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In this conversation, I'm joined by a colleague and friend Dr. Dave Jenkins as we dive deep into the concept of regression, particularly in the context of emotional states and relationships. We discuss how regression manifests as a brain state, the contagious nature of it in interpersonal dynamics, and the metaphor of the Mariana Trench to illustrate the depths of emotional regression. Our conversation also goes through strategies for recognizing and managing regression, the impact of intimacy on emotional states, and the importance of self-soothing and increasing one's buoyancy to navigate life's challenges effectively. Connect more with Dr Dave here - https://www.linkedin.com/in/davemjenkins/ Takeaways Regression is a brain state, not just an emotion. We all experience regression, regardless of intelligence. Regression can be contagious in relationships. Understanding regression helps in managing emotional responses. The Mariana Trench metaphor illustrates the depths of regression. Intimacy can trigger regression due to vulnerability. Self-soothing is essential for managing regression. Recognizing regression in oneself and others is crucial. Feelings are important and should not be ignored. Increasing buoyancy requires intentional strategies. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I go through a story that depicts more about the tensions of differentiation in relationships. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Navigating The Depths | Dr Dave Jenkins #699 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode I'm joined by Casey and Meygan Caston of Marriage 365 - we discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining healthy marriages. We dive into the importance of intentionality, self-reflection, and personal responsibility in relationships. And highlight the unrealistic expectations set by societal norms and media portrayals of marriage, and the need for couples to focus on their own growth to foster a better partnership. Our conversation also touches on the significance of emotional connections and the fleeting nature of material success in achieving true happiness.  There is an importance of empowerment in marriage, emphasizing that individuals should focus on self-improvement rather than solely relying on their partners. We believe that most marriage problems are fixable with the right tools and mindset, and hope to encourage couples to engage in meaningful communication and self-discovery. Learn more about Casey and Meygan at their site - https://marriage365.com Takeaways People desire healthy marriages but often lack a plan. Many couples are winging it and using hope as a strategy. Loneliness in marriage can lead to a ticking time bomb. Society's portrayal of marriage creates unrealistic expectations. Happiness is often sought in external factors rather than within. Self-reflection is crucial for personal and relational growth. Healthy relationships are built on emotional connections. Couples often put their relationships on pause during busy seasons. True happiness comes from meaningful connections with others. It's about the couple working on the marriage together. Marriages are about working on yourself. Your marriage is working on you more than you ever could on it. Nothing that matters in life is a quick fix. Most marriage problems are fixable. Curiosity unlocks conversations within a relationship. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift, head over to https://uncommonoods.com/passion Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get 20% Off your entire order with our exclusive link - https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Problems Are Fixable | Casey and Meygan Caston #698 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Life transitions can strain marriages, creating emotional challenges for couples. Balancing family responsibilities, like caring for aging parents, is a common struggle. The importance of maintaining connection through intentionality is emphasized, particularly with dedicated time for discussions. Effective communication is highlighted as crucial for understanding one another's perspectives. Small gestures and regular check-ins can significantly enhance relationship dynamics. Community engagement also offers valuable support for couples during tough times.

In this call-in show, I address the challenges faced by Julie - who has been married for over 30 years but have lost intimacy in the relationship. We discuss the complexities of rekindling their sexual life, the dynamics of desire, and the impact of erection issues on their intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding each other's needs, and embracing the awkwardness that comes with trying to reconnect. Ultimately, intimacy is not solely defined by sexual performance but also by emotional connection and mutual support. Takeaways Intimacy can fade over time due to various life circumstances. Open communication about desires and needs is crucial. Initiating intimacy can be challenging when past experiences create hesitation. Foreplay should be a continuous process, not limited to the bedroom. Understanding each other's sexual drives can help bridge gaps in intimacy. Erection issues can create pressure and anxiety in sexual encounters. It's important to reassure each other during intimate moments, regardless of the outcome. Embracing awkwardness can lead to growth and deeper connection. Intimacy is about more than just sexual performance; it's about connection. Recognizing that both partners have different needs and desires is essential for a healthy relationship. On the Xtended Version ... We continue the Power Moves conversation by focusing even more on our own part in the dynamics of marital communication and moves.