

The Lavendaire Lifestyle
Aileen Xu
Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
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Oct 2, 2022 • 1h 1min
202: Maya Lee on Planning Ahead While Staying Present
What if I told you you don’t always have to feel overwhelmed? When it comes to managing stress, learning new habits, navigating change, and overcoming procrastination, there are some things within our control. Maya Lee teaches us the beauty in doing things today for our future self’s peace of mind, while still enjoying the present moment. Becoming the person you want to be does not happen overnight, but you are capable of anything you set your mind to. Why not give it a try?
Maya Lee is an LA-based YouTuber who loves sharing her quirky and positive attitude throughout her lifestyle videos. She loves sharing her 5 am morning routines, encouraging viewers to move their bodies, while also offering life advice. As an only child, she always wished she had an older sister to go through life's challenges with, and she hopes to be that person for her viewers. She was an elementary school teacher for 6 years before deciding to let it go this Summer.
TIMESTAMPS:
12:37 - Transitioning out of teaching
16:34 - Life hacks
19:05 - Morning routine
23:47 - Weekly habits
28:13 - How to become a morning person
34:35 - How to combat procrastination
38:38 - How to find balance
49:01 - Taking care of your mental health as a content creator
FIND MAYA ONLINE:
YouTube
TikTok: @mayaleex3
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MENTIONED:
The 5 Minute Joy Journal by Lavendaire
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 202
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Sep 25, 2022 • 1h 1min
201: The Science Behind Manifestation w/ Jonna Rose
The brain is our control center, storing everything from our beliefs to our trauma. But did you know the brain is also a transmitter? Science tells us that we hold the power to heal our brains and change our reality through meditating and manifesting. Jonna Rose cleared her brain scan and now helps others do the same.
Jonna Rose is a certified brain health professional, licensed neuro nuclear medicine & psychiatric nurse. She has worked in mental health for 8 years now and spends her days studying the brain. Jonna is passionate about connecting science with psychology and even spirituality. Outside of her clinics, she works to empower over 200K followers on TikTok with knowledge and resources to expand the mind and change your brain.
TIMESTAMPS:
09:34 - Healing your brain
14:28 - Brainwave states 101
21:58 - Self-limiting belief systems
32:24 - The science behind manifesting
38:24 - EMDR - the power of our eye movements
45:54 - Vibrations & healing frequencies
48:07 - Cancer & belief systems
53:57 - Brain hacks
FIND JONNA ONLINE:
TikTok: @roadtoroses
Instagram: @jonnarose
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MENTIONED:
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
The Hidden Messages in Water by Masaru Emoto
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Sep 18, 2022 • 56min
200: Mental Health and Art Therapy w/ Amelia Hutchison
Trauma lives in the body. As such, a body-based healing modality like Art therapy is an incredible resource to heal deeper traumas. Art helps us reconnect with our intuition and subconscious. Amelia Hutchison empowers us to trust ourselves and find ways to nurture our life force of creativity. We are all artists. Whether it’s Excel spreadsheets, embroidery, or even parenting, creativity is different for everyone! Find ways to water those parts of your life, and allow yourself the freedom to create.
Amelia Hutchison is an art therapist and psychotherapist from British Columbia, Canada. She runs an online private practice supporting adults in their mental health through creativity. Amelia also runs weekly open studios on Zoom as well as group and individual art therapy. She is passionate about accessible mental health care.
TIMESTAMPS:
01:37 - Discovering Art Therapy
08:16 - Perfectionism & art
14:22 - Creativity & social media
18:45 - Social media & mental health
27:49 - Creativity is for everyone
42:44 - How to stop judging yourself
45:28 - Self-care = community care
49:34 - How to start with Art Therapy
FIND AMELIA ONLINE:
Website
TikTok: @art_therapy_irl
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Babbel | Save up to 55% off your subscription at Babbel.com/TLL
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MENTIONED:
Anti-Hustle Art Studio
Oracle Lab
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 200
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Sep 11, 2022 • 53min
199: Art for Social Justice, Mental Health & Representation w/ Natalie Byrne
Art inspires and touches our souls. It has the power to bring us together and create incredible emotional experiences. Natalie uses her gift of creativity to paint the colorful world of her friends and family, one that brings peace and celebrates our differences. She believes in creating from the heart and not leaving anyone behind.
Natalie Byrne is a Latina illustrator & author based in London whose main purpose is to educate on mental health, relationships, and social issues through her colorful art style. She has a book called Periods. which educates people of all ages and genders about everything they need to know about female menstruation and has also worked with brands such as Adobe, Logitech, Vans, and Nike. When Natalie is not illustrating, she runs the Going Places Podcast where she invites friends and guests to talk about their creativity, process, and journey.
TIMESTAMPS:
1:46 - Origins with art
8:00 - Entrepreneurial artistry
13:30 - Knowing yourself & fearing less
14:50 - Work-life balance
19:08 - Inclusivity & representation
29:49 - Creatives: listen to your voice & stay fluid
41:10 - Stronger together (artists unite)
44:45 - How to deal with creative blocks
FIND NATALIE ONLINE:
Website
Instagram: @nataliebyrne
TikTok: @nataliebyrne_
SPONSOR:
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MENTIONED:
Book - Period.
Going Places Podcast
Shop
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 199
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Sep 4, 2022 • 1h 6min
198: Smart Sex Toys & Sexually Liberating Women w/ Anna Lee
Female sexuality is widely misunderstood, under-researched, and, for many women, a source of great frustration and shame. Anna Lee works tirelessly to create the change we so desperately need. From busting misogynistic myths to helping women in their 70s experience their first orgasm, Anna uses tech engineering to close the orgasm gap. Through data, she bypasses shame and empowers women in their sexuality. After all, “knowledge is pleasure.”
Anna Lee is the co-founder and engineer of Lioness, the world’s first and only smart vibrator that improves understanding of sexual pleasure and orgasms through biofeedback data and science. She's been recently named Forbes 30 Under 30 alum as well as Paper Magazine’s Asian Women Creators You Need to Know and Buzzfeed’s 14 Sex Tech Founders Who Are Changing The Way The World Thinks About Sex. She is a big advocate of Lioness’ mission to expand understanding and research in sexual health, and destigmatize female sexuality.
Disclaimer: This episode is for people 18+ and touches on sexual trauma.
TIMESTAMPS:
01:55 - Sexually conservative origins
03:33 - Being the change you want to see
10:07 - How the Lioness vibrator works
12:47 - Why it’s revolutionary
24:46 - Feeling safe to discover your body
28:33 - Sexual satisfaction 101
38:28 - Sex toy myths
50:30 - The Sex Tech Industry and its’ barriers
FIND ANNA ONLINE:
Website
TikTok: @annatheaverage
SPONSOR:
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MENTIONED:
Lioness Vibrator
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 198
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Aug 28, 2022 • 1h 1min
197: Sound, Spirituality & Frequency Healing w/ Erin Eber
Have you ever seen water ripple in response to sound? Well, this happens because water is highly susceptible to oscillating frequencies. And since humans are 99% molecularly water, frequency and sound have an incredible impact on our bodies and brains. Science is still only scratching the surface on the healing power of frequencies, but healer Erin Eber’s work speaks for itself. From inducing labor to relieving physical pain for clients with neurodegenerative diseases, Erin uses the power of her voice to help people in their healing journey.
Erin Eber is an Intuitive Guide, Frequency Healer, and Human Design Reader who for almost 20 years has guided people to experience expansion, flow, ease, and inner connection. She supports humans on an awakening journey to effortlessly ground in their divine essence and bring deep and lasting transformations in their lives. Her main modality, Frequency Healing, is a channeled gift using her voice that she was initiated into through her own healing process and has helped shift thousands of people into an expanded state of consciousness.
TIMESTAMPS:
03:01 - Experience a grounding attunement
06:49 - Frequency healing 101
08:28 - Discovering her gift
18:43 - The science behind frequency healing
22:18 - Client stories
30:23 - Feeling good and helping others feel good
36:34 - Connecting to your soul
40:46 - Healing America: shifting the collective culture
48:25 - Whitewashed Spirituality
FIND ERIN ONLINE:
Website
TikTok: @frequencyportal
SPONSOR:
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MENTIONED:
Free resources for frequency healing
Frequency healing sessions with Erin
Cacao healing
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 197
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Aug 21, 2022 • 1h 1min
196: Changes, Growing Pains and Finding Peace w/ Amy Lee
Growing is painful. Change comes with grief, loss, and fear. But choosing yourself despite the discomfort is the most radical act of self-love. Amy Lee is living proof of this truth. Through her brave and vulnerable journey of self-discovery, she teaches us that it’s okay to feel scared. Give yourself time and space to heal. Peel back the layers of trauma and find yourself anew. You deserve peace.
Amy Lee is a transformational life coach, digital content creator, motivational speaker, and recovered cPTSD survivor. She specializes in healing narcissistic abuse and codependency with a focus on inner child healing and nonviolent communication.
TIMESTAMPS:
07:17 - Finding new ways of helping others
18:45 - Changing how to be creative
22:17 - The pandemic: a reckoning
29:10 - Success is on the inside
33:01 - Stepping into your authenticity
43:42 - Rebuilding life from scratch
45:25 - Friendships through change
55:12 - Change: be afraid and do it anyways
FIND AMY ONLINE:
Website
Instagram: @amy_lee
SPONSOR:
Bombas | 20% off your first purchase at www.bombas.com/TLL
MENTIONED:
1:1 Rockstar Coaching with Amy Lee
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 196
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Aug 14, 2022 • 59min
195: Burnout, Boundaries and Work-life Balance w/ Emily Ballesteros
Do you have trouble remembering the last month? Is saying “no” really hard for you? Do you sometimes even wish you were sick so you could rest? These are all possible signs of burnout, a condition of mismanaged stress for an extended period of time. If this is you, there is hope. Burnout survivor, Emily Ballesteros shares her insight and tools for burnout recovery and stress management, from boundaries to reparenting. You are not alone, and there are ways to live life fully without losing yourself.
Burnout management coach, Emily Ballesteros devotes her work to helping busy professionals create work-life balance and reclaim time and energy to enjoy their lives. Her future book, "The Cure for Burnout" is a deep dive into burnout, how we suffer from it in our personal and professional lives, and what we can do to defeat it for good. Since starting her business, she has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, CNBC, Today, and facilitated Burnout Trainings for organizations like Pepsi, Nickelodeon, PayPal, and Macy's.
TIMESTAMPS:
05:45 - What is burnout?
10:38 - Understanding your warning signs
13:25 - Personal care explained
19:28 - Boundaries 101
22:34 - People pleasing recovery
27:15 - How to stand up for yourself
36:00 - Creating work-life balance
53:35 - Mindset & burnout management
FIND EMILY ONLINE:
Website
TikTok: @emilybruth
Instagram: @emilybruth
SPONSOR:
Babble | up to 60% off your subscription at Babbel.com/TLL
MENTIONED:
The Cure for Burnout - upcoming book by Emily Ballesteros
Burnout Management Course
Burnout Management Training
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 195
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Aug 7, 2022 • 60min
194: Sensuality, Sexuality and Divine Feminine Energy w/ Anjua Maximo
In a culture dominant in divine masculine energy, focused on drive, logic, and brains, many of us have lost touch with our divine feminine energy, our innate body’s wisdom, intuition, and connection to the heart. Anjua Maximo shares the power of sensual embodiment in our healing journey. Close your eyes, listen to the music and let your body guide you. Reconnect to your senses, reclaim your heart, and release shame. You deserve to be you, unapologetically.
Life and sensual embodiment coach, Anjua Maximo devotes her work to helping women feel whole, inspired, and free - in their mind, body and soul. She has an online community of over 200K on TikTok, runs the Electric Feminine podcast, and owns GrooveRyde fitness studio with her husband. Anjua believes that music and movement have the power to help you discover yourself and feel free no matter what stage in life you’re at.
Disclaimer: This episode mentions SA, eating disorders, and cancer.
TIMESTAMPS:
02:10 - Discovering sensual dance
06:45 - Freedom over perfection
12:01 - Sensual vs. sexual
20:15 - Facing your fears
25:51 - What is divine feminine energy?
41:11 - How to differentiate your real voice from your gremlin
50:08 - Sensuality, sexuality & spirituality
57:27 - Give yourself space & grace
FIND ANJUA ONLINE:
Website
TikTok: @anjuamaximo
Instagram: @anjuamaximo
SPONSORS:
Jinjer | 20% off first purchase at jinjer.US/TLL
MENTIONED:
The Electric Feminine Podcast
GrooveRyde fitness studio
Sheila Kelley - S Factor
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 194
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Jul 31, 2022 • 1h 17min
193: Dreams, Failures & Never Giving Up w/ Viet Nguyen
“You can’t fail if you never give up.” This is chef Viet Nguyen’s motto, a mantra that has seen him through incredible hardship and into inspiring success. From working as an exchange student to living in his car, Viet Nguyen will stop at nothing to make his dreams come true. He is a firm believer in nurturing your passion and never giving up on yourself, even when others do.
Viet Nguyen is the founder and Co-CEO of Kei Concepts, a thriving restaurant, and management group that develops and manages proprietary brands and incubates emerging concepts. Since 2013, Kei Concepts has introduced 11 restaurant concepts to the Orange County area in California.
Disclaimer: This episode is for educational purposes only and is not financial advice.
TIMESTAMPS:
04:05 - A passion for Art
10:34 - Falling in love with cooking
17:49 - Ingredients: failure and patience
24:30 - A love story & business partnership
44:12 - The relationship between confidence and fear
55:00 - The science behind success: the right people
56:40 - Heart-centered business: art first, money later
01:07:16 - Intersecting identities: Vietnam & America
01:14:22 - Bonus wrap-up: protecting mom & pop shops at all costs
FIND VIET ONLINE:
Website
Instagram: @kei.concepts
SPONSORS:
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MENTIONED:
Súp noodle bar - pho restaurant
Vox Kitchen - Asian comfort food restaurant
Gem Dining - progressive Southeast Asian dining
Nếp Café - elevated French-Vietnamese brunch
Kin Craft Ramen & Izakaya - a unique ramen experience
Rol Hand Roll Bar - hand roll restaurant
Ini Ristorante - Japanese-inspired Italian cuisine
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 193
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