The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

Are you ready to shift out of procrastination, perfectionism and people pleasing? (I can't imagine anyone that doesn't have their hand up).  Well today's show we are diving into The Adult Chair model and looking deeper at our "parts".  Our inner unconscious parts are running the show until we bring them into awareness to transform.  Today I am going to show you how to use this model and transform your inner parts that are driving you to do things or act in ways that are limiting you.  As always, I have included easy to use steps for you to work with this concept today and begin your transformation right away.  Get ready for shifts with today's episode! The Adult Chair website: http://theadultchair.com  The Adult Chair events: http://theadultchair.com/events  Care/Of - For 25% off your first Care/Of order go to: https://TakeCareOf.com  Promo code: ADULT

What a show! Today's show with special guest - Marriage and Family therapist, Meghan Crough was as empowering as it was inspirational.  Meg answered so many important questions about raising kids. We talked about so many things including temper tantrums or angry kids, how to discipline effectively, boundaries versus control, what to do if you have a spouse or co-parent with different values and ideas about parenting and most importantly how to raise empowered, successful kids.  It is a show not to be missed if you are wanting to learn more about parenting successfully. Meg clearly knows her stuff and explained clearly how to raise authentic and healthy kids.  http://TakeCareOf.com      promo code ADULT http://MeghanCrough.com 

This show was incredible! Ramona Reid, Enneagram coach and I had a fascinating conversation about how our childhood wounding affects us later on in life and creates the masks that we wear to cover up our wounding. Ramona does a beautiful job of blending the Enneagram into The Adult Chair and teaches us how to live from our essence (otherwise known as our Adult Chair), regardless of our wounding.  She goes over each enneagram type with us and explains how each type has a specific wounding and mask that we wear.  This show as as cool as it was informative! Even if you have never heard of the Enneagram, you will benefit from listening as it will deepen your understandings of your wounding and how you are showing up in the world.  If you want to listen to the previous two shows that Ramona has been on to deepen your understanding of the Enneagram, see the show notes below. They are all brilliant shows! Resources: http://www.mynashvillecenter.com  http://www.holisticrevolution.com    Previous podcasts with Ramona: Podcast #51: Find your authentic self in the heart of your Enneagram https://theadultchair.com/podcast/51  Podcast #114: Deepening The Adult Chair using the Wisdom of the Enneagram https://theadultchair.com/podcast/114  Recommended Book: Sacred Enneagram by Chris Heuertz

Why do people cringe at the suggestion of setting a boundary? So many people respond with, "I don't like confrontation", when I suggest a boundary. Setting boundaries is tough to do if we were not modeled healthy boundaries growing up. Even if we came from a pretty healthy family, few people grew up with healthy boundary modeling.  In today's show I talk about what boundaries are, how to set them, examples of healthy versus unhealthy boundaries and the four key steps and "how to's",  to setting healthy boundaries.  I also discuss what to do when boundaries "backfire" and we are met with upsetness or anger from another at our simple request.  I end with a few take aways of what boundaries are and are not and what to do if you are in a toxic or even abusive relationship.  Boundaries are a necessary part of our lives and a key to healthy relationships. This show is filled with great tools and tips to help you to start better taking care of yourself and learning how to set a simple request and teaching other people how to treat you.  The Adult Chair San Antonio https://theadultchair.com/san-antonio  The Adult Chair Membership (September Theme-I Matter) https://theadultchair.com/membership  Boundaries and Defenses https://theadultchair.com/podcast/160  Boundaries versus Confrontation https://theadultchair.com/podcast/26  How do I feel my Emotions https://theadultchair.com/podcast/80 

We can never have enough self esteem! So many of us didn't have healthy self esteem role models growing up so we are embarking on this journey now. Here's the good news, it's never too late! With the help of The Adult Chair model we can live our lives to the fullest and create happiness when we thought it wasn't possible. Healthy self esteem from The Adult Chair is not only possible, it's happens quickly with these easy to apply 4 steps.  Enjoy your journey building up your new sense of self and empowerment in your Adult Chair.  https://theadultchair.com/events  The Adult Chair 3 day event in San Antonio, Texas October 24-26 https://theadultchair.com/membership  The Adult Chair Membership https://GreenChef.com/ADULT75      Enjoy $75 off your first 3 boxes with $25 off each box Podcast on Parts Work: Transform your Parts and Find Self Love https://theadultchair.com/podcast/150 

Am I in a toxic relationship? I unfortunately get asked this question all too often. I find that what feels "normal" is actually toxic but due to low self esteem or loss of self, we find ourselves living in not so healthy or even unhealthy, toxic relationships.  In today's show I go over 6 signs of toxic relationships. I explain what to look for in toxic relationships and how to know if you are in one.  I also offer next steps to heal and transform yourself out of the toxic relationship.  https://theadultchair.com/events  The Adult Chair San Antonio October 24-26

  What would you think if I told you that joy could be part of codependency? Well it can! Codependency and I have been friends for too many years to count (most of my life). However, in my discovery of this, I have found joy in learning who I am as an Adult and taking my childhood back. I might even say that I find it now as a gift as I now get to discover who I am and it's an exciting journey to take as an Adult. I feel my inner child come through me with excitement and wonder with all of the new thoughts, ideas and plans "we" have for my future. The journey can be an exciting one when we shift our idea about codependency and step out of victim mode. Just because we grew up codependent or are experiencing it now doesn't mean our lives are over! It means our lives can begin and the time is now to experience the joy that comes with this self-discovery process. Free Inner Child download: https://theadultchair.com/innerchild  The Adult Chair event-San Antonio: https://theadultchair.com/events    October 24-26 Previous podcasts on Codependency: Codependency-I'm ok if you are ok. - https://theadultchair.com/podcast/11  Ending Codependency in Relationships - https://theadultchair.com/podcast/70  Codependency: Ending the Addiction to "Help" others - https://theadultchair.com/podcast/127 

I'm back from my summer break! Welcome to the first show of our new podcast year. I am so excited about our guest today.    I have spoken for months about Myofascial Release Technique and am finally having our in house expert on the show! Diana Schneider, Advanced Myofacial Release Therapist is on today talking all about what the technique is and how it can help you.    This technique has been a beautiful complement for my own clients as well as part of my bi-weekly self care. It's a wonderful way to release emotions, take the body out of fight or flight, help the body to "calm down" from anxiety and relax and so much more.    It's also wonderful for people with locked muscles, physical pain, fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue.    Myofascial Release is a technique that releases emotions out of the fascia, the film that resides over the muscles, which creates a relaxed state in the body and mind.   Diana and I talk all about how it works and who it can help (all of us). :)  I can't wait for you to hear this show!   To schedule with Diana Schneider:  Diana.LMT@yahoo.com  (Nashville)   Garth Withcomb: ‭(615) 403-9771‬  (Nashville)   https://www.myofascialrelease.com/  (Main website to find a therapist near you).    Healing Ancient Wounds by John Barnes   https://theadultchair.com/events The Adult Chair San Antonio  October 24-26 $100 off 

This is the last show replay for the summer. It's a wonderful show where I work with a client on breaking her negative patterns. There is a lot to be learned from this show. The only way you’re going to heal is to own your life. That’s the overriding message of the show today and it comes thanks to the story of a fabulous client we’ll call “Carolyn.” She’s graciously offered her story for this week’s show as a demonstration of owning your own stuff, and making great strides in breaking the damaging patterns and programs that play over and over in our lives. Thanks to her work with the Chairs, she’s found grounding and hope in moving forward through relationship addiction and more. https://TakeCareOf.com  Promo code: Adult For 25% off your first Care/Of order.  

Yuck...Shame! Who wants to look at or feel their shame? I realize that so many of us avoid our shame because we don't know what to do with it! What if I told you, I could give you tools to help heal and transform your shame?  Well today is your lucky day as I am giving you steps to work with, get to know and transform your shame. I also recorded a guided meditation to go with this podcast in order to help you work with and release shame specifically whenever it comes up.  So get ready to shift and regain your power today!  Your shame is transforming and you won't be the same after working with it in this way.  https://theadultchair.com  https://theadultchair.com/meditations    A guided meditation and exercise for releasing shame.  Green Chef   https://Greenchef.us/Adult75  $75 off-$25 off your first 3 boxes