Becoming Whole

Send us a textReality check friends, you have an enemy. An Enemy on the Prowl. The message in this episode isn’t meant to scare you. Our purpose is to issue a loud wake-up call for your heart, mind, soul, and body. More often than not, we don’t believe we have to deal with an actual enemy. But he is alive and active, taking shape in issues from our past and battles in our present. There’s only one creature made in the image and likeness of God- that’s you. Satan can’t stand that. He’s been on the prowl since Adam and Eve. Listen in to learn more about the enemy and prepare a battle plan.  Because you, friend, are designed with an authority and an invitation to fight him. Highlights:The enemy’s goal is to isolate us, to split us off from ourselves, from other people, and from God.It is helpful to recognize this is the enemy of my soul trying to steal my joy, my attention, and all the good and perfect gifts from the Father of Lights.If we are trying to grow in whatever area in our life and we are unaware or naively believing that the enemy is primarily going to leave us alone, sometimes we’ll end up vilifying ourselves or another person.  The accuser is lying and telling you that your sexual sin defines you.Homework:Questions to consider: Where in your life do you experience the sense that God is doing something mean to you? Or maybe that He’s holding out on you or not changing you in the way that you want or He’s leaving you alone? Could it be that the enemy is both attacking you in that area and then blaming God for it?BE ON THE ALERT: The devil is on the prowl. TAKE NOTICE: Ask yourself - Is this accusation? Is it temptation? Is it confusion? These can be the enemy trying to work in your life. COME AGAINST HIM. Pray; “In the name of Jesus, I silence this voice. I belong to Jesus. I don’t belong to you. In the name of Jesus, I rebuke you. I silence you in the name of Jesus.”Extras:James 1:17 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.1 Peter 5:8 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life and have it to the full.For more on this topic, check our latest article Can Pain Help You Quit Porn?Transcription:Full Transcription Available hereSupport Becoming WholeSacred By Design Women's Retreat 2025 - Register Today! Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us a textYou’re doing good work to break the patterns. But what happens when your unwanted sexual behavior steps into the room, in the flesh, or comes up on the screen in full color? Alarms go off. Does your alarm scream “Danger” or yell “Go For it!”? Disarm the Alarm.Listen in as Josh explains these alarms; their distinctions, their source, and your response.  Your response to those alarms matters a great deal.  We’ll also explore the concept of walking in the flesh versus walking in the Spirit. When you find yourself falling in temptation and the alarms are sounding; we hope this episode gives you pause to say, “This time lord, I want to walk in Your spirit.”Join us as we Disarm the Alarms.Highlights:The alarm sounds very different but they’re both coming from the same source. And they’re both telling you to respond according to the flesh.“The Holy Spirit has the power to renew and breakthrough generational patterns of unhealthy and destructive behavior.”  - Kelly Minter referencing 2 Corinthians 10:3-5Be vigilant, not hyper-vigilant. Be sober, not scrupulous.Turn the volume down on the fleshly alarms and tune our ears into the calm, still voice of the Father.Homework:When you hear the Alarm:Take deep breathsTreat yourself with kindnessBe honest with the Lord “Lord You know the way I’ve done this before, I don’t want to go that way this time. Would you come?”Seek to open yourself to the power and presence of His spirit.Read John 7:53-8:11 “The Woman Caught in Adultery”Notice: Jesus doesn’t match their urgency. He bends down and writes in the dirt.In the urgency of the flesh, Jesus models the power of pause.The threat is diminished, there’s restoration, there’s dignity.Hear Jesus’ words: “I did not condemn you. Go and sin no more.”For more on this topic, check our latest article What to Do When Lust Sounds the AlarmTranscription:Full Transcription Available hereSupport Becoming WholeSacred By Design Women's Retreat 2025 - Register Today! Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us a textLight is powerful. It can rise, grow, reflect, change, dim. Light can be intimidating, scary even when we consider it in the same breath of our secrets. Jesus, the light of the world, offers His light to you.  We invite you to listen to this episode to consider Jesus’ light for you in the dark, painful, scary things in your life. We’ll focus on John 3 and 4 comparing Jesus’ meetings with Nicodemus vs the Samaritan woman at the well. Let’s remember the promise when Jesus said He came into the world not to condemn it but to save it. The light Jesus offers is not a spotlight to glaringly expose your shame. We have a good God offering good light meant to heal you and make you whole.Let’s listen in.Highlights:When we have sin in our lives, things that have been done to us by others, or things that we have done, it can be really scary to be in the light with those things.Jesus doesn’t call us into the light because he wants to harm us. He calls us into the light, as painful as it can be to be there because He wants to heal us.Homework:What do you want to bring into the light? What do you have hiding?What if Jesus is inviting you into the light so you can be healed?For more on this topic, check our latest article Why You Are Meant to Brave the Dangerous LightTranscription:Full Transcription Available hereSupport Becoming WholeSacred By Design Women's Retreat 2025 - Register Today! Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us a textYour body was created by God and it is very good.  