The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

Today on the show we have Patti Elledge back again to talk about how we can heal our early developmental wounds, attachment wounds, trauma, abuse and more by working with the wisdom of the body. This is not a show about "body work," but instead a show about how we learn to feel our emotions, our felt sense and use our body as a navigation system for healing old wounding.  If we don't pay attention to our body, our old wounding lays stuck or dormant in the body. With increased awareness to the body you would be amazed at the healing that can happen.  Patti also speaks to us about the Polyvagel system of the body and how nervous system regulation (and getting out of fight/flight) is necessary for true healing.  Get ready for this show, it's packed with information for your own healing journey.  The Adult Chair workshop https://theadultchair.com/events  Somatic Mentoring Course https://Somanticmentoring.com  Patti Elledge podcast on Attachment theory https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/111-patti-elledge-teaches-us-how-to-heal-our-attachment-wounds/   

Ah the holidays, what a wonderful time of year. The rushing around the shopping the preparing of food the obligations to attend all the parties. It's a codependents nightmare! By the time the first week of January hits we are wiped out and in bed with fatigue from all the caretaking and controlling we did during the holidays. It can be exhausting for us codependents! In today's show, I give you tools and tips for staying "in your own lane" during the holidays and all year long. It's a mini codependents reference guide in today's show. I share with you all about the fatigue, anger, resentment, anxiety and even depression we can get if we are not "careful codependents". There is a way to make it through the holidays in a healthy way and today I give you numerous tips to do just that. From boundaries (and how to set them), dealing with narcissism, in laws, how to self soothe when we are triggered and how to stay connected to your Self (intentional capital S here). You see there is a big difference between our Self and self. Our "self" (small s) is the self that wears a mask to please everyone else. Our "Self" is the Self that knows who we are and strives to live authentically. Lots of information in today's show for you. Remember, life is a journey, an adventure. Don't cling to anything, to any labels (even codependency). See parts like codependency instead as indicators of what we need to give our attention to (temporarily), to keep ourselves healthy and to aid in our transformation. That's it! https://theadultchair.com/events    Charlotte, NC event   January 30-Feb 1

Happy Thanksgiving all! Today is the day that marks the official "mad dashing" around to get to the parties on time, buying the perfect gifts, lots of rushing here and there with lots of traffic and the common denominator...stress (and of course it's not all bad...we have some fun too).    What I hear so much about from people is yes a lot about this stressful time of year but even more about how they lose themselves and don't have time for themselves.  In today's episode I give you a few ideas on how to stay connected to yourself and stay grounded despite the holiday craziness. I also give you a wonderful 5 minute meditation that you could (I am having a hard time not saying should here), :) do daily to help you get through the next month. If you are even thinking to yourself, "I don't have 5 minutes"! Then you need to do a 10 minute meditation! We all can build in 5 minutes a day for ourselves and our sanity. This meditation helps with just that.  I wish you all a beautiful and safe Thanksgiving!  Much love, Michelle https://youtu.be/cFeCUfw657g  This is the You Tube link for the 5 minute self love meditation.  https://theadultchair.com/events  Charlotte, NC event   January 30-Feb 1

Childhood sexual abuse creeps into the lives of innocent children on a daily basis. As children, we are defenseless to our abusers. Dr. Gregory Williams was one of those children.  On today's show, we have Dr. Gregory Williams on sharing his story of childhood sexual abuse, how to heal from abuse, what the signs are of childhood sexual abuse and lastly forgiveness.  We also spoke about the importance of getting ourselves healthy after abuse and how physical illness can stem from unhealed emotional wounds, trauma and abuse.  This is an incredible show and it's an honor to have Dr. Gregory on the show being so honest and open about his experience, and now sharing with the world how others can heal from a childhood filled with abuse.    https://theadultchair.com/membership   Promo code: BIRTHDAY The Adult Chair Membership  (Free for month of November)! https://theadultchair.com/events  The Adult Chair Charlotte Event   Jan 30-Feb 1 Dr. Gregory Book: Shattered by the Darkness: Putting the pieces back together after child abuse.  Website: https://Shatteredbythedarkenss.com  Dr. Gregory email: gawilli1@texaschildrens.org Dr. Gregory phone: 832-396-6525 ACE's https://acesconnection.com 

I am so excited about this show. On today's show I interviewed a client and she was able to find her truth, step into her power and learn how to set boundaries-all in one show!  This is a client from our membership group that wes interested in learning how to be free from the stress of pleasing her parents and standing up for herself. Our monthly theme in the membership is "I'm Free" and she wanted further help on how to apply it to her situation.  It was an amazing session and she had such breakthroughs. You will be able to hear it in her voice! She even said at one point, "I feel so powerful-I can feel it!"  Such a great show and I was thrilled that by the end, she was able to grow herself a very nice Adult Chair and speak from this place. :)  https://theadultchair.com/membership    Promo Code: BIRTHDAY Free month of membership https://theadultchair.com/30days      30 Day Journaling Challenge https://Takecareof.com    Promo Code: ADULT50 50% off your first Care/Of order

On today's show we have one of my favorite people and therapists, on the show-Karen Gelstein. Karen helped us to understand our defenses and how to heal them and change how we react with others.  She shares with us how humor, ruminating thoughts, missing red flags, codependency and even addictions are all ways that we defend ourselves to stay safe.  We delved into the inner child and how the inner child becomes wounded and the defenses are created.  Lastly, she helps us to identify our defenses and gives us the tools we need to heal, so that we can regain emotional balance and reconnect with ourselves and others in a healthy way.  As always, Karen delivers a wealth of information for us to help with our own inner transformation.    One Free month to the membership https://theadultchair.com/membership Promo code: Birthday Karen Gelstein contact info: karengelstein@gmail.com Karen Gelstein previous podcast: Love Addiction-Love Avoidant https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/102-love-addiction-love-avoidant-with-karen-gelstein/ 

Happy Halloween! After so many questions coming in about The Adult Chair, I felt like it was time to do a show on this.  In today's episode I answer where the Adult Chair is and how to get it back if you've lost access to it. How to find your Adult if you never witnessed a healthy one growing up.  Lastly, I answer what the Adult Chair even is. It's a fun episode with examples and the key to gaining your own Adult's wisdom and living with it daily for your own transformation.  30 Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30Days 

Today on the show, relationship and attachment expert, Silvy Khoucasian and I have a conversation about attachment in relationships. We talk through all of the attachment styles and how to heal and find secure attachment regardless of your style.  We also talk about the importance of boundaries and how to set them as well as shame and trust in relationships and how to build this.  Regardless of your attachment style, you are going to find value in today's show and walk away with tools you can begin to use right away!  30 Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days  New website! https://theadultchair.com  Silvy Khoucasian on Instagram @SilvyKhoucasian Boundaries offering: https://bryanreves.com/boundaries-silvy/   

Wow and what a show this was - Jim Fortin is a genius! On today's show, Jim Fortin, Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) was on with me and we discussed how to reprogram the subconscious mind.  He teaches us how to break habits, addictions anxiety and depression and why having a healthy self identity and image is vital to success.  If you are ready for transformation, buckle up and listen to this show. It's a show not to be missed.  Website and Podcast http://jimfortin.com  New Website! http://theadultchair.com  30 Day Journaling Challenge http://theadultchair.com/30days  Joseph Murphy - How to Change the Subconscious Mind

Relationships with narcissist are insidious. They begin one way and over time, very slowly and covertly, change and become poison.  We wake up one day and wonder what we did wrong and how we got here. We blame ourselves and can even feel embarrassed to tell others.  In today's very vulnerable show. Tracy shares her story of narcissism. She married a wonderful man and within a 2 year period, her life had drastically changed and she couldn't understand what was happening and began doubting herself. She fell into a depression and lived with anxiety and had lost her self, in 2 short years.  Tracy walks us through her story and in the end we offer advice for those that are also in these types of relationships and what you can do about it to begin to build yourself up and find your (true) self again.  Website https://theadultchair.com/the-adult-chair-podcast  30 Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days  Membership site https://theadultchair.com/membership  5 Minute Self Love Meditation https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/5-minute-self-love-meditation/  Podcasts: 84-Raising Self Esteem https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/84-raising-self-esteem/  173 Am I in a Toxic Relationship https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/173-am-i-in-a-toxic-relationship/ 174 Building Self Esteem https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/174-building-self-esteem/