Grace + Boundaries: Navigating Intergenerational Trauma with Erin Hearts

 Do you journal as one of your tools in your coping-with-emotions tool box?Journaling is an excellent practice to take care of ourselves! Today's guest, Becca Rae Eagle, is the host of the Joyful Journaling Podcast. https://thejoyfuljournalingpodcast.buzzsprout.comWe discuss how journaling as enriched, soothed, and even saved Becca's life.  If you'd like to contact Becca Rae here are her details: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourwritingdoula2day/IG:https://www.instagram.com/yourwritingdoula2day/Join  Becca's private Facebook Podcast Community, Joyful Journaling w/Becca Rae at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/631814974994724Her book may be purchased at: https://tinyurl.com/embodyingjoyaheartjournalWe mention Julia Cameron's The Artist's Way https://www.theartistswaybook.com/Thank you for listening! Let me know how your journaling practice is going.  Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!

Are you emotionally mature? If so, how emotionally mature are you?  We've all heard of emotional intelligence, but is emotional matuirty something you've ever thought about before? I sure hadn't pondered the concept prior to the start of my spiritual journey ten years ago. Emotional maturity is a huge marker for me in my life these days. I can look back and see how far I've grown in this area. I can also look forward and see how far I have to go in some aspects. I give you a three-question quiz to identify where you are on the scale of emotional maturity. Ready to test the waters? Here we go! Let me know what you liked about the episode and if you want to discuss this topic more!  Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!

Have you ever noticed your body reacting to media? I'm talking about scenes in a movie making you cover your eyes, or videos that you happened to glimpse that you wish you could un-see. Or, maybe you've even read some sensationalized news that made you nauseous or evoked rage.  I share some experiences I've had lately with the affects of media on me and my son, two highly sensitive people. I showed my son a couple PG-13 movies that made an impact on him (arguably too much) where I learned he's not ready to see any more truth of life at that depth.A show I watched recently had a very  provocative birth scene where there was bodily abuse by the doctor towards the mother. I share about how watching this scene made me cry for a couple minutes and also helped me possibly release some intergenerational trauma leftover from my own birth.  How does media affect you? Do you think of media consumption as a CHOICE? Let me know what you think! Find me on Instagram or join my Facebook group Survivors of Trauma Unite! Media I mention: Book: My Year of Rest and Relaxation https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/3276202.Ottessa_MoshfeghMovie: Weird: The Al Yankovic Storyhttps://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/weird_the_al_yankovic_storyMovie: The Pursuit of Happyness https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/pursuit_of_happynessTV: Fleishman is in Trouble https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fleishman_Is_in_TroubleNews I enjoy: The Skimm daily newsletter and The New York Times App Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!

Why could "clamming up" be a red flag in a relationship? I share details of a past relationship and unpack the signs that showed I had been uncomfortable way before I ended things months later. Do you have an idea for a dating deathtrap? Let me know @iheartserin! Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!

My first interview! I'm proud to share with you this conversation between me and my wise friend, Susan Tuttle. Susan is a life coach and teacher of all things recovery. She  shares valuable advice about her journey to find balance in her life and to learn how to stop self-abandoning. We speak about breathwork, body image, and how to respect and acknowledge our bodies for the miraculous systems that they are. If you'd like to get in contact with Susan or have her as your life coach, DM me and I will get you two connected. Thank you for listening!  Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!

If you've experienced thoughts of suicide, then you've had "suicidal ideation." These thoughts can be active or passive. I share some information about these thoughts today on the podcast because someone close to me has been feeling this way. I can relate, because I experienced passive suicidal thoughts while being in an emotionally abusive relationship. I take passive suicidal thoughts seriously. To mean it means we may not actively be pursuing completion, but we desperately need help for our mental state. Reaching out to others is the first smart step. Please make a call if you're experiencing thoughts such as these. In the USA you can dial 988 for mental health help, or simply 911.  I got some of my information from: https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/suicidal-ideation Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!

Happy Valentine's Day!  I have a special episode to share with you. If you're single, do you celebrate Valentine's Day? I sure do! Besides giving gifts and cards to my son and my family, I do some little things for myself. I've always wanted flowers, chocolate, and a beautifully written card from partners of mine, but never have dated anyone that cared about V-Day. So, now I buy those things for myself! SPECIAL EPISODE: I was a guest on the podcast Happy Brain with Sean Bloch and I'm excited for you to listen to this episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-brain/id1555659782?i=1000599458225 If you want to listen to my Dating Deathtrap series, here are the links to the episodes below! I hope they make you a savvy dater (way savvier than me!) Dating as a Dipstick of recovery: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000577756854Dating Deathtrap #1: Believing Words Above Actions https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000578487781Dating Deathtrap #2: Jumping to Conclusionshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000579278484 Dating Deathtrap #3: Desperation and Low-Self-Esteemhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000580021508Dating Deathtrap #4: Dating Down and Re-Datinghttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000580748391Dating Deathtrap #5: Living in Fantasy https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000583905066Dating Deathtrap #6: Dating with the Wrong Intentionshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000586903087 Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!

**Trigger Alert! This episode contains discussion of sexual abuse**I felt compelled to share a story from my 8th grade year in jr. high school, circa 1993. I had a serious EMDR session last weekend with my therapist, where we unpacked some behaviors that have been ailing me. I've had some insomnia due to a hypervigillent part of me that needs to be perfect to avoid public humiliation. There's also some body dysmorphia leftover from messages I received about how my stomach looked as a young child and beyond. Those are elements of trauma recovery that I discuss in today's episode, along with a deep, humiliating, loss of innocence that I experienced in a room full of 13-year-old girls.  Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!

Have you "leveled-up" lately? How are your New Year's resolution's going? I share what lelveling up spiritually means for me and how it happened. Have you ever heard of "parts" therapy? I do some IFS- Internal Family Systems-therapy and I'm talking about a part of me that I met recently. She is my loving, vulnerable part, and she's been exiled for years; probably blamed by my other parts for getting us in to an abusive relationship. What does she have to tell me? What adventures occur on this twisty-turney journey of life!  Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!

Have you ever experienced a panic attack? They can be so scary. I share some details about why panic attacks form in our bodies and what they are trying to tell us. I mention The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18693771-the-body-keeps-the-score Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!