Welcome to episode 348 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Pamela Madsen about the concept of the erotic equation, practicing arousal, expanding pleasure and insights on erotic learning and the ongoing nature of exploration.  At the age of 43, Pamela Madsen's life seemed fulfilling: a devoted marriage that had its roots in young love, two cherished sons, and a thriving career as a prominent advocate addressing fertility challenges. However, beneath the surface, a persistent and restless yearning for something more, something profoundly personal, stirred within her. Despite her deep affection for her husband and a firm stance against infidelity, Pamela recognized an undeniable truth – the need for a significant and transformative change.   In her captivating autobiography titled "Shameless," Pamela Madsen shifts the spotlight onto her own journey. Within its pages, she candidly shares the path she navigated towards a newfound sense of completeness encompassing her sexuality, personal identity, and spiritual being. The memoir delves into intricate and intimate experiences, recounting her encounters with sexual healers – individuals who not only imparted intense pleasure but also became her confidants and allies on this quest for self-discovery.    The essence of this narrative lies in the tale of a woman who, in the process of embracing her true self, encountered profound self-love. "Shameless" not only encapsulates Pamela Madsen's evolution but also extends a compelling invitation to women everywhere to embark on their own voyage of self-discovery and self-love.     In this episode, you will hear:  Understanding the concept of the "erotic equation" The importance of creating excitement and novelty in relationships Using games with partners to explore an eroticism  Looking at touch as a foundation of the erotic experience Exploring massages, breathing, sound, and movement for heightened arousal Paying attention to direction of touch (for self or partner). The significance of open communication, intentionality, and feedback in touch Practicing arousal, creating new normal's, and expanding pleasure Insights on erotic learning and the ongoing nature of exploration.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com Listeners Surveyhttps://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 347 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey about sex in public, ways to incorporate novelty in relationships, understanding a culture's role in shaping attitudes towards public sex and balancing the thrill of exhibitionism with ethical and legal considerations.  Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is an Advanced GSRD (gender, sex, relationship diversity) therapist, sex & intimacy coach and psychologist whose expertise lies in working with individuals, couples, and groups to explore their sexuality, gender and relationship styles, discover a deeper level of sexual congruence, heal from past trauma, as well as create more meaningful, pleasurable, exciting, and authentic intimate relationships.   On a mission to create an open dialogue about sex, relationships, and self-expression, Dr Lori Beth is the specialist relationship therapist guiding couples on Open House: The Great Sex Experiment (Firecracker Films, Channel 4) and the host of the popular podcast The A To Z Of Sex®. She’s also a passionate speaker, dynamic workshop/retreat facilitator, and sought-after expert in the media on the topics of sex, relationship style, intimacy, and trauma.   Dr Lori Beth Bisbey has been working with people since 1987 to help them resolve trauma and PTSD and create and maintain superb relationships that contain sizzling sex and without the shame. She grew up in the US and did all over her work for her PhD except her dissertation research there. She emigrated to the United Kingdom in 1990 to marry her first husband, lived in the southeast for 32 years until moving to Scotland in November 2022.     In this episode, you will hear:  Ways to incorporate novelty in relationships Understanding a culture's role in shaping attitudes towards sex in public How the desire to have sex in front of others can be exhibitionism Knowing the distinction between exhibitionism as a fetish and non-consensual acts The importance of consent in public sexual activities Understanding the risks of public sex, including legal consequences Balancing the thrill of exhibitionism with ethical and legal considerations The importance of open communication with partners about fantasies Recommendations for erotica authors and series Enhance fantasies by engaging in erotic talk with your partner  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com/Listeners Surveyhttps://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 346 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Andrea Balboni. In this episode, we discuss how tantric practices involve a mindful approach to intimacy and sex, emphasizing presence and deep connection with your partner.  Andrea Balboni, is a certified Sex, Love & Couples Coach at Zoë Clews & Associates.She specializes in helping couples create a thriving connected relationship and deeply satisfying intimacy. She also works with single individuals to build their confidence in dating and help them create new healthy relationships.Andrea believes that modern relationships offer us an opportunity to experience pleasure, love and connection as well as an opportunity to heal and to grow. Conflict and challenge can transform into deep connection, understanding and love of another – and also offer valuable insights for a richer self-knowing and awareness within.Andrea looks forward to supporting you in creating a healthy partnership that feels both nourishing and exciting and is pleasure-filled so that it nourishes you body, heart, mind and soul.    In this episode, you will hear:  How tantric practices involve a mindful way of practicing sex and intimacy The way tantric sex focuses on bringing presence to sexual experiences Why eye gazing is a powerful but challenging practice in tantra Understanding tantric practices require an open mind and willingness to learn How you can foster greater intimacy and connection with your partner The way tantric practices involve slowing down and extending foreplay How tantric practices can lead to deeper relaxation and heightened pleasure Why tantric massage is a way to explore sensuality and connection   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list Listeners Surveyhttps://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Sexual Health Alliance Program  https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 345 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Leigh Cowart. In this episode, we discuss the fascinating world of temperature play and its role in enhancing sensation and pleasure during erotic encounters. Temperature play involves using heat and cold as sensory and emotional intensifiers, ranging from ice cubes, hot wax, fire play, to getting in and out of a hot tub or experiencing cold rain.  Leigh Cowart is a researcher and journalist with more than ten years of experience. They have been writing for Popular Science since 2021. They cover bodies, brains, and what science can teach us about our inner lives.    Cowart’s work has appeared in The Washington Post, New York Magazine, Buzzfeed News, Hazlitt, Wired, and other outlets. Their book, Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose, has been featured in The New York Times, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, and others. Before becoming a journalist, Cowart was immersed academia, doing research on subjects like sexual dimorphism in leaf-nosed bats and resource allocation in flowers.   Currently, their principal area of interest involves the intersection of inner life and the practical existence of being a body. Cowart’s recent book is an exploration of all the ways humans engage in pain on purpose, why we do it, and what we get out of it. According to The Wall Street Journal, “[t]here’s possibly no one alive more qualified to write about pain than Leigh Cowart.”     In this episode, you will hear:  How temperature play involves using heat and cold as a sensory intensifier It can include using ice cubes, hot wax, fire play Entry-level practices for temperature play  Why safety and trust with a partner are important for exploring temperature play Looking at various products and materials can be used for temperature play Why communication and consent are crucial in temperature play How Ice play, in particular, can be intense and erotic Why education is essential for safe and enjoyable temperature play Looking at Leigh’s book "Hurt So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose"  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Listeners Survey https://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 344 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Melanie Curtin. In this episode, we discuss her study on sex problems and experiences with 3000 participants, highlighted the top issues faced by both men and women in their sex lives. For women, pain and difficulty in reaching orgasm were common concerns, while premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction were prominent issues for men. The study also revealed how communication about these challenges played a crucial role in sexual relationships.  Melanie is a sex researcher and men’s coach with a Master’s in Communication from Stanford University.  She is a columnist at Inc. magazine, and has been published or seen on TODAY, Huffington Post, Forbes, Business Insider, The New York Observer, and more.  She has been coaching men for over six years, and specializes in bringing a woman’s perspective to men, so they can connect and succeed with women in fun, inviting, and meaningful ways that lead to fulfilling sex and relationships.     In this episode, you will hear:  A look at Melanie’s Curtin study on sex problems and experiences The issues the study looked at and how people faced in their sex lives How women's top sex problems were pain and trouble orgasming Why men faced insecurities about their performance Understanding sexual intimacy and challenges faced by men in relationships How the fear of not getting an erection can lead to erectile dysfunction Why men may avoid physical intimacy if they fear performance issues How delayed ejaculation can be related to emotional safety How men can reclaim their power and address the "nice guy" syndrome The need for healthy boundaries and personal growth  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Listeners Survey https://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 343 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Suzannah Weiss. In this episode, we discuss the growing popularity of ASMR in the realm of sex and sexuality, ways to incorporate ASMR into your sex life and additional resources for further exploration.  