

The Lavendaire Lifestyle
Aileen Xu
Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
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Apr 26, 2023 • 20min
Sound Healing Guided Meditation ft. Leeor Alexandra on Singing Bowls
In this episode, we present a guided sound bath meditation & sound therapy experience with crystal singing bowls by the lovely Leeor Alexandra. Leeor is on the crystal singing bowls, while I will be lightly guiding the meditation.
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A gentle reminder: the more we relax, the more we return to our true selves.
Stay tuned for more guided audios every other Wednesday!
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Apr 23, 2023 • 49min
228: Mental Health, Self-Care, & Living to the Fullest with Reese Regan
Mental health is an ongoing journey with struggles, ups and downs. It can be a challenging and exhausting experience, but it's important to remember that there is always hope for improvement. Every battle can teach us something new and valuable, leading us toward a brighter future. In this episode, Reese Regan joins Aileen to discuss the journey toward better mental health and her self-care practices and they delve into the significance of spirituality and living to the fullest!
Reese Regan is a Philadelphia-based content creator who uses her platforms to bring awareness to mental health and simple living. By sharing her own experiences battling her mental health, she hopes to make others feel less alone in their struggles and to build a supportive community.
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TIMESTAMPS
1:26 How creating content helped Reese express herself
6:43 Reese's mental health journey
14:35 Mindset shift
17:24 Self-care routine
22:00 Resources that helped her with her spiritual journey
23:30 Doing spirituality with friends
24:46 The Future of Self-care, Spirituality, & the Internet
29:27 Cycle syncing
33:57 Using Crystals for spiritual growth
37:10 Motivation for creating content
40:09 Self-care over content creation
41:37 Mental health battle
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Apr 16, 2023 • 52min
227: Enneagram, Self-love, & Creativity w/ Sarajane Case
Have you ever wondered why you do what you do and struggle with certain weaknesses? The Enneagram is a powerful tool that can help you understand the underlying motivations behind your behavior, as well as your unique strengths and weaknesses. In this episode, Aileen sits down with Sarajane Case to explore the fascinating world of the Enneagram, discussing the nine different Enneagram types, their key motivations, and what each type can do to grow and thrive. They also delve into the important topic of self-love and how the Enneagram can help us cultivate a deeper sense of compassion and acceptance towards ourselves. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that will help you unlock your full potential and live your best life!
Sarajane Case is first and foremost a passionate advocate for your loving relationship to self. She's the author of popular self-help books The Honest Enneagram as well as The Enneagram Letters and host of the Enneagram & Coffee Podcast - a daily podcast dedicated to self-care, personal growth, and creativity.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:01 - What is Enneagram?
6:01 - The 9 types of Enneagram
9:32 - What are Enneagram wings?
14:30 - How the Enneagram empowered Sarah Jane
16:06 - Things to let go for each Enneagram type
20:20 - Motivations for each Enneagram type
24:02 - The Honest Enneagram
25:00 - Sarah Jane's self-love journey
30:54 - Insecurity and self-confidence
33:16 - Habits and routines
37:47 - How to handle burnout
41:24 - Definition of dream life
45:13 - Intentional boredom
48:03 - Idea management
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Apr 12, 2023 • 16min
Guided Meditation for Anxiety & Stress
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In this episode, we present a powerful guided meditation for anxiety and stress. This 15-minute meditation will help you relax and release tension from your mind and body. Use this meditation to cultivate gratitude, positive energy, and peace. It includes gentle neck stretches, full-body relaxation, positive affirmations, and visualization.
Great for beginners and all levels.
Stay tuned for more guided audios every other Wednesday!
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Apr 9, 2023 • 1h 1min
226: Gretchen Rubin on Happiness, Human Nature, & Activating Your Five Senses
Although there are numerous ways and strategies to find happiness, it's important to recognize that not every pattern or strategy we observe from others will necessarily work for us. In this episode, Aileen speaks with Gretchen Rubin, a best-selling author, podcaster, and speaker who is known for her work on happiness, habits, and human nature. And together, they explore the concept of human nature and how it plays a role in our pursuit of happiness. Additionally, they discuss the benefits of activating your five senses to live a richer and more meaningful life.
Gretchen Rubin is one of today’s most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. She’s an unusual combination: a literary writer who explores how we can put transcendent ideas into practice.
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TIMESTAMPS
1:45 - what sparks Gretchen to write about personal development
7:30 - struggles in habit formation
11:06 - Gretchen's philosophy in life
13:48 - Gretchen's biggest inspirations
16:18 - Explore your happiness
21:50 - The four tendencies framework
28:30 - connecting with your five senses
34:21 - how to utilize your five senses
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Apr 2, 2023 • 1h 1min
225: Living with Purpose: Ancient Chinese Wisdom for Modern Times w/ Sylvie Tran
Do you ever feel like there's something missing in your life? Are you searching for a deeper sense of meaning and fulfillment? You're not alone. Many people struggle with finding their purpose and understanding their place in the world. In this podcast, Aileen talks to another lavi love Sylvie Tran about her journey to becoming a healing practitioner and how the Ancient Chinese Wisdom helps her discover her purpose in life.
