Relationships at Work - The Leadership Guide to Building Workplace Connections and Avoiding Blind Spots.

When we show up to work, we bring expectations—with how we’ll be treated, how we’ll grow, and how we’ll be led. But what happens when the person responsible for our development… isn’t really a leader at all? In this solo episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher unpacks the frustration that comes when leadership expectations crash into the reality of untrained, unresponsive supervisors. He offers tangible advice for how employees can lead up when support is lacking—and how real leaders can better manage the expectations placed on them by staying curious and communicative. Because not every manager is a leader, but every leader has the opportunity to rise to the challenge.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

What does it mean to be a neuro-fit leader? In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher is joined by trauma-sensitive, polyvagal-informed leadership and neuro coach Mallory Meyer to unpack the real power of nervous system regulation in leadership. Together, they explore why leaders can’t think their way to better leadership — they have to feel it. Mallory shares how neuro-fitness supports emotional agility, improves decision-making, and helps leaders show up with authenticity and calm in high-stress environments. They also discuss: – Why resilience gets misused in the workplace – What co-regulation looks like in teams – Tangible tools to reset your nervous system in real-time – The connection between diversity, performance, and embodied leadership – How modeling neuro-fitness can shift organizational culture from the inside out If you're tired of performative leadership advice and ready for something rooted in humanity, science, and practical tools, this episode delivers.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It’s packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

After 250 episodes of exploring leadership, workplace culture, and the human side of work, certain truths just won’t stay quiet. In this solo episode, host Russel Lolacher reflects on the six most consistent, hard-earned lessons that keep showing up — no matter the industry, the title, or the team. From the emotional impact of leadership to the systems that silently shape it, these are the truths every leader needs to face if they want to do better, lead better, and build workplaces worth staying in. This isn’t a checklist — it’s a challenge.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

urpose isn’t a poster on the wall — it’s an everyday practice. In this episode of Relationships at Work, Dr. Alise Cortez joins Russel Lolacher to explore how leaders can move beyond surface-level engagement and truly ignite meaning, connection, and inspiration in the workplace.Drawing from her research in logotherapy, workplace meaning, and leadership development, Alise shares: ✅ Why leaders must first be inspired by their own lives ✅ How to embed purpose into workplace culture from onboarding onward ✅ The critical role of recognizing and rewarding kindness, empathy, and courage ✅ How relationships can elevate — or erode — a sense of meaning at work ✅ What to do when your purpose no longer aligns with your workplace ✅ Practical ways leaders can grow people into their fullest potentialThis isn’t about slogans or vision statements gathering dust. It's about operationalizing humanity in how we work, lead, and connect — every single day.Whether you’re a leader ready to elevate your team, or an employee looking to reconnect to your own sense of purpose, this conversation will give you the tools — and the hope — to start.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It’s packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

We’ve all heard the classic career question: “What’s your five-year plan?” But in this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher flips it on its head—asking leaders to consider their five-year plan for their employees. Why? Because true leadership isn’t reactive—it’s intentional, strategic, and supportive. Russel explores how leaders can align employee growth with organizational goals, share industry insights, and build flexible development roadmaps. It’s time to turn career conversations into shared journeys, not solo missions.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

What if the way we talk about work is limiting how we lead it?In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher sits down with Graham Abbey—Chief Executive of Farleigh Performance and Professor in Practice at the University of Bristol Business School—for a deep dive into complexity in today’s organizations. From metaphors that reveal our worldview to the mechanical mindset still dominating leadership, Graham challenges how we think about control, purpose, ambiguity, and personal growth.Together, they explore:Why leadership isn’t about control—but about creating the conditions for emergenceHow metaphors and narratives quietly shape relationships at workWhy organizations may be capping our growth instead of nurturing itThe generational evolution in complexity thinkingA practical acronym for building complexity capacity: H.A.R.D.If you’ve ever felt like your workplace is running on outdated metaphors or you’re stuck solving the same problems over and over, this conversation will reframe how you see leadership—and what’s possible.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It’s packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Caring makes you a better leader. But what happens when it starts to hurt?In this solo episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher explores the emotional toll of leadership when we care too much. While empathy and passion can strengthen our connection with teams, they can also lead to burnout, blurred boundaries, and frustration—especially when others don’t seem to care as much.Russel shares the signs of compassion fatigue and offers practical ways to protect your mental health while staying engaged as a leader. If you’ve ever felt like you were carrying the weight of your workplace on your shoulders, this episode is for you.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this episode of Relationships at Work, host Russel Lolacher sits down with Derrick Mains — speaker, consultant, and CEO of The Process Fixer — to dive into the power of building human-centered systems at work. Derrick shares why most businesses are unintentionally designed for failure, the hidden costs of command-and-control leadership, and how shifting from goals to aims can unlock unprecedented performance.From real-world stories about industrial fans and sticky notes to lessons from WWII shipbuilding and Japanese manufacturing, Derrick makes the case for structure over chaos, fresh perspectives over legacy thinking, and why we urgently need a new version of capitalism — one that actually supports people.Whether you're a leader looking to fix broken systems or someone wondering why your workplace feels harder than it should, this conversation will challenge what you think you know about efficiency, accountability, and culture.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It’s packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

You’ve defined your values. But are you still living them — or just assuming you are?In this episode of Relationships at Work, we unpack the overlooked side of values in leadership. Not the usual “define your top five” — but the deeper, messier question of alignment. Are your values still showing up in how you lead, decide, and interact? Or have they quietly drifted out of sync with your environment… and yourself?This episode explores how to test your values at work, why misalignment sneaks up on us, and how self-awareness and situational awareness play a critical role in staying grounded as a leader. Because living out of sync with your values doesn’t just affect you — it erodes trust, clarity, and the culture you’re trying to build.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

In this episode of Relationships at Work, Russel chats with Sean Vassilaros, CEO and co-founder of Kanny, about what’s missing from hiring—and it’s not experience or skills. It’s character.Sean dives deep into how character—not personality—drives behavior, shapes culture, and ultimately determines long-term success in the workplace. He shares why traditional hiring tools like resumes and references are fundamentally flawed, how peer-driven feedback can bring accountability to both employees and hiring managers, and why data-backed character insights could be the future of leadership and culture.We talk:Why 75% of hires are still mis-hiresHow character traits like humility and accountability can be measuredThe rise of “Character Intelligence” as a cultural north starCreating development plans from day oneWhat Glassdoor reviews reveal about accountabilityOne question you should ask in every work relationshipIf you’ve ever made a bad hire, been burned by a toxic teammate, or want to build a team of high-character humans—this episode is for you.Hey! If you're enjoying the insights from our guests, you'll love our R@W Notes Newsletter. It’s packed with guest takeaways, the resources that inspire them, and my own tips on how we as leaders can be better humans for the humans the are responsible for. Go to RelationshipsAtWorkShow.com and Subscribe Now and help the workplace be more human.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow me on Threads Follow on TikTok Email me anytime