Suzannah Weiss's writing on gender, sexuality, love, and social justice has been widely published across various platforms. With over 8,700 articles to her name, her work has appeared in notable publications such as The New York Times wedding section, Glamour, Teen Vogue, Vice, Complex, Refinery29, Bustle, The Washington Post, and New York Magazine.   Aside from her writing career, Suzannah is also a sexologist and AASECT-certified sex educator. She offers private coaching and courses to help individuals enhance their sex lives and relationships. Additionally, she provides mentorship for writers, consulting for PR professionals, and works as a birth doula.   Suzannah holds a Bachelor of Science in Cognitive Neuroscience and a Bachelor of Arts in Gender and Sexuality Studies, Modern Culture and Media from Brown University. Her diverse background includes experience in tech marketing, scientific research, and academic publishing. In her spare time, she enjoys writing poetry, erotica, and memoirs, and has multiple books in progress, with the first set to be released in 2024.    In this episode, you will hear:  Understanding more about ASMR (Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response) How it’s associated with sleep and relaxation but is gaining popularity in sexuality Ways to incorporate ASMR into sex life such as whispering in each other's ears Looking at the potential benefits of using ASMR during sex such as relaxation How you can determine if you enjoy ASMR or not Suggestions for introducing ASMR to a partner Recommendations for using specific toys and vibrators with low settings How there is no specific gender differences found in ASMR preferences Why experimentation, communication, and consent are key for ASMR  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 342 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Alicia Davon to the podcast. In this thought-provoking conversation we focus on the significance of sexual tension within long-term relationships, the conscious scheduling of pleasurable moments, and a willingness to embrace novelty in all its forms.  Alicia Davon is a highly accomplished individual, possessing a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a specialized focus on exploring and understanding women's romantic and sensual expression. Her academic journey and professional background led her to become a trained therapist, equipping her with the necessary skills to make a positive impact on people's lives.   Before encountering her partner Erwan, Alicia was already making a significant difference by leading numerous women's groups. These groups were entirely dedicated to empowering women to embrace and enhance their pleasure and find fulfillment in various aspects of life, be it in their careers or relationships.   It was around 15 years ago that Alicia's path crossed with Erwan's, and this encounter proved to be a transformative one. They soon joined forces, combining their knowledge and expertise to create something truly remarkable - The Pleasure Course. This unique course has had a profound influence on the lives of thousands of individuals, guiding them towards achieving their ideal and fulfilling love lives.   In this episode, you will hear:  The importance of sexual tension building in long-term relationships. How Sexual tension is the presence of desire, turn-on, and romantic interest Why many couples face challenges due to getting stuck in routine Alicia advises acknowledging the issue and discussing it openly with the partner Prioritizing fun and connection without distractions for better pleasure Try new and different things to bring novelty and excitement to the relationship How novelty doesn't always mean extreme acts; it can be romantic gestures Cultivating desire is possible through open communication, scheduling pleasurable time, and embracing novelty.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Bucket List https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-sex-bucket-listbtac1eu8 Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 341 of Sexology Podcast! Today we start our summer series on enhancing intimacy and exploring novelty in your sexual life.   In this episode, we look back on previous episodes and embark on a journey to ensure you have the most exciting and sexiest summer ever, emphasizing the often-overlooked importance of novelty in long-term relationships and discussing the benefits it can bring to your connection with your partner.   Throughout this series, we'll be rubbing shoulders with experts who have unlocked the secrets to a fulfilling and passionate connection. They will impart their invaluable advice and share practical tips to guide you on this enthralling path of self-discovery and rekindling the spark with your beloved.   But wait, there's more! As a token of gratitude for you, our cherished listeners, we've prepared an exclusive PDF packed with tantalizing information. This gem, which would typically be reserved for our premium programs, is now yours to download for free! So be sure not to miss this golden opportunity to elevate your sensual experiences to a whole new level.  So, get ready for a thrilling exploration of enhanced intimacy and sexual discovery as we break free from sexual stagnation and embrace new experiences together.   In this episode, you will hear:  Why Novelty is important in long-term relationships  How trying new activities outside the bedroom can improve sexual experiences Learning to communicate openly about new sexual desires  Why safety is important for advanced activities like wax play and anal sex The ways role-playing can bring novelty and excitement to relationships Considerations for threesomes: Being comfortable and enjoying the experience How ex toys in intimate moments can enhance sexual satisfaction The best positions for clitoral stimulation and engorgement   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list/  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 340 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Amy Marsh to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the topic of erotic AI, companionship tools and how Amy became interested in the topic after reading about the experiences of chatbot users of a program called Replica who were being shamed in the media for enjoying erotic roleplay.  Dr. Marsh is a clinical sexologist, AASECT-certified sexuality counselor, certified hypnotist and hypnosis instructor who has worked in the field of human sexuality since 2008. Personally, Dr. Marsh prefers to be known as “Avnas,” zir chosen name. Ze identifies as a nonbinary femme.   Dr. Marsh’s private practice is eclectic: combining sexuality counseling with hypnosis, guided imagery, adult sex education, sand tray play, and attention to social justice activism and community wellness. Though online only, Dr. Marsh’s “office” is a “no-shame zone.” You are invited to share in an atmosphere of warmth, humor, and “unconditional postitive regard” (quote from Carl Rogers).    As a sexologist, Dr. Marsh has special interests in erotic hypnosis, spectro-sexuality, objectum sexuality, LGBTQIA++ rights, “sacred sexualities,” and more. Ze teaches online professional courses in Hypnosis for Sex Problems at zir Intimate Hypnosis Training Center.    In this episode, you will hear:  How chatbots are used to develop a relationship, have sex through sexting or voice. The misconceptions about AI companionships How chatbots sometimes make things up to keep the conversation going The way agency arises in the chatbot's choice of response  Understanding the downsides of using companion bots How Amy’s book "How to Make Love to a Chatbot" is a good starting place Engaging with chatbots requires intentionality to avoid creating a relationship How erotic role play is often behind a paywall in chatbots Why it can be easy to become attached to a chatbot   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Foreplay Checklist https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 339 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Stephanie Ganowski the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how to have conversations about boundaries and communicating sexual desires in a relationship.   Stephanie Ganowski is a Clinical Sexologist & Sex Coach for men, living in NYC. Her mission is to help men replace their sex pressures with sex pleasures.   Growing up, Steph was severely introverted and shy. She felt very challenged when it came to making friends and feeling confident in herself. She constantly questioned herself and her actions, while remaining hyper curious about those around her. Due to her low self-esteem, she allowed people into her life who “matched” the way she treated herself. Afterall, it felt “right” and comfortable. This included the men she attracted romantically.   Eventually, the prolonged mistreatment from men (and herself) was jolted by 5 incredibly caring, supportive, hilarious guys, she randomly befriended on Instagram, during a hard time. This was a huge wakeup call for Steph. It made her realize that not all men were “assholes” like she had thought. It was her mindset and lack of social skills that put her in the place she had been in.   “But what about these “asshole” guys from her past experiences? What’s going on with them? They must have pain too…” This curiosity led her to want to understand her relationship with men more closely and understand men in general. Step one for Steph, was to start working with men, 1:1, gain their trust, reach their vulnerable side and find a way to help them. Through understanding men and helping them heal and see progress in their lives, Steph would also learn to how to heal and bring people together. Her goal is to eventually get to the place where she can also help women who feel the same way about men, as she once did.    In this episode, you will hear:   How communicating about sex and intimacy can lead to trust, passion, and desire. The best time to bring up a fetish or kink to a new partner How to prepare for communicating about vulnerable topics Why communication with a partner should focus on emotions and understanding Open-ended questions should provide a space for exploration without immediate implementation. How anal sex requires warming up with foreplay, lube, and a slow progression Why it's important to take care of partners' emotions and not take things personally How going to a dominatrix with a partner can be a helpful alternative to hands-on participation   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Foreplay Checklist https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy