Sexology

Welcome to episode 273 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Evan Goldstein to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the best ways to explore anal sex, looking at the common mistakes people make when starting out and understanding it takes time to train your anus to make it ready for sex.    Dr. Evan Goldstein is the Founder & CEO of Bespoke Surgical and the Co-Founder of Future Method. As the preeminent expert and thought leader in the field, Dr. Goldstein is com- mitted to education and awareness—not only bringing the important issues sur- rounding gay sexual health to the forefront, but also eliminating the stigmas at- tached to it.     Relating to a wider audience, Dr. Goldstein leaves the medical jargon behind and communicates in a straight-forward, direct manner, breaking down taboos and allowing for more conversational and open discussions with the aim to educate. Dr. Goldstein has extensive experience educating and shedding light on health care issues relating to the gay community, and has been published in several na- tional media outlets including NBC.com, HuffPost, GQ, Men’s Health, The Advo- cate, well+good, Shape, and more.     Supporting many LGBTQ-focused non-profits, Dr. Goldstein is dedicated to rais- ing awareness and is involved with GLSEN, ACRIA, HRC, and is a member of Callen- Lorde’s exclusive Howard J. Brown Society. Dr. Goldstein is also the founder of the Bespoke Surgical college scholarship grant for LGBTQ students, which launched in December 2017.     Dr. Goldstein received his osteopathic doctorate from the University of Medicine and Dentistry School in 2002. Receiving the highest osteopathic education was pivotal in shaping his integrated whole-life approach towards his practice of pri- vate surgical care. Dr. Goldstein completed his residency in General Surgery at Maimonides Medical Center, exposing him to a high level of surgical acuity and a vast array of pathology.     Dr. Goldstein and his partner Andrew Yu reside on the Upper West Side of Man- hattan with their eight-year-old twin boys, Phoenix and Sebastian. Dr. Goldstein is an avid tennis player and skier, and enjoys attending concerts, collecting art and classic cars, and spending time with his family.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Goldstein became interested in this line of work   The importance of knowing your entitlement to pleasure  Ways in which Dr. Goldstein works with the entire anal community   Why many people get anal sex wrong a lot   Looking at the common mistakes people make when exploring anal sex  Understanding it takes time to train your anus to make it ready for sex  Why starting out with toys is essential for anal sex  The pros and cons of using toys over your fingers   Looking at douching and recommendations for best practices  Knowing the best practices to reduce chances of catching STI’s via anal sex  Is it common to bleed after anal sex?  Should you use numbing creams for anal sex?  Looking at medical interventions that can help with better anal sex    Thank You To Our Sponsor Promescent!  https://www.promescent.com     Find Dr. Evan Goldstein Online  https://futuremethod.com     101 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life  https://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 272 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome La' Shae Alexander to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how exploring different positions can improve your sex life, why missionary is an underrated position and incorporating power play into certain positions.    California Native, Renaissance Woman, Momepenuer, Writer, Real Estate Associate and Philanthropist. Shae wears many hats, all of which she like to wear in a nice dress and open toe heels. She is a blend of beauty, brains, and wit.     Her fresh perspectives on life, women and empowerment gives new meaning to what it means to have beauty, class, sensuality and soul. Modern day renaissance woman, Shae is on a journey like no other. Enjoy her raw and authentic take on life and share with her endless soul filling conversations.        In this episode, you will hear:     Why exploring different positions can improve your sex life   How you may prefer different positions as you get older  Looking at good instructions for your partner on the best positions  Why missionary is an underrated position  Looking at the best positions for clitoral stimulation  How you can use good positioning to build tension and excitement  Which positions are best for connecting with the G Spot  How deep breathing can further help your positions  Incorporating power play into certain positions     Thank You to Our Sponsor Promescent!  https://www.promescent.com     Find La' Shae Alexander Online  https://www.shaedaily.com     9 Foreplay Ideas  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558    Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 271 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Erik Everhard to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the common mistakes people make when trying to last longer, analyzing the importance of conscious choice and what men can do to delay ejaculation.   Erik Everhard is one of the top paid and most recognized performers in adult films of the last two decades. He has won numerous Male performer awards and been enshrined in the hall of fame of the AVN and XRCO organizations.     In 2010 he embarked on a transformational journey studying NLP at one of the top institutions in America. Since then he has dedicated his time and effort to helping high achievers by teaching them elite level sexual skills in order to master the bedroom like they dominate the boardroom.      In this episode, you will hear:     The common mistakes people make when trying to last longer   How you need to train your body to be ready for great sex  Looking at the arousal gap between women and men   Ways you can overcome being nervous in the bedroom   Analyzing the importance of conscious choice   Understanding even top-level athletes struggle with performance anxiety   How you can successfully navigate foreplay   The importance of creating the right mental state for great sex   How you can turn ‘I hope to have great sex’ into ‘I know I can have great sex’  What can men do to delay ejaculation?   Ways we can manage and overcome any pain in the bedroom   Why having lots of bad sex is worse than having no sex     Thank You to Our Sponsor, Promescent!  https://www.promescent.com     Find Erik Everhard Online  https://www.erikeverhard.com     Grab 20% off Erik’s Course – Use code ‘Sexology20’  https://crushingperformanceanxiety.com     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio     Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 270 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Caitlin V to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss female ejaculation, why ejaculation doesn’t always mean orgasm for women, the barriers that stop women from ejaculating and looking at ways women can learn to ejaculate.  Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners. Formerly a sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she was catapulted into internet stardom after a video featuring her went viral.   She works with clients all over the world on ending premature ejaculation, preventing erectile dysfunction, and developing unshakable sexual confidence. Combining personal experience with evidence-based science in her coaching, Caitlin’s mission is to create a sex and pleasure-positive world.     In this episode, you will hear:   How Caitlin went viral on YouTube Is it possible for every woman to be able to ejaculate? Why ejaculation doesn’t always mean orgasm for women How women can feel a build of pressure over time around the issue of ejaculation Looking at the barriers that stop women from ejaculating Analyzing the G Spot and its role in ejaculation Good fingering techniques you can use Understanding the importance of communicating what you want to your partnerCan women learn to ejaculate by themselves? Looking at good stroking techniques you can use Other key factors needed to ejaculate such as high level of arousal   Find Caitlin V Online https://www.bettersexcoach.com   9 foreplay Tips https://exciting-builder-8729.ck.page/2690c062c9 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 269 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Searah Deysach to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss using full body exploration to lead to fingering, paying attention to non-verbal cues and ways you can use teasing to really get your partner in the mood.  Searah Deysach is a sex educator and the owner of Early to Bed and FtM Essentials. In addition to running her retail store & websites, she lectures to community groups and colleges around the state on topics relating to masturbation, sex toys and positive sexuality.  She is committed to working to create a culture where everyone has access to honest information about sexuality and all folks have access to the services, they need to protect their reproductive rights.    In this episode, you will hear:   Using full body exploration to lead to fingering  The importance of light touch and strokes  How you can anticipation and excitement before fingering  Why slowing down to build up is important  How long should we be exploring other parts of the body? The importance of communication with your partner Building up excitement with your clothes still on  Ways you can use teasing to really get your partner in the mood Paying attention to non-verbal cues Engaging in after-care after orgasm  Ways to add excitement without it becoming the main event   Find Searah Deysach Online https://www.early2bed.com   9 Foreplay Ideas https://exciting-builder-8729.ck.page/2690c062c9 Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 268 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Ashley Manta to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss ways to build excitement and arousal with handjobs, techniques you can use to stimulate testicles and looking at masturbation techniques such as “The Bottle Rocket”.    Ashley Manta is an award-winning sex educator and coach and has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual® brand. She is the author of The CBD Solution: Sex, published in 2020 in conjunction with Merry Jane and Chronicle Books. She completed her certification as a Bodysex® Facilitator after studying with legendary pleasure pioneer Betty Dodson.     She is the host of Elevated Intimacy podcast and her online course portal, Elevated Intimacy Academy, provides self-paced sex education. She facilitates retreats and workshops at resorts and festivals around the world. She also offers an online sex magick, embodiment, and empowerment intensive called Activating Your Cosmic Pussy. She is a brand ambassador for Sybian.      In this episode, you will hear:     Ways to build excitement and arousal with handjobs   How sexting can help in the sexual build up   Why it’s important to have lube   Looking at some of the best lubes on the market   The importance of having respect for yourself and your partner   Understanding your partners boundaries   Techniques you can use to play with and stimulate testicles   Ways you can stimulate the foreskin   Looking at masturbation techniques such as “The Bottle Rocket”   How you can build excitement for yourself as a giver   Looking at other male pleasure products to further enhance a handjob    Find Ashley Manta Online  https://www.elevatedintimacypodcast.com     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 267 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Taylor Sparks to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss why impact play is hot for so many people, how impact play can create an extra layer of erotic intimacy and looking at tools you can use such as toys and spanking benches.    Among many things, Taylor Sparks (aka Mariposa) is a passionate erotic educator and sex goddess, certified in both holistic aromatherapy and human behavior.  With over a decade of experience in the natural skin care/cosmetics industry, Ms. Sparks launched OrganicLoven.com, one of the largest BIPOC owned online intimacy shops.  Organic Loven specializes in improving adults’ sexual health/wellness and enhancing their sex lives via their organic intimate body products, body-safe sex toy materials, sex-positive books, and erotic educational seminars.     Ms. Sparks’ expertise has contributed to articles in Bustle, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men’s Health, Oprah, Shape, Women’s Health magazines and more. Prior to launching Organic Loven she developed a line of 16 head-to-toe organic body care products for elite endurance athletes, called Skin Care for Athletes Tri-Body Products. These products were featured in Muscle & Fitness Hers and the ESPN Magazines, sponsored numerous triathlons, 5ks and marathons as well as 5 Olympic athletes in both the summer and winter Olympics.     Taylor has also become renowned in the adult travel industry and is a powerful public speaker both nationally and internationally. Her flagship seminar entitled,” How To Make Good Pussy, Better”, is extremely popular and focuses on the benefits of organic intimate body products and body safe sex toys.   Taylor is socially and environmentally conscious and a strong supporter in all things organic, natural and eco-friendly...including Love.      In this episode, you will hear:     Why impact play is hot for so many people   The importance of clear communication around spanking   How impact play can create an extra layer of erotic intimacy   Looking at the areas of sensitivity best for impact play   Tools you can use such as toys and spanking benches   Analyzing the differences between giving and receiving impact play   Tips for the best way to use your hand for spanking   The mistakes people often make with impact play   Understanding it’s ok to take things slowly and pause if needed    Reignite The Fire Workshop:  If you would like to shake things up this Valentine’s Day by creating a perfect Sex-cessful date, sign up for my upcoming 2-hour workshop: https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/optin1640020968176     Find Taylor Sparks Online  http://OrganicLoven.com      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 266 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Fredrick Zal to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the similarities between the kink and punk rock scenes, how you can explore kink to know if you prefer being a submissive or dominant and ways you can step out of your comfort zone to explore kink.    Fredrick’s sexuality education work has focused upon erotically marginalized communities, partnerships, and individuals since 2006 by "Teaching the Art within Sexual Acts" in private lessons, semi-public and private events, and workshops in Oregon, Washington, California, British Columbia, and via Zoom worldwide.      They teach mindfulness, ritual, communication, consent, sexual attitudes reassessment, tantra, kink, and other embodied erotic pathways with an ever broadening understanding of power differentials, socio-political impacts over the centuries, and ways to truly dismantle what they feel in their blood and bones to be a corrupt and flawed acculturalized system.      When not teaching or doing sexuality research; Fredrick endeavors to focus life around what they love, which is the arts, getting outside for adventures, sharing quality time and food with friends, practicing 茶道 (Chado, Japanese Tea Ritual), and movement such as yoga and dance.      In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the similarities between the kink and punk rock scenes  Understanding that it’s normal to have interest in kink   How kink is centered around a heart and mind connection  Ways in which we can cultivate our emotions to fully embody kink  Looking at the differences between tops and bottoms  How you can explore kink to know if you prefer being a submissive or dominant Understanding the powerplay dynamics and their relationship to kink Looking at ways you can step out of your comfort zone to explore kink  The importance of after care and clear communication     Valentine's Day  If you would like to shake things up this Valentine’s Day by creating a perfect Sex-cessful date, sign up for my upcoming 2-hour workshop: https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/optin1640020968176     Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Find Fredrick Zal Online  http://www.tantrickink.com     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 265 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Darshana Avila to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss why is good kissing important for sex, understanding porn is not sex education, and how you can be more thoughtful in your communication.    Darshana Avila is nurturing a culture of Erotic Wholeness. As an internationally recognized speaker, coach and facilitator, Darshana supports women and couples in exploring and reshaping their relationships to intimacy, sex and eroticism. She created the Map of Erotic Wholeness as a path to personal liberation in service to our collective sexual liberation.      Darshana believes “we are erotic by nature,” and is dedicated to helping people feel truly at home in their bodies, at ease with their sexuality and in alignment with their hearts. Her unique style of somatic sex and intimacy coaching weaves together a trauma-informed, nature-based, justice-oriented approach, inviting more presence, pleasure and passion into the lives and relationships of those she guides.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Darshana became interested in this line of work   Understanding that trauma gets healed in the community   Ways in which you can learn to open up your sexual self   Understanding porn is not sex education   Why is good kissing important for sex?  How to communicate to your partner the types of kissing you like   The importance of build-up and foreplay for great sex   Recommendations for whole body experience to build u to great sex  Looking at the different types of kissing and styles   How you can be more thoughtful in your communication   The best ways you can explore touch     Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Find Darshana Avila Online  http://darshanaavila.com     9 Foreplay Ideas  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558    Follow Us On Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 264 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Alison Ash to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can give a killer blowjob, incorporating play into great oral sex, and understanding that you can still get an STI just through oral sex.  Dr. Alison Ash is at trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences.   She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.    In this episode, you will hear:   How you can give a killer blowjob  The importance of your appreciating your lover and communicating that to them  Incorporating play into great oral sex  How to overcome things like gag reflex when giving a blowjob  When is the best time to also use your hands when giving a blowjob? How you can also stimulate testicles when giving a blowjob  The importance of being sensitive when stimulating testicles  Overcoming the issue of not liking the taste of semen  Is it possible to change the taste of semen? Understanding that you can still get an STI just through oral sex    Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth! https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY  Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY  Find Dr. Alison Ash Online https://www.TurnON.love   Dr. Alisons Class  https://www.TurnON.love/intimacy-skills Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills: A 2-month experiential course  Jan 11 - March 8th 2022  9 Foreplay Ideas https://exciting-builder-8729.ck.page/2690c062c9 Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy