

This Is How You Think - A Personal Growth and Mindset Shift Podcast
Jule Kim
Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing. This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it.Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, can't control their emotions, or constantly put everyone else first. Host Jule Kim - certified professional coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense.This podcast tackles real challenges like:How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guiltyWhy you sabotage your own success (and how to stop)Setting boundaries that actually stickDealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidenceBreaking free from family patterns and cultural expectationsEmotional regulation when everything feels out of control...and moreThis isn't surface-level advice. This podcast showcases a unique approach to emotional intelligence to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them. Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve.Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change.New episodes weekly.Subscribe now and start understanding how you tick.
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Dec 10, 2025 • 18min
Why You Can’t Just Move On - And What to Do Instead of Emotional Avoidance
Ever wondered why we cling to unfulfilling relationships or jobs? This discussion highlights the struggle between emotional attachment and rational decision-making. It tackles the all-too-common tendency to avoid confronting our feelings and the traps this creates. Learn about the importance of emotional resilience and practical techniques for sitting with your emotions instead of bypassing them. By facing what we usually avoid, we open the door to true emotional growth and freedom.

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Dec 3, 2025 • 19min
Why Feeling Grateful Can Be Difficult: How to Practice Gratitude (Do This First)
Why do typical gratitude tips often fail? The discussion dives into internal barriers like unprocessed emotions and negative attention habits that hinder authentic gratitude. Personal stories reveal how trauma shapes our outlook, making negativity a default. Before gratitude can take root, it’s essential to process and release those blockages. Finally, practical tips and community insights provide fresh, engaging ways to cultivate a lasting gratitude practice.

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Nov 21, 2025 • 26min
Mental Toughness vs Mental Strength: What's the Difference? When Does Toughness Become Toxic?
Explore the nuanced difference between mental toughness and mental strength. Discover how suppressing emotions can lead to toxic behaviors and the emotional toll of always being the 'fixer.' The conversation sheds light on the cost of self-abandonment and the fear of disappointing others. Learn about setting healthy boundaries and the importance of recognizing personal needs. This honest discussion offers insights into transforming toughness into genuine strength for emotional well-being.

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Nov 9, 2025 • 18min
How to Handle Critical Family Comments (Especially During the Holidays)
Navigating family interactions during the holidays can be tough, especially with critical comments that sting. Jule shares personal experiences and explores patterns of parental criticism across cultures. She emphasizes acceptance as a way to maintain peace without condoning harmful behavior. The conversation covers how to approach family dynamics strategically, offering practical responses to deflect negativity. By reframing comments and remembering childhood patterns, listeners can approach gatherings with renewed strength and perspective.

Oct 30, 2025 • 13min
How to Build Confidence that Actually Lasts: This is Why You Don't Feel Confident
Discover how traditional views on confidence often miss the mark, especially when setbacks hit hard. Learn that confidence is rooted in self-trust, built through daily habits of self-acceptance. Jule shares powerful insights on the importance of body language, how to embrace compliments, and the necessity of stopping negative self-talk. With a personal story illustrating the shift toward self-kindness, you'll gain new tools to build lasting confidence and take actionable steps toward your growth.

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Oct 17, 2025 • 18min
People Pleasing: Why You Stay In Bad Relationships and How to Finally Break the Cycle
Explore the inertia trap, where knowing something is wrong isn't enough to leave. Discover how childhood shapes responses and fosters people-pleasing behaviors. Jule shares her journey of staying in an unhealthy relationship for years, highlighting pivotal moments, like a hospital visit, that shattered the cycle. Learn to question 'What do I want?' to rebuild self-trust and recognize your worth. This insightful discussion empowers listeners to challenge societal norms and prioritize self-respect in relationships.

Jun 19, 2025 • 2min
0. This Is How You Think w/ Jule Kim - Trailer
This isn't your typical feel-good podcast. Jule is ready to show you the truth, have some direct conversations, with zero fluff. Each episode digs into how your mind actually works - why it keeps you stuck and what you can do about it.If you're tired of your own patterns and you're ready to understand the real mechanics behind your thoughts and behaviors, this is your show. Fair warning: Jule doesn't hold back, and neither should you.Perfect for anyone ready to stop spinning their wheels and start understanding how they actually think and move towards a healthier mindset.Send us a textSupport the showConnect with Jule: Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim Instagram: @itsjulekim TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.


