Unapologetically Sensitive

TITLE A Listener Asks, "How Do I Manage Overarousal During an Interview—Because I Can't Demonstrate What I Know?" GUEST KJ McDaniels EPISODE OVERVIEW We talk about assessing skills and using visualization to internalize our competence; how to articulate our need for time to respond to questions during an interview. How to talk about our strengths when asked about challenges we experience. We also talk about how to communicate what our learning process can look like, and to emphasize the strengths we bring. How to create routines and landing spaces in order to keep track of glasses, keys, wallets, etc., and ways to remember appointments. HIGHLIGHTS KJ had an upcoming interview and had some concerns KJ was told she needed to respond more in-depth Having a high arousal state causes KJ to go into fight or flight We talk about needing some tools to be able to stay in the pre-frontal cortex KJ had pages on how to navigate the interview, but still was put on the waitlist KJ wonders if she may have ADHD as well When KJ is under pressure doing her job, she is able to manage her job KJ is able to anticipate possible outcomes and is competent in her job KJ believes that she struggles with communication due to how she was raised We assess if KJ is able to answer the questions when she's not overaroused When we haven't experienced being seen and heard in the past, those can be small traumas that can impact current performance The goal is to create safety in new environments We want to create a way to feel safe in new environments It might be our "task manager" We still need to honor our feelings and all of the parts of us The task master often doesn't have the fear around performing and answering questions Using visualizations to affirm—I've got this; I'm safe; I'm capable We want to shift from our feeling brain into our emotional brain We want to find out where that little person wants to go (to a safe place; NOT in the adult interview) The Highly Sensitive Person can be great on teams, when conditions/systems aren't set up to honor everyone HSPs are great listeners, and leaders, and we notice those people who aren't engaging in groups/teams For an interview, we want to talk about the things that did work, and our strengths Empathy Leadership Problem-solving skills How to answer questions that have to do with challenges How to talk about our strengths from a challenge How to articulate our depth of processing as a strength How to use routine in order to help with challenges with working memory HSPs who think they have ADHD, may just be overaroused and overstimulated Create routines and a landing spaces for things like keys, glasses, wallet, and other things we need on a regular basis We don't have to feel shame when we let others know what we need in order to perform well How to do a visualization at night to imagine ourselves feeling confident and competent to create a sense of calm How to use jewelry and clothes to use for subtle self-soothing Some of us need to fidget to focus—move when we are doing passive activities (talking on the phone, listening to a podcast or audiobook) Do the Superwoman pose to feel empowered and strong Our culture rewards extroverts who are external processors, and it's not geared to honor introverts and HSPs who may need more time to fully process and respond HSPs are really going to think about treatment and the best outcomes due to our depth of processing and taking in additional information that others may not pick up on We can learn to manage fearful anticipation, and it doesn't have to prevent us from participating in life When we have parents or caregivers who don't understand how to help us manage our feelings, we don't learn those tools, and we may think there's something wrong with us GUEST BIO KJ McDaniels is a Highly & Energy Sensitive Person based in Atlanta, GA. Having a love for the biological sciences, she studied Molecular Cell Biology and Immunology in undergraduate school. She is a small business owner in the animal field, future bovine veterinarian, mutifaceted musician and composer, coloratura opera singer, and most important of all, a loving aunt to a 5 year old. She hopes to spread realistic and positive knowledge about Sensitive Persons through continual conversations. PODCAST HOST Patricia knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and blacksheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS KJ's email—hspetservices@gmail.com Patricia's Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to Help With Strong Reactions as a Highly Sensitive Person GUEST Alison Morris EPISODE OVERVIEW Alison Morris talks about the benefits of using EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, also known as tapping, to help release stress; calm our nervous system; change brain waves, disrupt fear signals from the amygdala, and to change core beliefs. We demonstrate how to tap on the belief of being too sensitive. Alison talks about the importance of acknowledging, allowing, accepting and having awareness of our feelings, and why as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) this is a powerful tool. HIGHLIGHTS Emotional Freedom Techniques Also known as EFT or tapping Use acupressure points It's like emotional acupuncture, but without needles Utilizes meridians, which are energy systems within the body In traditional Chinese medicine, meridiansare channels that form a network in the body, through which energy flows Rivers of energy At the meridian in the body, there is more electrical conductivity EFT can be used to Release stress Calm the nervous system Change brain waves Disrupt fear signals from the amygdala (fear or worry) Induce epigenetic changes Turn on immune function Turn off inflammation EFT has been comparably compared in effectiveness to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) It works more quickly with fewer sessions You can try EFT on everything and anything It can help with a troubling memory, something in the present, stress or worry and physical pain It can be the most powerful when used on beliefs we hold about ourselves We pick up beliefs before we are six-years-old that become deeply ingrained Who am I? Is the world safe? The 4 As of EFT Acknowledge How we are feeling There are no wrong or bad feelings Feelings of shame, embarrassment, guilt, anger, sadness, etc. Allowing To feel it Focus on the negative Address what is There is a fear the feeling will never go away Feelings are supposed to be felt; then they move on Accepting I deeply and completely accept myself You are ok no matter what you feel How I am is fine I honor myself and the way I feel I honor my sensitivity and the gifts that it brings My sensitivity is a superpower EFT was designed to be a self-help tool You can tap with a partner or with a therapist or coach who is trained in EFT Common struggles I don't know what to say or what words to use Don't worry about it. You don't have to use words if it's overwhelming or you can't come up with the words Not being specific enough—you will get better results if you are specific Notice what you are feeling in your body (head, muscles, stomach, jaws) Possible things to say Even thought I haven't allowed myself to feel for years, and I'm afraid to start feeling… People have been telling me not to be so sensitive for years… I'm so overwhelmed, and I can't identify what I'm feelings because it's such a big mess… You get to be you It's ok to be angry, swear, scream, cry You can tap in the car or the shower It's just releasing energy You may sigh, yawn, cry Your focus may get brighter, shoulders drop down, sit up straighter Before tapping— Rate your symptom/distress on a scale of 1-10 Try to pick something that's not too intense—maybe something that's a 4-6 in distress Notice where you feel it in your body Start with your "set up phrase" and repeat 3x with the karate chop on the side of your hand Even though I …..I deeply love and accept myself Use the reminder phrase when you tap on the following (see attached picture) Top of the head Above the eyebrow Outside the eye—side of your face Under the eye Under the nose Above the chin Collar bone Under the arm (where are bra strap would be if you wear a bra) It's helpful to have water nearby so you don't get dehydrated Often if feels like nothing has happened, but changes are happening The original protocol is to stay with the negative statements It's like working on it to heal the wound If the negative feelings are subsiding, you can switch to reparative statements, but you don't want to rush into this You can use tapping to feel honored, safer and to build inner strength SCRIPT FOR TAPPING Even though I really hate being so sensitive, I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though I have felt like a misfit for years because I am so sensitive I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though I really wish sometimes that my sensitivity would just go away. I deeply and completely accept myself. Now we're going to take fingers again either hand we're going to go right to the very top of the head. Like where a puppet would come from, you know, string would come up from the top of a puppet's head, and just tap lightly while we say what's called a reminder phrase. I hate being so sensitive. All right, we're going to the eyebrow point which is the edge of the eyebrow closest to your nose. Again, you can use either hand or both hands, but just for now let's just use one hand, just tap lightly with two or three fingers. I hate being so sensitive. We follow to the outside of the eye just on that bone gently don't poke yourself in the eye. I'm tired of being such a misfit. Follow that bone underneath your eye. You know just an inch or two below. I really hate being so sensitive. Now we go to under the nose, that little indentation between your nose and your upper lip. I hate being so sensitive. The chin point which is above the chin, below the lower lip in that little indentation. I'm so tired of being so sensitive. Then we go to the collarbone point. So if you find your collarbone your clavicle and trace it sort of to the middle point where the two of them kind of almost come together, drop down an inch, and then go to one side, about two inches and you'll find a kind of a notch like an indentation in there. And that is technically the collarbone point. What I like to do though, just to keep it a little bit simpler is to take all five fingers and go all the way across your chest, below your collarbone. That way you make sure you get that point. I'm so tired of being so sensitive. Then finally we're going to do the underarm pit. This one looks a little weird. About four inches below your armpit. Where a bra strap would cross, you can curl one hand arm up on one side to reach it. Are you can reach across your chest to tap under your arm on the other side of your body, if that makes sense. I hate being so sensitive. Okay, so that's one round of tapping. So let's go back through now a little bit more quickly. Now that we know where all the points are. GUEST BIO Alison Morris is a certified EFT practitioner who loves helping people understand how they respond to stress and how EFT or tapping can help them quickly and effectively release whatever has them stressed - whether a memory, a physical symptom, or a fear of the future. Alison has focused mostly on helping parents of children with serious emotional and behavioral challenges, many of whom are Highly Sensitive People, through her work at Full Potential Parenting. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Alison's Links Website--http://full-potential-parenting.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/FullPotentialParenting/ YouTube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbvovgDdQFAaosog6di9XiQ/videos Highly Sensitive Person self-test--https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ Patricia Carrington, PhD The Choices Method--https://patcarrington.com/introducing-the-choices-method/ Gary Craig EFT Tapping--https://www.emofree.com/ I wasn't able to include the sheet for tapping (sorry). If you go to the closed fb group (link below), the diagram is already posted there. Alison and I will be making a video and I will post a link in the group for you. Patricia's Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE The Highly Sensitive Man: Finding Strength in Sensitivity, Author Tom Falkenstein GUEST Tom Falkenstein, MA EPISODE OVERVIEW Tom Falkenstein, author of the book The Highly Sensitive Man discusses the pressure men feel to be strong and to not show their emotions, and how Highly Sensitive Men can feel they're not living up to the masculine ideal. He talks about how we can support sensitive boys, and we talk about how men lose touch with their intuition. Tom shares some tools he used when he was feeling nervous about being on television, and he talks about his own strengths as a Highly Sensitive Man. HIGHLIGHTS Michael Pluess talks about the trait of being an HSP as Environmental Sensitivity Some Highly Sensitive Males struggle with being sensitive, and they receive feedback that they are not ok, or that they are too feminine Tom noticed there weren't many books about the Highly Sensitive Man Tom wanted to make the trait of High Sensitivity visible Many men grow up with a sense that they didn't satisfy the boy code Some men feel that they are not living up the masculine ideal of being stoic, self-reliant and embracing competition Men are not born less emotional than women When we let feelings build up and don't express them, it is likely we will have a blow-up or a melt-down Tim answers the question—How do men balance being sensitive with the traditional ideas of men being "strong and not showing their emotions?" The idea that men should NOT show their emotions is NOT healthy It's important to learn to appreciate your sensitivity Men can be confident about being sensitive Men can learn they can be themselves and NOT to be ashamed Not showing emotions is a huge conflict ALL men experience, but even more so for the Highly Sensitive Man Being emotionally expressive is not the typical masculine ideal, and showing emotions can trigger feelings of shame, insecurities and not feeling worthy How can parents support young boys who show signs of being Highly Sensitive? It's crucial NOT to shame boys for being sensitive Being emotional is fine. Feelings provide information, and we can change our feelings and work with them Feelings are important We don't want to label a child as being Highly Sensitive (per Dr. Elaine Aron)—meaning telling the child they are a Highly Sensitive Child (HSC) We can use descriptive terms to model and teach the child—you are really sad, it hurts your feelings when xx happens etc. It's important to allow feelings, talk about feelings and to model feelings Why is it that men learn to believe everything they are told instead of trusting their intuition or inner voice? Our socialization (for both men and women) influences whether we are taught to honor and trust our inner voice or to abandon it for the external rules Don't call your child shy or quiet. It can be very damaging! Highly Sensitive Children (and some adults) prefer to stand at the sidelines and observe before participating. We are more cautious and want to get the lay of the land before jumping in If I child is Highly Sensitive, do you tell them that they are? GUEST BIO TOM FALKENSTEIN has worked in the mental health sector since 1999 and as a cognitive behavioral psychotherapist since 2006. After obtaining his degree in psychology at the University of Glasgow, he completed his five-year postgraduate training in psychotherapy in Berlin. He then moved back to the UK where he worked as a psychotherapist in London. During this period, he developed a particular interest in high sensitivity and working with highly sensitive people. He has been training with Dr. Elaine Aron (author of "The Highly Sensitive Person") since 2015 and has founded the European Centre for High Sensitivity (www.hsp-eu.com). Currently practicing in Berlin, he also offers consultations for highly sensitive people in both English and German. "The Highly Sensitive Man" is his first book and was published in Germany by Junfermann in September 2017. It has been translated into a number of other languages. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Tom's Links Website http://www.hsp-eu.com/ Instagram https://instagram.com/tomfalkenstein The Highly Sensitive Man: Finding Strength in Sensitivity by Tom Falkenstein Strong Sensitive Boy by Ted Zeff Dr. Ted Zeff--https://www.drtedzeff.com/ T.V. Show Long Island Medium with Theresa Caputo Patricia's Links Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE The Unspoken Strengths of the Highly Sensitive Person—Mainly, the Power of Our Presence GUEST Solo Episode EPISODE OVERVIEW HSPs have a powerful ability to show up and be present for others. We often feel less than because we compare the accomplishments of others without realizing that we hold space, listen and notice things in a powerful way. Our society is very oriented to doing. For the Highly Sensitive Person, we excel at being, which is not always appreciated, recognized or valued. In this episode, we also look at a number of the perceived weaknesses of HSPs and talk about the corresponding strengths/superpowers we have. HIGHLIGHTS Episode 59 with Azul Terronez called Influence Comes from Service really highlights many of the unspoken strengths of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) Our culture tends to measure success in terms of doing and achievements vs. the power of presence and being As HSPs, we have an amazing ability to hold space, listen, recognize and observe things that most people don't We are often the emotional glue that holds our families and relationships together It's often easy for use to measure the non-HSPs parts of our relationships to others, and to forget how powerful our presence is to others Often systems are set up in ways that can make us feel that there is something wrong with us, but it's the system or person that isn't functional/responsive or able to meet our need(s) Many of us have the wound of too much and not enough When we start comparing, we WILL feel inadequate How can we honor what comes up for us, and be able to address the subtext (when appropriate)? THIS is our greatest strength POSITIVE MESSAGES—OUR SUPERPOWERS I value self-care, and am in need of rest and recharging I process more information on a deeper level I'm good at trying new things and I enjoy the moment I trust my process and I take the time I need I'm not afraid to feel I'm in touch with my emotions I feel things deeply; it's healthy and I'm strong, and it allow me to be myself I see things that others don't What I do is valuable What I bring is valuable I am valuable I am so beautifully in touch with myself, which is a gift to myself, and others. Everyone is doing their best I teach others by example how to feel deeply and how to experience a wide range of human emotions PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Episode 59 Influence comes from service with Azul Terronez https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-59/ Episode 5 I gave myself permission to be me, and not place undue expectations about who I should be with Melvin Varghese, PhD https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-5/ Episode 17 part 1 & 2 Conversations with a non-binary HS Therapist with Dara Hoffman-Fox https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-17-part-1/ https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-17-part-2/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Influence Comes From Service; I Just Need To Show Up And Be Myself GUEST Azul Terronez EPISODE OVERVIEW Author, Podcaster and Book Whisperer, Azul Terronez, was afraid to write a book. He talks about not being good at reading and writing, and flunking freshman English at UCLA; he later learned he has dyslexia. He's helped authors who have become international best sellers, and he has a TEDx talk called What Makes a Good Teacher that has over 1.6 million views. Azul names his superpowers, which are traits of being Highly Sensitve—oberserving, connecting, listening & accepting. He discovers during this episode that he thinks he may be a Highly Sensitive Person. HIGHLIGHTS Azul loved telling stories, and he wanted to be a writer, but his teachers discouraged him because he wasn't good at reading or writing Azul found out in his late 20's he had dyslexia Azul flunked Freshman English at UCLA He became an English teacher (but didn't have a degree in teaching) Azul could see words and how they work Although he wanted to write a book, he didn't have access to a publisher and he believed he wasn't good enough Azul taught his students how to publish books A student asked Azul where was his book, but he had been too afraid to write a book Azul signed up for Pat Flynn & Chris Ducker's 1 Day Breakthrough Workshop, but had no book or anything to show he had a business He decided to write a book in 30 days (the workshop was a little over 30 days away) Azul wondered Can I make a living outside of being a teacher? Azul wrote the book The Art of Apprenticeship and sent it to a publisher the day before the workshop Azul became a principal and an administrator, but it was difficult because he had to emotionally manage adults If I play a role, I can be successful I could be very strong, but I felt isolated I felt supported, but distant I found the language to describe my experience I would feel so much It helped me help other people I noticed what I was experiencing Pat Flynn asked Azul to help him write his book, which became an international best seller Azul has been able to live all over the world He has a podcast called Born to Write QUOTES I just need to show up and be myself Influence comes from service I can show up and serve You can be yourself, and I will hold that space for you Acting is what I'm doing in Life. [studying acting in college] This will make me successful I was observant, sensitive, and I paid attention more I had to find the language to describe my experience I bring the story out of people I'm good at thinking ahead and anticipating what people need I helped kids blossom GUEST BIO Azul Terronez has been called a book whisperer He helps leaders write and publish books that people love so they can create their brand, grow their audience, and increase their influence. His signature coaching program is built around the idea that creating books is about building the conversation that you want to own. Azul is the CEO of Authors Who Lead™ and the host of the top writing podcast Born to Write. His TEDx talk "What Makes a Good Teacher Great" has been viewed over 1.6 million times. Azul's clients have included Wall Street Bestseller, Pat Flynn from the Smart Passive Income Podcast, Jadah Sellner co-founder Simple Green Smoothies and Dana Malstaff the founder of Boss-mom. He lives in San Juan, Puerto Rico. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Azul's Links Website: https://authorswholead.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SteveAndAzul/ Instagram: @azulterronez Podcast Born to Write--https://coachazul.com/blog/tag/born-to-write-podcast/ Tedx Talk What Makes a Good Teacher Great-- https://mail.google.com/mail/u/1/#inbox/FMfcgxwDrRSjVrwJZgglRJJQvwjxDtsw?projector=1 Dr. Elaine Aron's website—HSP Self-Test--https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ Patricia's Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Honoring the Highly Sensitive Introvert GUEST Nicole Burgess, LMFT EPISODE OVERVIEW What do people need to know about introverts? Do introverts tend to need more time to process? Do they tend to process internally vs. processing verbally in the moment? Are introverts shy, anxious, or do they hate people? Are introverts slow to warm up? We tackle some common myths about introversion. This is a fun, spontaneous interview, with lots of laughter. We have a messy, raw conversation about the difference between therapy and coaching that goes badly. HIGHLIGHTS Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), are really in-tune with things vs. calling it highly sensitive The biggest difference between coaching and therapy is there is no diagnosis and people are mentally healthier; meaning they have a stronger sense of self, yet are open to going deeper in letting go of old beliefs/mindsets, etc. I also think we therapists are great coaches because we know how to ask great questions; help in getting people to move forward in their lives vs stay in a disempowered mode. We also have training in communication, boundaries, and so much. Each of us can bring our skills as therapists and other professions into coaching What's the difference between coaching and therapy? Is therapy only about the past and coaching is only about the future? What are the benefits of online coaching or therapy? What kind of coaches do therapists make? Introversion—True or false? Introverts are "shy, anxious, hates people" True or false? introverts struggle w self-confidence and don't know their souls What does the world need to know about introverts? A special shout out to April Snow for connecting many of us Highly Sensitive Therapists What do we do when we're in a social situation and we don't feel heard, and one person is dominating the conversation? We talk about play BIO Nicole Burgess, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and leadership coach to introverted high achieving professional women in midlife. Over the last fifteen years she has coached, guided and collaborated with over a 1,000 women. She helps them demote their inner critic, embrace their fears through action, and grow professionally without sacrificing their personal life. As a result, they are more productive at work, have more meaningful relationships, and no longer sacrifice their well-being for others. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Nicole's Links https://ww.nicoleburgesscoaching.com https://www.facebook.com/nicoleburgesscoaching https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicoleburgesscoach/ Soulfilled Sisterhood Podcast-- https://nicoleburgesscoaching.com/podcast/ Launching Your Daughter Podcast-- https://nicolecburgess.com/launchingyourdaughter/ Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jacquelyn Strickland-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/ Patricia's Links Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE The Challenges & Gifts of Being a Highly Sensitive Musician with Brian Zirngible, LMFT GUEST Brian Zirngible, LMFT EPISODE OVERVIEW Brian, who is a musician and a therapist, talks about his work with men who are creatives, musicians and artists, but rarely come to therapy on their own, and don't know that they are Highly Sensitive. Brian talks about the names he was called for being sensitive, and that his family didn't really talk about feelings. We talk about the importance of self-compassion, mindfulness and curiosity as well as slowing down before responding when we're picking up on something without having all the information. HIGHLIGHTS Brian talks about how sensitivity was viewed in his family What is an educated and empowered HSP? Why is it important for the Highly Sensitive Person to be around other HSPs? Brian talks about the names he was called for being sensitive Brian talks about some men having difficulty expressing their feelings In Brian's experience, men often don't go to therapy on their own Many times, a partner, bandmate or spouse tell the man they need to go to therapy, or that they might benefit from talking to someone Generally, the men that Brian sees, come in to get help with getting unstuck with creativity Often underneath the unstuckness is depression, anxiety, substance abuse It can be challenging to be a man since men are given the message to be tough, don't cry, don't be a baby There is pressure in athletics, the classroom and the music industry to be tough and to deny sensitivity Brian talks about Kristen Neff's work and the importance of radical self-acceptance Brian talks about his superpowers of being able to read a room, which helps him as a therapist, and as musician We talk about the importance of slowing down and taking a breath and getting curious when we "read" something, but may not know why someone looks a certain way or has said something We talk about the importance of mindfulness, self-compassion and curiosity Brian's primary message is that he wants people, especially the Highly Sensitive Person, to know you are not alone He also talks about JOMO—the joy of missing out (instead of FOMO—the fear of missing out) Brian talks about what he would want his younger self to know GUEST BIO Brian Zirngible is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Burnsville, Minnesota. His specialties & passions are supporting highly sensitive men, musicians & performing artists to find more balance, boundaries & bad-assery in their lives. Brian is a performing artist & musician himself, playing in 3 different musical projects. He practices daily meditation, mindfulness & is a husband to a super supportive & amazing wife. Brian is also a father to the cutest fur-baby shih tzu ever! PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Brian's Links website-- https://www.brianzirngible.com/ facebook--https://www.facebook.com/brianzirngiblelmft/ iTunes-- https://music.apple.com/us/artist/brian-zirngible/1448287592 CD Baby-- https://store.cdbaby.com/artist/BrianZirngible Dr. Elaine Aron's website—HSP self-test https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ The Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron Sensitive: The Untold Story-- https://sensitivethemovie.com/ Kristen Neff-- https://self-compassion.org/ Patricia's Links Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber San Diego Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE A Highly Sensitive Therapist talks about Feeling Invisible, & How She Views Her Anxiety After Learning She's An HSP GUEST Kitty McCormick EPISODE OVERVIEW Kitty is a childhood friend who is now a therapist. We talk about the anxieties we both felt as children, but never discussed. Kitty's father was a prominent public figure, and she was pushed into acting/auditioning as a child to help with her shyness. She also talks about some of the barriers she experienced with non-Highly Sensitive Therapists, and her desire to please. Kitty also talks about the challenges she experienced in groups (including therapy groups) being an introvert until she took the Online HSP Course. BIO Kitty McCormick is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Los Angeles, who has avidly worked with children and families for over 20 years. She received her Masters in Social Work from the University of Southern California, with a concentration in mental health practice with individuals, families, and groups. She has extensive experience in the Los Angeles Unified School District where she worked with at-risk children, adolescents, and young adults. In that setting, she also regularly collaborated with Child Protective Services, the County of Los Angeles Probation Department (Juvenile Services), and numerous community service agencies throughout L.A. County to assist and support clients as needed. In 2017, Kitty shifted from doing social work in public school settings to doing psychotherapy in therapeutic schools with children who have greater emotional needs. It was at that point in her career where she began private practice in the community mental health arena, which offers affordable counseling services. This year she began her own private practice. Some of Kitty's hobbies include yoga, weekend getaways, walking in nature, being around animals, and spending quality time with her husband. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Free Drawing for Online HSP Course Beginning the week of January 12, 2020 EPISODE OVERVIEW If you'd like to enter to win free registration for the Online HSP Course that begins the week of January 12, 2020, please listen to this episode (there are 4 groups that will be starting). If you're interested in taking the Course, but have financial considerations, please reach out to me at unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com. I'm happy to work with you if I can. There's a money back guarantee for the Course because I believe in what I'm offering. You can get more information at https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ PODCAST HOST Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Poll results—If You Could NOT Be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), Would You? Questions to Ask Yourself GUEST Solo Episode EPISODE OVERVIEW If you could NOT be an HSP, would you? I share the results of a poll that 93 HSPs responded to including the pros and cons given. Two major things happened on Christmas Eve before 9 a.m. at my home. Ways to evaluate how your holidays went, and how to create what you might want for the following year. Questions to ask yourself to help you set goals for the New Year, and my wishes for you for the next year. HIGHLIGHTS If you could NOT be an HSP, would you 93 responses Yes—20% (less than ½ were men)—related to autoimmune disorders, pain Maybe—5% No—75% Those that WOULD change and no longer be an HSP Happier, more confident in my own skin. I'm lonely and unsuccessful Misunderstood Barely surviving life Can't go on like this Sick of this Not fitting in Exhausting Those that WOULDN'T change, and remain being an HSP Work on themselves and as they learned about themselves they accepted who they are Natural leader More in tune with others' needs Have a greater appreciation for beauty, nature, poetry, music, art Even though have lower lows, they have greater depth of happiness The more I learn about myself, the happier I am Being an HSP isn't the issue; it's an issue with our society I'm more confident in who I am. I don't let societal norms affect me I don't want to numb my compassion I like the quirkiness that makes me I might want my sensory sensitivity removed, but keep the emotional depth It helps me be creative, artistic and introspective HSPs are shamans and healers (therapists, massage therapist, teachers) Would be boring—I wouldn't have insight and I wouldn't care I'm strong and resilient 31 Questions to ask yourself before setting next year's goals What are the first thoughts that come to mind about the past year? Mostly positive, negative, or neutral? What was one of the most interesting things I learned this year? Who was one person I met that I'd like to get to know better? Why? What was one of my most challenging moments? Why? What was one of my favorite accomplishments? What was one personal strength I used this year? How did it benefit my work or life? What hurdle came up more than once? (time, money, attitude, location, knowledge, etc.) How well did I communicate with the people who matter most to me? What three events or accomplishments were made possible by the help of others? What advice would I offer someone else on the basis of a lesson I learned this year? What are three problems that came up at work? How did I approach solving those problems? Are there any trends in those problems or solutions? Who needed my encouragement this year? What did I say or do to help them along? If I were writing a memoir, what would I highlight in the chapter about this year? What was I doing when I forgot about time and was able to be "in the moment"? What frustration seemed to come up again and again? What did I start and not finish? What did I try and fail? What three things am I curious to know more about? If I could wave a magic wand and master one skill, what would it be? Why? Who is one person I could help right now? How? What would it "cost" me? What would I gain? When did I slow someone else's progress? Why? What was I worried about? What's one thing I made or created from scratch? How did that feel? What's one thing I did that left me exhausted at the end? How did that feel? What's one thing I was a part of this year that I'll remember for the rest of my life? Why? What was the nicest thing someone did for me this year? What was the nicest thing I did for someone else this year? If I could change one thing that happened this year, what would it be? What felt difficult one year ago that now feels easy (or easier)? Of the books I read this year, which was my favorite? How did I capture my thoughts and feelings? (journaling, writing, social media sharing, talking one-on-one with friends or family, etc.) Was that method helpful? What are six adjectives that best describe this year? What would I like those adjectives to be next year? My wishes for you for 2020— If you're not familiar, Become more familiar with the trait Practice radical self-compassion Play, connection, a creative outlet, a way that you express yourself a few deep, meaningful relationships where you feel seen, heard and honored a lifestyle that really honors your HS needs abundance—time, laughter, money, acceptance, relationships joyful movement of your body curiosity and the love of learning love for yourself and others PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS 31 Questions to ask yourself before setting next year's goals--https://www.inc.com/robin-camarote/31-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-setting-next-years-goals.html Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To enter for a free drawing for the Online HSP Course— HSP Online Course Send an e-mail to unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com I will send a short screening form, and the HSP group intake Sunday January 12 I will draw a name and send the winner an e-mail You MUST indicate which of the 4 groups you want to join (you can find the groups at https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com