Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Teaching kids how to handle big emotions is an ongoing job for parents. But what happens when children become anxious about the possibility of feeling those emotions at all? Although it can be confusing for kids and parents, this pattern is not that unusual, and really no different from other fears that children develop. Prompted by a listener question, this episode addresses the fear of feeling feelings and why attempts to avoid, as always, backfire. NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGet $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Our first-ever guest is Lynn’s pal and co-author Reid Wilson. Reid and Lynn met in 2007 and that meeting resulted in two books and a fast friendship. Join them as they talk anxiety, self-help, Reid’s brilliant OCD work and the tenth anniversary of their book, Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents. NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGet $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When smartphones first came on the scene, schools had rather strict policies about their presence and use. Over time, even though schools kept policies in place, most schools stopped enforcing them. The tide might be shifting again. With more than a decade of research and experience to review, what do we know about learning, attention, and even addiction when it comes to our kids, smartphones, learning and our parenting? NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGet $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As kids enter Middle School, their brains, bodies and relationships go through big changes. Parents tend to brace themselves for the roller coasters of this stage, but it’s also full of energy and discovery and fun. How can we better appreciate the Middle School years? How do we best step in with open eyes and big hearts at this time when they need our connection and support? NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGet $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode discusses the trend of moms self-diagnosing with ADHD, the influence of quizzes on mental health diagnosis, the pitfalls of self-diagnosis and labeling, experiences of overwhelm and sleep deprivation in motherhood, and ways to improve brain function and manage overwhelm.

When some children make mistakes or get overwhelmed, they jump quickly to self criticism and even self hate: “I’m terrible! I suck! You don’t love me!” What does this mean? Is it a red flag? And how should parents react? In this recast of a popular Season 4 episode, Lynn discusses the traps to avoid and the family skills to promote when this dramatic pattern takes hold. Referenced in this episode:Past Episode: Helping Kids With Shame & Self-HarmNEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGet $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Visit Graduate-debt-free.com and take the first step to securing a debt free education by picking up your copy of David F. Shutler’s new book: Graduate Debt Free: Escaping the Student Loan Matrix. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Helping an anxious student requires a strong collaboration between families and schools, but so often meetings to create a plan become adversarial. In this re-cast of a previous episode, Lynn (who routinely attends such meetings) offers her key tips for how parents and schools can work together to support a child and teach the needed skills, minus the conflict and blaming.We also answer a question from a shy mom entering a new school environment. She’s socially anxious but wants to do the best for her kids. What can she do to connect?NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGet $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Visit Graduate-debt-free.com and take the first step to securing a debt free education by picking up your copy of David F. Shutler’s new book: Graduate Debt Free: Escaping the Student Loan Matrix. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is your child heading off to college this fall? If it’s their first year, then the roommate uncertainty may be dominating your household. Sparked by a compelling listener question, we tackle the perks and the problems of roommates and what you can (and can’t) do to help. NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS.Here is our first:Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGet $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Visit Graduate-debt-free.com and take the first step to securing a debt free education by picking up your copy of David F. Shutler’s new book: Graduate Debt Free: Escaping the Student Loan Matrix. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this recast of a popular earlier episode, Lynn breaks down one of her favorite instructions to parents: talk 85% less. When parents are worried, they tend to talk a lot. When they want something done and their child isn't doing it, they talk even more. Learn how asking the right questions and staying quiet can be one of the most helpful thing you can do for an anxious child or teen. We also answer a listener question about the difference between anxiety, worry and stress. NEW!WE'RE MAKING PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS LIKE TEENS, DEPRESSION, OCD, AND PARENTING TIPS TO HELP YOUR FAMILY'S ANXIETY.For new listeners, we invite you to listen to these episodes.Parents of Anxious Kids, Start HereFor those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy.Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE!We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGet $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started.Visit Graduate-debt-free.com and take the first step to securing a debt free education by picking up your copy of David F. Shutler’s new book: Graduate Debt Free: Escaping the Student Loan Matrix. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When children are hesitant or afraid of something, they often avoid, refuse, or even explode. The good news? You can work with your child on your own using the principles of exposure therapy, role playing and front loading. Here’s your DIY plan for stepping in and developing more resilience. BROWSE OUR PLAYLISTS BY TOPIC TO DIG DEEPERWe're excited to launch topical playlists so that you can have all episodes on topics like teens, OCD, school or depression all in one easy playlist. We have a playlist for new listeners to go over basic principles of anxiety management for parents helping their kids. Check them all out here on our Spotify profile.VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOUGet $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.Go to ThriveMarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Do live video sessions with a licensed therapist specialized in ERP, the gold standard treatment for OCD. Get started with a free 15-minute call. Getting started is easy. Go to treatmyocd.com to book a free call.PLANNING A FAMILY VACATION IN 2023 OR 2024?Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our guides of Costa Rica Family Vacations, New England Beach Rentals, and the best Hawaii resorts for families. FOLLOW USJoin the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices