The Healing Trauma Podcast

Re Releasing this informative conversation with psychologist & Somatic Experiencing faculty member Dr. Maureen Gallagher.In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, host Monique Koven engages with trauma expert Maureen Gallagher to explore the complexities of trauma, its impact on the body and mind, and effective healing modalities. They discuss the significance of understanding developmental and complex trauma, the role of attachment, and the importance of a gentle, titrated approach to healing. The conversation emphasizes the need for awareness of one's nervous system responses and the integration of somatic experiencing with interrelational focusing to foster resilience and healing. Takeaways: Understanding trauma's impact on the body is crucial for recovery.Developmental trauma can lead to complex PTSD if not addressed.Attachment plays a significant role in how trauma affects individuals.Shutdown and hyperactivation are common responses to trauma.Titration is a key concept in gradually expanding resilience.Trauma responses can persist long after the traumatic event has passed.Slow and steady healing is more effective than rushing into trauma narratives.The cortex often misguides individuals in their healing journey.Find Maureen: https://maureengallagherphd.com/Attachment, Trauma & Toxic Relationships Super Conference April 28 - May 4Register free :https://xz684.isrefer.com/go/ATTRSC/moniqueIf you're struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner. Visithttps://betterhelp.com/healingtrauma during signup and get 10% off your first month of therapy.Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Trigger warning: This episode includes mentions of faith, discussed in a safe and respectful manner.In this conversation, Monique Koven and Tabitha Westbrook discuss the complexities of healing from trauma, particularly in the context of faith and the church. Tabitha shares her expertise as a licensed therapist specializing in complex trauma, domestic abuse, and coercive control, and emphasizes the importance of empathy, embodiment, and self-compassion in the healing process. They explore the church's role in addressing trauma and sexuality, the need for honest conversations, and practical steps for individuals seeking healing. The discussion highlights the significance of recognizing one's worth and the journey towards recovery, filled with hope and actionable insights.Tabitha's new book: Body & Soul ,Healed & Whole, An Invitational guide To healthy Sexuality After Trauma ,Abuse & Coercive Control.👉 Order the book here:https://amzn.to/3FT0aXBIf you're struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner. Visit https://betterhelp.com/healingtrauma during signup and get 10% off your first month of therapy.Attachment, Trauma & Toxic Relationships Super Conference April 28 - May 4Register free :https://xz684.isrefer.com/go/ATTRSC/moniqueFind a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, we are revisiting an episode which was originally recorded in 2022. My guest is licensed therapist Colleen West and author of the book "We All Have Parts, An Illustrated Guide To Healing Trauma with Internal Family Systems".We chat about various therapeutic approaches, including Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the concept of the window of tolerance. The conversation delves into how trauma manifests in symptoms, the importance of understanding self-energy, and the impact of pre-verbal trauma on individuals. Colleen shares insights on the role of protectors in therapy and the significance of attachment in relationships, providing listeners with a comprehensive understanding of trauma and healing.Find Coleen West's Book :We All Have Parts: An Illustrated Guide To Healing Trauma with Internal Family Systemshttps://amzn.to/4bRaKKPhttps://www.colleenwest.comIf you're struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner. Visit https://betterhelp.com/healingtrauma during signup and get 10% off your first month of therapy.Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest Host, Dr. Mark McNear interviews Benjamin Fry, a psychotherapist and founder of Khiron Clinics. Benjamin shares his personal journey through trauma, detailing his experiences with anxiety, suicidal ideation, and the impact of his early childhood loss. He discusses the complexities of trauma, the importance of understanding its effects on relationships, and the ongoing process of healing. The conversation also touches on the innovative approaches in trauma therapy, including EMDR and somatic experiencing, and the potential of technology in understanding and managing trauma responses.takeawaysBenjamin Fry shares his journey through trauma and recovery.He emphasizes the exaggerated physiological reactions to stress and anxiety.The importance of understanding trauma's impact on relationships