Unapologetically Sensitive

TITLE The Challenges & Gifts of Being a Highly Sensitive Musician with Brian Zirngible, LMFT GUEST Brian Zirngible, LMFT EPISODE OVERVIEW Brian, who is a musician and a therapist, talks about his work with men who are creatives, musicians and artists, but rarely come to therapy on their own, and don’t know that they are Highly Sensitive. Brian talks about the names he was called for being sensitive, and that his family didn’t really talk about feelings.  We talk about the importance of self-compassion, mindfulness and curiosity as well as slowing down before responding when we’re picking up on something without having all the information. HIGHLIGHTS Brian talks about how sensitivity was viewed in his family What is an educated and empowered HSP? Why is it important for the Highly Sensitive Person to be around other HSPs? Brian talks about the names he was called for being sensitive Brian talks about some men having difficulty expressing their feelings In Brian’s experience, men often don’t go to therapy on their own Many times, a partner, bandmate or spouse tell the man they need to go to therapy, or that they might benefit from talking to someone Generally, the men that Brian sees, come in to get help with getting unstuck with creativity Often underneath the unstuckness is depression, anxiety, substance abuse It can be challenging to be a man since men are given the message to be tough, don’t cry, don’t be a baby There is pressure in athletics, the classroom and the music industry to be tough and to deny sensitivity Brian talks about Kristen Neff’s work and the importance of radical self-acceptance Brian talks about his superpowers of being able to read a room, which helps him as a therapist, and as musician We talk about the importance of slowing down and taking a breath and getting curious when we “read” something, but may not know why someone looks a certain way or has said something We talk about the importance of mindfulness, self-compassion and curiosity Brian’s primary message is that he wants people, especially the Highly Sensitive Person, to know you are not alone He also talks about JOMO—the joy of missing out (instead of FOMO—the fear of missing out) Brian talks about what he would want his younger self to know GUEST BIO Brian Zirngible is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Burnsville, Minnesota. His specialties & passions are supporting highly sensitive men, musicians & performing artists to find more balance, boundaries & bad-assery in their lives. Brian is a performing artist & musician himself, playing in 3 different musical projects. He practices daily meditation, mindfulness & is a husband to a super supportive & amazing wife. Brian is also a father to the cutest fur-baby shih tzu ever! PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Brian’s Links website-- https://www.brianzirngible.com/ facebook--https://www.facebook.com/brianzirngiblelmft/ iTunes-- https://music.apple.com/us/artist/brian-zirngible/1448287592   CD Baby-- https://store.cdbaby.com/artist/BrianZirngible Dr. Elaine Aron’s website—HSP self-test https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ The Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron Sensitive: The Untold Story-- https://sensitivethemovie.com/ Kristen Neff-- https://self-compassion.org/   Patricia’s Links Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber San Diego Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE A Highly Sensitive Therapist talks about Feeling Invisible, & How She Views Her Anxiety After Learning She’s An HSP   GUEST Kitty McCormick   EPISODE OVERVIEW   Kitty is a childhood friend who is now a therapist.  We talk about the anxieties we both felt as children, but never discussed. Kitty’s father was a prominent public figure, and she was pushed into acting/auditioning as a child to help with her shyness. She also talks about some of the barriers she experienced with non-Highly Sensitive Therapists, and her desire to please. Kitty also talks about the challenges she experienced in groups (including therapy groups) being an introvert until she took the Online HSP Course.         BIO   Kitty McCormick is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Los Angeles, who has avidly worked with children and families for over 20 years. She received her Masters in Social Work from the University of Southern California, with a concentration in mental health practice with individuals, families, and groups. She has extensive experience in the Los Angeles Unified School District where she worked with at-risk children, adolescents, and young adults. In that setting, she also regularly collaborated with Child Protective Services, the County of Los Angeles Probation Department (Juvenile Services), and numerous community service agencies throughout L.A. County to assist and support clients as needed. In 2017, Kitty shifted from doing social work in public school settings to doing psychotherapy in therapeutic schools with children who have greater emotional needs. It was at that point in her career where she began private practice in the community mental health arena, which offers affordable counseling services. This year she began her own private practice. Some of Kitty’s hobbies include yoga, weekend getaways, walking in nature, being around animals, and spending quality time with her husband. PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Free Drawing for Online HSP Course Beginning the week of January 12, 2020     EPISODE OVERVIEW If you’d like to enter to win free registration for the Online HSP Course that begins the week of January 12, 2020, please listen to this episode (there are 4 groups that will be starting).  If you’re interested in taking the Course, but have financial considerations, please reach out to me at unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com.  I’m happy to work with you if I can.  