
Modern Masculinity
"Modern Masculinity" is a podcast that explores the real-life challenges that men face today. Whether it's balancing work and family, figuring out how to be a good husband or father, or just trying to make sense of the world - this show is for guys looking for practical, down-to-earth advice and guidance. The podcast discusses the struggles and triumphs of modern manhood and features interviews with men (and women) who can share their methods and mindsets to maneuver the world as a modern man.
Latest episodes

Jun 7, 2024 • 33min
Relationships: Does Masculinity Still Matter in Modern Dating? with Greg Wasserman
Greg Wasserman talks about how societal expectations and traditional gender roles shape men's dating experiences and explore the importance of vulnerability and emotional healing. Greg also touches on the unique challenges men face when dating without a car in L.A. He shares his perspective on the often-unspoken pressures men deal with in modern relationships. This episode offers a look at how men can redefine strength and build real connections in today's world.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to the Show: Meet Greg Wasserman00:01:25 - Authentic Friendships: The Key to Real Connections00:02:50 - Car-less Dating Adventures: Greg's L.A. Story00:05:39 - Breaking Dating Norms: The Modern Man’s Dilemma00:08:59 - Healing From Within: The Role of Self-Care in Love00:11:05 - Redefining Masculinity: Greg’s Perspective00:13:14 - Vulnerability Unleashed: Men and Emotional Honesty00:14:30 - Overcoming Societal Expectations: A Personal Story00:17:45 - Building Emotional Resilience: Greg’s Tips00:19:20 - The Impact of Vulnerability on Relationships00:21:56 - From Rock Bottom to Poetry: Greg's Transformative Journey00:23:40 - Poetry as Therapy: Greg’s Creative Outlet00:26:15 - Finding Strength in Vulnerability: Real-Life Examples00:29:00 - Sharing Your Story: The Power of Personal Narratives00:31:25 - Final Words: Lessons Learned and Moving ForwardLinks And Resources:Greg on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

May 31, 2024 • 46min
Parenting: Building Sovereign Families with Matt Beaudreau
Matt Beaudreau is here to talk about sovereignty and its impact on family, education, and personal freedom. Matt explains his mission to help families take full control of their lives. He shares his experience as an educator and leader, discussing the flaws of traditional schooling and the need for critical thinking. Matt also talks about practical ways to teach children self-reliance and responsibility. The way he does this includes a mix of academic and real-world experiences, helping young people grow into confident adults. This episode explores how changing our view of education and responsibility can lead to a more free and fulfilling life.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to Modern Masculinity | Introducing: Matt Beaudreau00:02:00 - Matt Beaudreau’s Mission: Building Sovereign Families00:02:35 - What Does Sovereignty in Education Mean?00:04:49 - Critical Thinking and the Socratic Method00:06:21 - Living a Life of True Sovereignty00:07:51 - Raising Sovereign Children00:11:00 - Teaching Sovereignty Through Real-Life Experiences00:14:14 - Daily Routines and Responsibilities on the Farm00:16:43 - Encouraging Practical Skills and Independence00:20:08 - Creating Purpose Through Action00:21:50 - Essential Skills for Parents and Children00:22:40 - The Importance of Physical and Communication Skills00:23:21 - Meta Skills and Critical Thinking00:25:25 - The Challenges of Traditional Schooling00:28:51 - Exploring Alternative Education Models00:33:00 - Recognizing and Addressing Developmental Stages in Education00:36:42 - Developmental Stages and Learning00:39:38 - Apogee Schools and Their Unique Approach00:43:33 - Conclusion and Final ThoughtsLinks And Resources:Matt on LinkedInMatt on InstagramMatt on FacebookMatt on X / TwitterActon Academy PlacerApogee StrongApogee PayApogee Strong FoundationHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

May 24, 2024 • 47min
Mindset: Finding Your Purpose and Creating Consistency with Matt LeBris
Matt LeBris joins Hector to discuss the importance of authenticity and consistency in achieving both personal and professional success. Throughout this conversation about his own experiences, Matt talks about facing life's challenges, the process of emotional healing, and the significance of community in personal growth. He introduces various healing techniques, including breathwork and grounding practices, and reflects on the changing nature of modern masculinity. With insights on therapy and personal development, Matt's story highlights the courage it takes to look inward and the profound impact it can have on one's life. Tune in to understand how vulnerability and resilience can lead to a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome and Introduction: Meet the Inspiring Matt LeBris00:01:18 - Authenticity Unleashed: Matt LeBris's Genuine Journey00:02:29 - The Power of Consistency: Finding Your True Purpose00:04:16 - Growing Through Adversity: Embracing Life's Challenges00:05:00 - Processing Personal Loss: Matt's Story of Resilience00:06:30 - Pain and Purpose: How Challenges Shape Us00:09:10 - Emotional Healing: Steps to Recovery00:11:40 - Finding Strength in Vulnerability00:12:55 - Tools for Emotional Healing: What Works for Matt00:14:10 - Long-Term Benefits of Processing Emotions00:15:32 - Emotional Processing and Healing: A Deep Dive00:18:45 - Innovative Healing Techniques: Exploring Breathwork and Beyond00:23:11 - Innovative Healing Techniques: Exploring Breathwork and Beyond00:25:39 - The Healing Path: Matt Labrie's Forward-Looking Journey00:26:16 - Diverse Healing Modalities: A Broader Perspective00:31:29 - Community's Role in Personal Growth: Building Your Support Network00:33:20 - Therapy and Personal Development: Navigating the Challenges00:34:45 - The Importance of a Supportive Community00:36:00 - Personal Growth: Sharing Insights and Experiences00:37:30 - Addressing Modern Masculinity: What It Means Today00:39:00 - Grounding Practices: Staying Present in Modern Times00:40:20 - Daily Practices for Mental Well-being00:41:40 - Balancing Professional and Personal Life00:43:03 - Grounding Practices and Mindfulness: Staying Present in Modern Times00:45:48 - Modern Masculinity Reflected: Insights and Closing ThoughtsLinks And Resources:Matt LeBris1B BrandingMatt on InstagramMatt on LinkedInMatt on FacebookMatt on YouTubeDecoding Success PodcastHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

May 10, 2024 • 46min
Business: Constructing a Balanced Life with Chaz Wolfe
This episode is an exploration of the multifaceted challenges men face in striving for the ‘exceptional life.’ Joined by serial entrepreneur, leader, facilitator and speaker Chaz Wolfe, they explore the delicate balance between professional ambition and personal fulfillment. From the trenches of fatherhood to the pursuit of business excellence, they discuss the evolution of manhood and the search for identity beyond traditional roles. As they have conversations around being a provider, partner, and parent, you’re invited to reflect on your own journeys towards holistic success and the art of thriving in all life’s arenas!Chapters:00:00:00 - Opening Thoughts: The Many Fronts of Manhood00:01:55 - Hector’s Parenting Predicament: A Sidewalk Crisis00:03:03 - Chaz’s Vision: Crafting an Exceptional Life00:06:00 - The Balancing Act: Business, Family, and Self-Enlightenment00:09:37 - Embracing Fatherhood: The Shift from Self to Selflessness00:15:53 - The Provider’s Dilemma: Business Success vs. Family Presence00:19:31 - Gender Roles Revisited: Navigating Modern Family Dynamics00:22:28 - Lessons from Leaders: The Core of Success Across 450 Episodes00:25:17 - Communication Breakdown: Finding Clarity in the Chaos00:26:16 - Evolving Dialogues: The Continuous Journey of Understanding00:27:52 - Conflict and Connection: The Art of Communicative Balance00:29:50 - Beyond Avoidance: Embracing Conflict for a Harmonious Home00:31:31 - Purposeful Planning: Structuring Life for Presence and Impact00:33:56 - Intentional Living: The Power of a Planned Schedule00:36:43 - Self-Improvement and Community: Building a Legacy of Kings00:39:27 - The Importance of Purpose and Community in Personal Growth00:43:40 - Defining the Modern Man: Leadership, Responsibility, and GrowthLinks And Resources:Chaz WolfeGathering the KingsChaz on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Apr 26, 2024 • 46min
Relationships: How Men Can Lead So That a Woman Wants to Follow with Coach Raph
Coach Raph helps men lead a life in a way that a woman naturally wants to follow. He provides a safe place for men.In today’s episode, Coach Raph and Hector discuss the pressures of male stoicism and the liberation found in vulnerability. This powerful conversation not only questions the pillars of traditional manhood but also offers you a new vision for a more emotionally connected and authentic male identity. Tune in to explore how breaking free from age-old stereotypes can lead to a profound transformation in personal and societal levels!Chapters:00:00:00 - Overcoming Challenges and Embracing Growth with Coach Raph00:03:15 - Beyond Stereotypes: Tackling Divorce and Toxic Masculinity00:06:14 - Exploring Self-Discovery and Leadership in Personal Relationships00:08:45 - Bridging Gaps: Healing and Growing After Relationship Breakdowns00:11:02 - Crucial Conversations: The Role of Conflict and Communication00:13:12 - Challenging Norms: Modern Relationships and Shifting Gender Roles00:16:58 - Reshaping Relationships: Equality and Partnership in Modern Times00:19:37 - Balancing Acts: Understanding and Navigating Modern Gender Expectations00:22:04 - A New Vision of Manhood: Focusing on Internal Victories00:25:32 - The Quest for Personal Evolution and Its Impact on Attractiveness00:28:09 - Decoding Desires: Understanding What Women Really Want00:30:49 - Mastering Emotional Intelligence and Respect in Relationships00:33:36 - The Critical Role of Acknowledgement in Partnerships00:36:25 - Seeking Harmony: Why Complementarity Beats Competition00:39:03 - Integrating Traditional Values with Modern Perspectives on Masculinity00:41:31 - Final Reflections: Lessons on Masculinity and Relationship DynamicsLinks And Resources:Coach Raph on InstagramCoach Raph on TikTokCoach Raph on YouTubeHow To Confidently Lead a Virtuous Relationship [Free Guide]Hector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Apr 16, 2024 • 38min
Emotional Intelligence: Evolving Identities and Honesty with Reggie Marra
This episode features Reggie Marra. He is an educator, coach, workshop facilitator, poet and author. Reggie discusses the unspoken rules and myths that have traditionally defined manhood and the personal and societal challenges that men face today. He shares insights from his latest book, offering perspectives on how men can redefine their identities in a way that embraces authenticity and emotional honesty. Through their conversation, they address the need for a new blueprint for masculinity—one that includes vulnerability and introspection as strengths, not weaknesses. This episode is a must-listen if you’re interested in understanding the complex framework of modern manhood and how we can move towards a more inclusive and genuine expression of self in today's world.Chapters:00:00:00 - Kickoff: Welcome to the Modern Masculinity Podcast00:01:25 - Meet Reggie Marra: Life Challenges and a Quest for a Voice00:03:07 - Legacy Burdens: Carrying Generational Narratives00:04:38 - Debunking Myths: A New Look at Masculinity00:06:17 - Evolving Roles: The Shift in Masculine Scripts00:08:27 - Questioning Norms: The Need to Challenge Cultural Givens00:09:39 - Tracing Trauma: The Influence of Generational Narratives00:12:39 - Toxic Traits: Discussing the Unhealthy Masculine00:15:27 - Exploring the Roots of Unhealthy Masculinity00:18:15 - Identity Swings: The Pendulum of Masculine Roles00:23:42 - Harmonizing Energies: Balancing Masculine and Feminine Forces00:27:08 - Integrating New Perspectives on Masculinity and Femininity00:30:46 - Revelations: Reggie's Surprising Research Findings00:36:34 - Wrap-Up: Final Thoughts & Discovering More About Reggie's WorkLinks And Resources:Reggie on LinkedInReggie MarraFully HumanHealing America’s Narratives by Reggie MarraHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterBook Recommendation:The Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan HaidtThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Apr 12, 2024 • 25min
Health: Fitness, Fatherhood, and Friendship with John Authier