is highlighted.Healing trauma is an ongoing process, not a one-time fix.The role of early childhood experiences in shaping adult behavior is discussed.Innovative therapies like EMDR and somatic experiencing are effective in trauma recovery.The significance of community and relational dynamics in healing is explored.Benjamin's passion lies in helping others navigate their trauma.Benjamin Fry is the founder of Khiron Clinics, one of the world's leading residential trauma-treatment centers, and Televagal, an innovative mental health technology platform. An accredited psychotherapist, couples therapist, speaker, author, and entrepreneur, he has written four books, including The Invisible Lion: How to Tame your Nervous System and Heal your Trauma. With a diverse career spanning psychology, media, and business, Benjamin read Physics and Philosophy at Oxford and then attended film school, directing a feature-length film distributed by HBO and Paramount.Khiron Clinicshttps://khironclinics.comBenjamin Fryhttps://www.benjaminfry.co.ukBenjamin's Book:The Invisible Lion: How Tame your Nervous system and heal your Traumahttps://amzn.to/3DRKgvTIf you're struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner. Visit https://betterhelp.com/healingtrauma during signup and get 10% off your first month of therapy.Guest host Mark McNear website:https://markmcnear.com/IG https://www.instagram.com/drmarkmcnearFollow Monique on IGhttps://www.instagram.com/thehealingtraumapodcast/Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Monique is chatting with psychologist and author Dr. Sherrie Campbell. Sherrie shares her insights on navigating the complexities of emotional abuse and toxic family dynamics. Drawing from her personal experiences and professional expertise, she discusses the importance of establishing boundaries, taking responsibility for one's own healing, and transforming pain into purpose. Dr. Campbell emphasizes that not all parents are good and that recognizing toxic relationships is crucial for mental health and personal growth. The conversation highlights the journey of healing and the empowerment that comes from understanding one's worth and setting healthy boundaries.takeawaysDr. Sherrie Campbell has written multiple books on toxic family dynamics.Emotional abuse can be subtle and often goes unrecognized.Establishing boundaries is essential for personal healing.It's important to take responsibility for your own mental health.Healing involves becoming the person you were meant to be.Not all parents are good, and it's okay to cut ties.Self-care is not selfish; it's necessary for well-being.Recognizing toxic relationships is crucial for mental health.Transforming pain into purpose can lead to personal growth.It's never too late to realize that your life matters.To Get in Touch with Dr. Sherrie:https://drsherriecampbell.com/Sherapy Sessions: Cutting Toxic Family Ties Podcast:https://drsherriecampbell.com/cutting...*Sherrie's Books:Adult Survivors Of Emotionally Abusive Parents:https://amzn.to/4ihLAaaAdult Survivors Of Toxic Family Membershttps://amzn.to/4ilVw2pIf you're struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner. Visit https://betterhelp.com/healingtrauma during signup and get 10% off your first month of therapy.Attachment, Trauma & Toxic Relationships Super Conference April 28 - May 4/2025Register free :https://xz684.isrefer.com/go/ATTRSC/moniqueFind a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today I am sharing my second interview with trauma therapist and author of Aundi Kolber. Her latest book is Take What You Need, Soft Words For Hard Days. We continue our conversation on the necessity of compassion and gentleness in the healing process. Aundi emphasizes the ebb and flow of healing, the significance of recognizing and validating personal needs, and the impact of developmental trauma on emotional health. She also explores the role of shame in hindering healing and the necessity of embodied knowledge in therapy. The discussion concludes with a focus on the power of language in facilitating healing and the hope that her book can serve as a valuable resource for those on their healing journeys.Podcast highlights:Healing should be approached with gentleness and compassion.The process of healing is not linear; it has ebbs and flows.Compassion is essential in therapeutic settings.Recognizing and validating our needs is crucial for healing.Developmental trauma can have long-lasting effects on individuals.Shame can prevent us from expressing our needs and seeking help.Our bodies possess wisdom about our needs, even when we are unaware.Healing often requires a thawing process to access buried emotions.Language can be a powerful tool for healing and connection.Resources like books can provide support on the healing journey.Grab Aundi’s book “Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days” You can also find her previous books, Strong Like Water and Try Softer.https://amzn.to/4hLIxqYAundi Kolber’s – Website and InstagramIf you're struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner. Visit https://betterhelp.com/healingtrauma during signup and get 10% off your first month of therapy.Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Monique is joined by the incredible Aundi Kolber, a trauma therapist and bestselling author of Try Softer. Aundi will be with us over the the next two episodes. Aundi discusses her latest book, 'Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Times,' focusing on the importance of gentleness and compassion in healing. She emphasizes the need for safety and empowerment in the healing process, highlighting the role of self-compassion and the significance of relationships.Some highlights of the conversation:Our capacity for aliveness can be discovered through gentle practicesSafety and compassion are essential for learning and healing.Self-compassion is often lacking in trauma survivors.Finding glimmers of aliveness can enhance emotional well-being.The body holds wisdom that can guide healing.Compassionate resourcing helps convey safety to our bodies.Understanding our limits is crucial for personal growth.Connection with others is vital for healing.Healing is a journey that requires patience and self-kindness‍AundiKolber.comAundi's book :Take what You Need Soft Words For Hard Dayshttps://amzn.to/41a0kSQFind a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation, Monique is chatting with trauma therapist Lauren Auer about the importance of setting boundaries, especially for trauma survivors. They explore the discomfort and challenges that come with establishing personal limits, the emotional toll of boundary-setting, and the necessity of self-care in maintaining healthy relationships. The discussion emphasizes that while setting boundaries can be difficult, it is essential for emotional well-being and personal growth.You can find Lauren here:website : steadfastcounseling.comInstagram: InstagramTikTok: YourTraumaTherapist (@yourtraumatherapist) | TikTokSubstack: Your Trauma Therapist | SubstackFind a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation, Monique Koven and returning guest trauma specialist and psychologist Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia discuss the profound impact of being seen in relationships, particularly between mothers and daughters. Deniz explores how early attachment experiences shape our sense of self and emotional health, leading to patterns that persist into adulthood. The discussion delves into the effects of emotional immaturity in parenting, the connection between trauma and self-perception, and the importance of reconnecting with our bodies to express emotions. Monique emphasizes the challenges of navigating relationships with emotionally immature parents and they discuss the journey towards authenticity, highlighting the need for compassion and boundaries in healing.If you're struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner. Visit https://betterhelp.com/healingtrauma during signup and get 10% off your first month of therapy.Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation, Monique welcomes back certified master parenting trainer Sarah R Moore as part of a cycle breakers parenting series. They discuss the importance of understanding discipline in parenting through a trauma-informed lens. Sarah emphasizes that discipline should be viewed as a teaching opportunity rather than punishment, highlighting the impact of attachment on children's development. The discussion covers the significance of creating emotional safety, practical techniques for mindful parenting, and the power of repair in relationships. Sarah also shares insights on how to break cycles of negative parenting and offers support through coaching programs for parents. Podcast takeawaysDiscipline is about teaching, not punishment.Children's attachment styles are influenced by parenting methods.Fear-based discipline can lead to unhealthy adult relationships.Creating emotional safety is crucial for children's learning.Cycle breaking starts with inner safety for parents.Mindful parenting techniques can be practiced in six seconds.Repairing relationships after conflict is essential for healthy development.Children learn better in a safe and supportive environment.Positive parenting techniques can be applied to all ages.Coaching and support can empower parents to create change.Sarah R. Moore's Book : Peaceful Discipline:Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior: Get it here:https://amzn.to/4gTSEZFIf you're struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner. Visit https://betterhelp.com/healingtrauma during signup and get 10% off your first month of therapy.Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy