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This week is a rapid fire Q&A - recorded live from the 2024 SMR Getaway. We discuss topics such as how to get turned on by seeing a partner's penis, how to improve desire in a low-drive spouse during a stressful time, how much time couples typically spend on sex, and how to teach kids healthy sexual boundaries without invoking shame. We emphasize the importance of open communication, setting boundaries, and creating opportunities for connection in relationships. We also discuss the need to let go of societal scripts and expectations around sex and focus on what works for each individual couple. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we cover more question from the Getaway last week. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... OneSKin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co  #oneskinpod The post Rapid Fire Q&A Live From The Getaway #681 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives. He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to drive our own lives instead of trying to control others. Lastly, we discuss the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for our own actions in relationships. Learn more about Dr John here https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony Takeaways Dr. John Deloney's journey into therapy and coaching was inspired by his father's work as a homicide detective and hostage negotiator. Anxiety is a smoke signal that something is amiss in our lives, and it is important to face our discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change. Belief in something bigger than ourselves is crucial for managing anxiety and finding peace and clarity. It is important to drive our own lives and take responsibility for our own actions, rather than trying to control others. Self-awareness and recognizing our own part in relationships is essential for personal growth and healthy connections. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we continue the conversation with Dr John by looking further into how vulnerability and open communication are key to building strong and intimate relationships. Plus, it is important to embrace the mundane aspects of life and find joy in the everyday moments. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... OneSKin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co  #oneskinpod Honeylove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://honeylove.com/SMR! #honeylovepod The post Anxiety As A Smoke Signal | Dr John Delony #680 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this conversation, Dr Corey is joined by  Tyler and Brannon Patrick, also known as The Therapy Brothers, as they discuss the topic of betrayal, trauma, addiction, and infidelity in marriages. They emphasize the importance of addressing the underlying issues and not just focusing on the specific behavior, such as pornography usage. There is a need for honesty, accountability, transparency, and living in alignment with personal values. Plus we also discuss the role of individual healing and growth in the context of a relationship. There is a challenge in navigating sexuality and an importance in creating a safe space for open and honest communication. Overall, our conversation emphasizes the power of personal agency and the potential for growth and healing in our relationships. Learn more about the Therapy Brothers here - https://therapybros.com And https://lovestrong.com Takeaways Addressing the underlying issues is crucial when dealing with betrayal, addiction, and infidelity in marriages. Honesty, accountability, and transparency are essential for rebuilding trust and creating a healthy relationship. Individual healing and growth are necessary for both partners to move forward and create a stronger connection. Navigating sexuality after betrayal can be challenging, but creating a safe space for open communication is key. Personal agency and taking responsibility for one's own healing are powerful catalysts for change in relationships. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we get personal as we talk through our own journeys with betrayal and healing.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Factor Meals: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off your 1st month and 20% off the next month when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR The post Discovery Of A Spouse’s Betrayal | Tyler and Brannon Patrick #679 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this conversation, Dr Jessica Higgins joins me as we discuss the topic of criticism in relationships. We explore how criticism can be damaging -- but we also offer strategies for addressing it. It is so, so important to slow the process down, get curious, and reveal the underlying needs and requests. Learn more from Dr Higgins - https://drjessicahiggins.com/ Empowered Relationship Podcast link: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Get the free guide here - https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication Takeaways Criticism in relationships can be damaging and erode the bond between partners. Slowing down and getting curious can help address criticism and reveal underlying needs and requests. Both partners need to take responsibility for their own reactions and work towards open communication and vulnerability. Addressing criticism requires a balance between being considerate of the other person's feelings and maintaining a sense of self. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we also discuss the role of defensiveness and the need for both partners to take responsibility for their own reactions. The main takeaway from our conversation -- the importance of open communication and vulnerability in creating a healthy and connected relationship. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join the Academy and get more content and deeper connection. https://smr.fm/academy The post Turn Criticism Into Connection | Dr Jessica Higgins #678 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Flexibility in marriage, love languages' impact on desire, being a good companion vs. lover, role of presence in attraction, igniting passion on vacation, vulnerability in marriage, importance of self-awareness and initiation in fostering intimacy.