After working as a marketing manager, event planner, and book writer, Sylvie ultimately discovered her true calling as a healing practitioner. Her journey of self-discovery and love for her community led her to follow the path of her soul. Now residing in Taiwan, Sylvie combines ancient Chinese philosophy with modern techniques to assist both herself and those around her.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:00 - Sylvie's journey to becoming a healing practitioner
14:24 - Types of Ancient Chinese Healing Exercise
18:42 - self-discovery and finding purpose
23:57 - Sylvie's healing journey
32:00 - Possible blocks why we struggle
41:12 - Chinese hourly energy system and Xiantian Tarot
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Mar 26, 2023 • 54min
224: Emotional Wellness, Toxic Positivity, & Trauma w/ Whitney Goodman
Living a healthy, balanced life requires having good emotional health. Unfortunately, many people overlook this crucial element, and most of the time we hardly understand what is actually beneficial or not, like toxic positivity. In today's episode, we focus on how to take care of our emotional self, toxic positivity, dysfunctional family patterns, and understanding the definition of trauma on a higher level. Join us today in this information-packed episode with Whitney Goodman and learn more about emotional wellness to live a better life.
Whitney Goodman is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit, author, and the owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, a virtual therapy practice in Florida. Whitney's debut book, Toxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy, shows readers how to shift the goal from being happy to being authentic in order to live fully. A millennial on a quest to make mental health information accessible and easy to understand, Whitney helps people who want to improve their relationships and emotional wellness.
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TIMESTAMPS:
6:33 - Radical acceptance
7:26 - What is Toxic Positivity?
8:33 - What is Optimism?
10:23 - Positive affirmation is not for everyone
12:32 - Examples of toxic positivity phrases
14:27 - Keys to living a full life
18:26 - The basics of emotional wellness
21:52 - How to take care of our emotional self
29:54 - How to heal from trauma: do's and dont’s
31:57 - Trauma is a part of your story
33:44 - The concept of Parentification
41:36 - How to set boundaries within your family
43:07 - Nurture better mental health
46:54 - Definition of Trauma
50:54 - Alleviate Childhood Trauma
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Mar 19, 2023 • 46min
223: Figuring Out Life In Your 20s w/ Teresa Fong
Have you ever felt lost and unsure of what life has in store for you? In today's episode highlighting our community, Aileen talks to lavi love Teresa Fong about her experience of feeling lost and floating through life for years until she discovered a career she loves and a life full of meaningful connections.
Teresa is a senior product designer at Skydea, an agency in Tokyo. As a designer, she builds apps and websites. But she most enjoys building community. She manages Creative Tokyo, a community with over 2,800 members connecting and finding friends with similar interests.
TIMESTAMPS
2:50 - Teresa's journey to becoming a Product Designer
5:13 - Product Designer vs. Product Manager
16:33 - How to apply the product design process to life
19:40 - Figuring out that fit
22:25 - Teresa's Lifestyle
24:30 - Contributions to Teresa's success in her career
27:24 - Lavendaire's role in Teresa's life
32:22 - Building relationships and connections
37:21 - Definition of Teresa's dream life
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Mar 15, 2023 • 5min
5 Minute Guided Morning Meditation for Positive Energy
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Powerful guided morning meditation for positive energy, refreshing your energy with visualization and positive affirmations. This 5 minute meditation will help you cultivate gratitude, positivity and motivation for your day.
Great for beginners and all levels.
Stay tuned for more guided audios every other Wednesday!
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Mar 12, 2023 • 51min
222: Navigating Impostor Syndrome and Achieving Your Dream Life with Samantha van der Sluis
When you're going after a big dream, challenges are inevitable. And one of these challenges is that you will have to deal with impostor syndrome. In today's episode highlighting our community, Aileen talks to lavi love Samantha van der Sluis about her experience working in the video game industry, dealing with impostor syndrome, and finding success in creating her dream life.
Samantha is a New Zealand-born Australian music composer for various media including video games, films, TV, podcasts, and animation. She has worked in the music department for films including Star Wars IX, Toy Story 4, and Avengers: Endgame. Her love of games led her down the path to becoming a lead composer in the gaming industry.
TIMESTAMPS
5:14 - Falling out of love with your passion
6:01 - The path to the gaming industry
7:23 - Working in the game industry vs. the film industry
17:07 - Lavendaire's impact on Samantha's life
19:00 - Dealing with impostor's syndrome
21:11 - Finding success in a male-dominated industry as a woman
27:55 - Tips for freelancers to get more projects
29:49 - Achieving a dream
30:27 - Samantha's creative process
35:21 - Learning breeds confidence
39:55 - Dealing with burnout and finding motivation
43:57 - Definition of Samantha’s dream life
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