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The Healing Trauma Podcast

Take what You Need, Soft Words For Hard Days With Aundi Kolber

Feb 18, 2025
26:32

Today I am sharing my second interview with trauma therapist and author of Aundi Kolber. Her latest book is Take What You Need, Soft Words For Hard Days. We continue our conversation on the necessity of compassion and gentleness in the healing process. Aundi emphasizes the ebb and flow of healing, the significance of recognizing and validating personal needs, and the impact of developmental trauma on emotional health. She also explores the role of shame in hindering healing and the necessity of embodied knowledge in therapy. The discussion concludes with a focus on the power of language in facilitating healing and the hope that her book can serve as a valuable resource for those on their healing journeys.

Podcast highlights:

  • Healing should be approached with gentleness and compassion.
  • The process of healing is not linear; it has ebbs and flows.
  • Compassion is essential in therapeutic settings.
  • Recognizing and validating our needs is crucial for healing.
  • Developmental trauma can have long-lasting effects on individuals.
  • Shame can prevent us from expressing our needs and seeking help.
  • Our bodies possess wisdom about our needs, even when we are unaware.
  • Healing often requires a thawing process to access buried emotions.
  • Language can be a powerful tool for healing and connection.
  • Resources like books can provide support on the healing journey.


Grab Aundi’s book “Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days”

You can also find her previous books, Strong Like Water and Try Softer.

https://amzn.to/4hLIxqY

Aundi Kolber’s – Website and Instagram



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