In this conversation, GS Youngblood joins me as we discuss his blueprint for masculinity in relationships, which focuses on three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety. He emphasizes the importance of simplicity, relationality, and applicability in his framework. We highlight the significance of emotional resonance, co-regulation, and curiosity in creating a safe and connected relationship. Learn more from GS Youngblood here - https://www.gsyoungblood.com/ Takeaways GS Youngblood's blueprint for masculinity in relationships consists of three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety. The blueprint emphasizes simplicity, relationality, and applicability in order to be easily understood and implemented by men. The first element, respond versus react, involves being grounded, still, and choiceful in one's actions. The second element, provide structure, entails having inner clarity and attunement to oneself and one's partner. The third element, create safety, focuses on emotional safety, trust-building, emotional resonance, co-regulation, and curiosity. Embodying the qualities of the masculine blueprint can help men feel more grounded, confident, and connected in their relationships. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we dive deeper into the 3 aspects of the blueprint. The first element, respond versus react, involves being grounded, still, and choiceful in one's actions. The second element, provide structure, entails having inner clarity and attunement to both oneself and one's partner. The third element, create safety, involves emotional safety and trust-building. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join the Academy and get more content and deeper connection. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Masculine In Relationship | GS Youngblood #676 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Psychotherapist and author Dr. Emily Nagoski discusses the importance of pleasure, authenticity, connection, and vulnerability in long-term relationships. They explore societal myths about sex, the need for open communication about desires, and the emotional floor plan in maintaining sexual intimacy. The conversation emphasizes intentional effort and collaboration in building a strong sexual connection.

In this episode we discuss common mistakes that married couples make when it comes to initiating sex.  There are dynamics of higher desire and lower desire and patterns that make these mistakes so easy to make. We cover six common mistakes: getting annoyed at being the one who initiates, using covert or roundabout methods of initiation, joking or crude initiations, feeling the need to be as turned on as your partner, using the same initiation method every time, and talking yourself out of initiating.  Takeaways Recognize the dynamics of higher desire and lower desire in your relationship Update your map of each other as you grow and change Avoid common mistakes in initiation, such as getting annoyed or using covert methods Focus on connection rather than just sexual fulfillment Communicate with your spouse about your initiation patterns and desires Take action to improve your initiation patterns and foster a deeper connection On the Xtended Version ... What make authenticity and vulnerability in marriage so difficult? Is it the motivations behind the vulnerability? The reactions to vulnerable moments? Both? Let's explore more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Getaway with your spouse this June 13-15. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Initiation Mistakes Married People Make #674 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

On the Regular Version ... In this conversation, and old blogging friend, Joshua Becker, joins me to discuss the journey and benefits of minimalism. We talk about his personal experience with minimalism and how it has positively impacted his life, relationships, and finances. We also explore strategies for dealing with a spouse's resistance to minimalism and the importance of the master bedroom as a sanctuary. Joshua also emphasizes the need for love, patience, and humility when approaching minimalism as a couple.  Learn more about Joshua here https://www.becomingminimalist.com/ Takeaways Minimalism can positively impact various aspects of life, including relationships, finances, and overall well-being. Approaching minimalism with love, patience, and humility is essential when dealing with a spouse's resistance. The master bedroom can serve as a sanctuary for rest and intimacy, and decluttering this space can enhance its purpose. Protecting the master bedroom from tension and negative conversations can contribute to a more peaceful and meaningful environment. Minimalism involves harnessing what matters most and removing distractions to focus on one's values and priorities. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, Pam and I talk about our journey with the minimalist mindset and how it has played out in our life and marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... One Skin: Get 15% off OneSkin with our code SMR at https://oneskin.co  #oneskinpod The post Minimalism and Marriage | Joshua Becker #673 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode, we discuss the importance of date nights in marriage and offer a unique tip to make them more enjoyable. It's the idea of having sex before going out on a date to possibly relieve the pressure and create a deeper connection. We provide practical ideas for incorporating this tip into date nights, such as getting ready together, having sex in the morning, or asking the babysitter to take the kids out for a while. It is also important to expand and challenge the script of traditional date nights. Takeaways Date nights are important for maintaining a strong marriage. Having sex before a date night can relieve pressure and create a deeper connection. Practical ideas for incorporating sex into date nights include getting ready together, having sex in the morning, or asking the babysitter to take the kids out. Expanding and challenging the script of traditional date nights can make them more enjoyable and fulfilling. On the Xtended Version ... The world of self-help and self-improvement at times only works on one aspect of the equation.  There is also self-healing that is just as important. The areas where you work on your shadow self. We explore both today.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Have Sex First on Date Night #672 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.