Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Lynn will tell you that there’s no harder adult to work with in her practice than someone who reflexively blames. The ability to own your part, take responsibility for your “stuff” is key to relationships. In this episode we talk blaming: what’s normal developmentally, how it shows up with rigidity, and how to help break that pattern in your family. NEW! WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.REGISTER FOR THE ANXIETY AUDIT BOOK CLUB THIS SUMMERJoin Lynn and Robin this summer in a book club for three! Read Lynn's latest book, The Anxiety Audit, and then watch our video discussion chapter by chapter. On July 27th, we'll host a live Q&A to answer your questions. Register now!WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGet $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Do live video sessions with a licensed therapist specialized in ERP, the gold standard treatment for OCD. Get started with a free 15-minute call. Getting started is easy. Go to treatmyocd.com to book a free call.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do you feel about birthday parties? Is this just another place for parents to compete? Are they actually fun? One dad told us the whole industry needs an overhaul. We weigh in!REGISTER FOR THE ANXIETY AUDIT BOOK CLUB THIS SUMMERJoin Lynn and Robin this summer in a book club for three! Read Lynn's latest book, The Anxiety Audit, and then watch our video discussion chapter by chapter. On July 27th, we'll host a live Q&A to answer your questions. Register now!VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGet $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Do live video sessions with a licensed therapist specialized in ERP, the gold standard treatment for OCD. Get started with a free 15-minute call. Getting started is easy. Go to treatmyocd.com to book a free call.PLANNING A FAMILY VACATION IN 2023 OR 2024?Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our guides of Costa Rica Family Vacations, New England Beach Rentals, and the best Hawaii resorts for families. FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Being a “people pleaser” is often reinforced in our culture. Who doesn’t want to be seen as kind, unselfish, and giving? But this pattern has a dark side, resulting in resentment, avoidance, and exhaustion. In this episode, we talk about the traps of "people pleasing" and how to recognize this pattern in yourself and prevent it in your kids.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, we are re-sharing a Season 3 episode we consider one of our most important: Dads, Depression and Anxiety.So often, moms assume the role of supporting both a family’s health and mental health, but dads have a critical role to play, too. What is that role? And how do you encourage your partner to step into that role? When a man is unsure of how to talk about emotions with his children, what should he say? What if he doesn’t want to talk about them with anyone? In this episode, we get raw and deep reflecting on the men most dear to us. How do we raise boys that have the permission and the know-how to connect with others? And how do we help them become the available and emotionally literate dads of tomorrow?REGISTER FOR THE ANXIETY AUDIT BOOK CLUB THIS SUMMERJoin Lynn and Robin this summer in a book club for three! Read Lynn's latest book, The Anxiety Audit, and then watch our video discussion chapter by chapter. On July 27th, we'll host a live Q&A to answer your questions. Register now!VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUNow’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.Go to LuvBuglearning.com and sign up for a 7-day free trial, or simply download from the APP store and subscribe.Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Grab your Liquid I.V. in bulk and get 20% off when you go to LIQUID-IV.COM and use code FLUSTER at checkout.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. Go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our guides of Costa Rica Family Vacations, New England Beach Rentals, and the best Hawaii resorts for families. FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What’s happens when kids don’t play independently, exploring and problem solving away from direct adult supervision? A new study looks at the the impact of decreasing opportunities for independent play and autonomy and the messages of danger that guide parenting. Combine this research with the announcement of Apple’s new feature called CheckIn, and we had some thought. Boy, did we have thoughts.REGISTER FOR THE ANXIETY AUDIT BOOK CLUB THIS SUMMERJoin Lynn and Robin this summer in a book club for three! Read Lynn's latest book, The Anxiety Audit, and then watch our video discussion chapter by chapter. On July 27th, we'll host a live Q&A to answer your questions. Register now!VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUNow’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.Go to LuvBuglearning.com and sign up for a 7-day free trial, or simply download from the APP store and subscribe.Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Grab your Liquid I.V. in bulk and get 20% off when you go to LIQUID-IV.COM and use code FLUSTER at checkout.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. Go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our guides of Costa Rica Family Vacations, New England Beach Rentals, and the best Hawaii resorts for families. FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

While some kids seem to be naturally socially adept, most need help with the many nuances of interaction, from empathy to assertiveness to patience. As always, modeling matters but sometimes being direct is the way to go. In this episode we dive into the sometimes murky waters of helping our children with social behavior. REGISTER FOR THE ANXIETY AUDIT BOOK CLUB THIS SUMMERJoin Lynn and Robin this summer in a book club for three! Read Lynn's latest book, The Anxiety Audit, and then watch our video discussion chapter by chapter. On July 27th, we'll host a live Q&A to answer your questions. Register now!VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUNow’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.Go to LuvBuglearning.com and sign up for a 7-day free trial, or simply download from the APP store and subscribe.Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Grab your Liquid I.V. in bulk and get 20% off when you go to LIQUID-IV.COM and use code FLUSTER at checkout.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. Go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our guides of Costa Rica Family Vacations, New England Beach Rentals, and the best Hawaii resorts for families. FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kids ask questions and parents provide information. That’s a normal part of growing and learning. But there’s a common anxiety pattern called reassurance seeking, where worriers ask and ask, seeking certainty and constant guarantees. Adults often participate, believing that offering reassurance is helpful. In this episode we discuss how to tell the difference between curiosity, helpful information, and anxiety-strengthening behaviors. REGISTER FOR THE ANXIETY AUDIT BOOK CLUB THIS SUMMERJoin Lynn and Robin this summer in a book club for three! Read Lynn's latest book, The Anxiety Audit, and then watch our video discussion chapter by chapter. On July 27th, we'll host a live Q&A to answer your questions. Register now!VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUNow’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.Go to LuvBuglearning.com and sign up for a 7-day free trial, or simply download from the APP store and subscribe.Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Grab your Liquid I.V. in bulk and get 20% off when you go to LIQUID-IV.COM and use code FLUSTER at checkout.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. Go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our guides of Costa Rica Family Vacations, New England Beach Rentals, and the best Hawaii resorts for families. FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this Flusterclux In Session episode, Lynn talks with a mom whose six year-old daughter struggles with separation anxiety: going to bed for the night, attending swimming lessons, or even mom being on a separate floor in the house can trigger big reactions. Lynn offers concrete solutions, including how to best interact with her daughter’s teachers on this matter, as well as, the best path forward to help her child live with life‘s tricky moments and uncertainties as she continues to grow.REGISTER FOR THE ANXIETY AUDIT BOOK CLUB THIS SUMMERJoin Lynn and Robin this summer in a book club for three! Read Lynn's latest book, The Anxiety Audit, and then watch our video discussion chapter by chapter. On July 27th, we'll host a live Q&A to answer your questions. Register now!VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUNow’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.Go to LuvBuglearning.com and sign up for a 7-day free trial, or simply download from the APP store and subscribe.Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Grab your Liquid I.V. in bulk and get 20% off when you go to LIQUID-IV.COM and use code FLUSTER at checkout.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. Go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our guides of Costa Rica Family Vacations, New England Beach Rentals, and the best Hawaii resorts for families. FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're ready to kick off summer! But family worries unfortunately don't always take a vacation. So, today, we reshare our episode on summer camp and separation anxiety. You'll find this episode's advice relevant for a variety of situations, from new day camps, to sending kids off to college in the fall.How can we best prepare our kids to leave home for somewhere new? How can we manage our worry when our kids are out of our sight and why is it so important to learn this skill as a parent?Also, as mentioned in this episode, here is the Outside Magazine article featuring an interview with Lynn in which she talks about summer camp and technology.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUNow’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.Go to LuvBuglearning.com and sign up for a 7-day free trial, or simply download from the APP store and subscribe.Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Grab your Liquid I.V. in bulk and get 20% off when you go to LIQUID-IV.COM and use code FLUSTER at checkout.Live video sessions with an OCD therapist. Getting started is easy. Go to treatmyocd.com to book a free call.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. Go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER.As a special Mother’s Day offer, get 10% off (up to $30) off your frame when you go to skylightframe.com/flusterclux.Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our guides of Dude Ranch Vacations, Italy with Kids, and Best Texas Resorts for Families.FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So Lynn fell on a staircase and broke her back in two places recently. She will make a full recovery, but how did she manage in a crisis? Did she go catastrophic? Hello, uncertainty! How did our resident anxiety expert manage a real life flustercluck under pressure and what does she want to share from this?For the Season 1 episode that Robin references, please click here.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUNow’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.Go to LuvBuglearning.com and sign up for a 7-day free trial, or simply download from the APP store and subscribe.Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Grab your Liquid I.V. in bulk and get 20% off when you go to LIQUID-IV.COM and use code FLUSTER at checkout.Live video sessions with an OCD therapist. Getting started is easy. Go to treatmyocd.com to book a free call.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. Go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER.As a special Mother’s Day offer, get 10% off (up to $30) off your frame when you go to skylightframe.com/flusterclux.Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our guides of Dude Ranch Vacations, Italy with Kids, and Best Texas Resorts for Families.FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices