
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel
From Understood.org, this is MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel. It’s the first-ever podcast channel for women with ADHD.
For decades, women with ADHD have been overlooked and undiagnosed. That’s finally beginning to change. But there’s still so far to go.
This is where MissUnderstood comes in. We’re a channel made by women with ADHD for women with ADHD. And we’re talking about the things we want to hear. Women with ADHD need (good!) information, smart takes on ADHD topics, and so much more.
Hang out with @catieosaurus and guests as they discuss ADHD, relationships, and sex on Sorry, I Missed This. Get answers to the ADHD questions you didn’t know you had from Dr. Monica Johnson on ADHD and…. Or tune in for practical tips from empathetic ADHD coach (who’s totally been there) Jaye Lin with Tips From an ADHD Coach.
Latest episodes

May 8, 2025 • 29min
Sorry, I Missed This: Kink, BDSM, and ADHD
Stefani Goerlich, an author and forensic sexologist specializing in supporting kinky individuals, discusses the intersection of BDSM and ADHD. She highlights how BDSM practices can provide structure, sensory input, and improved communication, making them particularly beneficial for neurodivergent individuals. The conversation covers common misconceptions about kink, the importance of consent, and how negotiating power dynamics can foster connection. Stefani delves into how rituals in kink can help with focus and emotional regulation, making it a valuable tool in relationships.

May 6, 2025 • 12min
ADHD and: Asking for help
Exploring the unique challenges women with ADHD face when seeking help, this conversation highlights the struggles of perfectionism and executive dysfunction. Experts offer practical strategies to gradually build confidence in asking for assistance. The importance of human connection shines through, encouraging listeners to share their stories and support one another. Discover how reaching out can lead to real relief and camaraderie, breaking the cycle of isolation.

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Apr 29, 2025 • 15min
Tips from an ADHD Coach: Changing careers often
The discussion dives into the unique career challenges faced by individuals with ADHD, exploring the urge to shift jobs frequently. It highlights the link between dopamine and job excitement, and how this can lead to burnout. Listeners learn about the emotional rollercoaster of career changes, from initial enthusiasm to eventual dissatisfaction. Strategies for fostering fulfillment and growth within current roles are also shared, emphasizing the importance of communication and exploring challenges beyond work.

Apr 24, 2025 • 28min
Sorry, I Missed This: Online dating with ADHD
Join health and science journalist Danielle Elliot as she investigates the rise of women recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen to Climbing the Walls now.In theory, online dating can feel like an easy, low-stakes solution to meeting people. But in practice, there are a few pitfalls that many fall into. With ADHD, dating apps can pose even more challenges and be an additional drag on your attention. Clinical Psychologist Dr. Shauna Pollard visits the show to talk about what she’s noticed while working with ADHDers on online dating. Join this conversation on the dopamine chase that can happen while using dating apps, and setting boundaries with yourself. Related resourcesDr. Pollard’s websiteA dating coach talks ADHD and super-connectingADHD and emotionsTimestamps(01:58) ADHD and online dating challenges(09:17) Hyperfocusing on dating, and how to slow down(11:41) “Marketing yourself” on online dating, and how to show the whole picture of who you are(14:01) Figure out your “filter” for online matches, and include offline dating in addition to online(17:03) Snap judgements, biases, and discrimination(19:02) Feeling overwhelmed? Do what feels best for you(20:02) ADHD disclosure on dating profiles(22:42) Best practices for ADHDers to build meaningful relationshipsFor a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Apr 22, 2025 • 12min
ADHD and: Burnout
Join health and science journalist Danielle Elliot as she investigates the rise of women recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen to Climbing the Walls now.Many women with ADHD get stuck in a never-ending cycle of burnout. Trying to manage work, family, and social commitments can feel overwhelming, leaving them tired and unable to keep up. This stress can make everyday tasks seem even more difficult and lead to feelings of frustration.In this episode, Dr. J explains what burnout is and the ways it can appear in daily life. Listen as she breaks down the impact it can have on women with ADHD. Plus, get practical tips for recognizing early signs of burnout and how to stop it before it gets worse.Related resourcesADHD burnoutHow ADHD can affect your mental healthMental load: The invisible weight women with ADHD carryTimestamps(00:50) What is burnout?(01:33) How ADHD impacts burnoutFor a transcript and more resources, visit our episode page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at podcast@understood.org.
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Apr 17, 2025 • 28min
Hyperfocus: Meet the reporter who threw herself into the ADHD universe
Join health and science journalist Danielle Elliot as she investigates the rise of women recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen to Climbing the Walls now.If you follow ADHD news, you might’ve heard that diagnosis rates in women nearly doubled during the pandemic. Danielle Elliot was one of them, receiving her diagnosis just before she turned 37.Danielle is also a science and health journalist. So, she did the thing that many reporters are inclined to do — she began investigating this big, new thing in her life and how it fit into the world around her.As she dug in deeper, she landed on two big questions relating to the pandemic diagnosis boom: Why women? And why now? Her answers culminated in a new podcast from Understood.org called Climbing the Walls. It’s a six-episode series, and the first installment is out now.This week on Hyperfocus, Danielle visits the show to talk about her ADHD experience and what it’s like reporting a story where you’re one of the characters.Related resourcesListen to Climbing the WallsI’m a journalist with ADHD. Here’s how I get it done.ADHD and womenTimestamps(1:25) The origins of Danielle’s story (7:50) Surprises during the reporting process(12:05) What it felt like to get a diagnosis (22:14) Danielle’s big takeaways from making the showFor a transcript and more resources, visit the Hyperfocus page on Understood.We’d love to hear from you. Email us at hyperfocus@understood.org.
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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Apr 15, 2025 • 16min
Tips from an ADHD Coach: People-pleasing everyone but ourselves
The podcast explores the challenges faced by individuals with ADHD, particularly women, in the realm of people-pleasing. It delves into how the habit of prioritizing others can lead to resentment and neglect of personal needs. Listeners will learn about the emotional toll of seeking approval and the hidden costs it can have on relationships. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and finding a balance between self-care and the desire to please, ultimately advocating for a more fulfilling life.

Apr 10, 2025 • 31min
Sorry, I Missed This: Reddit reactions — ADHD, cheating, and weaponized incompetence
Join health and science journalist Danielle Elliot as she investigates the rise of women recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen to Climbing the Walls now.Are ADHD and cheating related? What about weaponized incompetence and ADHD? These are a few questions that surround the ADHD community.Producer Margie visits the podcast for another round of ‘Reddit reactions’ with more posts from the ADHD women subreddit. Listen for host Cate Osborn’s reactions on a few different scenarios related to cheating and weaponized incompetence.Related resourcesThe National Domestic Violence HotlineThe ADHD Women subredditADHD support for Women by Understood.org’s Facebook groupTimestamps(02:00) Post #1 “ADHD and cheating/Adrenaline and dopamine”(09:24) Post #2 “Narcissist cheater and ADHD”(15:30) Post #3 “Does anyone else sometimes identify with those ‘weaponized incompetence’ guys you hear about?”(21:22) Post #4 “I’m so tired of trying to compensate for myself AND my partner”(27:51) ADHD can be challenging, and you’re not aloneFor a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood.We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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Apr 8, 2025 • 13min
ADHD and: The fear of failure
Fear of failure can be paralyzing for women with ADHD, often leading to second-guessing and risk avoidance. The podcast delves into how societal expectations heighten these feelings of inadequacy. Dr. Monica Johnson shares practical strategies to reframe failure and promote personal growth. Emphasizing self-compassion, she encourages listeners to replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations. Through trial and error, women can learn to embrace challenges and transform their fear into opportunities for growth.

Apr 3, 2025 • 30min
Hyperfocus: Can you really “hack” your dopamine?
Join health and science journalist Danielle Elliot as she investigates the rise of women recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen to Climbing the Walls now.It often seems that the more complex a subject is, the more people tend to oversimplify it.If your social media feeds are anything like mine, that’s definitely the case. Especially when it comes to science. One of those often-oversimplified things is dopamine. This neurotransmitter, or brain chemical, has become a target for catchy headlines promising new ways to “hack your dopamine.” Seriously. If you don’t believe me, type in “dopamine hacks” on YouTube and enjoy the endless scroll.This week on Hyperfocus, we take a deep dopamine dive with psychologist Dr. Ari Tuckman and sort out fact from fiction.Related resourcesHow I beat my social media habit (and how you can too)Tips from an ADHD Coach: Is it love or is it dopamine?Attention: How it’s different from working memoryTimestamps(3:01) What is dopamine? (8:48) How do dopamine and ADHD relate? (16:59) The truth behind dopamine “hacks” (25:25) What a clinician wishes we knewFor a transcript and more resources, visit the Hyperfocus page on Understood.We’d love to hear from you. Email us at hyperfocus@understood.org
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
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