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In this conversation, GS Youngblood joins me as we discuss his blueprint for masculinity in relationships, which focuses on three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety. He emphasizes the importance of simplicity, relationality, and applicability in his framework. We highlight the significance of emotional resonance, co-regulation, and curiosity in creating a safe and connected relationship. Learn more from GS Youngblood here - https://www.gsyoungblood.com/ Takeaways GS Youngblood's blueprint for masculinity in relationships consists of three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety. The blueprint emphasizes simplicity, relationality, and applicability in order to be easily understood and implemented by men. The first element, respond versus react, involves being grounded, still, and choiceful in one's actions. The second element, provide structure, entails having inner clarity and attunement to oneself and one's partner. The third element, create safety, focuses on emotional safety, trust-building, emotional resonance, co-regulation, and curiosity. Embodying the qualities of the masculine blueprint can help men feel more grounded, confident, and connected in their relationships. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we dive deeper into the 3 aspects of the blueprint. The first element, respond versus react, involves being grounded, still, and choiceful in one's actions. The second element, provide structure, entails having inner clarity and attunement to both oneself and one's partner. The third element, create safety, involves emotional safety and trust-building. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join the Academy and get more content and deeper connection. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Masculine In Relationship | GS Youngblood #676 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Psychotherapist and author Dr. Emily Nagoski discusses the importance of pleasure, authenticity, connection, and vulnerability in long-term relationships. They explore societal myths about sex, the need for open communication about desires, and the emotional floor plan in maintaining sexual intimacy. The conversation emphasizes intentional effort and collaboration in building a strong sexual connection.

In this episode we discuss common mistakes that married couples make when it comes to initiating sex.  There are dynamics of higher desire and lower desire and patterns that make these mistakes so easy to make. We cover six common mistakes: getting annoyed at being the one who initiates, using covert or roundabout methods of initiation, joking or crude initiations, feeling the need to be as turned on as your partner, using the same initiation method every time, and talking yourself out of initiating.  Takeaways Recognize the dynamics of higher desire and lower desire in your relationship Update your map of each other as you grow and change Avoid common mistakes in initiation, such as getting annoyed or using covert methods Focus on connection rather than just sexual fulfillment Communicate with your spouse about your initiation patterns and desires Take action to improve your initiation patterns and foster a deeper connection On the Xtended Version ... What make authenticity and vulnerability in marriage so difficult? Is it the motivations behind the vulnerability? The reactions to vulnerable moments? Both? Let's explore more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Getaway with your spouse this June 13-15. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Initiation Mistakes Married People Make #674 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

On the Regular Version ... In this conversation, and old blogging friend, Joshua Becker, joins me to discuss the journey and benefits of minimalism. We talk about his personal experience with minimalism and how it has positively impacted his life, relationships, and finances. We also explore strategies for dealing with a spouse's resistance to minimalism and the importance of the master bedroom as a sanctuary. Joshua also emphasizes the need for love, patience, and humility when approaching minimalism as a couple.  Learn more about Joshua here https://www.becomingminimalist.com/ Takeaways Minimalism can positively impact various aspects of life, including relationships, finances, and overall well-being. Approaching minimalism with love, patience, and humility is essential when dealing with a spouse's resistance. The master bedroom can serve as a sanctuary for rest and intimacy, and decluttering this space can enhance its purpose. Protecting the master bedroom from tension and negative conversations can contribute to a more peaceful and meaningful environment. Minimalism involves harnessing what matters most and removing distractions to focus on one's values and priorities. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, Pam and I talk about our journey with the minimalist mindset and how it has played out in our life and marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... One Skin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co  #oneskinpod The post Minimalism and Marriage | Joshua Becker #673 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode, we discuss the importance of date nights in marriage and offer a unique tip to make them more enjoyable. It's the idea of having sex before going out on a date to possibly relieve the pressure and create a deeper connection. We provide practical ideas for incorporating this tip into date nights, such as getting ready together, having sex in the morning, or asking the babysitter to take the kids out for a while. It is also important to expand and challenge the script of traditional date nights. Takeaways Date nights are important for maintaining a strong marriage. Having sex before a date night can relieve pressure and create a deeper connection. Practical ideas for incorporating sex into date nights include getting ready together, having sex in the morning, or asking the babysitter to take the kids out. Expanding and challenging the script of traditional date nights can make them more enjoyable and fulfilling. On the Xtended Version ... The world of self-help and self-improvement at times only works on one aspect of the equation.  There is also self-healing that is just as important. The areas where you work on your shadow self. We explore both today.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Have Sex First on Date Night #672 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this conversation, Dr. Marty Klein joins me and discusses the importance of reframing the conversation around sex and challenging our ideas about sexuality. We emphasize that sex is not just a behavior, but an idea, and that our ideas about sex shape our experiences. He highlights the need for individuals to have a sense of agency and the ability to shape their own sexual experiences. We also address common conceptions people have about sex, such as the belief that it should be a continuous, seamless connection, and the exceptionalism around sexuality. He encourages a more realistic and accepting view of sexuality, where not every sexual encounter needs to be transcendent or perfect. We also talk about how foreplay is about getting mentally and emotionally tuned into the sexual experience. It's important to leave behind the cares of the day and focus on the connection with your partner. Plus, as we age, our bodies change, and it's important to adapt and explore new ways of pleasure.  Learn more about Dr Klein here - https://www.martyklein.com/ Takeaways Sex is not just a behavior, but an idea that shapes our experiences. It is important to challenge and examine our ideas about sexuality. Having a sense of agency and the ability to shape our own sexual experiences is crucial. Not every sexual encounter needs to be perfect or transcendent; a more realistic and accepting view of sexuality is needed. Foreplay is about mentally and emotionally preparing for sex. Planning and scheduling sex can be beneficial for busy adults. As we age, our bodies change, and it's important to adapt and explore new ways of pleasure. Knowing what you want in sex is just as important as knowing what you don't want. Sexuality is a local experience, not an express one. Communication, experimentation, and understanding your own desires are key in a satisfying sexual experience. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... One Skin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co  #oneskinpod The post The Idea Of Sex | Dr Marty Klein #671 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This week let's talk about jealousy. Shanenn Bryant joins me for a conversation about overcoming jealousy in relationships. Shanenn shares her personal journey with jealousy and how she discovered that she was not alone in experiencing these feelings. She explains that jealousy is often rooted in past experiences and a lack of self-worth.  The conversation provides practical steps for moving forward and overcoming jealousy, including identifying and changing insecure habits. We also discuss the difference between fear and intuition. Learn more about Shanenn here https://www.topselfpodcast.com/ Takeaways Jealousy is a common emotion that can be rooted in past experiences and a lack of self-worth. Overcoming jealousy requires self-awareness and a willingness to change insecure habits. Differentiating between fear and intuition is crucial in addressing jealousy. Open communication and trust are essential for building healthy relationships. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, Pam and I discuss how the topic of jealousy and insecurity has played out in our life, as well as what can be done about it.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. The post Jealousy and Insecurity | Shanenn Bryant #670 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode, we dive into how marriage is simple but difficult, and emphasize the importance of honest conversations. Then we move into the main focus of the episode -- an email from a husband who feels that his wife wants to be wanted but doesn't want to want. There are complexities of desire discrepancy and sexual frustration in every marriage. So waht do we do with them? We also touch on the vulnerability and shame associated with discussing sexuality and the deeper parts of our lives. Takeaways Marriage is simple but difficult, and it requires honest conversations and a willingness to face challenges. Desire discrepancy and sexual frustration can be common issues in marriage, and it's important to have open and honest communication about these topics. Vulnerability and shame can play a role in the dynamics of marriage, and it's important to create a safe space for discussing sensitive topics. Resilience and overcoming resentment in marriage require facing negative thoughts and feelings, addressing traumas, and implementing boundaries. On the Xtended Version ... There are 2 common attitudes people approach marriage and relationships with - an attitude of entitlement or an attitude of exposure. We explore them and how they play out in life today. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Join us June 13-15, 2024 in the DFW area for a fantastic getaway. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Want To Be Wanted But Don’t Want To Want #669 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this conversation, Tripp Lanier joins me as we discuss the importance of self-reflection, understanding self, and overcoming resistance. We explore the impact of scripts, narratives, and parts in our lives and the need to integrate different aspects of ourselves. Our conversation also dives into the balance between love and boundaries in relationships and the power of acceptance and forgiveness. We wrap up by discussing the importance of taking personal responsibility for our happiness and finding a balance between meeting external expectations and honoring our true selves. Learn more about Tripp here - https://www.tripplanier.com/ Takeaways Self-reflection and understanding are key to personal growth and overcoming resistance. Integrating different aspects of ourselves leads to wholeness and a deeper sense of self. Balancing love and boundaries in relationships is essential for maintaining an open heart. Acceptance and forgiveness, both of self and others, are powerful tools for healing and growth. Taking personal responsibility for our happiness allows us to create fulfilling relationships and lives. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Procrastination and Resistance | Tripp Lanier #668 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this conversation, I'm joined by Stacey Sherrell and Rachel Faccio from Decoding Couples. We have a great conversation about the transition from normal married life to intimacy, the importance of creating margin, and the different desire levels in a relationship. We also explore the role of initiation and rejection in sexual activity, as well as the significance of character and emotional intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, playfulness, and understanding each other's desires and boundaries. Learn more about Decoding Couples here - https://www.decodingcouples.com/ Takeaways Transitioning to intimacy requires communication and understanding of each other's desires and boundaries. Creating margin between different roles and responsibilities is crucial for a healthy sex life. Initiation and rejection play a significant role in sexual activity, and it is important to navigate these dynamics with empathy and understanding. Building emotional intimacy and connection is essential for a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we discuss the importance of initiation and communication in relationships. We each explore how initiation plays out in our own marriages and the challenges we face. We also discuss the power of intimacy school and the importance of understanding the difference between sex and sex with a partner. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Babbel: Get 55% off a subscription at https://babbel.com/SMR The post Initiating Intimacy | Rachel Facio and Stacey Sherrell #667 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.