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In this episode, in recognition of this being episode 666, we go a bit dark and discuss the concept of normal marital sadism (a term coined by Dr David Schnarch), which refers to the intentional infliction of pain, cruelty, and hurt within a marriage. We explore various examples of normal marital sadism, such as poking fun at and embarrassing a spouse, lying to inflict pain, restricting the autonomy of your spouse, and manipulating them to establish compliance or gain dominance. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing our own capacity for cruelty and the need to address it in order to maintain a healthy and fulfilling marriage. Takeaways Normal marital sadism refers to the intentional infliction of pain, cruelty, and hurt within a marriage. Examples of normal marital sadism include humiliating and demeaning others, lying to inflict pain, restricting the autonomy of others, and manipulating others to establish compliance or gain dominance. It is important to recognize our own capacity for cruelty and address it in order to maintain a healthy and fulfilling marriage. Denying the existence of normal marital sadism can lead to its prevalence and negative consequences in a relationship. On the Xtended Version ... What do we do about normal marital sadism? How do I address it? Get rid of it? Or, at the very least limit it's presence in my marriage? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... AG1: Take ownership of your health this year with AG1. Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase exclusively at https://drinkAG1.com/sexymarriageradio The post Normal Marital Sadism #666 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this conversation, Dr Laurie Watson joins me as we discuss the dynamics of relationships and how they can impact sexual intimacy. We explore the misconceptions and expectations that couples often bring into therapy, as well as the triggers and defensive mechanisms that can lead to negative cycles. We also discuss the importance of recognizing patterns and understanding attachment styles in order to create healthier relationships. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the need for communication, empathy, and a willingness to work through challenges in order to cultivate a satisfying and fulfilling sexual connection. Learn more about Laurie here - https://www.foreplayrst.com/ Takeaways Misconceptions and expectations can lead to disappointment and frustration in relationships. Triggers and defensive mechanisms can create negative cycles in relationships. Understanding attachment styles can help couples navigate challenges and create healthier relationships. Communication, empathy, and a willingness to work through challenges are essential for cultivating a satisfying sexual connection. On the Xtended Version ... In this XTD conversation, we provide an example of a couple's interaction and explore the emotional and physical reactions that can arise. We emphasize the importance of creating space for communication and understanding each other's needs. By expressing vulnerability and making plans, couples can overcome the negative cycle and improve their sexual experiences. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Attachment Styles and Cycles | Dr Laurie Watson #665 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This week we discuss the impact of trauma on reactions and responses in marriage. An email from a listener points out she felt that trauma was not adequately addressed last week. We explore more how both partners are responsible for their reactions and responses, and that there is no hierarchy of pain. We also discuss the importance of regaining a sense of safety in the relationship and the need for both partners to work on themselves.  Takeaways Both partners are responsible for their reactions and responses in marriage. There is no hierarchy of pain in life and relationship. Regaining a sense of safety in the relationship is important, but it is not solely the responsibility of a partner. Recognizing and changing patterns is essential for personal growth and a healthier marriage. On the Xtended Version ... We continue to explore the idea of sexual polarity and look at aspects of masculine and feminine energies. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Babbel: Get 50% off at https://babbel.com/SMR The post Yes, But … #664 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today let's explore the impact of reactions and perceptions in relationships, specifically in the context of discovering pornography usage. There are lots of complexities with the aspects of honesty, trustworthiness, fear, and shame. Like how others perceive us, the importance of acknowledging others, the reactions to the discovery of pornography usage, motivations for lying, managing fear and shame, breaking the cycle of fear and reaction, recognizing the scripts we carry forward, and seeking professional help or self-reflection. To name a few. Listen to hear us explore them all. Takeaways Reactions and perceptions play a significant role in relationships. Honesty and trustworthiness are crucial in addressing the discovery of pornography usage. Fear and shame can fuel destructive reactions. Breaking the cycle of fear and reaction requires self-reflection and seeking professional help. On the Xtended Version ... Sexual polarity plays a large role in the energy found between husband and wife - particularly the sexual energy. What is it? How do I enhance it? Listen to find out. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... 2024 Passionately Married Getaway -- June 13-15, 2024. Register now. The post More Destructive: His Porn Or Her Reaction? #663 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this conversation, I'm joined by Jason Van Ruler as we discuss the importance of addressing past wounds and traumas in order to move forward in life and relationships. We talk about the concept of scripts and how our past experiences shape the narratives we tell ourselves.  Learn more about Jason here - https://www.jasonvr.com/ Takeaways Addressing past wounds and traumas is essential for personal growth and healthy relationships. Scripts, formed by past experiences, shape the way we perceive ourselves and others. On the Xtended Version ... Jason and I dive into the work of Dr. Schnarch and his theory of traumatic mind mapping, which examines the deeper layers of trauma and the motivations behind it. The conversation emphasizes the need to confront the dark side of ourselves and rewrite our narratives to chart a new course. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. The post Get Past Your Past | Jason VanRuler #662 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In today's episode of Sexy Marriage Radio,  we discuss the truth about pressures in marriage and sex. We explore the dynamics of power distribution in sexual relationships and the responsibility each partner has for their own pleasure. We also dive into the impact of how we relate to our sexuality and the importance of facing responsibility and making conscious choices. The overall goal? Have open and honest conversations about your sexual relationship and to take ownership of your own pleasure. Takeaways There are natural dynamics and pressure in every marriage. How you relate to your sexuality and sex life is important. It all boils down to choice - are they consciously and freely made? On the Xtended Version ... There are three main components that help contribute to the female orgasm. What are they? Listen to find out. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Miracle Made Sheets: Upgrade your sleep with Miracle Made Sheets! Click the link to claim your FREE 3 PIECE TOWEL SET and SAVE over 40% OFF https://trymiracle.com/passion The post Who’s Responsible For Whose Orgasm? #661 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In today's episode, we continue the discussion on the topic of mercy sex and the pressures and obligations that can arise in marriage. Let's explore the impact of religious beliefs and family of origin on sexuality, and the importance of peeling away layers and developing new ones to create a more fulfilling sex life. So what are the practical steps for dealing with pressure and obligation, shifting responsibility, and finding your voice? Takeaways Pressure and obligation can arise in marriage, and it's important to navigate these challenges together. Religious beliefs and family of origin can have a significant impact on sexuality and the dynamics of a marriage. Taking the time to evaluate your desires and needs is crucial for personal growth and a fulfilling sex life. Enhancing sexuality and growing together as a couple requires open communication, understanding, and a willingness to explore and adapt. On the Xtended Version ... What are the components that help create optimal sexual experiences? We talk through some research that found six factors and work through them and how they overlap. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Babbel: Get 55% off at https://babbel.com/SMR AG1: Take ownership of your health this year with AG1. Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase exclusively at https://drinkAG1.com/sexymarriageradio The post The Truth About Pressures In Sex #660 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this conversation, John Eldredge joins me as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships. John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest conversations about the needs and fears that arise. We also discuss the fragility of the world and how it can affect individuals and relationships.  Learn more from John here - https://wildatheart.org/ Takeaways Busyness can take a toll on relationships, leading to a lack of leisure time and personal well-being. Unhealed childhood trauma can resurface in adult relationships, causing emotional challenges and conflicts. Tuning into inner ages and understanding the needs of younger selves can help navigate relationship dynamics. Honesty and open communication about fears and needs can foster intimacy and understanding in relationships. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Busyness and Unhealed Trauma | John Eldredge #659 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This episode of a relationship podcast explores the concept of mercy sex in marriage and its impact on both partners. They discuss the pressure to have sex and how it affects the dynamics of a relationship. They also explore how to transition from mercy sex to freely chosen sex where both spouses actively participate. The hosts emphasize the importance of open communication and confronting personal issues to improve sexual satisfaction in marriage.

In this episode, we address some of the  feedback from last week's episode about a husband losing attraction to his wife. We explore the impact of such revelations on men and women - is there a difference in how it impacts each gender - and we explore the concept of facing dilemmas and making choices in relationships. The key here is the importance of self-validation and differentiation in personal growth. That is the best way to achieve relational growth as well. Takeaways Accept and love family members despite their flaws. Revelations about lost attraction can be devastating, but they provide an opportunity for change. Facing dilemmas in relationships requires courage and self-reflection. Self-validation and differentiation are essential for personal growth. On the Xtended Version ... At the beginning of each new year, we use a process of My 3 Words to help frame our focus in the coming year. Join us as Pam and I go through our words for 2024. And share yours on the https://my.smr.fm platform. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... AG1: Take ownership of your health this year with AG1. Try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase exclusively at https://drinkAG1.com/sexymarriageradio. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Search For Intimacy #657 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.