If that doesn’t feel true to you, this episode is for you. We’re challenging the lie that says your body is to blame. And that’s harder than it sounds. What would it look like to allow the words in this podcast to make their way from your ears to your brain, to your heart all the way to your fingertips? Be willing to believe your body is not the enemy. This shift in mindset matters so much as you find yourself wrestling with temptation and sin. Your body is an ally, fight for it not against it. Jesus himself saw fit to move into the human body. God is not against your body. He is for it. Are you? Highlights:God is not against our bodies. God is for our bodies. If our bodies are bad then the incarnation of Christ ceases to make sense. Jesus became flesh - fully God and fully human. The incarnation of Jesus is affirmation of the goodness of the body.Homework:Whether you’re wrestling against pornography, food, alcohol - Consider your battle to be not against your body but FOR your body. How does that change your approach? Your choices?Resources:Romans 8 We are waiting the redemption of our bodies.Romans 12:1 “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God - this is your true and proper worship.1 Corinthians 6 “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price.  Therefore honor God with your bodies.”"That which He has not assumed He has not healed.” Saint Gregory of Nazianzus Transcription:Full Transcription Available hereSupport Becoming WholeSacred By Design Women's Retreat 2025 - Register Today! Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us a textTo “tread” means to walk in a specified way. Tread Boldly.As a parent, especially of teens, you may consider treading carefully as the best way to handle hormones and cold shoulders and uncomfortable conversations. But, as you’ll hear Josh explain; you are called to tread boldly.This is a special episode as our very own Josh Glaser releases his first book today - “Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents.”  Josh and co-author, Daniel Weiss, lay out the groundwork for you to be better equipped in our digitally saturated culture.  Don’t shy away from this one. This is a unique opportunity to hear Josh’s heart and advice before reading the book. What’s one way to tread boldly today? “Focus on what you are FOR, not against.”Listen in.Highlights:Backward Vision: “Don’t have sex until you’re married. Don’t look at pornography.” That’s backward vision. Look forward.Don’t focus on the sin. Focus on the goal.Kids who have had premarital sex need a vision that is more robust than how they did sexually in one given moment or season.Homework:Forming a Family Vision:Mark your Starting Point as right here, right now. Understand it can and will travel with you.Consider falls or setbacks as opportunities to grow NOT failures of the goal.Let the focus be on what you are FOR versus what you are against.Focus on Jesus, not your sin or performance.Resources:Read more about this topic at Self-Giving, Self-Sacrificing Love - Treading Boldlytreadingboldly.com“Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents” by Daniel Weiss & Joshua GlaserTranscription:Full Transcription Available hereSupport Becoming WholeSacred By Design Women's Retreat 2025 - Register Today! Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us a textWe all long to be known, to be seen, and to be loved for who we are. Jesus aches for this very thing, and this is why Jesus Wants to Wash Our Feet.Are you willing to be cleansed by Jesus? For him to stoop down and to wash your dirty feet? For him to come near to the parts of you that perhaps even you don't want to look at yourself? This week Josh humbly speaks about Pride Month, LGBTQ+ loved ones, about pride in general, and about the humility of Jesus. He speaks deeply about the longing that Jesus has to cleanse us all of our dirt, our past, our hurts, our pride. He wants to enter into our pain and sin, and wash us clean.Let us put aside everything that keeps us from allowing Jesus to cleanse us and let us wash the feet of others just as Jesus does. Are you ready to Become more Whole?Highlights:...want to just honor the the reality that every single one of us, every single one of us longs to be known longs to belong, longs to be accepted longs to be affirmed, as the people we are...So my question for you today, and one of the reason I think this comes up in my prayer last week, is one of the reasons that we would say no to Jesus washing us.He actually desires to cleanse us from those things.Resources:Read more about this topic at Jesus Will Wash Your Feet If…Read Josh's new book  Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for ParentsTranscription:Full Transcription Available hereSupport Becoming WholeSacred By Design Women's Retreat 2025 - Register Today! Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us a textDiscovering your young son or daughter has been exposed to pornography is upsetting.  You can’t make your children un-see what they saw, but you can help turn a bad thing into an opportunity for good conversation and a deeper connection with you around a very important topic.This week Josh jumps into 7 very important things not to do when you as a Parent find out your son or daughter has been looking at porn.Let us equip ourselves and one another as we continue towards “Becoming Whole.”Highlights:So many of us when we find out a son or daughter's been viewing porn, we feel paralyzed, we feel concerned we don't know what to do, we feel inadequate, we don't feel prepared for this. Temptation is a normal human experience for men and women living in a fallen world, including saved men and women, Christian men, and women who have a new identity in Christ....if your son or daughter has been exposed to pornography, they've been exposed to something that has troubled the waters of their soul, that it is disruptive stuff that they've seen.Don't ignore those things in your heart, this is actually an opportunity for you to grow closer to Jesus.7 Things Not to do:Don’t freak outDon’t shame your kidsDon’t do nothingDon’t let your own failures disqualify youDon’t lectureDon’t go it aloneDon’t make your children your godHResources:Read more about this topic at 7 Things Not to Do When Your Child’s Exposed to PornRead Josh's new book  Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for ParentsTranscription:Full Transcription Available hereSupport Becoming WholeSacred By Design Women's Retreat 2025 - Register Today! Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us a textTemptation and Accusation are some of the strongest and most used tools of the devil(s) in making us feel like we are not worth it, we are weak, we will never heal and so many other lies he whispers to us. Temptation's One-Two Punch hurts!In this episode, we’re diving into the whys of temptation and the ways in which this deceiving intruder tries to get at us.A left jab gets us on our heels, and the right cross comes in fast and knocks us off our feet. This is right where the devil wants us.The truth is, that God is in the ring with us. He is beside us as we continue to fight and even when we fall against this sneaky enemy we have. When it comes to sexuality and the lies we believe, we must equip ourselves with truth.Let us equip ourselves and one another as our next step to “Becoming Whole.”Highlights:Temptation is a normal human experience for men and women living in a fallen world, including saved men and women, Christian men, and women who have a new identity in Christ....the real power of the accusation is when we when you bite on it when you start agreeing with the accuser and saying, you know what, you're right. You're right.Freedom does not necessarily mean that you are free from the feeling of temptation. Freedom means you have the power to say no to that temptation.Homework:Questions for Reflection:Where is he attacking you?What are you believing about yourself because of what he whispers?Where do you feel shame? (Identify it and maybe seek Healing or Listening Prayer for it)You can read even more about this from Josh at Is This One-Two Punch From the Enemy Taking You Out?Transcription:Full Transcription Available hereSupport Becoming WholeSacred By Design Women's Retreat 2025 - Register Today! Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us a textPorn, voyeurism, extramarital affairs - We do what we do based on what we believe about ourselves. Let's start examining the roots. In this episode, we’re going beyond behaviors to examine roots. Understanding what you believe to be the truth about who you are deep down is key to making real change. And you are worthy. True change is more than a shift in behavior. Examining your deep-down beliefs about yourself determines how you’re growing, or not. Lord, open our hearts and show us what we are believing about ourselves. Give us the courage to examine our roots as our next step to “Becoming Whole.”Highlights:This is not about a bad habit. This is about an issue with your sense of identity.If you’re doing something you feel ashamed about its because you are reinforcing the shame you already feel about yourself.Our new identity isn’t meant to be a mask that we wear over our identity, that false identity comes off and we are reborn.Homework:H.A.L.T.S. These basic needs can become triggers unless we identify them and move in a healthy direction with them.H - HungryA- AngryL - LonelyT - TiredS - StressedThe next time you feel one of these basic needs: Identify it and Challenge yourself to eat a good snack, reach out to a friend, take a 20-minute nap, take long, deep breaths, etc. THEN make a decision.Questions for Reflection:Where are you wrestling with habitual sin?What are you believing about yourself that might contribute to that habit?Where do you believe you are shameful in your identity? (Identify it and maybe seek Healing or Listening Prayer for it)You can read even more about this from Josh at One Sign You Don't Believe Who You Really AreTranscription:Full Transcription Available hereSupport Becoming WholeSacred By Design Women's Retreat 2025 - Register Today! Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us a textIs lust okay in marriage? That’s a loaded question.Dan Keefer joins the podcast to unpack the answer.Stopping to consider lust in your marriage may be new to you. We’ll take the first step to define and understand what lust means. There are so many layers. And this conversation is careful to help you understand them. Picking and choosing parts of your spouse to focus on deconstructs the person you married.We’re going to look at your spouse and lust more thoughtfully. We’ll go beyond fantasy so sexual intercourse becomes an expression of connection versus selfish wants. This look at lust points out it’s what we do with it; using phrases like “If Only…Then” can take our good, God-given desire and steer it somewhere it doesn’t belong. So, is lust okay in marriage? Let’s listen and find out.Highlights:Lust is using another person or using their image for selfish, sexual gratificationSexual Intimacy: Something that is born out of the relationship, born out of the connection. out of seeing one anotherLust: comes from a heart of dissatisfaction, taking an aspect of another person and believing that IF ONLY this were different, THEN I would be in a better spotIf this is challenging and you are looking to go deeper, try Manna for Men & Oasis for Women.Homework:“An act of selflessness has the potential to build desire.” What do selfless acts look like in your marriage day to day? (Setting the coffee machine the night before, doing the dishes, filling up the gas tank, scheduling a date night)Rather than acting with the end goal of having sex; shift to consider what would it look like to build desire in the moment.HOLD HANDS with your spouse: allow yourself to be saturated in the oxytocin that’s released from intertwining your fingers & saturated in the oneness of that intimacy.Transcription:Full Transcription Available hereOriginal music by Shannon Smith. Audio engineering by Gabriel @ DelMar Sound Recording.Support Becoming WholeSacred By Design Women's Retreat 2025 - Register Today! Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)