

The Lavendaire Lifestyle
Aileen Xu
Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
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Apr 2, 2023 • 1h 1min
225: Living with Purpose: Ancient Chinese Wisdom for Modern Times w/ Sylvie Tran
Do you ever feel like there's something missing in your life? Are you searching for a deeper sense of meaning and fulfillment? You're not alone. Many people struggle with finding their purpose and understanding their place in the world. In this podcast, Aileen talks to another lavi love Sylvie Tran about her journey to becoming a healing practitioner and how the Ancient Chinese Wisdom helps her discover her purpose in life.
After working as a marketing manager, event planner, and book writer, Sylvie ultimately discovered her true calling as a healing practitioner. Her journey of self-discovery and love for her community led her to follow the path of her soul. Now residing in Taiwan, Sylvie combines ancient Chinese philosophy with modern techniques to assist both herself and those around her.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:00 - Sylvie's journey to becoming a healing practitioner
14:24 - Types of Ancient Chinese Healing Exercise
18:42 - self-discovery and finding purpose
23:57 - Sylvie's healing journey
32:00 - Possible blocks why we struggle
41:12 - Chinese hourly energy system and Xiantian Tarot
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Mar 26, 2023 • 54min
224: Emotional Wellness, Toxic Positivity, & Trauma w/ Whitney Goodman
Living a healthy, balanced life requires having good emotional health. Unfortunately, many people overlook this crucial element, and most of the time we hardly understand what is actually beneficial or not, like toxic positivity. In today's episode, we focus on how to take care of our emotional self, toxic positivity, dysfunctional family patterns, and understanding the definition of trauma on a higher level. Join us today in this information-packed episode with Whitney Goodman and learn more about emotional wellness to live a better life.
Whitney Goodman is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit, author, and the owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, a virtual therapy practice in Florida. Whitney's debut book, Toxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy, shows readers how to shift the goal from being happy to being authentic in order to live fully. A millennial on a quest to make mental health information accessible and easy to understand, Whitney helps people who want to improve their relationships and emotional wellness.
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TIMESTAMPS:
6:33 - Radical acceptance
7:26 - What is Toxic Positivity?
8:33 - What is Optimism?
10:23 - Positive affirmation is not for everyone
12:32 - Examples of toxic positivity phrases
14:27 - Keys to living a full life
18:26 - The basics of emotional wellness
21:52 - How to take care of our emotional self
29:54 - How to heal from trauma: do's and dont’s
31:57 - Trauma is a part of your story
33:44 - The concept of Parentification
41:36 - How to set boundaries within your family
43:07 - Nurture better mental health
46:54 - Definition of Trauma
50:54 - Alleviate Childhood Trauma
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Mar 19, 2023 • 46min
223: Figuring Out Life In Your 20s w/ Teresa Fong
Have you ever felt lost and unsure of what life has in store for you? In today's episode highlighting our community, Aileen talks to lavi love Teresa Fong about her experience of feeling lost and floating through life for years until she discovered a career she loves and a life full of meaningful connections.
Teresa is a senior product designer at Skydea, an agency in Tokyo. As a designer, she builds apps and websites. But she most enjoys building community. She manages Creative Tokyo, a community with over 2,800 members connecting and finding friends with similar interests.
TIMESTAMPS
2:50 - Teresa's journey to becoming a Product Designer
5:13 - Product Designer vs. Product Manager
16:33 - How to apply the product design process to life
19:40 - Figuring out that fit
22:25 - Teresa's Lifestyle
24:30 - Contributions to Teresa's success in her career
27:24 - Lavendaire's role in Teresa's life
32:22 - Building relationships and connections
37:21 - Definition of Teresa's dream life
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Mar 15, 2023 • 5min
5 Minute Guided Morning Meditation for Positive Energy
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Powerful guided morning meditation for positive energy, refreshing your energy with visualization and positive affirmations. This 5 minute meditation will help you cultivate gratitude, positivity and motivation for your day.
Great for beginners and all levels.
Stay tuned for more guided audios every other Wednesday!
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Mar 12, 2023 • 51min
222: Navigating Impostor Syndrome and Achieving Your Dream Life with Samantha van der Sluis
When you're going after a big dream, challenges are inevitable. And one of these challenges is that you will have to deal with impostor syndrome. In today's episode highlighting our community, Aileen talks to lavi love Samantha van der Sluis about her experience working in the video game industry, dealing with impostor syndrome, and finding success in creating her dream life.
Samantha is a New Zealand-born Australian music composer for various media including video games, films, TV, podcasts, and animation. She has worked in the music department for films including Star Wars IX, Toy Story 4, and Avengers: Endgame. Her love of games led her down the path to becoming a lead composer in the gaming industry.
TIMESTAMPS
5:14 - Falling out of love with your passion
6:01 - The path to the gaming industry
7:23 - Working in the game industry vs. the film industry
17:07 - Lavendaire's impact on Samantha's life
19:00 - Dealing with impostor's syndrome
21:11 - Finding success in a male-dominated industry as a woman
27:55 - Tips for freelancers to get more projects
29:49 - Achieving a dream
30:27 - Samantha's creative process
35:21 - Learning breeds confidence
39:55 - Dealing with burnout and finding motivation
43:57 - Definition of Samantha’s dream life
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The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 222
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Mar 5, 2023 • 56min
221: How Tarot Can Change Your Life with Stefanie Caponi
Have you ever questioned why certain things happened at a certain point in your life? Have you ever been curious about how tarot or astrology works? While we can’t depend on tarot or astrology to predict the future, we can use it to improve our wellbeing. Today we talk with Stefanie Caponi about leaning into the unknown and how tarot can help you strengthen your intuition and grow.
Stefanie Caponi is the bestselling author of Guided Tarot, Guided Tarot for Teens, Guided Astrology, and the creator of three editions of The Moon Void Tarot. She has been reading tarot for over twenty years and established her business as a professional tarot reader and astrologer after creating her first tarot deck in 2018. Her passion for astrology led her to write the monthly horoscopes for Dame, which focus on sex, intimacy, and relationships. Stefanie's work is centered around guiding her clients on their personal journeys of healing, upleveling, and creating their dream lives using both tarot and astrology as their unique road map of cosmic guidance.
TIMESTAMPS
16:00 - Learning the Tarot Symbols
20:36 - Tarot vs. Astrology
26:01 - Do’s & Don’ts of Tarot
28:55 - Tarot Routines & Rituals
33:46 - Practicing Shadow Work with Tarot & Astrology
40:18 - Strengethening Your Intuition
47:00 - Projectors vs. Generators
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Feb 26, 2023 • 15min
Positive Affirmations for Self Love, Self Esteem, Confidence
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In this episode, we present powerful guided affirmations for self-love, self-esteem, and confidence. Listen to these self-love affirmations for 21 days as a way to reprogram your mind while you sleep or as daily morning affirmations.
Repeating these "I am" affirmations is intended to utilize the law of attraction, raise your vibration, release negative thoughts, and encourage more positive thinking and positive energy in your life. These affirmations are an excellent way to cultivate more self-love and positivity in your life.
Stay tuned for more guided audios every other Wednesday!
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Feb 19, 2023 • 1h 3min
220: Building Better Communities with Coby Lefkowitz
Many of us dream of a world where we don’t have to rely on cars to get around everywhere. The long commutes can take a toll on you and your relationships overtime. How can we make the world better not just for ourselves but the whole community? Join our conversation with Coby Lefkowitz as we explore how we can build better communities together and how it all starts by simply talking with each other.
Coby Lefkowitz is a real estate developer, writer, and thought leader in the worlds of urban planning and development. Based in New York, and in addition to his own projects at his firm Backyard, Coby works with people and cities around the world in the pursuit of creating more beautiful, walkable, sustainable, and dynamic communities for all. Through his "On Building Optimism" Project, and forthcoming book, he tries to help people understand why the world looks the way it does, and how to create the types of places we all love from scratch, highlighting projects that are doing this today around North America. Coby tries to marry romantic ways of looking at the world with how to actually implement them in our built environment, something he calls romantic pragmatism.
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Feb 12, 2023 • 56min
219: How to Live Intentionally with Malama Life
Sophie Daquis, content creator behind Malama Life, talks about minimalism, slow living, finding courage, intentionally designing your dream life, switching up routines, balance between public and private, and following passions.

Feb 5, 2023 • 1h 6min
218: Generative Futurism & Creating A Beautiful Community with Michael Shaun
Want to design your future but don’t know where to start? The best way to predict the future is to create the future. But how is that done exactly? In this conversation we explore how to become extraordinary at creating futures big and small. Get inspired to go from Me to We and start creating a new future and a better community for everyone.
Michael Shaun Conaway is endlessly curious about how life works, why we do the things we do and how we might live our lives boldly. His purpose is to illuminate people’s true nature, to give insights and tools to transcend our collective trauma and generate a thriving future for humanity. Boldly YOU, his life development platform, was founded to help you discover your life path, and adopt a life of learning and growth. He is the award winning film director of WeRiseUP, a philosopher, spiritual teacher, and frequent speaker who is out to help you thrive in your life.
TIMESTAMPS:
2:26 - What Is Generative Futurism?
12:12 - Imagination vs. Manifestation
14:38 - Imposter Syndrome & Self Doubt
18:10 - How Meditation Helps Create Your Future
21:48 - Quick Meditation with Michael
46:30 - Creating A More Beautiful Community
55:48 - The Futurist & Exploring Being A Being of Time
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Instagram: @the.generative.futurist
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