essential for healthy development.Children learn better in a safe and supportive environment.Positive parenting techniques can be applied to all ages.Coaching and support can empower parents to create change.Sarah R. Moore's Book : Peaceful Discipline:Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior: Get it here:https://amzn.to/4gTSEZF Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation, Monique and her guest psychologist and trauma specialist Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia discuss the emotional challenges individuals face during holiday gatherings, particularly when dealing with challenging family dynamics. She emphasizes the importance of self-validation, understanding personal triggers, and setting boundaries to protect one's emotional well-being. Deniz also highlights the significance of inner child work and self-compassion in navigating these complex relationships, encouraging listeners to recognize their agency and the choices they have as adults. Podcast episode takeaways:The holiday season can trigger intense emotions from childhood.Family dynamics often pull us back into our childhood roles.Understanding our triggers can help us prepare for family gatherings.Setting boundaries is crucial for emotional well-being.We have the power to choose how we respond to family members.Inner child work is essential for healing past wounds.Compassion towards ourselves is vital during stressful interactions.Our bodies hold memories of past family dynamics.We can validate our feelings without relying on others.Preparation and self-care can empower us during the holidays.Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia is a licensed clinical psychologist with expertise in trauma, anxiety disorders, and mindfulness meditation.Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia Trauma Healing Program: Heal The Inner Child. Empowering you to with tools to heal childhood wounds and come home to yourself. click here: https://bit.ly/3OWBVcc Instagram @drdenizpsyd. Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this engaging discussion, Britt Frank, a licensed neuropsychotherapist and author, dives into the intricate ties between ADHD and trauma. She emphasizes the power of self-compassion and the importance of understanding one's unique mental health journey. Britt shares practical strategies for navigating everyday life, tackling common challenges, and reframing diagnoses. With humor and empathy, she encourages listeners to embrace their individual experiences and recognize their worth beyond labels, fostering a path towards healing and acceptance.

In this conversation, Monique Koven and guest certified Master parenting Trainer Sarah R. Moore discuss the importance of creating safe spaces for children, the significance of secure attachment, and the impact of trauma on parenting. They explore the four S's of secure attachment—seen, safe, soothed, and secure—and how parents can navigate their own dysregulation to foster safe relationships with their children. Sarah shares insights from her programs designed to support parents and caregivers in their journey towards positive parenting and healing. Podcast takeawaysCreating a safe space for children is essential.Understanding trauma helps in parenting effectively.Children are wired for secure attachment.Emotional validation is crucial for children.Repairing relationships is more important than perfection.Emotions are contagious; children pick up on them.Secure attachment leads to healthier relationships.Parents should delight in their children.Dysregulation can affect parenting responses.Support programs can empower parents to heal.Sarah R. Moore a certified parenting Master Trainer and, most importantly, a mama. Sarah is the author of Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior.Her life’s work is to support families to grow their peace, connection, and JOY together. Although she supports all sorts of families in all stages of parenting, some of her specific areas of expertise include parenting highly sensitive and/or strong-willed children, playful parenting, secure attachment, healthy communication, emotional intelligence, and re-parenting ourselves.Sarah's book:Peaceful Discipline :https://amzn.to/4iiY9Tc Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy