Unapologetically Sensitive

TITLE A Black Man’s Experience in America part 2 GUEST Marcus Stricklin EPISODE OVERVIEW Marcus shares honestly and vulnerably his experiences being a black man in America.  This is a heartfelt and open account, and Marcus wants to start a dialogue on how we can move forward together.  He talks about how black people are portrayed and how biases are formed. People are afraid of the unknown, and Marcus wants to change this. GUEST BIO Marcus Stricklin is a married father of 5, a writer, and a person who likes to make people laugh. He is a filmmaker, an author, and longs to be a TV writer.  PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Marcus’s links Facebook: @MarcusAStricklin Instagram: @Marcusthetoken Tik Tok: @Stricklinfamily Twitter: @Marcusthetoken Brown eyes and blue eyes Racism experiment Children Session - Jane Elliott--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGvoXeXCoUY Being Black with Jane Elliot--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4yrg7vV4a5o BBS Percentage of Fatal Shootings Compared to the Population by Ethnicity https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-52877678 Movie—Sorry to Bother You—clip “use your white voice”-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T5X3cu1B87k White Fragility: Why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism by Robin Diangelo So you want to talk about race by Ijeoma Oluo The color of law by Richard Rothstein The hate you give by Angie Thomas On the other side of freedom by DeRay McKeeson Locked up in the land of the free on Netflix (trailer): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h64qugj_iDg Teach us All Documentary (trailer): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I5hE2Xm_dDQ When they see us—Netflix Seven Seconds—Netflix Mudbound—Netflix 12 years a slave Fruityvale Station The Sun is also a star Let it fall Strong Island on Netflix The sugar-coated language of white fragility--https://vernamyers.com/the-sugarcoated-language-of-white-fragility/?fbclid=IwAR0YX8SXtjlR3IH-M6kWNOchF7XzRrxe7359r8ngx7UsjQbPURpVmugsVeA Anti-racist resources--https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PrAq4iBNb4nVIcTsLcNlW8zjaQXBLkWayL8EaPlh0bc/mobilebasic?fbclid=IwAR0zDKsavKYnsHnKhlkoBwN0AFzMplhq6MQE5ay8fDQfQeHSsNn8lfMqaMg Patricia’s links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE When We Allow Others To Put Their Biases On Us GUEST Solo episode EPISODE OVERVIEW There are 2 specific recent incidences where I allowed someone else’s limitation or belief to be put on me, and I accepted it.  I made someone else’s belief mine. As a result, I made myself smaller until I realized I was doing this.  I talk about a relationship that I’ve pulled back in as I’m navigating through this.  A similar situation came up in another relationship, and when the other person responded in an amazing way, I realized that it wasn’t really about me.   PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truth-teller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS This is Jen Podcast—episode called Only listen to this if you feel fat and gross--https://podbay.fm/podcast/1508041760/e/1592000421 HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Can Too Much Empathy Be Bad? GUEST Lee Chaix McDonough, MSW, MSPH, PCC EPISODE OVERVIEW Can too much empathy negatively impact our relationships? Lee talks about the differences between therapy and coaching and how our identify can get fused with an event. We talk about the gifts of connection as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and how every strength has a shadow side. Lee talks about how she uses meaning, mindset and mindfulness in her business. She also shares a personal experience of being told she was too smart, and how this impacted her and how she healed. GUEST BIO Lee Chaix McDonough is the CEO and Founder of Coach With Clarity, a membership site for intuitive, heart-centered coaches. She is also the host of the Coach with Clarity podcast and author of the #1 Amazon book, ACT On Your Business. After over a decade as a clinical social worker and public health professional, Lee became credentialed as a coach through the International Coach Federation and now provides ICF-accredited continuing coach education for intuitive, heart-centered coaches. Her Coach with Clarity® framework fuses meaning, mindset, and mindfulness with grounded intuition and solid business strategy to help coaches and clients excel at entrepreneurship and transform their lives. Lee lives in North Carolina with her husband, two sons, and her pug Phineas. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Lee’s links Website: https://www.coachwithclarity.com Facebook: @coachwithclarity Instagram: @coachwithclarity LinkedIn: @ lcmcdonough ACT On Your Business: Braving the storms of entrepreneurship and creating success through meaning, mindset, and mindfulness by Lee Chaix McDonough Patricia’s links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Online HSP Course Starts 6/16/20 GUEST Solo episode EPISODE OVERVIEW If you’ve been thinking about getting extra support during these unprecedented times, I have a few spots left in the Online HSP Course, which will start in less than a week.  We talk about mindfulness, self-compassion, identifying negative messages and turning them into superpowers, perfectionism, boundaries, embracing our emotions, self-care is non-negotiable, communication, authenticity and vulnerability, creating a lifestyle that honors the HSP, and expectations and disappointments.  HIGHLIGHTS The Course is 10 weeks long, and meets weekly for an hour and 20 minutes We will be meeting via Zoom from 10:30 am -11:50 am PDT There are 14 videos for this course, and every week, I send out an e-mail with at least 1 video and prompts (questions to think about the topic), and sometimes links to Ted Talks or other resources that are relevant. Then during group each week everyone shares about the topic, or whatever else they want to We will take a group consensus and see if we want to incorporate what’s happening in the world right now, since we are in the middle of being a part of history This is a supportive, nurturing experience, where you really get to honor your HSP traits I will be providing education weekly, but it’s about what happens in the group, which is a very powerful experience If you want more information, you can go here to learn more https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE A Black Man’s Experience in America GUEST Marcus Stricklin EPISODE OVERVIEW Marcus talks about teaching his black son what to do if he is pulled over by police.  He talks about language used to describe a white school shooter vs. a black protester. Marcus wasn’t familiar with the term code switching, but he knew exactly what it was, and he calls it something else. Marcus talks about police officers coming into his home when his daughter was having a seizure, and putting their hands on their guns after seeing him. We talk about repeated trauma he experienced that he internalized as shame due to repeated abuse of power by law enforcement. GUEST BIO Marcus Stricklin is a married father of 5, a writer, and a person who likes to make people laugh. He is a filmmaker, an author, and longs to be a TV writer.  PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Marcus’s links Facebook: @MarcusAStricklin Instagram: @Marcusthetoken Tik Tok: @Stricklinfamily Twitter: @Marcusthetoken Brown eyes and blue eyes Racism experiment Children Session - Jane Elliott--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGvoXeXCoUY Being Black with Jane Elliot--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4yrg7vV4a5o BBS Percentage of Fatal Shootings Compared to the Population by Ethnicity https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-52877678 Movie—Sorry to Bother You—clip “use your white voice”-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T5X3cu1B87k White Fragility: Why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism by Robin Diangelo So you want to talk about race by Ijeoma Oluo The color of law by Richard Rothstein The hate you give by Angie Thomas On the other side of freedom by DeRay McKeeson Locked up in the land of the free on Netflix (trailer): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h64qugj_iDg Teach us All Documentary (trailer): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I5hE2Xm_dDQ When they see us—Netflix Seven Seconds—Netflix Mudbound—Netflix 12 years a slave Fruityvale Station The Sun is also a star Let it fall Strong Island on Netflix The sugar-coated language of white fragility--https://vernamyers.com/the-sugarcoated-language-of-white-fragility/?fbclid=IwAR0YX8SXtjlR3IH-M6kWNOchF7XzRrxe7359r8ngx7UsjQbPURpVmugsVeA Anti-racist resources--https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PrAq4iBNb4nVIcTsLcNlW8zjaQXBLkWayL8EaPlh0bc/mobilebasic?fbclid=IwAR0zDKsavKYnsHnKhlkoBwN0AFzMplhq6MQE5ay8fDQfQeHSsNn8lfMqaMg   Patricia’s links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Leading From The Heart and Reclaiming Yourself GUEST Amber Rochelle EPISODE OVERVIEW The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) often leads from the heart.  We often experience the world differently than non-HSPs. It’s important to reclaim our strengths and identify the gifts we have.  Prioritizing our relationship with ourselves and shedding the messages we get from society about the values of being strong is part of the process of becoming empowered in our traits. Many of our strengths are not as easily seen or measured, but they are crucial and central to how we show up in the world.  HIGHLIGHTS HSPs tend to lead from the heart We experience the world in a different way It’s important for us to reclaim ourselves and our strengths Our wounding often tells us that we don’t fit in Perfectionism can be a way for us to feel like we’re in control It can make us feel like we are enough Having the illusion of control can be a way to measure self-worth We are very empathic and can tune into the energy of a room We have the ability to perceive at a deep level We can be very intuitive We have deep feelings and we process at a deep level We are healers GUEST BIO Amber Rochelle is an Intuitive Life Coach and Empowerment Mentor for Highly Sensitive Empaths. Known as “The Sensitive Badass®”, Amber’s mission is to change the narrative in our culture around the word “sensitive” while guiding women OWN their superpower, cultivate fierce self love, and take their place as the author of their own life story. Thus unlocking the soul confidence needed to curate a purposeful and badass way of living and spread their healing magic with a world that so desperately needs them. PODCAST HOST Patricia knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and blacksheep.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Amber’s Links Website— https://www.amberrochelle.com/ Facebook--www.facebook.com/msamberrochelle Instagram--www.instagram.com/msamberrochelle/ Facebook--www.facebook.com/groups/supersensitives/ YouTube--www.youtube.com/c/AmberRochelle The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown   Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for Therapists and Healers--https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Can We Laugh At Our Embarrassing Moments? GUEST Joanne Jarret EPISODE OVERVIEW Joanne shares a few of her embarrassing stories, and we talk about why it’s important to be able to laugh at ourselves, and how this increases connection and can break shame and isolation.  We talk about what internal overstimulation is, and the difference between ruminating and working something out.  We explore the difference between processing an interaction and gossiping. We also talk about physical touch and boundaries with Highly Sensitive People. HIGHLIGHTS Joanne has designed women’s loungewear She has the podcast Fancy Free She shares at least 2 embarrassing stories Joanne would compare her messy insides with others’ She’s trying to figure out if she’s a Highly Sensitive Introvert or Extrovert Shame says, I am fundamentally flawed Guilt says, I did something wrong Why it’s important to bust shame She asks about what she calls procrastination/laziness I talk about being a perfectionist with nothing to show for it We talk about cultural expectations that value success and doing We talk about the “soft skills” and gifts that HSPs have that aren’t always as easy to see, but are incredibly valuable Joanne talks about hitting a wall Can an HSP have a high pain threshold and still be an HSP? Joanne shares her superpower, and I’ve never heard it verbalized like this before, but it resonates We talk about HSPs and if they all need physical space We talk about boundaries Joanne asks what internal overstimulation looks likes We explore rumination vs. working something out We talk about the need to process information, but it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s gossip GUEST BIO Joanne is a family physician turned stay-at-home mom with two teenage daughters. She blogs at Cozy Clothes Blog and podcasts at Fancy Free Podcast. She loves to tell embarrassing, funny stories on herself to make others feel less alone in their imperfection. She has her own women's lounge wear line, Shelfie Shoppe, that sells super cozy street-legal pajamas with comfy shelf bras for some support and coverage. She is married to a whip smart, mischievous husband, Scott, who always keeps her laughing (and doing the occasional chair-side dental assisting). She and her whole extended family recently moved from Reno, NV to rural Montana.  PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Joanne’s Links http://fancyfreepodcast.com/ https://cozyclothesblog.com/ https://shelfieshoppe.com/ https://www.instagram.com/ivegotdishues/ https://www.facebook.com/Fancy-Free-Podcast-111290793539075/ Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Episode 044—The traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person, and what it means to be fully integrated with Jacqueline Strickland https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-44/ Episode 007—The 5 Love Languages with Tom Murray https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/5306-2/ Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Regrets, Healing and How to Imperfectly Set Boundaries During COVID-19 GUEST Solo episode EPISODE OVERVIEW I have some regrets about releasing some episodes when I was feeling hurt and reactive.  We’re all doing the best we can during COVID-19, and I want to focus on my own healing.  I didn’t set boundaries when my kids and their girlfriends came home, so I imperfectly set boundaries and had a little meltdown.  How do we bring compassion and self-compassion in during challenging times? What types of things can we do for ourselves to create comfort? PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

TITLE How We Heal When We’ve Been Blindsided Part 2 GUEST Solo episode EPISODE OVERVIEW As I continue to process being dropped from a group, listeners have asked how to NOT take things personally, and how to not get stuck.  I’m finding I’m wanting to doubt my experience—maybe it wasn’t that bad; maybe I’m exaggerating.  I’m also feeling grief and disappointment.  How do we hold compassion for ALL parts of ourselves because we will be disappointed by others, and we will disappoint others.  I share the tools I’m using to have a sense of comfort and reassurance, and how I’m asking for support.  PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Brene Brown’s podcast Unlocking Us Anxiety, Calm over/under functioning--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-anxiety-calm-over-under-functioning/ Brene Brown’s podcast Unlocking Us with Harriet Lerner I’m sorry. How to apologize and why it matters--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/harriet-lerner-and-brene-im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters/ Episode 50 with Sara Buino https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-50/ NARM—NeuroAffective Relational Model--https://narmtraining.com/ Dead to Me Netlix Corona Virus Online Therapy--https://www.coronavirusonlinetherapy.org/ Diane Poole-Heller—Somatic Attachment and Trauma Expert https://dianepooleheller.com/   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

TITLE How We Heal When We’ve Been Blindsided GUEST Solo episode EPISODE OVERVIEW I gave feedback, and I was dropped from a group I had joined, and was told the group is not a good fit for me.  I found out I was ejected from a colleague. There was no invitation to discuss fit, or the decision to drop me from the group. I talk about the feelings I’m having.  I feel silenced, and it stinks! How do we honor our feelings, and create empowerment for ourselves? How do we assess if others have the capacity to work through conflict? How can we be present for ourselves and get the support we need.  HIGHLIGHTS What happens when we speak up and our message is not received as we intended We don’t feel seen or heard Someone makes a decision on our behalf without our feedback How do we evaluate is this about me, or the other person, or a combination? How can I honor the feelings that are coming up? How do we work through this so we feel empowered It’s my intention to be neutral; however, I’m feeling angry; I’m feeling hurt and I’m feeling blindsided With COVID we’re under tremendous stress, and it may be impacting how we react How do we have compassion I have a right to have a voice I have a right to have my feelings There was no opportunity to work together around what I was feeling Is this about a limitation on the other person’s part I gave feedback about how I was experiencing the group I was told by the facilitator of the mastermind, I feel like no matter what I do, it won’t satisfy you because this is about your fear and your mindset I felt that my feelings weren’t being honored There is no room for discussion with this type of a statement I tend to be very mindful of the words I use when I’m giving feedback to someone I’m wondering if… Is it possible that… I don’t like to tell others what I think is going on with them or what I think they should do This feels very dishonoring I felt disrespected, and if I responded, then I was that person It didn’t allow for a dialogue, or for me to have a voice in this situation With my clients and friends I often ask, “How did that land with you?” I want to invite dialogue when there are bumps When we’re talking about uncomfortable things, we need to have open communication I was ejected from the Mastermind and the closed fb group The facilitator of the mastermind told me he didn’t think I was a good fit for the group and dropped me without giving me a heads up or discussing it with me I was blindsided I didn’t have a chance to download files from the group since I thought I’d be in the group until the end of the year I would have wanted to be part of the decision or be part of the discussion It’s not uncommon for us to think about what we may have said or done to cause this to happen—it’s NOT about me How do I figure out how to process through this? Brene Brown’s podcast Unlocking Us— It’s very negating and it doesn’t give us a voice when someone oversteps and does not apologize I’m not sorry; I don’t regret what I shared I have a right to my opinion, to my feelings In order for us to continue to share vulnerability with others, they need to have the capacity to be present for us I need you to hear me; you need to get where I’m coming from. You don’t have to agree with me You need to be willing to look at what I’m saying If you can’t meet me where I’m at, then that doesn’t work for me In the past, I would have made this about me—I did something wrong. I didn’t.  I’m really clear about that We can check—is the person hearing me, seeing me, and are they willing to work through bumps with us COVID-19 is testing all of us, and many of us are at our limit The themes I’m seeing this week include Loneliness Irritability Wanting things to go back to normal but there isn’t a new normal Feeling like we’ve had enough We want a sense of safety and comfort and unity Brene Brown’s podcast episode on overfunctioning and underfunctiong Who can I trust Who’s in charge? I don’t like when decisions are made without me being involved I am a safe person and I create safety around me I choose who to be vulnerable with and who I’m not going to be vulnerable with We choose how much we’re going to give to people This is where we take our power back I anticipate I will feel grief and sadness When we start talking about things, it allows old feelings to surface If we allow the discomfort to come up, we get to feel it, and we heal it. It moves through us It’s ok to be a feeling person We don’t want dead guy goals of not feeling How do we lean into it and embrace it Can we just allow it—whatever comes up Do we go into a collapse mode? If you are getting messages about it not being ok how you’re showing up in the world Relationships are going to be more tenuous right now with COVID How can you empower yourself if someone isn’t meeting your needs? Being in relationship means there’s room for a back-and-forth to work on things It’s not going to be perfect How do we pace with others? If we want more engagement in relationships with others, we can be mindful of the pacing and match the energy of who we’re with Many relationships have shifted during COVID because some people are more available, and some people are less available PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Brene Brown’s podcast Unlocking Us Anxiety, Calm over/under functioning--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-anxiety-calm-over-under-functioning/ Brene Brown’s podcast Unlocking Us with Harriet Lerner I’m sorry. How to apologize and why it matters--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/harriet-lerner-and-brene-im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters/ Bonus episode 43—I want more; you want less.  How to navigate competing needs in relationships  https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-43/ HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/ Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com