Sexology

Welcome to episode 142 of the Sexology Podcast! Today's episode is a solo episode where I discuss fantasizing about others while you're in a relationship, understanding from the fantasy what you want more of in your relationship, the way our sub-conscious plays a role in this issue, and how this is a very common issue for lots of couples.    In this episode, you will hear:     Is it normal to fantasize about someone else while in a relationship?  The importance of communication and dialogue when defining the parameters of your relationship   The stigma attached to non-monogamous relationships   How our sub-conscious plays a role in this issue   Recognizing obsessional thoughts and what to do with them   Being true to your own values   Learning to not judge yourself for having certain thoughts   Removing yourself from situations where you might regret a decision later, e.g. drinking at a social event   Understanding from the fantasy what you want more of in your relationship   The role that guilt and shame plays with this issue   How this is a very common issue for lots of couples         Resources  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/03/07/sexuality-and-vulnerability-lesson-learned-as-a-dominatrix/ https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/not-attracted-to-partner-advice_us_5d716d09e4b0fd4168e7a673?guccounter=1   Bonus Episode, Sex & Anorexia Nervosa: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/ Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 141 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Tara Galeano, L.P.C., CST to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about the challenge's women face in regaining sexuality during and after cancer treatment, incorporating a holistic approach with feminine energy and the first steps women can take to regain their sexuality.    Tara Galeano helps women reimagine their bodies after cancer and rekindle their sexuality. She is a certified sex therapist and teaches the class, Rediscovering My Body after Cancer, to amazing, courageous women who have had cancer. For the past five years, she has taught this class at Boulder Community Health.     Currently, she is creating an online course based on this class to make the content more accessible to women everywhere. Tara is also inspired by her studies of Ayurveda, Sanskrit, and being a grandmother. She is currently writing a book based on the Rediscovering My Body class, so she may share widely with all those that are seeking sexual renewal after cancer.    In this episode, you will hear:     The challenges in regaining sexuality during and after cancer treatment   What is a dilator?   How dilator’s can be used as a wonderful tool   Overcoming breast cancer surgery and the feeling of loss  Incorporating a holistic approach and feminine energy   How do these issues vary between during and after treatment?   The effect this issue has on partners   Steps women can take if they experience low desire but want to remain sexual   Understanding that it’s an ebb and flow issue that will change over time   The feelings of guilt that can arise from not being sexual with your partner  The first steps women can take to regaining their sexuality         Resources  https://bouldersextherapy.com   Tara@BoulderSexTherapy.com    Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 140 (a) of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m pleased to welcome Susan Bratton to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about sex toys, why couples are using them, how they can add sex appeal and changing the sexual dynamic of a relationship with a sex toy.     Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships.     Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion.     Married to her husband Tim since 1993, Susan is an author, award-winning speaker, and serial entrepreneur who teaches passionate lovemaking techniques to her fans around the world. Susan has been featured in The New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as appearing on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox, and on NBC as the “Marriage Magician.”      Millions of couples and singles have been touched by her TV appearances and Better Lover YouTube channel. Through her Insider’s Club newsletter at Personal Life Media.com, Susan gives away, free of charge, countless MP3 audios, videos, articles, and ebooks.          In this episode, you will hear:     The reasons why couples are using sex toys   Helping to bridge the orgasm gap   Taking a look at certain sex toys such as cock rings   What to look for in a sex toy when purchasing one   Can sex toys change the dynamic of a couple's sex life?  Understanding the clitoral erection   Making the most of a clitoral erection   How sex toys can add sex appeal   Knowing the best times to approach using a sex toy with your partner     Resources  Personal Life Media   Instagram@SusanBratton My YouTube 'Better Lover’ Channel     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 140 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Stefani Goerlich to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about working with non-traditional couples, the sexual challenges they face and understanding what it means to be kink aware.     Stefani holds a Masters in Social Work from Wayne State University, where she specialized in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has over fifteen years' experience in working with poly/kinky individuals, swingers, commercial sex workers, and child and adult survivors of sexual trauma including human trafficking. Stefani has served as a guest lecturer on minority sexual communities at Northwestern University and is a frequent conference presenter on topics related to Kink Aware Practice and consent. An award winning author, she currently working on her second book entitled The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients.    In this episode, you will hear:     The non-traditional relationship Stefani sees in her practice   The stigma non—traditional relationships face when forming romantic relationships  Working with sex workers   Sexual challenges non-traditional couples face   Working around jealousy   The importance of negotiation and communication   What does it mean to be kink aware?  Things that get in the way of therapists working with people from the lense of kink awareness?  How 2-5% of the population need a form of kink to be sexually stimulated   Misconceptions around working with non-traditional couples         Resources  http://www.boundtogethercounseling.com     Bonus Episode, Anorexia Nervosa & Sex: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/ Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 139 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about his new book (adultADHDbook), navigating the challenges that couples with ADHD will go through, creating fairness and managing expectations and how an overall good relationship balance will lead to great sex.    Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine countries. His fourth book, ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship, was just published and is the first to examine how ADHD impacts a couple’s sexual and relationship satisfaction and how to improve both.     In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the survey Dri Ari conducted for his new book   Do men with ADHD experience more desire than women?  Navigating the challenges that couples with ADHD will go through   The role medication plays in this issue   Distractions during sex, looking at keeping focused and in the zone   Does having sex make you a better person?  How an overall good relationship balance will lead to great sex  Creating fairness and managing expectations   Looking at the parent / child dynamic   Other findings on how couples managed to make it work in the bedroom   How can a partner help work on someone else’s issue?        Resources  https://adultADHDbook.com   https://tuckmanpsych.com     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 138 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I welcome Michael Vigorito to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about out of control sexual behaviour, examining the driving force behind it and understanding the best practices to deal with this issue.    Mr. Vigorito is a sex therapist, author and consultant.  As a psychotherapist, he provides individual, couples and group psychotherapy for a range of sexual and behavioral health concerns. He developed a sexual health assessment and treatment protocol with Douglas Braun-Harvey, which was published in Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior - Rethinking Sex Addiction (2016) (SSTAR 2018 Health Professional Book Award Winner).      As a sexual health consultant for Behavioral Health Systems Baltimore and University of Maryland - Prevention Research Center, Mr. Vigorito designed and implemented capacity-building initiatives to integrate sexual health into mental health and substance use disorder treatment. These programs offered trainings and technical assistance in conducting routine sexual health conversations, sexual risk-reduction counseling and LGBTQ cultural competency within behavioural health systems of care.       In this episode, you will hear:     Defining out of control sexual behavior   Examining the driving force behind this issue   How common is this issue?  Looking at boundary fidelities   The consequences of trying to over-control sexual thoughts   Is this a behavioral or addiction issue?   Understanding not to adopt a disease narrative   Using the framework of addiction issues to tackle this issue   Are STD’s common for people dealing with this issue?      Resources  http://michaelvigorito.com     Bonus Episode - Anorexia Nervosa & Sex: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/ Bonus Episode - Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode - Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Tips on lasting longer in bed, society's expectations on sex duration, controlling ejaculation, avoiding numbing techniques, the relationship between sexual positions and duration, and the importance of breath work for enhancing sexual performance.

Welcome to episode 136 of the Sexology Podcast! Today we have a solo episode where I discuss how you can change your sexual schema.     In this episode, you will hear:     How do you change your schema of sex?   A personal story from Nazanin to help further unpack this issue   How a lack of sex education impacted Nazanin’s life   The conflicting messages on sex from society and religion   How these messages become instilled as part of your development   The feelings of guilt from wanting to experience sex   The importance of values within acceptance commitment therapy   Analyzing your own biases around sex   Challenging the myth that you need to be married to have good sex  Taking a look at alternative rebellion   Writing down your own sexual thoughts and stories to help further express your sexual feelings        Resources  https://sexologypodcast.com     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 135 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Sari Cooper to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about sexual avoidance, how it affects relationships and recommendations on how you can better understand and improve upon this issue.     Sari Cooper is the Director of Center for Love and Sex, a group practice specializing in sex therapy and sex coaching based in NYC.  She is also the creator of Sex Esteem®️, LLC a company devoted to enriching people’s confidence and knowledge about their own or their kids’ sexuality through talks, webinars and her web show, Sex Esteem®️ with Sari Cooper.     She is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who is frequently called upon on many media outlets to comment on relationships and sexuality issues. She has appeared on CBS This Morning, Dr. Oz and featured in The Wall Street Journal, Women’s Health, Bustle, HuffPost and Vice Media.     In this episode, you will hear:     How do you define sexual avoidance?   The implicit actions people take to avoid sex with their partners   The ways in which this issue affects relationships   How the incest taboo works in relation to this issue  The root causes of sexual avoidance   Creating spontaneity and excitement to maintain a healthy sex life  Reconnecting with the exciting parts of lust from the early stages of a relationship  How partners can view hobbies and interests as a threat   The need to break out of your comfort zone to explore new aspects of a relationship  How pain during sex can play into this issue   Recommendations on how to improve sexual avoidance         Resources  Web - www.centerforloveandsex.com   Email - sari@centerforloveandsex.com   Social Media - Facebook, Twitter and Instagram    Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 134 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Steve Bodansky to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about the benefits of self-pleasure, overcoming shame and recommendations to discover your own erogenous zones.  Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. Steve received a Masters in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992.   For the past 27 years they have been coaching students as a couple and started writing books about optimum sensual pleasure. They have trained many people over the past 30 years with courses and personal training and continue to do so. A number of their former students have become sensual facilitators themselves.    In this episode, you will hear:   The benefits of self-pleasure   Incorporating mindfulness into self-pleasure   What is peaking?   Overcoming the shame associated with self-pleasure   Understanding the need for build-up to climax   The way in which pornography gives us a false view of the female orgasm   Recommendations to discover your own erogenous zones   The common strokes that are helpful for self-pleasure    Learning not to be dependable on sex toys       Resources  stevebodansky@gmail.com  http://www.extendedmassiveorgasm.com     Extended Massive Orgasm: How to Give and Receive Intense Sexual Pleasure  The Illustrated Guide to Extended Massive Orgasm  To Bed or Not to Bed  Instant Orgasm  Extended Massive Orgasm: The Novel  Extended Massive Life: A True Love Story and More   Pigetry  Universe of Love: Poems of Yin and Yang  Orgasm Matters  Love and Alzheimer’s  Switch Pitcher: Evolution of Darwin  Fall; or, Dodge in Hell: A Novel by Neal Stephenson  Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear    Previous episodes with Steve Bodansky  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/09/11/sex-and-alzheimer/   http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/02/20/extended-massive-orgasm-by-dr-steve-bodansky/     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy