The Look & Sound of Leadership

Navigating conflict can feel like wandering through a dark house. Discover the 'Conflict House' metaphor that breaks down disputes into three predictable conversations: what happened, feelings, and identity. Curiosity replaces the urge to be right, easing tensions. Learn to explore differing perspectives and the importance of naming emotions instead of acting them out. Whether mediating or preparing for your own conflict, practical strategies guide you through difficult dialogues, making communication smoother and more effective.

A leader, often reticent to speak up on her own behalf, learns tools to help her ask for what she wants without worrying she’ll incite a battle.This month we’ve created another free PDF for you in our Tools bin. This one is to help you use video playback to achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library in these three categories:AssertivenessCommunication SkillsManaging YourselfRelated episodes you might listen to are: 188 Boundaries164 Conflict165 The Conflict Conversation86 Intimacy in Business: Setting Boundaries88 Resolving ConflictWe send gratitude to the people posting reviews. Thank you for your support and kind words.If you have a question about your career and how coaching might help, be in touch with us here. Until next month, stay healthy and be well.Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

Kindness is killing a leader’s ability to set and hold effective boundaries. She works with her coach to find her voice and along the way discovers an empowering image about boundaries.We’ve put lots of free PDFs in our Tools bin to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:AssertivenessManaging YourselfSelf-TalkFive related episodes you might listen to are: 216  7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks204  Blind Spots188  Boundaries210  How to Grow Your Self-Management190  Thinking ErrorsMuch gratitude to the folks who post reviews. We appreciate your support you’re your kind words.Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here. Until next month, be well!Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

A worried leader seeks help finding balance between going with the flow and giving himself a larger voice.Visit our Tools bin for free PDFs to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:AssertivenessManaging YourselfRelationship BuildingFive related episodes you might listen to are: 21Eliminating Distractions59  Focus in the Face of Distractions 30Self-Knowledge as Leadership184    The Focused Executive142    The Mindful ExecutiveTom also talked about two books in this episode:“Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience”by Mihaly Csikszentmlhalyi“The Trust Advisor”by David Maister, et al Thanks to everyone who posts reviews, and thanks so much for your kind words! Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here. Until next month, be well!Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

A missed promotion prompts a leader to complain to her CEO. The CEO responds by getting her a coach, which results in explorations of authenticity, self-awareness and self-management.Visit our Tools bin for free PDFs to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:Managing YourselfPerception - How You Perceive YourselfPerception - How You’re PerceivedSeven related episodes you might listen to are: #71 – Act “As If”#204 – Blind Spots#110 – Creating New Behaviors#103 – Self-Awareness & Self-Management#85 – Stop Giving Away Your Secrets#190 – Thinking Errors#51 – When Learning Makes Things WorseThanks to everyone who posts reviews. And thank you so much for your kind words! Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here. Until next month, be well!Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

A leader, ashamed of hurtful words she spoke to a colleague, explores what happened with her coach. She learns seven techniques for keeping herself from future emotional hijacks.      Download a free PDF about the seven steps to help you stop emotional hijacks here.This episode is tagged in five categories in the Podcast Library:    Managing YourselfPerception - How You Perceive YourselfPerception - How You’re PerceivedPersonal Growth & Self-DevelopmentSelf-TalkSeven related episodes you might listen to are: #109 Building Emotional Intelligence#147 Conquering Fear#74  Dealing with Emotional Responses#142 The Mindful Executive#22  Negative Self-Talk#103 Self-Awareness & Self-Management# 171 Taming the Wild ChildPost a review and help us cross the 1,000 review mark!As we hurtle into 2022, all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership wish you a wonderful year of health, growth, and curiosity.Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

A leader is given a presentation coach and two goals: ‘tell a better story’ and ‘be more responsive in the moment.’ This episode is the coaching conversation about the second goal: be responsive in the moment.This episode is tagged in four categories in the Podcast Library:Communication SkillsExecutive PresencePresentation Skills Self-TalkSix related episodes you might listen to are: #214 How to Turn Data Into Stories#160Prepping Like a TED Talker#157Talking Like a TED Talker#161Performing Like a TED Talker#77The Power of Rehearsal#65Sorting & LabelingJoin us this month for two free mini-courses facilitated by Susan Smalley:Skills of a Great ManagerLeadership Circle for WomenListen to Tom’s interview on The Remarkable Coach podcast where he and host Michael Pacheco talked about Tom’s 30 years of coaching.Post a review and help us cross the 1,000 review mark!All of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership wish you a safe, healthy year of growth and curiosity.Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

A leader is given a presentation coach and two goals: ‘tell a better story’ and ‘be more responsive in the moment.’ This episode is the coaching conversation about telling a better story. There are four tools in the episode:1. Grab our list of questions   [please link to the PDF]2. Build a puzzle for your listeners3. Create a hero in jeopardy4. Work with a partner – cautiously!This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:Communication SkillsExecutive PresencePresentation Skills Five related episodes you might listen to are: 3   Stories – The Ultimate Persuaders56 What Compelling Speakers Share77 The Power of Rehearsal84 Making Stories Soar120 Captivate Your Audience 160 Prepping Like a TED TalkerIn January, free mini-courses resume. Check out these two learning opportunities:Skills of a Great ManagerLeadership Circle for WomenAs we approach the threshold of a new year, I wish you curiosity and growth.Thanks for all the support! See you in the new year! Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

Worried that working remotely has disconnected her team, a leader asks her coach for help and learns a powerful tool.Being able to lead your team in growth exercises is a critical leadership skill. This episode is full of tips and guidance for strengthening that muscle.Tom strongly endorses the Liberating Structures website. Lots of amazing free resources there.He also recommends a conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching for Leaders about “How to Lead an Offsite.”This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:Communication SkillsLeading TeamsManagement SkillsFive related episodes you might listen to are: 143 – Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta149 – How Teams Fight175 – Leading Offsites181 - Inviting Dialogue194 - Connecting Over VideoIn January, free mini-courses will resume. Check out these two learning opportunities:Skills of a Great ManagerLeadership Circle for WomenGratitude went to Sarah Brown for having Tom as a guest on an episode of The KTS Success Factor podcast. Hear all the tips here. Gratitude also, as always, to those who reach out to us and to those who post reviews. Thank you so much! Be in touch here.From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well. Stay healthy and safe.  Thanks for listening.See you next month!

A leader adds coaching to her duties and seeks guidance from a coach. The GROW model and setting coaching goals are discussed. The importance of patience and involving others in the coaching process is highlighted.