Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

On this episode, Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest begin the strength of Motivation with an episode that explores how we can pursue our goals with passion and purpose, without becoming painfully attached to them.If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price.Sponsor Message: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes The material in this podcast comes in large part from our book Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness. If you like the podcast, you'll love the book!Timestamps:1:20: Why are liking and wanting different?4:45: What causes us to tip from liking into wanting?8:25: If liking is good and wanting is bad, why is it so easy to tip into wanting?12:30: Forrest’s experience with video games.16:45: Addiction and moments of lucidity.19:10: Identifying wanting through drivenness.21:00: Things that pull us into wanting.24:30: How can we stay in liking?29:00: The danger of auto-wanting.30:45: Delusional desire.32:45: Recap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Explore the hidden costs of anger on well-being and relationships. Learn strategies to avoid acting out from anger and how to reduce daily triggers. Discover the importance of reacting proportionally to offenses and distinguishing irritation from chronic irritability. Uncover habits of fault-finding and the wisdom in the story of the two monks. Understand 'near enemies' that mislead our discernment and the benefits of slowing down to prevent impulsive reactions. Finally, address how to disengage from moral outrage and righteous superiority.

Dr. Rick Hanson, a clinical psychologist and neuroplasticity expert, delves into managing anger, particularly regarding social justice. He discusses the physical and interpersonal costs of anger, emphasizing empathy and the importance of distinguishing between skillful and unskillful anger. They explore how anger can reveal unmet needs and the dangers of tribal anger in political contexts. Rick shares strategies for recognizing and addressing anger without being hostile, urging listeners to cultivate a balanced approach that acknowledges both grievances and compassion.

Discover how to combat fear and cultivate a sense of safety in your life. The discussion dives into the mismatch between threats and resources, offering practical strategies for immediate situations. Learn to inventory your psychological and social resources to reduce anxiety. Embrace the concept of reasonable safety while acknowledging real dangers. Explore how love and connection serve as powerful shields against fear. Finally, find ways to navigate anticipatory dread with concrete plans and compassionate perspective.

Explore the concept of 'paper tiger paranoia'—unfounded fears that overshadow real threats. Discover how modern anxieties, such as exaggerated interpersonal fears and media-induced panic, distort our perception of danger. Understand the hidden costs of chronic anxiety, including rumination and negativity bias. Learn practical strategies to assess and challenge these fears, focusing on acceptance and agency. Finally, find peace by realigning your attention on actual threats and taking meaningful action.

Dive into the calming power of tranquility and its vital role in tackling stress. Discover how the nervous system can be a game-changer against fear and anxiety. Learn practical techniques to activate calm quickly, from deep breathing to visualization. Explore the biological basis of calm and why it's essential for resilience. Forrest and Rick emphasize the benefits of building lasting tranquility through regular practice. Join them on this journey to harness your inner calm amidst life's chaos!

Feeling like a good person can be unexpectedly challenging. Cultural messages, shame, and comparison often cloud our self-perception. Discover the benefits of embracing your inner goodness, which can lead to reduced self-medication and increased generosity. Strategies to cultivate this feeling include compassion for yourself and recognizing everyday good intentions. Dive into the balance between top-down beliefs and bottom-up feelings for a more authentic self-view.

Explore the clash between your inner critic and nurturer. Discover how childhood experiences often amplify self-criticism. Learn strategies to limit this harsh inner voice while nurturing your supportive side. Delve into finding a balance between useful criticism and compassion. Uncover ways to strengthen your inner nurturer through positive experiences. Consider creating a mental support committee to foster self-encouragement. Lastly, find techniques to intercept negative self-talk before it spirals out of control.

On today’s episode of the Being Well Podcast, Dr. Hanson interviews Dr. Paul Gilbert, professor of clinical psychology at the University of Darby and the founder of compassion focused therapy. They explore how we can grow a healthy sense of self-worth, be honest without being critical, and stop undermining our own confidence.The content of today's episode was taken from Dr. Hanson's online course, The Foundations of Well-Being.Sponsor Message: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover the metaphor of first and second darts, exploring how our reactions often inflict more pain than the original events. Learn how criticism can spiral into rumination, causing unnecessary suffering. The hosts share strategies to manage these reactions, stressing the importance of shifting focus towards gratitude and strengths. They delve into how our second darts can impact relationships and suggest practical ways to reduce conflict. Embrace resilience and navigate away from self-punishment for a happier life!