There’s a money back guarantee for the Course because I believe in what I’m offering.  You can get more information at https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/         PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Poll results—If You Could NOT Be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), Would You? Questions to Ask Yourself   GUEST Solo Episode   EPISODE OVERVIEW   If you could NOT be an HSP, would you? I share the results of a poll that 93 HSPs responded to including the pros and cons given.  Two major things happened on Christmas Eve before 9 a.m. at my home.  Ways to evaluate how your holidays went, and how to create what you might want for the following year.  Questions to ask yourself to help you set goals for the New Year, and my wishes for you for the next year.   HIGHLIGHTS   If you could NOT be an HSP, would you 93 responses Yes—20% (less than ½ were men)—related to autoimmune disorders, pain Maybe—5% No—75%   Those that WOULD change and no longer be an HSP Happier, more confident in my own skin.  I’m lonely and unsuccessful Misunderstood Barely surviving life Can’t go on like this Sick of this Not fitting in Exhausting   Those that WOULDN’T change, and remain being an HSP Work on themselves and as they learned about themselves they accepted who they are Natural leader More in tune with others’ needs Have a greater appreciation for beauty, nature, poetry, music, art Even though have lower lows, they have greater depth of happiness The more I learn about myself, the happier I am Being an HSP isn’t the issue; it’s an issue with our society I’m more confident in who I am. I don’t let societal norms affect me I don’t want to numb my compassion I like the quirkiness that makes me I might want my sensory sensitivity removed, but keep the emotional depth It helps me be creative, artistic and introspective HSPs are shamans and healers (therapists, massage therapist, teachers) Would be boring—I wouldn’t have insight and I wouldn’t care I’m strong and resilient   31 Questions to ask yourself before setting next year’s goals What are the first thoughts that come to mind about the past year? Mostly positive, negative, or neutral? What was one of the most interesting things I learned this year? Who was one person I met that I'd like to get to know better? Why? What was one of my most challenging moments? Why? What was one of my favorite accomplishments? What was one personal strength I used this year? How did it benefit my work or life? What hurdle came up more than once? (time, money, attitude, location, knowledge, etc.) How well did I communicate with the people who matter most to me? What three events or accomplishments were made possible by the help of others? What advice would I offer someone else on the basis of a lesson I learned this year? What are three problems that came up at work? How did I approach solving those problems? Are there any trends in those problems or solutions? Who needed my encouragement this year? What did I say or do to help them along? If I were writing a memoir, what would I highlight in the chapter about this year? What was I doing when I forgot about time and was able to be "in the moment"? What frustration seemed to come up again and again? What did I start and not finish? What did I try and fail? What three things am I curious to know more about? If I could wave a magic wand and master one skill, what would it be? Why? Who is one person I could help right now? How? What would it "cost" me? What would I gain? When did I slow someone else's progress? Why? What was I worried about? What's one thing I made or created from scratch? How did that feel? What's one thing I did that left me exhausted at the end? How did that feel? What's one thing I was a part of this year that I'll remember for the rest of my life? Why? What was the nicest thing someone did for me this year? What was the nicest thing I did for someone else this year? If I could change one thing that happened this year, what would it be? What felt difficult one year ago that now feels easy (or easier)? Of the books I read this year, which was my favorite? How did I capture my thoughts and feelings? (journaling, writing, social media sharing, talking one-on-one with friends or family, etc.) Was that method helpful? What are six adjectives that best describe this year? What would I like those adjectives to be next year? My wishes for you for 2020— If you’re not familiar, Become more familiar with the trait Practice radical self-compassion Play, connection, a creative outlet, a way that you express yourself a few deep, meaningful relationships where you feel seen, heard and honored a lifestyle that really honors your HS needs abundance—time, laughter, money, acceptance, relationships joyful movement of your body curiosity and the love of learning love for yourself and others   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   31 Questions to ask yourself before setting next year’s goals--https://www.inc.com/robin-camarote/31-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-setting-next-years-goals.html   Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   To enter for a free drawing for the Online HSP Course— HSP Online Course Send an e-mail to unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com I will send a short screening form, and the HSP group intake Sunday January 12 I will draw a name and send the winner an e-mail You MUST indicate which of the 4 groups you want to join (you can find the groups at https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

TITLE Expectations & Disappointments & Creating a Vision for 2020   GUEST Solo Episode   EPISODE OVERVIEW   We all experience expectations and disappointments, and it’s more present at this time of year.  Do I regret talking about relationship issues? When do we talk about issues with others, and when do we need to work it out on our own? It’s ok to have wants and needs, but sometimes we need to show up for ourselves.  I talk about a new awareness that frustrates me!  With the New Year approaching, what do you want to create more of, and what do you want less of? I suggest a daily practice to help us honor ourselves.   HIGHLIGHTS   Expectations and disappointments This time of year creates more of this This can also show up in relationships Can we allow people to show up exactly as they are Do I regret talking about some of the challenges I’ve had this past year with my relationships When do we name what’s going on, and when do we either leave it, or process with someone else As we grow and change, how we handle relationships may change I talk about how I feel about recording or saying certain things in the episode where I wasn’t invited, and I felt hurt I tend to pick friends who are very opposite of me in some ways, but it can create some challenges What do we do when we want someone to do something for us, but we don’t want to ask for it because it doesn’t count Ways to evaluate stuck places in relationships What to do when we’re not feeling seen and heard in a relationship When is it my responsibility to step and really be present for myself We often choose people in our lives in an attempt to work out some of the things we missed from our parents We want nurturing and healing from other relationships—there’s nothing wrong with this How we can evaluate if looking for this outside validation is working or not We’re supposed to be connected to others; it’s ok to have wants—this can be very healthy How we can honor pain and see what’s on the other side What happens when the wound of not enough comes up Many of us have a fear of getting in touch with our needs will bring up rage around not getting it when we were younger How do we show up for ourselves? In order to heal, we need to learn to be here for ourselves We can still get it from others—it’s not an “either or” How we can understand some of the dynamics in our relationships Being alive means we’re going to experience discomfort—we can manage When we realize that we’re expecting someone else to make us feel whole and complete, it’s not uncommon for us to then feel anger, grief, disappointment We can still stay in relationships and focus on the parts that work, and know that there are limitations We may notice things in relationships that the other person doesn’t see Sometimes we need to say something, and sometimes we just get to notice that it’s there How are we showing up in relationships? What are we expecting from others? Is it giving us peace? Are our attachment or abandonment issues coming up? Are we getting hung up? How we honor others in relationships even when we think “we know best” for the other person You can use radical self-compassion and mindfulness to notice what’s going on and where we get stuck We want to be our best selves When you have good support, we can learn to work through these things We can recognize patterns that are going on without acting from that place of wounding What are you needing to take care of yourself? You can listen to a favorite song Take a bath Take a walk Spend time with a child Take time alone Spend time with an animal Have a cup of tea or hot chocolate Curl up with a cozy blanket Watch a movie or show Light a candle Go into the bathroom for alone time Using box breathing—breathe in for a count of 4; hold for 4, exhale for 4 and hold for 4. Repeat at least 8 times If everything sucks, then notice what sucks Sometimes things suck and that’s just how it is At the end of the year, I write about what’s happened professionally, personally, friendships, spirituality, health My goal this next year is to look at myself through my own lens I want to own my perspective and not minimize I want to live a bolder brighter life and to be less apologetic I imagine how other people are responding to me instead of owning my perspective. This hurts me I want to see my life and my responses from my perspective What are you working on? What do you want more of in the New Year? What do you want less of in the New Year? What’s working What’s not working Think of 3 things you’ve done daily to take care of yourself Focus on the process, not the outcome or the feelings   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

TITLE A Highly Sensitive Relationship Coach Shares Her Experience Taking the Online HSP Course   GUEST Hannah Kuglen   EPISODE OVERVIEW   Relationship Coach, Hannah, talks about the wound of feeling like you’re too much and not enough.  She shares how this came up for her in the Online HSP Course, and how she worked with it.  Hannah talks about how she manages intense feelings, and what she tells herself when this happens.  Hannah talks about how she reacts when she senses that people aren’t saying what they’re feeling. At the end, there’s a bonus recording of us talking about the differences between coaching and therapy that happened after the interview.         BIO   Hannah Kuglen lives in San Diego, CA. She is a life coach who helps people improve their sex lives and romantic relationships by exploring and elevating self-awareness and communication skills. Hannah believes that, at the end of the day, relationships matter most and we should embrace, nurture, and treat them as tools for personal development. Hannah enjoys reading, writing, cooking, and exploring new places with her husband. PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Hannah’s Links   Blog--bit.ly/SnuggleStruggles Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/LYFCoachKuglen/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/lyfcoachkuglen/   Justine Froelker Healing Takes Place When We Are In Connection With Others Episode 10-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-10/   Ted Talks Justine Froelker The Permission of the “And” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9UjzHTjHEqg The Donut Effect: Owning our Stories https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLTl3l6YE6o   Patricia’s Links   Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Creating Peace Through the Holidays GUEST Sharon Martin, LCSW EPISODE OVERVIEW We talk about ways to make the holidays smoother—in terms of travelling, having guests, dealing with family members who may be challenging, feeling obligated, overspending, expectations, and lots of ways that Sensitives can provide better care for themselves during these times of overstimulation, high expectations and lots of activity.  Sharon explains what it’s like if a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) has a narcissist (or someone with narcissistic tendencies) in their life.  We talk about feeling criticized, and no matter what you do, it never feels like you’re enough or you’re good enough.  We talk a little about anxiety and depression and how counseling or therapy can help to gain insight into patterns that are from childhood. We talk about ways to take breaks; looking at new traditions, and being sure to take care of our basic needs HIGHLIGHTS Which parts of the holidays are overwhelming? You don’t have to do everything Take a lot of breaks If you are travelling to see family, consider staying in a hotel Be sure you’re taking care of your basic needs—sleep, nutrition, time alone, exercise, quiet time How to deal with challenging family members who may be narcissistic or are very critical Setting realistic expectations Prioritizing your values Recognizing limited resources Identifying where you feel obligated Fear of disappointing others   BIO Sharon Martin, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, mental health writer, and media contributor on emotional health and relationships. Her psychotherapy practice, in San Jose, CA, specializes in helping perfectionists and people-pleasers embrace their imperfections and overcome self-doubt and shame. Her own struggle to feel “good enough”, inspired her passion for helping others learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon writes the popular blog Happily Imperfect for PsychCentral.com and is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism. PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   website: https://LiveWellwithSharonMartin.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharonmartinlcsw/ blog: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/smartinlcsw/   Dr. Elaine Aron www.hsperson.com Dr. Ted Zeff www.drtedzeff.com Movie—Sensitive The Untold Story Podcast—Highly Sensitive Person highlysensitiveperson.net/book A Highly Sensitive Person’s Life: Stories and Advice for Those Who Experience the World Intensely by Kelly O’Laughlin   HSP Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/  E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE A Highly Sensitive Person and introvert, Heidi Tamm, talks about her experience taking the online HSP Course   GUESTS Heidi Tamm   EPISODE OVERVIEW   Heidi talks about these questions—How did you feel about the cost? Was it worth it? How was it having an online experience? Did you feel connected to the other members in the group? How was it being an introvert in the group? Did you feel seen, heard and honored? Did the Course meet your expectations? How was it being with 6 other HSPs? Did you feel the group was a safe place to share? What If you’re not sure you’re an HSP?         BIO   Heidi Tamm was born and raised in the Pacific Northwest. She is currently a Biologist for the National Park Service in Northern Idaho. Enjoy being outside and exploring, especially with my husband and our four fur babies.        PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Crystal Paul Therapist--https://www.crystalpaulcounseling.com/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Patricia’s Links   Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE   Jeff Guenther, LPC, Interviews Patricia About the Strengths of Being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)   GUEST   Jeff Guenther, LPC   EPISODE OVERVIEW   Does a client who comes to therapy need to learn to be more resilient? If a couple comes to therapy, should the focus be on getting the HSP to be less sensitive? These are questions that Jeff Guenther asks during this interview.  We also talk about how therapeutic ruptures can occur when the therapist is not aware of the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).  We talk a little bit about High Sensation Seeking (HSS), and we talk about the strengths and gifts HSPs have to offer the world.   HIGHLIGHTS The interview starts with me saying that I’m tired and depleted, and we talk about why this type of authenticity is important to me We talk about introversion and extroversion and that much that we see about introverts overlays the trait of High Sensitivity, but doesn’t distinguish this I thought I had social anxiety, but it turns out I probably got overaroused and overstimulated when I was younger, and didn’t understand what it was, and assumed I had social anxiety I thought I was an introvert and used it as an excuse to not socialize Turns out, I’m a Highly Sensitive Extrovert, so I need to find my sweet spot for enough socializing, but not too much We talk about High Sensation Seeking (HSS) and what it might look like I give the statistic that men and women equally represent that trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person, but I neglect to say that I haven’t seen research about how those numbers impact folx who are non-binary or trans Thank you to Dara Hoffman-Fox for bringing this to my attention 50% of clients in therapy are Highly Sensitive (HSP) They are the clients who tend to arrive on time Pay their bills on time Do homework Really want to dig in to therapy If a therapist doesn’t know about the trait of being Highly Sensitive, they may try and get their client to be like the 80% of non-HSPs, this can be detrimental to the client and cause a rupture in therapy without the therapist even realizing it When a therapist is HS Knowledgeable, their client retention increases since they are able to attune to their HS client. It’s a win-win for the therapist and the client In the brain of a HSP, more areas are active and taking in information. An HSP may gather 20 pieces of data from an interaction, and a non-HSP may gather 5. This is how mis-attunement can happen, or why HSPs see and experience things that non-HSPs miss A therapist who is HS Knowledgeable will want to be aware of how they are showing up for the client (are they tired, stressed etc.). It may help the relationship when the therapist communicates their own limitation.  It creates safety for the HS client As therapists and coaches, we want to initially do validating, mirroring, normalization, education, and then skill-building (if that’s in alignment with the client’s goals) Jeff asks if a Highly Sensitive Person came to see me, would I help them be more resilient. I ask Jeff if he’s assuming that HS clients/people need to be more resilient   GUEST BIO   Jeff Guenther, LPC, is a therapist in Portland, OR. He has been in private practice since 2005. Jeff is the creator and owner of Portland Therapy Center, a highly ranked therapist directory. He also hosts a podcast called Say More About That about trending mental health topics. Jeff has launched a new progressive therapist directory at TherapyDen that fights racism, homophobia, transphobia and all other forms of discrimination. Sign up for a profile at TherapyDen and get your first six months free.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Jeff’s links:   Jeff’s website-- http://jeffguentherlpc.com/ Therapy Den-- https://www.therapyden.com/ Jeff’s Podcast-- https://www.therapyden.com/news/say-more-about-that-a-podcast-about-what-clients-really-want-in-a-therapist   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/ Strong Sensitive Boy Dr. Ted Zeff   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   Patricia’s links:   HSP Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/  E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

  TITLE Two Participants From The Online HSP Course Share Their Experience   GUESTS Shelly Aaron & Melissa   EPISODE OVERVIEW   You get to hear past participants talk about these questions—Did you have resistance to taking the Course? How did you feel about the cost? Was it worth it? How was it having an online experience? Did you feel connected to the other members in the group? Did you feel that 1 person dominated or that you didn’t get your needs met? Did you feel seen, heard and honored? Did the Course meet your expectations? How was it being with 6 other HSPs? Did you feel the group was a safe place to share? What If you’re not sure you’re an HSP?   HIGHLIGHTS What are some things that you feel are important to share about the Course Melissa talks about how she felt heard in a way she hadn’t ever felt heard I ask if participants ever felt shamed or exposed in a way that made them feel uncomfortable Both Melissa and Shelly talk about how they were impacted by the way that I show up as a facilitator Participants felt like they had permission to share what they felt afraid or embarrassed to share This allowed other group members to share in an open, vulnerable and safe way Participants felt that the Course was a safe space to share How was it doing online work? Did you feel connected to other group members online? My gremlins come up during the interview, and I share this How was it being in a group of 6 other HSPs One participant took the whole course from bed (I had no idea) It’s nice to be in a group of HSPs who are interested in doing the work This Course is about honoring your needs Participants felt like they weren’t alone when they heard others share about things they experienced I felt like I finally belonged somewhere—receiving support and offering support felt good Melissa said she would NEVER take this Course, and they money was a barrier. She talked about her experience after taking the Course Melissa and her husband both took the Course, and she talks about how this has impacted her marriage Melissa also talks about learning her son is an HSP, and how this has impacted their relationship What would you say to someone who may be considering the Course, but feels like they’ve don’t things like this, or that it’s too expensive If you’re not sure you’re an HSP, several people took this Course anyway, and they said they benefited learning more I ask Shelly and Melissa if they ever felt like someone dominated the group, or they didn’t get their needs met How we used reality checks when someone felt that they were taking up too much time, and Shelly and Melissa talk about how this impacted them           BIOS   Shelly Aaron As a current yoga teacher, health coach & bodyworker, I've spent the last 15 years of my career, passionately coaching individuals to exceed their goals...which has ultimately led me to this amazing work of video and audio production.    ​ If you're a yoga teacher, trainer, or entrepreneur thinking about creating your own audio or video productions, but need some assistance in getting started, we should talk.   I offer services from just getting started to getting ready to launch. From podcasts to teaching videos, I'll show you how to produce your own or we can bring your production to life together.       Melissa Summa Cum Laude Graduate of Clarion University of PA B.S. in CAIS (Computer Applications and Information Sciences) Over 10 Years of Consulting experience I install, repair, optimize tech, and teach you how to use and love technology at a reasonable price.  I am also happy to build your website to your tastes and needs.  Think of me as your technical counselor. 215-834-6236 HelpfulTechPA@gmail.com    PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Shelly Aaron Productions--https://www.shellyaaron.com/   Patricia’s Links   Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com