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In this call-in show, I address the challenges faced by Julie - who has been married for over 30 years but have lost intimacy in the relationship. We discuss the complexities of rekindling their sexual life, the dynamics of desire, and the impact of erection issues on their intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding each other's needs, and embracing the awkwardness that comes with trying to reconnect. Ultimately, intimacy is not solely defined by sexual performance but also by emotional connection and mutual support. Takeaways Intimacy can fade over time due to various life circumstances. Open communication about desires and needs is crucial. Initiating intimacy can be challenging when past experiences create hesitation. Foreplay should be a continuous process, not limited to the bedroom. Understanding each other's sexual drives can help bridge gaps in intimacy. Erection issues can create pressure and anxiety in sexual encounters. It's important to reassure each other during intimate moments, regardless of the outcome. Embracing awkwardness can lead to growth and deeper connection. Intimacy is about more than just sexual performance; it's about connection. Recognizing that both partners have different needs and desires is essential for a healthy relationship. On the Xtended Version ... We continue the Power Moves conversation by focusing even more on our own part in the dynamics of marital communication and moves.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Green Chef: Eat healthier and get 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass https://greenchef.com/passionclass SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post How Do I Initiate In A Sexless Marriage? #696 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr. Corey and Pam discuss the dynamics of power in marriage, exploring how couples navigate desires and tensions. Our conversation highlights the complexity of perception in relationships, particularly in high meaning situations, and the impact of family dynamics. We stress the importance of making effective moves in conversations and understanding each partner's actions. The conversation concludes with insights on the nature of alliances in marriage and how to respond to patterns in marriage. Takeaways Understanding power dynamics is crucial in marriage. Couples often flounder in gridlock due to unclear perceptions. High meaning situations can exacerbate stress in relationships. Family dynamics play a significant role in marital issues. Effective communication is key to resolving conflicts. Observing your partner's moves can lead to better understanding. Recognizing the nature of your alliance can improve collaboration. Collusion in marriage can perpetuate unresolved issues. On the Xtended Version ... We pivot from seeing our spouse's moves better to understanding our own. Too often we make premature moves - or don't go far enough. Today we dive into common errors to watch out for and additional suggestions for improvement. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Power Moves #695 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today we dive into two listener emails and explore the complexities of intimacy and communication in marriage. We discuss the balance between the pressures of wants in preferences when it comes to sex and then on sexual performance, and the importance of understanding each partner's background and expectations. Our conversation emphasizes the need for self-validation and the idea that learning and growing together can enhance intimacy.  Takeaways Marriage is sacred and should be treated with commitment. Direct communication can lead to freedom in relationships. Understanding different backgrounds can help navigate intimacy issues. Performance pressure can hinder sexual satisfaction. Self-validation is crucial for personal confidence in intimacy. Learning together can enhance the relationship dynamic. Intimacy is about exploration, not just performance. It's important to hold onto goals lightly in relationships. On the Xtended Version ... Is sex really a need? Or is it more like a want? What's your thought? Listen to the XTD to hear our.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Green Chef: Eat healthier and get 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass https://greenchef.com/passionclass Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Is Sex a Need or Want? #694 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today we revisit one of the best of a recent episode of SMR. In it, I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talked through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most? What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage? And what should married couples do about our differences and similarities? Learn more about them and their work here - https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... LEAN: Get 15% OFF by going to https://takelean.com Use our code PASSION to get 15% off. The post Best of SMR: Secrets of Sex and Marriage #693 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it. Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control. Our conversation also addresses a listener's frustration with their spouse's reluctance to engage in oral sex and the power dynamics at play in their relationship.  Takeaways People have different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others. Engaging in oral sex can be a way for individuals to feel sexy and in control. Power dynamics can play a role in sexual encounters, and it's important to navigate them in a healthy and consensual way. Open communication and self-reflection are key to addressing challenges and frustrations in a sexual relationship. Marriage should not be based on quid pro quo or manipulative power plays, but on love, collaboration, and mutual pleasure. On the Xtended Version ... A listener emails in about a fear he has that his girlfriends physical appearance may lead to potential performance issues if they get married. Even though she is perfect in every way! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App for Couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Power and Oral Sex #692 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships. We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensitivity, energetic sensitivity, and introspection. Irene explains the importance of acknowledging and managing overstimulation for HSPs, as well as the need for emotional de-armoring and a slow, spacious progression in physical intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and collaboration in creating a better connectedness within the dynamic of a relationship. Learn more about Irene here - https://www.irenefehr.com/ Takeaways Highly sensitive people (HSPs) tend to be highly responsive and sensitive to their environment, both sensorially and energetically. HSPs have a sensitive nervous system wiring, which leads to more input being registered and more time spent processing that information. HSPs may experience overwhelm, overstimulation, and a sense of armoring as a result of their heightened sensitivity. Creating transition times and practicing self-care are essential for managing overstimulation and de-armoring. Emotional dearmoring involves opening up emotionally and having heart-to-heart conversations to melt the armor and foster intimacy. In physical intimacy, HSPs need a slow, spacious progression that focuses on touch that is first affectionate and comforting before becoming more sensual and sexual. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I give our take on the concept of Highly Sensitive People.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Highly Sensitive People | Irene Fehr #691 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today we dive into two listener emails, one about the lack of intentionality in a husband and its impact on the marriage, specifically the attraction level of the wife towards the husband due to this issue. And the other email about the effects of past sexual trauma on a couple's sex life. He claims her past trauma is an issue - she doesn't. Now what do both these couples do? Takeaways Recognize that others are facing similar challenges in their marriages Address the lack of intentionality in a spouse and its impact on the marriage Consider the effects of past sexual trauma on the couple's sex life On the Xtended Version ... We dive into the aspect of obligation and duty sex that happens in marriage. It's really all about power and selfhood. What does this mean? Join the Academy to listen and find out more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post My Spouse Is The Problem #690 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Sam Jolman, a counselor and author of The Sex Talk You Never Got, dives into the fascinating world of sensuality and its pivotal role in intimacy. He discusses how men can benefit from slowing down and savoring moments, challenging the notion of sex as a task. Jolman emphasizes the importance of playfulness in sexual relationships, urging couples to approach their time together with curiosity and joy. By prioritizing pleasure and engaging the senses, he believes that couples can foster deeper connections and create a more fulfilling sex life.

Dr. Elliot Justin joins me to discuss the importance of monitoring nocturnal erections as a marker for sexual and cardiovascular health. He explains that nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's overall health and can predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Dr. Justin emphasizes the need for healthcare providers to address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function. He also introduces the concept of using soft elastomer rings to enhance sexual performance and improve relationships. The rings can help men sustain erections and last longer during intercourse. Learn more about Dr Justin and the technology here https://myfirmtech.com Use our code SMR and get 15% off Takeaways Nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's sexual and cardiovascular health. Monitoring nocturnal erections can help predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Healthcare providers should address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function. Soft elastomer rings can enhance sexual performance and improve relationships by helping men sustain erections and last longer during intercourse. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR LEAN: Get 15% OFF by going to https://takelean.com Use our code PASSION to get 15% off. The post Enhance Your Health and Performance | Dr Elliot Justin #688 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Effective communication about sex in marriage is vital. The discussion revolves around naming intentions and using soft, tactful language. Couples are encouraged to approach sensitive topics slowly, prioritizing listening and understanding. The difference between having sex and being sexual is examined, emphasizing emotional connections. Compassion for oneself and each other plays a crucial role in nurturing intimacy, fostering a supportive environment for open dialogue.