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Green Chef: Eat healthier and get 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass https://greenchef.com/passionclass SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post How Do I Initiate In A Sexless Marriage? #696 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr. Corey and Pam discuss the dynamics of power in marriage, exploring how couples navigate desires and tensions. Our conversation highlights the complexity of perception in relationships, particularly in high meaning situations, and the impact of family dynamics. We stress the importance of making effective moves in conversations and understanding each partner's actions. The conversation concludes with insights on the nature of alliances in marriage and how to respond to patterns in marriage. Takeaways Understanding power dynamics is crucial in marriage. Couples often flounder in gridlock due to unclear perceptions. High meaning situations can exacerbate stress in relationships. Family dynamics play a significant role in marital issues. Effective communication is key to resolving conflicts. Observing your partner's moves can lead to better understanding. Recognizing the nature of your alliance can improve collaboration. Collusion in marriage can perpetuate unresolved issues. On the Xtended Version ... We pivot from seeing our spouse's moves better to understanding our own. Too often we make premature moves - or don't go far enough. Today we dive into common errors to watch out for and additional suggestions for improvement. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Power Moves #695 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today we dive into two listener emails and explore the complexities of intimacy and communication in marriage. We discuss the balance between the pressures of wants in preferences when it comes to sex and then on sexual performance, and the importance of understanding each partner's background and expectations. Our conversation emphasizes the need for self-validation and the idea that learning and growing together can enhance intimacy.  Takeaways Marriage is sacred and should be treated with commitment. Direct communication can lead to freedom in relationships. Understanding different backgrounds can help navigate intimacy issues. Performance pressure can hinder sexual satisfaction. Self-validation is crucial for personal confidence in intimacy. Learning together can enhance the relationship dynamic. Intimacy is about exploration, not just performance. It's important to hold onto goals lightly in relationships. On the Xtended Version ... Is sex really a need? Or is it more like a want? What's your thought? Listen to the XTD to hear our.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Green Chef: Eat healthier and get 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass https://greenchef.com/passionclass Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Is Sex a Need or Want? #694 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today we revisit one of the best of a recent episode of SMR. In it, I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talked through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most? What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage? And what should married couples do about our differences and similarities? Learn more about them and their work here - https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... LEAN: Get 15% OFF by going to https://takelean.com Use our code PASSION to get 15% off. The post Best of SMR: Secrets of Sex and Marriage #693 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it. Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control. Our conversation also addresses a listener's frustration with their spouse's reluctance to engage in oral sex and the power dynamics at play in their relationship.  Takeaways People have different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others. Engaging in oral sex can be a way for individuals to feel sexy and in control. Power dynamics can play a role in sexual encounters, and it's important to navigate them in a healthy and consensual way. Open communication and self-reflection are key to addressing challenges and frustrations in a sexual relationship. Marriage should not be based on quid pro quo or manipulative power plays, but on love, collaboration, and mutual pleasure. On the Xtended Version ... A listener emails in about a fear he has that his girlfriends physical appearance may lead to potential performance issues if they get married. Even though she is perfect in every way! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App for Couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Power and Oral Sex #692 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships. We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensitivity, energetic sensitivity, and introspection. Irene explains the importance of acknowledging and managing overstimulation for HSPs, as well as the need for emotional de-armoring and a slow, spacious progression in physical intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and collaboration in creating a better connectedness within the dynamic of a relationship. Learn more about Irene here - https://www.irenefehr.com/ Takeaways Highly sensitive people (HSPs) tend to be highly responsive and sensitive to their environment, both sensorially and energetically. HSPs have a sensitive nervous system wiring, which leads to more input being registered and more time spent processing that information. HSPs may experience overwhelm, overstimulation, and a sense of armoring as a result of their heightened sensitivity. Creating transition times and practicing self-care are essential for managing overstimulation and de-armoring. Emotional dearmoring involves opening up emotionally and having heart-to-heart conversations to melt the armor and foster intimacy. In physical intimacy, HSPs need a slow, spacious progression that focuses on touch that is first affectionate and comforting before becoming more sensual and sexual. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I give our take on the concept of Highly Sensitive People.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Highly Sensitive People | Irene Fehr #691 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today we dive into two listener emails, one about the lack of intentionality in a husband and its impact on the marriage, specifically the attraction level of the wife towards the husband due to this issue. And the other email about the effects of past sexual trauma on a couple's sex life. He claims her past trauma is an issue - she doesn't. Now what do both these couples do? Takeaways Recognize that others are facing similar challenges in their marriages Address the lack of intentionality in a spouse and its impact on the marriage Consider the effects of past sexual trauma on the couple's sex life On the Xtended Version ... We dive into the aspect of obligation and duty sex that happens in marriage. It's really all about power and selfhood. What does this mean? Join the Academy to listen and find out more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post My Spouse Is The Problem #690 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.