MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel ADHD and dating: Why the spark burns bright (then fades fast)
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Nov 4, 2025 The magic of new relationships can feel intense for women with ADHD. Discover why the initial spark fades and how the ADHD brain reacts during early romance stages. Learn to recognize the difference between a natural waning and deeper incompatibilities. Dr. Johnson emphasizes the importance of chasing experiences over feelings. Get practical tips on managing emotions and expectations in new relationships, plus insights on when to disclose ADHD to a partner. Tune in for valuable advice that resonates!
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Why Early Romance Feels Electrifying
- New relationship energy (NRE) floods the ADHD brain with dopamine, norepinephrine, and oxytocin, boosting focus and pleasure.
- The chemical surge can temporarily mask ADHD symptoms by turning the relationship into a hyperfocus.
Romantic Obsession Mirrors Addiction
- Early romantic love activates brain reward systems similar to addictive substances, creating obsessive thinking and hyperfocus.
- For women with ADHD, this can lead to neglecting other responsibilities while obsessing about a partner.
The 'Crash' After The Honeymoon
- The end of the honeymoon is a recalibration from intense stimulation to steadier attachment, not necessarily falling out of love.
- The dopamine drop can feel like a crash for ADHD brains that seek novelty and stimulation.