Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

It's easy to "go with the flow" during our often busy lives. When things are going well this is great, but when our lives are less satisfying inertia can be a powerful enemy. To get out of a rut, we need to learn how to "pivot" in order to make the big changes that can point us in the right direction.If you feel that it might be time for a change, this is the episode for you.Our gust today is Adam Markel. Adam is the author of Pivot: The Art and Science of Reinventing Your Career and Life. He’s given a popular TED talk, has been interviewed by the Wall Street Journal, Fox News, and Forbes, and is the host of the Conscious Pivot podcast.Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Key Topics:01:04:Two pivots from Adam's life.06:20: What were some of the things that contributed to your pivot?08:03: What helps people when a pivot is shocking or surprising?14:07: What are the enduring and stable attributes of people that enable them to be resilient, or pivot well?18:07: How do we know when a pivot is good for us?22:09: How can people who are less resourced internally call upon allies in their life?28:44: If you could back in time and tell a younger version of yourself anything, what would you say?Overcome Anxiety:  Let go of anxiety and grow a greater sense of calm strength with Rick's Dealing with Anxiety program, which offers 5 powerful practices for managing stress and worries. Save 10% with coupon code BEINGWELL.Sponsors:Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout.Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have good days and bad days. Our mood naturally trends up and down in response to the events of our constantly changing worlds.But some people change more frequently, and are hit harder by change than others. On today’s episode, Dr. Hanson and Forrest continue their series on “Who Am I” by exploring at a particularly intense, and surprisingly common, version of this: Borderline Personality Disorder.Today's episode is a bit longer and more technical than normal. I hope you stick with it, but feel free to skip around!Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Key Topics:03:01: What is borderline personality disorder (BPD)?18:09: How do people with BPD respond to everyday issues?22:52: What are the traits of somebody who has “10% BPD”?32:10: How can people with tendencies toward BPD learn to manage it more effectively?40:40: If we are in a relationship with someone who has some level of BPD, what can we do to support them or otherwise make our relationship with them as healthy as possible?Overcome Anxiety:  Let go of anxiety and grow a greater sense of calm strength with Rick's Dealing with Anxiety program, which offers 5 powerful practices for managing stress and worries. Save 10% with coupon code BEINGWELL.Sponsors:Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout.Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are so busy these days that it’s great to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Dr. Lyubomirsky shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own happiness. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To summarize and simplify a little bit, one of the major focuses of this podcast is the “how” of happiness – what we can actually do in our lives, practically speaking, to increase our natural foundation of happiness and well-being. There’s endless advice out there about how to become happier, but most of it is anecdotal in nature. That’s why we're so happy to be being joined today by one of the leading researchers on the scientific study of human happiness: Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky. If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price. Timestamps: 01:06: The “pie chart” of happiness. 04:52: What push-back have you received on your work? 06:49: What has a big role in the 40% of our happiness we control? 12:34: What can we do to handle “back-fre” effects? 14:26: Building the trait of happiness. 21:35: A message to your younger self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we’re going to continue our series on “Who Am I” by looking at one of the most well-known personality disorders: sociopathy. We’ll explore what it is, where it comes from, and what we can do to interact more skillfully with people who possess it.We also spend a little time investigating how we can work with our own tendencies in that direction if we happen to possess them.If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price.Timestamps:01:05: Dr. Hanson's new online program: *Neurodharma*.05:34: What are the attributes of anti-social personality disorder?10:26: What does a person, showing a little bit of sociopathy, look like day-to-day?18:12: Where does sociopathy comes from?30:16: What can we do when in a relationship with a sociopathic person?36:37: What can we do to make our relationships with "5% sociopaths" more positive?44:30: Recap. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We made it to episode 101! On today's special episode, Forrest talks with Dr. Rick Hanson about his personal journey.If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price.Timestamps:01:30: What inspired you to become a psychologist?05:34: What was it like to live through the hight of the human potential movement?13:13: The influence of contemplative practice.17:12: Becoming an author, and the process of writing Buddha's Brain.24:02: What parts of your work are particularly exciting to you these days?32:09: What have you found in your experience, on a day-to-day level, really makes the greatest difference? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are so busy these days that it’s great to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Dr. Daniel Goleman and Michele Nevarez share the most important thing they do, each day, for their own happiness. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we’re exploring one of the most important topics when it comes to our personal happiness, achievement, and general social functioning: Emotional Intelligence. And we have the absolute pleasure of speaking with one of the most influential people in that very important field.Today we’re joined by two special guests: Dr. Daniel Goleman and Michele Nevarez.You can put Dr. Goleman's expertise into practice with one of his flexible online courses.Want to become more emotionally intelligent? Learn more about getting coached here!Are you interested in becoming certified as an emotional intelligence coach? Follow the link here to learn more about Dr. Goleman's certification program!Timestamps:01:07: What is the definition of “emotional intelligence,” and how is it different from IQ?05:55: What are the key things that people can do to develop EQ in general?10:31: A practice a day for greater EQ.12:15: Why do you think it so effectivefor personal development to practice warm-heartedness?14:19: How can we help these virtuous practices have more of an impact over the next 25 years?18:11: What’s something that parents or adults can do to help their children, or young people in general, learn emotional intelligence skills?23:23: If you could speak to everyone in the world and tell them one thing, what would you say?28:35: If you had the opportunity to go back in time and talk to your younger self, what would you say? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have tendencies in our relationships, and particularly our important ones. Some of these are good, while others can be destructive. And sometimes we might find ourselves in cycles where the trajectory of all our important relationships tends to look the same.Today we’re continuing our series on “Who Am I” by taking a look at where those tendencies come from, and how we can work inside ourselves to relate to them and others more effectively.Sign-up for Dr. Hanson's new monthly meditation program here. Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price: https://bit.ly/2NEnVU3Timestamps:01:48: Do we have repetitive patterns in our relationships?10:12: Social learning and object relations.21:16: What can we do to be more aware of those damaging patterns?24:18: Once we’ve recognized those damaging patterns, how do we change? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the second part of their conversation with Dr. Kristin Neff, Forrest and Dr. Hanson speak with her about how we can be compassionate under challenging circumstances. Particularly, how can we bring strength to compassion without tipping into anger?Learn more about Dr. Neff's Mindful Self-Compassion program here.Sign-up for Dr. Hanson's new monthly meditation program here. Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price: https://bit.ly/2NEnVU3Timestamps:01:52: Can we have too much mindfulness? And what do we need in addition to mindfulness to support self-compassion?06:30: Is there a gender bias in the material on self-compassion? How do people of different genders respond to it differently?12:22: How can a person be both forceful and compassionate?16:31: So if you had the opportunity to go back and talk to yourself as a child or young adult, what is something that you would want to say to that person? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices