Unapologetically Sensitive

TITLE Is What I’m Experiencing Right Now Normal? GUEST Laura Reagan, LCSW-C EPISODE OVERVIEW We’re all going through something traumatic; This doesn’t mean we are all traumatized.  Laura Reagan, host of Therapy Chat Podcast, and a trauma therapist, talks about our innate threat response system; what it looks like, and what types of movement can be helpful based on our trauma response.  We talk about attachment ruptures, wanting to feel safe, messages we may have received about our bodies, and self-compassion.  Laura talks about indicators to assess if we need to seek help. HIGHLIGHTS We are all going through something traumatic That doesn’t mean we’re all traumatized Humans are animals, and we have an innate threat response system Fight Flight Freeze Submit Attach Cry If we’re feeling angry, we’re probably in fight If we want to escape, we’re probably in flight If we’re experiencing agitation, anxiety, feeling stuck, we’re probably in freeze If we’re pushing through and carrying on, we’re in submit If we are wanting help, then we may be in attach cry We may be wanting to numb by using substances, the internet, comfort eating Some people who have recovered from eating disorders, or other disorders may be concerned that they are relapsing due to shifts in behaviors If we’ve gained weight, we need to have self-compassion. We may be worrying about having a new problem if we’ve gained extra weight Our moods may be up and down, calm, accepting, freaking out, jumping out of our skin, sadness, loss, irritability, lack of focus, lethargy We may feel a need to compare our situation to others, which can negate our experience We may be missing our connection with friends, family members, parents Those people who have loved ones in hospitals, care facilities, nursing homes, may be experiencing loss and grief since they can’t visit them We may be experiencing attachment ruptures Our attachment narrative may come up We want to feel that we’re going to be safe We can do that for each other We can allow conversations about how we’re really doing Loving and gentle movement is really important If we’re stuck/frozen, we may need to curl up with a cozy blanket and cocoon for now. When we’re ready, we can do stretching, or exercises that are low to the ground If we’re agitated, anxious, irritable, we can do jumping jacks, kick boxing, jump rope, running Dancing is a great way to calm the body We may be experiencing more self-criticism—sometimes this is how we distract from the pain Many of us got the message that our bodies are right, and that they need to be different We may use food if we have attachment injuries Self-compassion is SO important Carl Rogers said, “The curious paradox is that, when I accept myself as I am, then I can change.” You might have a trauma history and not be aware of it Having a mother who was depressed Witnessing domestic violence, pushing, shoving, hitting You might be having a hard time coping now because past trauma is being activated Unresolved grief may be activated There are many support groups for grief, eating disorders, substance abuse, partial hospitalization programs, therapy, coaching Indicators you may want to seek help Difficulty with sleep—falling asleep, staying asleep, nightmares If you have an eating disorder, old behaviors may start surfacing If you have a history of substance abuse—having the urge to use again. There are online 12-step programs Depressive symptoms feeling sad, and not being able to shake it off not getting out of bed for a few days can’t work not able to engage in your primary relationships with your partner or children feeling suicidal—call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-8255 You may need help short-term to help with functioning If you feel like you shouldn’t ask for help, or you shouldn’t need help Often trauma hits after the traumatic experience is over PTSD—recurrent depression, depressing thoughts, intrusive thoughts, dreams The sooner you address PTSD, the better the outcome GUEST BIO Laura Reagan, LCSW-C is an integrative trauma therapist and owner of the Baltimore Annapolis Center for Integrative Healing in Severna Park, Maryland. She uses mindfulness, expressive arts and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy in her work with adults who have experienced childhood trauma. She offers clinical supervision in Maryland and clinical consultation online and in person. Her practice website is: https://bahealing.com. Laura is also the host of Therapy Chat podcast, which focuses on trauma, attachment, relationships, self compassion, perfectionism, mindfulness and complementary and alternative approaches to psychotherapy. Therapy Chat can be heard anywhere podcasts are found and at https://therapychatpodcast.com. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Laura’s links Twitter--https://twitter.com/lauralcswc Twitter----https://twiter.com/therapychatpod Instagram: @lauralcswc and @therapychatpod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauralcswc/ Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/TherapyChatPod/ Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Traumatherapyconsulting/ Heather Tuba Trauma Informed Support for Parnters of Survivors--https://heathertuba.com/ Kristen Neff--https://self-compassion.org/ Patricia’s links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

TITLE Flourishing As A Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) During Times of Stress GUEST  Alane Freund, MS, MA, LMFT EPISODE OVERVIEW  During times of stress, the Highly Sensitive Person can fare better than the other 80% when we cultivate environments that help us flourish, as well as being mindful about what we consume. Overstimulation can look like anxiety, and HSPs can be misdiagnosed with anxiety & depression. Alane talks about optimal levels of stimulation, and she believes that prevention for anxiety is the key. She shares what she does to prevent anxiety.  Alane also provides more than 15 resources for HSPs. HIGHLIGHTS For teens and men, we can refer to being an HSP as having a finely tuned nervous system or having a highly reactive brain There are 1.6 Billion Highly Sensitive People Anxiety comes from overstimulation The #1 treatment for anxiety is prevention We need to learn what brings on anxiety We want to find our optimal level of arousal Research studies show that Rhesus monkeys who had higher reactive brains did better when assigned to a Rhesus monkey who was a skilled mother.  These monkeys became leaders. The reactive baby monkeys who were assigned to less skilled mothers had higher incidences of sickness and injury Highly Sensitive Children who encounter stressors (marital conflict, shame, etc.) have higher incidences of illness and injury For those 80% of children who don’t have the trait, andare exposed to stress, most had a flat line meaning they were almost not impacted by stressors at all When a Highly Sensitive Child (HSC) has a parent or caregiver who assists the child in managing stressors, those HSCs have better outcomes and are much less likely to have problems compared to children without the trait exposed to the same stressors Those HSCs that have many stressors (or high stress) in their environments are more likely to experience illness or injuries, including adult anxiety or depression. However, HSPs and HSCs are more responsive to intervention and treatment than the 80% who are not sensitive Many HSCs tend to be more articulate, have a keen sense of humor, they get along well with adults (mini-adults) They can also be late bloomers, and slow developers due to DOES DOES—4 Core Characteristics Dr. Elaine Aron Identified D—depth of processing O—Overarousal or Overstimulation E—Emotional Responsiveness/Empathy S—Sensitive to Subtle Stimuli It’s not uncommon for HSPs to be diagnosed with depression & anxiety.  To the outside observer, what is depth of processing and being thoughtful or becoming overaroused may be misinterpreted as depression and/or anxiety Children need an adult who gets them and understands them (not a parent) Every little bit of good stuff we got in childhood, we use moving forward During challenging times, HSPs fare better. We process and we know what’s needed We need to help young girls feel better about themselves We provide emotional leadership in our families and communities.  Our species needs this to thrive We need to find ways to discharge what we are processing Journaling can be very helpful Extroverts may choose to process verbally Overstimulation looks like anxiety, which can become a habit.  On the continuum is stress on one end and panic attacks on the other end What can we do to prevent the climb up the scale Prevention for anxiety is the key Who knows what it is for you—you know the truth; you see the truth Suggestions: Meditate 2x/day Meditation is not optional for HSPs We need to revisit spirituality Exercise (until you sweat) daily Take a sip of water every 15-20 minutes Close your eyes to reduce overstimulation and to reset (80% of stimulation comes in visually) Boredom is understimulation—you need to do something to alleviate the boredom It’s important to find the optimal level of stimulation (not over or under stimulation)—good luck with this one! Alane says to call her if you need help figuring this out. If you think you’re an HSP and take the adult version of the test, but don’t score in the range, take the child’s version of the test and think back to when you were a child and what you remember hearing about yourself When it’s hard; it’s hard--lean into the hard and let it be until you can remember to do self-care We need to read, especially fiction with a  good plot as another way to rest our minds Alane suggests audiobooks because they can be soothing without getting overstimulated.  A few of her suggestions are listed under resources HSPs do best when they participate in good therapy or coaching Our planet is healing with this pandemic Opposite Reframe: The world is upside down right now, so “What is right side up?” The importance of breath Bellows breath Pranyama Breathing/Alternate nostril breathing Practice doing a hard style plank where you tense your core for 5-10 seconds, which can interrupt anxiety (and you can do this sitting in your chair or standing as well) Practice a Loving Kindness Meditation When we pray or meditate for others it eases our anxiety HSPs can find it difficult to pray for or focus on ourselves, so start with loving kindness for others. Our empathy makes this easier. Codependency is NOT the same as empathy We can have loving detachment and care for others Your caring for others does not have to be at the risk or detriment of caring for yourself It’s important that we take care of ourselves—we are the vessel We are the emotional leaders We need to protect the sensitive children We can stop others from shaming them for having feelings; they are the ones who will change the world GUEST BIO Alane Freund, MS, MA, LMFT, (Lic. #36077) has helped adults, youth, and families focus on solutions through psychotherapy and consultation over three decades in the mental health field. An International Consultant on High Sensitivity (ICHS) working closely with Dr. Elaine Aron, Ms. Freund has developed and implemented programs for highly sensitive people, children, families, and clinicians who serve them. She also holds Masters’ degrees in clinical psychology and school counseling. Ms. Freund specializes in family therapy and education with and about highly sensitive people and LGBTQ+ families. A skilled facilitator and therapist, an HSP herself, and the parent of a highly sensitive young adult, she teaches workshops, offers consultation, has a twice monthly Are You Highly Sensitive LIVE Q&A webinar, and leads groups and retreats, including the HSPs & Horses™ retreats at Heart and Mind Equine in Northern California with Elaine Aron, PhD (CEs offered). Ms. Freund is an instructor at retreat centers, Kripalu in Massachusetts and 1440 Multiversity in California, as well as teaching at the California Institute for Psychotherapy and the California Institute of Integral Studies in California. She can be reached for consultation or referrals through her website, alanefreund.com. PODCAST HOST Patricia knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller, and black sheep.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, and creating a lifestyle that honors us  LINKS Alane’s Links This is a live (on Zoom) panel I led with some other members of the International Consultants on High Sensitivity (Elaine Aron's hand-selected and trained consultants.) There are even more videos, so you can subscribe to Alane Freund LMFT on You Tube to see more. Are You Highly Sensitive LIVE…a twice a month live webinar for Q&A with highly sensitive people and parents raising highly sensitive children. For every webinar, members get to ask questions (ahead of time or live), and I do my best to answer them! We are building a really lovely community at areyouhighlysensitive.com. Listeners of the podcast will get 50% off their first month if you type in the discount code: OFFERUS Website for therapy, speaking, consultation: alanefreund.com Facebook Alane Freund Alane Freund LMFT Understanding the Highly Sensitive Child and Teen Heart and Mind Equine I am an admin of Elaine Aron and High Sensitivity Facebook group which I invite you all to join. I recommend you say “referred by Alane Freund in the questions to join so you are accepted more readily. Instagram @alanefreundlmft Bellows breath-- https://chopra.com/articles/how-and-why-to-perform-bhastrika-breath 10 minute Yoga with Adrienne-- https://www.google.com/search?q=10+minute+yoga+with+adrienne&rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS843US843&oq=10+minute+yoga+with+adrienne&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l5.6818j0j9&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8 Sun Salutation Yoga with Adrienne--https://www.google.com/search?q=yoga+with+adrienne+sun+salutation&rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS843US843&oq=yoga+with+adrienne+sun+salutation&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l4.4621j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8 Pranyama Breathing-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=395ZloN4Rr8 Hard Style Plank Tense Core-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4jTOit8PkVY Loving Kindness Meditation-- https://self-compassion.org/guided-self-compassion-meditations-mp3-2/ Movie—Sensitive: The Untold Story Dr. Elaine Aron’s website--https://hsperson.com/ Pema Chodrin-- https://pemachodronfoundation.org/product-category/products/ Linda Graham—Bouncing Back-- https://lindagraham-mft.net/ Eve Decker Blog—Loving Kindness https://evedecker.com/lovingkindness/ Ted Zeff—Strong Sensitive Boy http://drtedzeff.com/ Chief Inspector Gamache Louise Penny Series-- https://www.gamacheseries.com/about/ Harry Potter series-- https://www.wizardingworld.com/discover/books Outlander—series http://www.dianagabaldon.com/books/outlander-series/   Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes:  click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2  select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for Therapists and Healers--https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

TITLE Our Need For Comfort & Support GUEST Solo episode EPISODE OVERVIEW Many of us are craving comfort, security and a sense of connection.  During uncertain times (like COVID-19), I’m seeing themes emerging, and many people are wanting a sense of normalcy and a return to the familiar.  I’m hearing about stress in relationships, and people may not be showing up for us the way we want them to, or how they did pre-COVID.  I talk about a number of ways we can create nurturing for ourselves.  HIGHLIGHTS During COVID-19 we may be experiencing Increased irritability Increased restlessness Comparative suffering (from Brene Brown) Increased self-criticism Increased negative self-talk Feeling that whatever we do is not enough Having a day where we don’t function well (or at all) Decreased patience for technical problems Not getting enough time to rest and recharge Our need (desire) for unconditional love Attachment wounds may be surfacting We may be experiencing grief and loss We want normalcy and routines that we experienced pre-COVID We may be experiencing more hyper vigilance We may be having to make hard decisions and setting hard boundaries Things we can do for self care Loving moving/joyful movement Finding routine and structure Being mindful about what we are consuming (media, who we follow) Connection and support from people who understand us Creativity—crafts, love notes, puzzles Time outdoors Time with pets Everyone gets to decide what works for them PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us   LINKS HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

TITLE Being Real and Normalizing Our Human Experience GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC EPISODE OVERVIEW What if we believed that we don’t always have to have our stuff together? The more real we can be, the more it allows others to be real. We need to normalize suffering, so we don’t think something is wrong when we are not constantly feeling exuberant.  We can accept that wounding happens. Misunderstandings and miscommunications are part of the human experience.  How do we embrace our feelings and not be wrong?  HIGHLIGHTS I want to break the shame and normalize having deep feelings I want to change the narrative around what may be labeled as unacceptable feelings We as therapists, often have shame that we have human experiences because we’re supposed to be “past” that Human life is a struggle If we’re wobbling, we freak out The more real we can be as therapists and healers, the more it benefits our clients We want to be mindful and intentional about self-disclosure in that it benefits the clients, and it’s not to meet our own needs We can do reality checks with clients if we self-disclose to see if it’s helpful How do we embrace our feelings and not be wrong? We need to accept that wounding happens We need to normalize suffering We want to ameliorate the suffering and know that wounding happens Sometimes we can over identify with the wound or live from the wound Misunderstanding and miscommunications are part of the human experience Good enough parenting—we just need to show up 30% of the time The Goddess of Never Not Broken She knows that she recreates herself every day She doesn’t have this expectation that she has it all together We don’t want to live our lives as nouns—in a constant state We want to live our lives as verbs, which is constantly changing We will bound back between the 2 states and accept the wounding PARTS Work or Internal Family Systems with Richard Schwartz We have a relationship with that part of you A part can despair We want to be self-led—which is soul, substance, clear and calm, compassionate When we get triggered or activated, a part takes over A part of the person is buying into that narrative of wounding How do you feel about the part? I feel bad for this part We can act from that part Being in it We can speak for that part A part of me feels…a part of me wants to … Healing comes from being in relationship with others who are doing their work There is power in being seen and heard and having someone who can hold space for us We often don’t know what’s possible if we haven’t experienced healthy relationships, so we recreate relationships that don’t work because we’re trying to work out something from the past GUEST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Jen’s links Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com 215-292-5056 Heartfulnessconsulting.com Facebook.com/Heartfulnessconsulting Richard Schwartz Internal Family Systems-- https://ifs-institute.com/about-us/richard-c-schwartz-phd Susan David Ted Talk The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage--https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_david_the_gift_and_power_of_emotional_courage/transcript?language=en   Patricia’s links Meetup--https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/268428586/ HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

TITLE Yin Yoga Meditation GUEST Julie Quinn EPISODE OVERVIEW This is the meditation Julie Quinn did in episode 66.  This is just the meditation.  GUEST BIO Julie Quinn discovered Yoga in 1999 and explored several different styles, such as Bikram, Hatha, Anusara, Acro, Ashtanga, and Vinyasa, completing over seven unique teacher trainings, including a 200 hour certification with YogaWorks. Currently, she teaches yoga at MOSAIC in Golden Hill, Ginseng in South Park, and Fit Athletic in the East Village in San Diego, CA. Julie's classes range from Restorative to Yin to challenging Vinyasa flow or Beginning yoga with a focus on alignment and connection. Julie is passionate about sharing a creative yoga practice that is enjoyable and accessible for all people, beginners and advanced practitioners alike. Her approach is to encourage others to find their connection. Aligning the students with asana, pranayama, meditation, insights, aromatherapy, and energy work.   Special events, lectures, and retreats are also offered periodically. Julie is a certified Yoga Teacher, Aromatherapist, and Herbalist. As the owner of Quinntessentials Organic Essential Oil Products, she blends her diverse interests and expertise to create a healing experience for all who join her on the mat. Julie grew up in Nebraska and trained early in life to be a dancer, later earning a BA in Dance from Columbia College Chicago. She has always been drawn to herbs, essential oils, and alternative healing, which lead her to study Herbology while dancing in Chicago and working at spas and wellness centers. She spent years learning all about the healing arts, nutrition, herbology, and aromatherapy while working closely with many inspiring teachers. She started to create her own products once she understood the need for chemical free and essential oil rich ingredients in the things we use everyday. Follow @quinntessentialsproducts for more information on her business and @Quinnsights on instagram for her yoga and retreat offerings or visit her websites:  PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Julie’s Links www.Quinntesssentialsproducts.com Use code HSP to get 15% off of Julie’s products (this is an affiliate link) www.yogaretreatwithus.com Bastyr University Clinic-- https://bastyrclinic.org/   Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

TITLE Yin Yoga, and How I Healed My Autoimmune Disease GUEST Julie Quinn EPISODE OVERVIEW Julie Quinn talks about Yin Yoga, and the benefits for the Highly Sensitive Person. She talks about the vagus nerve; the importance of the parasympathetic nervous system; why rest & digest is important, and the possible symptoms of constantly being in a state of fight or flight.  Julie shares her journey with autoimmune disease, and how she used food to heal. Julie provides a guided meditation. Julie has a special offer for the listeners if you’re interested in her organic essential oil products. HIGHLIGHTS What is Yin Yoga Long held deep stretches Works with connective tissue (fascia) Works with what we’re holding onto emotionally in the body Each stretch is a supported stretch Stretch lasts 3-10 minutes Is uses breath and relaxation It’s about sensation and softening What is Restorative Yoga It’s not a stretch; it’s relaxing It’s beneficial for people who want to get their health back Vagus Nerve Sends messages to the brain to help with safety and regulation The actual nerve goes from the brain stem through the medulla, to the trachea, esophagus, into the heart, lungs, and diaphragm Rest and Digest Healing the nervous system Use of breath, body, nervous system and the mind Uses the parasympathetic system It’s the opposite of fight, flight or freeze (and fawn?) Heart rate decreases Cortisol levels decrease Adrenalin decreases We can train ourselves to be in rest and digest Fight, flight, freeze (fawn?) When we’ve had trauma, we go into fight flight, freeze We are overstimulated with phones, distractions We need adrenalin for survival, but we don’t want to be in this state all the time We may have a racing heart, breathing too fast, digestion can’t happen properly Symptoms Extra weight—especially around the belly/middle Not digesting food Digestive issues Adrenal fatigue Thyroid issues Overall fatigue Autoimmune issues We want to be in an optimal thriving state Harmonious state We’re able to connect to our higher mind (center, wellness, higher self) Gut/brain connection Serotonin is created in the gut Gut issues can cause depression, anxiety, inflammation, brain fog, bad breath, acne, psoriasis, body odor, cracks in the mouth, sores in the mouth, irritability, grogginess, brain fog, sleep issues Nighshades can cause issues with some people Tomatoes, bell peppers, goji berries, eggplant, white potatoes It can help to eat foods that are found in Blue Zones (sweet potatoes) Redheads require more anesthesia, and it can take longer to numb with local anesthesia Quinntessentials are organic essential oil products Julie creates and sells Get 15% off all Quinntessentials at Julie’s website www.Quinntesssentialsproducts.com with the code HSP GUEST BIO Julie Quinn discovered Yoga in 1999 and explored several different styles, such as Bikram, Hatha, Anusara, Acro, Ashtanga, and Vinyasa, completing over seven unique teacher trainings, including a 200 hour certification with YogaWorks. Currently, she teaches yoga at MOSAIC in Golden Hill, Ginseng in South Park, and Fit Athletic in the East Village in San Diego, CA. Julie's classes range from Restorative to Yin to challenging Vinyasa flow or Beginning yoga with a focus on alignment and connection. Julie is passionate about sharing a creative yoga practice that is enjoyable and accessible for all people, beginners and advanced practitioners alike. Her approach is to encourage others to find their connection. Aligning the students with asana, pranayama, meditation, insights, aromatherapy, and energy work.   Special events, lectures, and retreats are also offered periodically. Julie is a certified Yoga Teacher, Aromatherapist, and Herbalist. As the owner of Quinntessentials Organic Essential Oil Products, she blends her diverse interests and expertise to create a healing experience for all who join her on the mat. Julie grew up in Nebraska and trained early in life to be a dancer, later earning a BA in Dance from Columbia College Chicago. She has always been drawn to herbs, essential oils, and alternative healing, which lead her to study Herbology while dancing in Chicago and working at spas and wellness centers. She spent years learning all about the healing arts, nutrition, herbology, and aromatherapy while working closely with many inspiring teachers. She started to create her own products once she understood the need for chemical free and essential oil rich ingredients in the things we use everyday. Follow @quinntessentialsproducts for more information on her business and @Quinnsights on instagram for her yoga and retreat offerings or visit her websites:  PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Julie’s Links www.Quinntesssentialsproducts.com Use code HSP to get 15% off of Julie’s products (this is an affiliate link) www.yogaretreatwithus.com Bastyr University Clinic-- https://bastyrclinic.org/ Dr. Gundry Dr. Daniel Amen Dr. Mark Hyman Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online Meetup for May 2, 2020 with Julie for Yin Yoga--https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/270142201/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Where You're At Right Now Is Perfect! Even If It Doesn't Feel Like It!   GUEST Solo episode   EPISODE OVERVIEW We are all doing the best we can right now.  There is no wrong way to experience this global pandemic, and whatever we are feeling or experiencing is ok.  What will it take for us to allow ourselves to accept all the ways we are experiencing this time.   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A PARAGON OF PRODUCTIVITY DURING A PANDEMIC! Jeff Brown--https://www.facebook.com/SOULSHAPING/videos/835174990310620/UzpfSTEwMjM2MjUyMDY6MTAyMjAyMzg5MDA4NTU3MTk/   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers—Unapologetically Sensitive Therapist’s Group-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Should I Tell Others That I’m a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? GUEST Arianna Smith, LPC, EMDR EPISODE OVERVIEW Arianna talks about the grief and joy she felt when she learned she was an HSP (she wanted to be told she wasn’t one).  She talks about being strategic about her day and using pacing in order to honor her HS needs. We talk about using food/substances to self-soothe and to manage being sensitive. Arianna talks about her hacks for travel as well as having snacks on hand, so she doesn’t get hangry. We explore if we feel pain (sadness) as a result of having HS gifts, but not being able to express those gifts.  HIGHLIGHTS Misconceptions and misperceptions that happen with HSPs What happens when HSPs are not in our optimal environment The joy and grief that can happen when we learn about being an HSP How to be strategic in the workplace, or in day-to-day activities How to be mindful of pacing when going through the day Arianna talks about hating feeling like she was flaky, but she later learned it’s more about knowing her capacity as a highly sensitive extrovert and high sensation seeker Arianna talks about being in a work environment that didn’t work for her, and needing to advocate for her needs We sometimes experience grief and sadness about our limitations and what we need to do in order to function optimally Arianna said she experienced grief, bargaining, frustration, and finally acceptance When there are big transitions in our lives, we often need to ground into the trait and be strategic in what we do in order to support our HS needs Arianna gives tips for travelling as an HSP, and what she does to make it easier We talk about being hangry and being an HSP Keeping snacks on us can be really helpful Our ability to compartmentalize can be used as a strength when we need to push through things in a way that doesn’t violate our needs Do we experience pain as HSPs when we have gifts that we don’t get to express? In order to thrive as HSPs, we need to find community and someone who really gets us Being called worst case scenario Ari was really a compliment about projecting possible outcomes, strategic planning, depth of processing and forecasting what preventions need to be put in place GUEST BIO Arianna Smith, LPC (she/her) is a therapist and business coach for Highly Sensitive People. Raised in rural Alaska, Arianna learned early on the beauty and challenges of being highly sensitive. Today, she guides HSPs to release the stigma of being sensitive to craft a vibrant, soulful life and business. Based in Denver, Colorado, she provides trauma-informed psychotherapy to HSPs and the LGBTQ community, while offering business coaching and writing services to sensitive entrepreneurs across the globe.  Outside of the office, she can be found exploring trails with her puppy or searching for the perfect Earl Grey blend.   PODCAST HOST Patricia knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and blacksheep.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Ariana’s Links Therapy: Quiet Moon Counseling www.quietmooncounseling.com FB: https://www.facebook.com/quietmooncounseling/ Biz Coaching/Writing: Coaching With Ari www.sensitiveempowerment.com FB: https://www.facebook.com/sensitiveempowermentllc/ Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for Therapists and Healers--https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

TITLE High Sensation Seeking & The Highly Sensitive Person—You May Be Surprised! GUEST Tracy Cooper, Ph.D. EPISODE OVERVIEW Author, Tracy Cooper, Ph.D defines how High Sensation Seeking (HSS) shows up in the Highly Sensitive Person, and the 4 core aspects of Sensation Seeking. Dr. Cooper talks about ADHD vs. HSS, and the role dopamine plays in sensation seeking. We talk about being in flow, and the relationship between anxiety, depression. Dr. Cooper says HSPs are wired for creativity (so are sensation seekers). We explore how HSPs are impacted by social media. Dr. Cooper talks about what we can do when we’re overactivated, and how boundaries can help the HSP. HIGHLIGHTS In the 1960’s Marvin Zuckerman was doing research on sensory deprivation using deprivation tanks Those people that became restless fairly quickly and were thought to need stimulation, leading Zuckerman and his colleagues to develop Sensation Seeking as a personality trait. 30% of Highly Sensitive People are High Sensation Seekers (HSS) It is presumed that of that 30 % of HSS/HSPs, 30% are extroverts and 70% are introverts The 4 core aspects of Sensation Seeking are 1. Thrill and adventure seeking—bungee jumping, parachuting, adrenaline rush type activities. It can also mean driving fast, exciting TV shows, anything that provides a physical rush. Most HSPs are not this type 2. Experience and novelty seeking—travelling, foodies, reading new books. They are not satisfied with ordinary things and will seek out unusual or different experiences for the sake of having them. Boredom susceptibility—want stimulation, boredom can be physically painful, and boredom is their worst enemy, their capacities are begging to be engaged 4. Disinhibition—willingness to exceed normal bounds of behavior for the thrill of having an experience.  They may not be concerned with legal, financial, relational or personal repercussions, which can lead to disastrous results. Can experiment with drugs, sexual behavior, parties, may go before the light turns green or doesn’t stop fully at stop signs.  May exceed speed limits or tailgate, use cars and driving to seek thrills. Sensation seeking is a general trait that is seen in the larger population Any extreme expression of a trait is never a good thing. The moderate to moderate-high expression is where the advantages are realized. You can imagine a bell-shaped curve for the expression of sensation seeking where the majority will fall in the middle, comparatively fewer at the extreme on both ends. There is a crossover in HSPs between novelty & new experiences and boredom susceptibility, but you don’t typically see a crossover with thrill & adventure and disinhibition because Sensory Processing Sensitivity is about pausing think first before doing. All humans are sensation seeking to some degree.  Men more than women. Experience and novelty seeking can be a powerful drive We get a “hit” of dopamine (a neurotransmitter involved in the brain’s pleasure pathway) when we engage in sensation seeking.  This feel-good rush entices us to do more to get another rush. There is a tension between the HSP and the HSS.  If the HSS wins out it can lead to burn out for the HSP quite easily.  One must learn to balance the two traits by understanding the giftedness inherent in both traits. ADHD vs. HSS They share some components The HSS focuses on stimulation.  Once they get the stimulation, they can still focus The ADHD brain can’t get the stimulation it needs (when it gets even a small amount it wants more until it is overloaded) If the person doesn’t get stimulation they don’t function as well, or they don’t function and isolate (like playing video games to excess) HSPs and HSS/HSPs may seek stimulation through other people We absorb energy from other people and through social interactions, and we get a dopamine hit from the interaction if it is positive. When the HSS side rules out, it takes the HSP along for the ride, which can leave the HSP exhausted afterward When we block things out (HSS side), we can become less patient, less sensitive and less empathetic We don’t want to lose the HSP trait because we want to maintain the traits of patience, sensitivity and empathy It’s about learning to balance our HSP and HSS parts We can get addicted to sensation seeking if we are not aware of this risk. Boredom susceptibility—we have to do things to stay in our optimal range of arousal since that is the preference When are we in entropy, depression, and anxiety This is a natural state, according to psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, when we’re NOT in flow We spend too much time in our heads, and our capacities are begging to be engaged It’s important to break out of our rut by getting in touch with our curiosity and sense of wonder We may need to push ourselves to do new things Our natural tendency as HSPs is to be positive and open but cautious You can get a friend to go with you or meet you if it’s challenging to try new things You can remind yourself that if you try something new, you can always leave if you don’t like it Analysis/paralysis—if we had a bad experience or got overstimulated, and we have an opportunity to engage in a similar activity, we decline based on past experience due to overthinking. If we do this repeatedly, we can get stuck in a rut, and our world can become too small We can use mindfulness when this happens We can know that we can only experience 1 moment at a time and be open to each new moment Flow state—our skills are matched to the task, and we are fully engaged and absorbed in that state (we don’t experience anxiety or depression) If the task is too hard, we experience anxiety; if the task is not challenging enough, we experience boredom Being in flow is the best play experience HSPs are wired for creativity We traditionally thing of creativity in terms of an artistic end-product HSPs are naturally predisposed to creativity and creative thinking HSPs engage in creative thinking naturally but need to build their ability to think rationally and critically to complement creative thinking, they are synergistic and interdependent. HSPs noticed more things when shown visual scenes—they were more empathetic, and showed a broader emotional range, psychologically androgynous. Boundaries HSPs can set boundaries that limit overstimulation HSPs can practice anticipating what they will do if a boundary is crossed When we’re overstimulated/overactivated Enforcing boundaries is most important We need to know where the boundary is—often we find the boundary only when we hit a limit If you’re overstimulated (aversive state) Withdraw—take time away Allow your body to relax, dispel the pent-up energy Use self-compassion and be kind to yourself Reframe—that wasn’t so bad; it was temporary; I recovered Social media/electronics/boredom and addiction HSSs seek stimulation through people as much as through external sources With electronics we tend to gravitate to people like us (confirmation bias—values/people similar to you), ignore information that disagrees with current beliefs. Technology can be an addiction We do better when we’re outside, moving around, and being sedentary and indoors can be highly detrimental to HSPs Anxiety isn’t always a negative—it asks you to think about what you’re doing. Anxiety will usually dissipate once you are engaged We’ve got to learn to develop self-care practices If you struggle with overthinking Take a class that uses your hands/body/mind Learn when to put the brakes on thinking Allow a specific amount of time (15 minutes a day) to worry/think       Getting outside, taking a walk, time in nature, or talking it over with a trusted friend are all ways to shift out of overthinking   QUOTES  Any extreme expression of a trait is never a good thing.  The moderate to moderate-high expression is where the potential of the trait is realized best.  All humans are sensation seeking to some degree  Novelty is a powerful drive  We prefer to do things that keep us in our optimal range of arousal  We spend too much time in our heads, and our capacities are begging to be engaged  HSPs and HSS/HSPs are wired for creativity GUEST BIO Tracy Cooper, Ph.D. is an expert in the areas of highly sensitive people and career, the high sensation seeking highly sensitive person, the highly sensitive man, and highly sensitive people and creativity. He has written two books, Thrive: The Highly Sensitive Person and Career and Thrill: The High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person. His forthcoming book is titled Empowering the Sensitive Male Soul. Dr. Cooper appeared in the 2015 documentary film, Sensitive-The Untold Story. He is the Department Chairman for Baker University’s Master of Liberal Arts program and a faculty member. Dr. Cooper regularly works with individuals in career crisis and transition, as well as corporations interested in diversity and inclusion initiatives for HSPs, innovation and HSS/HSPs, and frequently speaks on subjects related to sensory processing sensitivity and sensation seeking. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).  LINKS Dr. Tracy Cooper’s links drtracycooper.wordpress.com @tracycooperphd (FaceBook) @sensitivemalesoul (FaceBook) tracycooperphd (LinkedIn) tracycooperphd (Instagram) Flow by Mihaly Cziksventmihalyi Man’s Search for Meaning  by Viktor Frankl Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

TITLE What We May Be Experiencing Right Now That We Can’t Explain Or Put Words To GUEST Solo episode EPISODE OVERVIEW Having words to express (or understand) what we’re experiencing is powerful.  We are in uncharted territory right now, and as I’m deeply processing what I’m experiencing, I’m wanting to share not only the personal insights I’m having, but what I’m hearing other HSPs talk about.  This is to give us a way to understand why we may be having vague, ambiguous feelings that we don’t understand.  HIGHLIGHTS What we may be experiencing right now that we can’t explain or put words to Talked about feeling surreal—like when someone dies Not where you used to be, not where you’re going Rationally trying to explain that there is no death Minimizing Denying Common for HSPs Saw an article about experiencing grief right now—didn’t read it Resonated with me Magic wand and could erase all COVID-19 moving forward and the economy and jobs resumes as they were, we would STILL BE AFFECTED! THIS HAS CHANGED US, AND IS CHANGING US We are experiencing all kinds of loss Ambiguous loss, anticipated loss—less tangible, but oh so real! Routine, structure, schedules Time alone when we drive to work, drop the kids off Job Security Clients Furloughed Healthcare worker—working harder without PPE—more stress Loss/change in income Retirement, kids in college on 529 plan Kids at home, working from home, partners working from home Increased precautions Shelter in home or self-quarantine Disruption of our daily activities—gym, church, synagogue, temple, mosque, spiritual and social practices Overload of information Free offerings feel like too much I’m just keeping it together and what gets activated with new things Seeing people singing, creating, cooking, which is bringing up the narrative of Too serious, can’t take a joke, not a fun person I have depth, intensity, empathy, I’m wired for connection and holding space I’m intensely curious about what’s coming up for me and wanting to find words to express what I’m feeling, and hopefully helping others put words to what they’re experiencing I’m SO blessed to have a circle of HS therapists that I’m communicating with even more right now. We are holding space for each other and validating the things that are coming up. Whatever you’re feeling and experiencing is ok! Even though I knew I was feeling “heavy” feelings, it wasn’t until I was talking with some friends, and one of them made space for me, and I had a good cry. I forget that when I allow room for my feelings, it creates space for something else to move into that space. Podcast episode—release and lightness—giving voice to feelings--honoring We can be so used to pushing it down, denying and minimizing, or the fear that we’re going to come totally undone if we allow ourselves to feel We are holding space in our bodies, minds and souls. When we are able to allow those feelings to be seen, honored, felt and expressed, it frees room for other stuff. Therapy, coaching, online This is a time when we need connection and support more than ever We are wired for connection I’m looking at ways I can make my services more affordable—at least for the immediate present com Send me an e-mail If you’re listening in the future, this offer may not be available, but I’m trying to figure out how to be of service and do the word I’m wired to do—it’s helping me as well Closed fb group unapologetically sensitive weekly Zoom calls free for now Closed fb group unapologetically sensitive therapist’s group—really for professionals and healers who are highly sensitive and provide services. I’m also hosting free weekly zoom calls for now We are the healers, connectors, emotional glue—if if it doesn’t feel like it right now. What do you need today to take care of yourself? Finally client—permission In training for this all my life This is what I’m built for I’m pandemic-ready   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers—Unapologetically Sensitive Therapist’s Group-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com