MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel

ADHD coach Jaye Lin shares valuable insights on managing ADHD. She explains how a lack of chaos can ironically hinder productivity, leaving many feeling unmotivated. Jaye dives into the importance of finding the right amount of stress to kickstart focus and offers practical strategies like shorter work intervals and creating mini-deadlines. With a keen eye on balancing chaos and productivity, she encourages celebrating small achievements to boost motivation and reduce anxiety.

Conflict can be uncomfortable. But it’s a necessary part of life that can have great outcomes. ADHD often comes with trouble with executive function, emotional regulation, time perception, and more. This can make conflict even tougher to face. Senior certified Gottman relationship therapist Michael McNulty walks us through the research on which the Gottman Method is based — and what it means for relationships.Listen to Cate and Michael as they explore how conflict can change with ADHD, and the four horsemen of divorce — each with their own antidote.Related resourcesTrouble with self-regulation: What to knowThe Gottman InstituteMichael’s website, chicagorelationshipcenter.comTimestamps(03:34) What is the Gottman Method?(06:00) The research the Gottman Method is based on(09:42) ADHD and the Gottman Method(12:54) Executive function and conflict(15:22) Time perception and conflict(16:20) What is “turning away and turning towards”?(19:13) The four horsemen of divorce(20:32) The first horseman: Criticism(23:26) The second horseman: Defensiveness(24:50) The third horseman: Contempt(27:48) The fourth horseman: Stonewalling(29:11) Where you can find MichaelTo get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.orgWe love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

It’s not uncommon for some women with ADHD to scramble to complete tasks at the last minute despite having ample time to start. This struggle can cause frustration, anxiety, and even stress. Listen as Dr. Monica Johnson breaks down how symptoms of ADHD can lead to delays in task completion. And get strategies on how to improve productivity and reduce stress.To get a transcript and check out more episodes, visit the MissUnderstood channel page at Understood.We love to hear from our listeners. Email us at podcasts@understood.org.Related resourcesPrioritizing the wrong things at work? This may be whyProcrastination, rushing, and ADHD (Yasmeen’s story)Timestamps(00:59) What is procrastination?(01:13) What are key characteristics of procrastination?(04:27) Ways to break the cycle of procrastination(05:21) What is the Pomodoro Technique? Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Do you find yourself planning to go above and beyond often? What do you do when a voice you’ve made has gone the wrong way? Perfectionism can come up a lot with ADHD, especially in women. ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on pressuring ourselves to be perfect. Listen for why this anxiety might come up, and how to get real with yourself.Related resourcesAnxiety, imposter syndrome, and ADHD (Mallory’s story)ADHD and perfectionismADHD and anxietyTimestamps(00:47) Mallory’s quote(02:03) Jaye’s reaction(02:40) ADHD, anxiety, and perfectionism(05:22) Over-the-top expectations of doing it all(06:41) Does the idea of “perfect” align with why we want to do something?(10:17) Stuck in decision paralysis because we want to make the perfect choice(15:07) TakeawaysTo get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the MissUnderstood podcast page at Understood.orgHave a challenge you’d like Jaye to talk about in an episode? Email or send a voice memo to us at adhdcoachtips@understood.org Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Dating is a skill. And like any skill, it takes practice. ADHD can intensify dating challenges. Like, masking to be someone we’re not so the other person will like us. Or, having intense feelings quickly, and jumping into a relationship that may not be what we want in the long run. Dating coach Amie Leadingham visits the show this week to talk about what a dating coach does and common dating pitfalls. Host Cate Osborn addresses what these challenges can look like with ADHD on top. Related resourcesIs it love or is it dopamine?, from Tips from an ADHD CoachA dating coach talks ADHD and super-connecting, from How’d You Get THAT Job?!Amie’s website, amiethedatingcoach.comTimestamps(03:59) What does a dating coach do?(08:07) How ADHD can affect dating(09:29) ADHD and “love bombing”(12:56) What is “screening”?(14:04) Masking in dating/The “marketing trap”(17:50) How to ask good questions(19:45) What to do when you realize your relationship might not be what you want(21:37) How can people with ADHD show up to be good partners?(23:42) When do we disclose that we have ADHD?(25:21) Trouble with time perception and texting(26:20) Trouble with impulse control and dating(27:30) Amie’s question suggestions(29:00) ADHD and oversharing(30:54) Amie on a dating timeline(33:10) ADHD and kink(34:24) Where you can find AmieTo get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.orgWe love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Women often juggle multiple roles. From their careers and family duties to even personal goals — all while trying to stay on top of their long to-do lists. Every tick of the clock feels like a reminder of all the things left to do, leaving some women with ADHD feeling rushed and overwhelmed.In this episode, listen as Dr. J explores how ADHD can impact common struggles with time management. Learn about the unique time management challenges faced by women with ADHD. And get strategies to help turn those chaotic moments into organized victories. To get a transcript and check out more episodes, visit the MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel page at Understood.We love to hear from our listeners. Email us at podcast@understood.org.Related resourcesWhat is executive function?ADHD, time management, and PTSD: What made me a career coachTimestamps(01:17) Why is time management a challenge for some women with ADHD?(01:35) The connection between ADHD and executive function  (03:53) Ways to manage time better Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

After getting an adult ADHD diagnosis, a lot of emotions can come up. And questions about who you are as a person, and what to do next — like, have I been masking my whole life? Will people close to me still like me if I change?ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on questioning who we are after finding out we have ADHD. Listen for some of Jaye’s own story about navigating her identity, and some reassurance that we are all of our layers. Related resources“I thought I was just quirky.” Plus, ADHD accommodations at work (Mananya’s story)How do I emotionally prepare for ADHD diagnosis?Timestamps(00:26) Mananya’s quote(02:13) Jaye’s reaction  (02:33) The grief that can come after an adult ADHD diagnosis(03:30) Questioning who we are(05:55) Who are we now that we know we have ADHD?(09:50) How do we move forward?(13:03) Outro  To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the MissUnderstood podcast page at Understood.org.Have a challenge you’d like Jaye to talk about in an episode? Email or send a voice memo to us at adhdcoachtips@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Farah Jamil, an executive and ADHD coach, specializes in helping individuals navigate workplace challenges. In this conversation, she unpacks how ADHD impacts communication and collaboration at work. Farah emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy and recognizing personal needs to build stronger relationships. She offers practical strategies for managing conflicts and speaks candidly about overcoming fear and self-doubt. Tune in for tips on embracing vulnerability and fostering a supportive work environment!

In this discussion, Dr. J, a specialist in the impact of ADHD on emotional responses, sheds light on rejection sensitivity, particularly among women with ADHD. She explains how a simple 'no' can trigger overwhelming feelings of self-doubt and shame. The conversation explores effective strategies for managing these intense emotions, such as mindfulness and cognitive reframing. Dr. J encourages listeners to embrace rejection as a path to personal growth, highlighting the importance of resilience and emotional awareness.

Jaye Lin, an ADHD coach, shares her expertise on coping skills and impulsivity. She discusses how impulsive spending can feel like control but ultimately leads to a cycle of powerlessness. Jaye offers insights on emotional regulation and the importance of self-kindness. She emphasizes the role of perspective in finding personal empowerment and practical strategies to replace unhealthy behaviors. Her actionable tips aim to help listeners navigate the complexities of ADHD and enhance their sense of agency.