Lessons from a Quitter

So many of you are stuck because your parents, friends, or co-workers simply don’t understand why you want to take this “risk”.    Here’s the truth: They don’t have to support you. And you still get to make the decision you want for your life.    Would it be nice if everyone saw the world the way you did and could fully understand your dreams? Yes, of course it would be.   Do you need that before you actually take the jump? Absolutely not.   The real reason you feel like you need their support is because if they believe in you, it’s easier for YOU to believe in YOU.    When other people express doubt, it triggers the fear and insecurity you already have in this big decision. So you become defensive and spend all of your energy trying to convince them it’s the right choice.    But what you’re really doing is trying to convince yourself. If someone else can see your vision, then it helps reassure that part of your brain that is also screaming “This is insane! We’re going to regret it!”   They don’t have to understand what you want to do. YOU have to understand what you want to do. They don’t have to believe in you. You have to believe in you.    You will still have doubt. Hell, you can even agree with them that it’s a crazy decision. And you still get to make it.    If you struggle with this, this week’s podcast is for you. I dive deeper into this concept and explain how you can start moving past needing everyone’s support. 

So many of you ask me how to navigate family and spousal support when making huge changes in your career.    I figured it might be interesting to hear it from the spouse’s perspective.    While our experience is unique to us, I think it can help you in approaching these subject.s   In this episode, we talk about.  What his experience was of me walking away from my legal career  How he thought the podcast was the wrong move for me (WHAT?!?)  How I stopped seeking his permission and instead asked for what I needed.  The best part of this journey.  And so much more. 

So many of us are paralyzed at making even the simplest decisions.  We revert to asking everyone else's opinions, we ruminate and drain ourselves going back and forth, we make pros and cons lists, and we stay stuck year after year.  In this episode, I teach you why you have such a hard time making decisions and how to move past it. 

I remember wishing I would get laid off during the 2008 recession. I was to scared to quit so I wanted them to force my hand. Empowering, huh? They didn't. And I ended up spending another 7 years doing a job I hated. On this episode, I talk about what it looks like to take responsibility for your life. Often we mistake responsibility with fault. They are not the same thing. In this episode, I talk about difference between fault and responsibility, why taking 100% responsibility will change your life, and how to go about doing that. 

Why do you want to find your “dream” career? Do you even know? Most would answer with something like:So I can feel excited and motivated about going to work.  So I can feel like I’m doing something that is worthwhile. So I can feel less stressed and overwhelmed. All of our answers boil down to one thing: we are after a feeling.  Ultimately, you want that dream career because you want to feel happy and fulfilled.  Given that we spend ⅓ of our life at work, it’s easy to see how that can affect our feelings.  And while I’d LOVE for you to find your dream career (and would love to help you do that), it’s not going to happen overnight.  So the question becomes: how can you have that feeling you want in your life right now? And that's what we dive into on the podcast episode today! I'll give you actionable tips on how to create a fulfilled life without changing much else. 

Destination Addiction. The constant striving to get to some destination that you’re certain holds all of your happiness and the solution to your problems.  The stealer of current joy. The enabler of hustle culture. So many of our problems are born out of this, often unconscious, belief that it is better “there” than here. We put our happiness and joy on hold with the promise that it will be even better at this unforeseen destination. And, yet, we just keep moving the goalposts.  On today’s episode, I dive into just how harmful destination addiction is and how to overcome it.  Also mentioned on today’s episode: A FREE 4-day challenge to get you UNSTUCK and on the road to your dream career. Register here: www.quitterclub.com/unstuck

On to today's episode. I want to talk to you about an extremely important concept that I don't think most people don't implement in their life. It's called the Compound Effect. What most of us typically do is pick a huge goal, go after it with everything we have, get burned out, and stop. Understanding the Compound Effect will change all of that. It'll allow you to start making lasting changes without all of the effort and drama. It is the difference between having a life where you can constantly grow and one in which you won't.  In this episode, I go into what the Compound Effect is and how to start implementing it into your life today. 

I'm so excited to bring you this week's episode with the amazing Janelle Nicole Christian. After nearly 6 years in BigLaw, Janelle transitioned into the career and digital media field through her company, SideBiz SMART, and her platform, Hey J. Nicole. Janelle's mission is to help 6-figure employees start and stabilize successful side businesses in order to ditch corporate America and begin living healthier, wealthier, and more fulfilled lives as entrepreneurs. After scaling her business to multiple six-figures in under a year and helping her clients do the same, Janelle's work focuses on helping miserable millennials understand the value in decentralizing work (particularly corporate structures) and building a life around their personal priorities, gain clarity on their values, address and remove limiting beliefs regarding income and success, create a clear plan to define their life work, and guides them through any necessary pivots towards their dreams. In this episode, we discuss: - how Janelle discovered what really lights her up. - why it's important to just get started, even if you don't know what you want to do. - how she replaced her legal income in less than a year. - and so much more.

This week I have a super exciting topic that completely changed the way I thought. It's the concept of clean pain versus dirty pain, and it really helped me manage my mindset. This topic, which was first coined by Dr. Stephen Hayes, described the suffering we add to our human experience. We constantly make up narratives about ourselves that cause all of this unnecessary self-inflicted pain. It is crucial to understand when you’re doing this so you can stop it. Join me as I dive deeper into this topic and discuss ways you can work around it.

This week I'm finally addressing one of the biggest blocks for most people: Overcoming The Fear of What Others Think. There is a reason that so many of keep falling into patterns of doing what others expect of us even if it makes us miserable. We're evolutionarily wired to want to be accepted by our tribe. But while it is natural it doesn't mean we have to keep living this way. In this episode, I break down how to push past the fear of what other people think about you and start living a life on your own terms.