

The Lavendaire Lifestyle
Aileen Xu
Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
Bi-weekly episodes on Sundays.
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Dec 11, 2022 • 56min
212: Finding Inner Peace with Meg Josephson
Celebrate the genius of your inner child and let go of what no longer serves you. In this episode, Meg Josephson shares a message of hope: you are not broken. Life after trauma can be peaceful, grounded, and even secure. Cultivate awareness and pause. Notice your triggers and tend to your wounds. Above all, be kind and understanding to yourself. You’ve been through enough. Live the life you desire and protect your peace. You are safe now.
Meg Josephson is a therapist and content creator based in San Francisco. She received her Master's of Social Work from Columbia University and approaches therapy through a compassion-focused lens: integrating both the mind and the body, meditation, and spirituality within the therapeutic setting. She reaches millions on Instagram and TikTok with her videos that break down healing topics in a tangible way. She also hosts workshops and shares her writing via her newsletter.
TIMESTAMPS:
01:41 - Background
04:32 - The power of meditation
14:34 - Inner child healing
18:17 - Understanding coping mechanisms
25:20 - Attachment Trauma
35:12 - Spirituality & therapy
37:39 - Generational wounds & cycles
48:40 - Meg’s routines & rituals
FIND MEG ONLINE:
Instagram: @megjosephson
Website
SPONSOR:
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MENTIONED:
2023 Artist of Life Workbook by Lavendaire
Attached by Dr. Amir Levine
Meg Josephson Newsletter
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 212
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Dec 4, 2022 • 56min
211: Atticus on Anonymity & Authenticity
Magical things happen when you put your Art into the world. If you have a passion, a message, or a vision that lights your soul, the anonymous New York Times Bestselling poet Atticus inspires you to share it. Define your authenticity and protect it at all costs. Choose to be seen for the right reasons. Align with your heart and never dull your light.
Atticus, the anonymous New York Times Bestselling author of Love Her Wild, The Dark Between Stars, and The Truth About Magic has taken the world by storm with his beautiful poetry and powerful, simple themes of love and strength of the human spirit. His fourth poetry collection, LVOE, is an exploration of self-love, meditation, meaning, loss, and romance. LVOE is a look forward, a look backward, but most importantly a look inward to the often confusing yet hopeful human experience.
TIMESTAMPS:
01:29 - The path to poetry
05:52 - Atticus’ success
07:00 - Confidence & courage
11:06 - Atticus’ creative process
24:03 - Fame & anonymity
31:35 - Mastering Art & business
42:51 - Everything love
54:00 - Artist Advice
FIND ATTICUS ONLINE:
Instagram: @atticuspoetry
Website
SPONSOR:
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MENTIONED:
Lost Poet Wine by Atticus
Poet Coffee by Atticus
Reading Recommendations:
On Writing by Steven King
On the Road by Jack Kerouac
The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald
Mary Oliver books
Silvia Path books
Robert Frost books
Walt Whitman books
Charles Bukowski books
Personal Development Training:
The Atlas Project
Landmark
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 211
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Nov 27, 2022 • 59min
210: Latha Jay on Mindset, Meditation & Manifesting
Our spiritual, emotional, and physical bodies are all connected. Learn to listen to your inherent wisdom, heal your inner child, and balance your chakras. Meditate, manifest and follow through with aligned action. You are the answer you seek. From shifting mindsets to creating new possibilities, certified manifestation practitioner Latha Jay teaches us the power we hold in our intention. Transform your hope into faith, and create your dream life.
Latha Jay is a spiritual manifestation coach and Ayurvedic practitioner who blends modern knowledge with traditional wisdom. She integrates what she has learned through life experiences to teach people to shift perceptions, manifest, and live happier lives. She is passionate about guiding clients through lifestyle and mindset modifications to flat-out transform their lives into a new experience of happiness, freedom, and love. When not working with clients, writing, spending time with her family, or building courses, Latha spends her days learning from others, farming, and persistently maintaining a beginner’s mindset in everything.
TIMESTAMPS:
01:36 - Latha’s spiritual journey
08:08 - Ayurveda & Western medicine
11:18 - Chakras 101
22:47 - Shadow work
42:46 - Connecting to nature
44:11 - Manifesting love
50:40 - Latha’s routines
57:22 - Spreading kindness
FIND LATHA ONLINE:
TikTok: @latha_jay
Website
MENTIONED:
2023 Artist of Life Workbook by Lavendaire
The Law of Attraction Manifestation Journal by Latha Jay
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 210
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Nov 20, 2022 • 56min
209: Mr. Cliff Tan on Feng Shui for a Harmonious Life
When life feels off, it gets reflected in your home. Energy, vibes, or chi impact your physical and emotional well-being. Feng Shui teaches us how to create the best flow of energy to live a harmonious life. TikTok architect Mr. Cliff Tan blends his gifts of architecture and Feng Shui to help people optimize their space and transform their lives! Tap into the intuitive wisdom of Feng Shui, shift your space, and create the resources you need to live your best life.
Cliff Tan is an architect and published author. He is most widely known for his ability to plan and optimize and make the most of any space using the principles of Feng Shui and aims to share this knowledge with the wider public as well as make architecture accessible to all.
TIMESTAMPS:
06:14 - Feng Shui 101
12:47 - Re-designing Aileen’s office
20:22 - The best place in the room
26:50 - Clutter & bad energy
30:57 - Flexibility in Feng Shui
37:40 - Cliff’s routine
42:17 - Working for the people
49:14 - Attracting success
FIND CLIFF ONLINE:
TikTok: @dearmodern
Website
SPONSORS:
Betterhelp | This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/tll
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MENTIONED:
2023 Artist of Life Workbook by Lavendaire
Feng Shui Modern by Cliff Tan
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 209
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Nov 13, 2022 • 53min
208: Yasmine Cheyenne on Boundaries & Healing
Setting boundaries is about listening to your needs and advocating for yourself. When you grow up learning that you can't say no or put yourself first, the idea of boundaries is petrifying. But you deserve healthy and balanced relationships with others and yourself. Listen to your needs and stand up for yourself. The temporary discomfort of boundary setting is worth protecting your peace and living in alignment.
Yasmine Cheyenne is a self-healing educator, author, speaker, and mental wellness advocate who helps people learn how to cultivate daily practices to build healthy, joyful lives. With an online community of over 150K and as the host of The Sugar Jar Podcast, corporate giants including ABC, Meta, and Skillshare have invited Yasmine to share her transformative teachings around self-healing which she also offers through keynote speeches, corporate presentations, and one-on-one coaching. Yasmine's first book, The Sugar Jar is currently available for pre-order and will show readers that when we nurture our energy, we can create more balance and joy in our lives.
TIMESTAMPS:
05:01 - Change & self-discovery
10:06 - Boundaries 101
17:23 - Recovering from people pleasing
21:43 - Recovering from perfectionism
25:19 - Compromise & control
33:03 - Loneliness & discomfort
45:15 - Cheyenne’s routines
48:47 - Loss, guilt & grief
FIND YASMINE ONLINE:
Instagram: @yasminecheyenne
Website
SPONSORS:
Apostrophe | Get your first visit for only $5 with code TLL at Apostrophe.com/tll
Clinique | Find your shade this holiday season at Clinique.com
MENTIONED:
2023 Artist of Life Workbook by Lavendaire
The Sugar Jar App
The Sugar Jar Book
Teas for Wellness - Organic Olivia
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 208
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Nov 6, 2022 • 1h 5min
207: Taking Risks for a Fulfilling Life w/ Alan Ying
Taking risks is terrifying. Most of us actively avoid taking risks believing that doing nothing is a safer course of action. Well, it turns out that taking risks is the least risky thing you can do to live a fulfilling life. Things might not always turn out the way you hoped, but if you live aligned with your “why,” research suggest that you will benefit emotionally. Live your life to the fullest, follow your heart and always ask yourself “what would I regret the most?”
Alan Ying dropped out of the cardiothoracic surgery residency program at Duke University to start a software company when he was twenty-eight years old. Since selling that business, he’s enjoyed leading, investing in, and serving on the boards of start-ups to public companies. Alan grew up in Ohio and now lives in Texas. He researches risk and is co-author of The Risk Paradox: Life Lessons from 102 Amazing Risk Takers.
TIMESTAMPS:
01:35 - Backstory
10:23 - Building a business
13:59 - Start with what you can control
23:22 - Finding yourself
31:16 - 6 types of risk takers
44:10 - How to weigh risk
50:00 - How to manage fear
58:05 - Risk & age
FIND ALAN ONLINE:
Email: alan.j.ying@gmail.com
LinkedIn
MENTIONED:
2023 Artist of Life Workbook by Lavendaire
The Risk Paradox: Life Lessons From 102 Amazing Risk-Takers
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 207
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Oct 30, 2022 • 1h 7min
206: Ellie Lee on Alchemizing Pain into Power
Everything is energy. As such, you can transform your fear and pain into power and love. All it takes is openness and commitment. Through shadow work, inner child healing, journaling, self-awareness, and leaning into feeling Ellie Lee’s life has radically transformed. It’s never too late to find yourself and return to love. Feel into your pain, and release your traumas. Healing yourself is healing the world.
Ellie Lee is an on-camera personality (on E!, MTV, Vh1, iHeartRadio), actress, and mystical life coach at Masters of Self University. Her spiritual awakening 3 years ago changed the course of her life and now her purpose is to help humanity come back to love and oneness.
TIMESTAMPS:
05:29 - Hitting rock bottom
14:43 - How to discover yourself
19:25 - Alchemizing energy
26:24 - Healing triggers
37:40 - Practicing self-love & connecting to your heart
40:33 - Reprogramming societal conditioning
48:27 - Conscious relationships
58:30 - Creating harmony in society
FIND ELLIE ONLINE:
TikTok | @elliejlee
Instagram | @elliejlee
SPONSOR:
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MENTIONED:
2023 Artist of Life Workbook by Lavendaire
Rachel Fiori Podcast
Mystical Life Coaching
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 206
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Oct 23, 2022 • 48min
205: Replacing Clutter with Connection w/ Tracy McCubbin
Why do we keep things we don’t want or use? Clutter takes up space we could be using to live intentionally. If something isn’t bringing joy but still feels impossible to get rid of, Tracy McCubbin is here to help. If you can find the emotional root of your clutter, you can let go of what weighs you down and open yourself to new experiences, meaningful connections, and stress-free living. Free yourself of clutter and make space for happiness.
Tracy McCubbin is a decluttering expert and author of Making Space, Clutter Free: The Last Book On Decluttering You'll Ever Need and her latest book, Make Space for Happiness: How to Stop Attracting Clutter and Start Magnetizing the Life You Want. She has always referred to herself as "Obsessive Compulsive Delightful," but who knew she could turn that trait into a booming business? As the CEO of dClutterfly, Tracy has helped thousands of clients clear the clutter in their lives to create space for positive life changes.
TIMESTAMPS:
01:54 - Clutter = emotional attachments
06:15 - 7 clutter blocks
10:13 - Step 1: acknowledgment
15:54 - Recycle your clutter
18:56 - Clutter magnets
25:54 - Find your motivation for decluttering
29:53 - Setting up systems
41:17 - Decluttering your life
FIND TRACY ONLINE:
Website
Instagram: @tracy_mccubbin
SPONSOR:
Clinique | find your shade this holiday season at Clinique.com
MENTIONED:
2023 Artist of Life Workbook by Lavendaire
Make Space for Happiness by Tracy McCubbin
Making Space, Clutter Free by Tracy McCubbin
dClutterfly organizing company by Tracy McCubbin
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 205
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Oct 16, 2022 • 1h 1min
204: Chelsea Kauai on Trusting Yourself & Following Your Joy
Consciously or subconsciously, many of us live life for others, functioning in a state of anxiety, self-deprecation, and co-comparison. But life is too short to miss out on the freedom and joy of being your unique self. Chelsea Kauai shows us the beauty in intentional living, from aligning with your joy to trusting yourself, nurturing patience, and always making space for fun. She’s passionate about movement and mindfulness and sharing these gifts with the world. It is never too late to fall in love with yourself. Discover yourself & connect with what lights you up.
Chelsea Kauai is an adventure enthusiast, filmmaker, advocate for intentional living, and journalist who pivoted into a full-time creator. She has worked with clients such as Canon & The National Parks Foundation and had three eco-innovative product launches. She’s been featured in Forbes, Travel & Leisure, Women's Health, Huffington Post & more.
TIMESTAMPS:
05:10 - Spark with social media
10:35 - Mindfulness
14:22 - Building structure in your life
20:44 - Following your heart
23:36 - Living in alignment
27:13 - Free diving, breathwork & mindset
41:29 - Acroyoga, play & human connection
47:47 - Overcoming unworthiness
FIND CHELSEA ONLINE:
Website
Instagram: @chelseakauai
SPONSOR:
Apostrophe | get your first visit for only $5 with code TLL at Apostrophe.com/tll
MENTIONED:
2023 Artist of Life Workbook by Lavendaire
“Notes to Self” journal by Chelsea Kauai
Chelsea Kauai Presets
Naval Podcast
“30 Lessons for Living” by Karl Pillemer
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 204
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Oct 9, 2022 • 1h 3min
203: Sky Cowans on Growing From Judgment to Curiosity
We live in a world where judgment is a default setting. But if we were to collectively shift into curiosity instead, the world would be a better place! Everyone is unique, so why not open our hearts, celebrate those differences, and connect authentically with ourselves and others? Sky Cowans humbly leads the way to become “weirder and weirder” every day and invites us to do the same.
Sky Cowans is a video creator who explores the world of wellness, spirituality, and alternative lifestyle on her YouTube channel Sky Life through documentary-style videos. With more than 600,000 followers combined across her platforms, Sky's mission is to inspire the shift from judgment to curiosity.
TIMESTAMPS:
01:40 - Beginnings in yoga
06:09 - Background in journalism
09:25 - Creating on YouTube
14:35 - Leaning into discomfort
21:10 - Following stories, not controlling them
36:00 - Routines
41:30 - Meditations
56:28 - Tips from the healthiest people in America
FIND SKY ONLINE:
YouTube
TikTok: @skycowans
Instagram: @skycowans
SPONSOR:
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MENTIONED:
The 5 Minute Joy Journal by Lavendaire
Dr. Joe Dispenza meditations
Meditation app “Open”
Meditation app “Headspace”
The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 203
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