John Authier, a longtime friend of Hector’s and fitness coach, discusses the intricate dance of navigating life's challenges, from the trials of fatherhood in today's digital age to the pressures of maintaining physical and mental wellness. John shares his personal journey, shedding light on the realities behind the social media gloss of parenting, the transformative power of fitness on mental health, and the evolving definition of masculinity. This episode is a candid reflection on growth, resilience, and the strength found in vulnerability, offering you a thoughtful perspective on the multifaceted roles men play in society today.Chapters:00:00:00 - Dive Into Modern Masculinity with Hector00:00:53 - Childhood Friends Reconnect: John’s Life in Fitness and Fatherhood00:02:23 - The Unfiltered Truth About Parenting in Today's World00:06:01 - The Double-Edged Sword of Social Media on Our Lives00:08:32 - The Ripple Effect of Screen Time on Family Dynamics and Personal Anxiety00:11:49 - How Fitness Shapes Our Mental Health and Inner Strength00:16:04 - John’s Journey Through Mental Health: A Raw Perspective00:18:27 - From Adversity to Self-Discovery: Navigating Life's Challenges00:21:41 - The Evolving Face of Masculinity: Finding Strength in Vulnerability00:23:53 - Wrapping Up: A New Definition of Strength and MasculinityLinks And Resources:John on InstagramOnline CoachingHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Apr 2, 2024 • 42min
Mindset: Embracing the Uncertain with Keith Edwards
Keith Edwards’ life journey embodies the essence of adaptability and resilience. Once set on a path vastly different from where he stands today, Keith has embraced the unexpected turns, transforming his narrative into one of profound self-discovery and evolution. As a newly published children's author, his story extends beyond the pages of his books, reflecting a deep engagement with the challenges of masculinity, identity, and personal growth. Keith offers invaluable insights into navigating life's uncertainties, the importance of self-reflection, and the quest for authenticity amidst societal expectations. His journey, marked by moments of vulnerability and strength, invites you to reconsider your own path and the mask you might wear, encouraging a deeper exploration of what it truly means to be oneself in a constantly shifting world.Chapters:00:00:00 - Meet Keith Edwards: From Predictable Paths to Uncharted Territories00:01:27 - Embracing the Unknown: Keith's Approach to Life's Curveballs00:02:38 - Masculinity Redefined: Keith's Personal and Academic Musings00:04:19 - Behind the Mask: Delving into the Facades of Masculinity00:07:14 - The Art of Unlearning: Revisiting and Rethinking One's Essence00:14:35 - Digital Age Masculinity: Navigating Identity in the Era of Social Media00:16:02 - Masculinity Across Cultures and Communities: A Diverse Perspective00:18:31 - Personal Growth in the Digital Age: Keith's Observations00:20:37 - Reflections on Authenticity and Self-Expression in a Connected World00:22:39 - Assertiveness vs. Kindness: Reconciling Self-Perceptions00:24:07 - Crafting the Self: The Dual Paths of Discovery and Creation00:26:48 - Lessons Unlearned: Shedding the Weight of the Past for Growth00:31:10 - The Essence of Mindfulness: Finding Clarity in the Pause00:34:04 - Self-Care as a Pillar: The Foundation of a Fulfilling Day00:37:24 - Decades of Discovery: Reflecting on Life's Evolving Stages00:40:10 - What is Modern Masculinity? Keith's Personal DefinitionLinks And Resources:Keith EdwardsUnmasking Toward Authentic Masculinity by Keith EdwardsHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Mar 26, 2024 • 43min
Mindset: Becoming the Evolving Man with Markham Rollins
Today’s conversation with Markham Rollins encapsulates a profound journey of transformation and growth, touching on retirement redefined, personal development, and the essence of modern masculinity. Markham shares his transition from a successful career in insurance to finding purpose and passion in his later years, highlighting the importance of staying active, embracing change, and serving others. His insights offer a roadmap for men at any stage of life to reflect, evolve, and strive towards a balanced existence that harmonizes ambition with inner peace. This episode invites you to consider your own paths to fulfillment, challenging conventional notions of work, retirement, and what it means to lead a meaningful life.Chapters:00:00:00 - Dive In: Unraveling Masculinity's New Era00:00:46 - Who Is Markham Rollins? Uncovering the Man Behind the Myth00:03:07 - The Next Chapter: Life After the Grind00:04:03 - Behind 'The Evolving Man': A Catalyst for Change00:06:27 - Crafting Purpose and Passion: Markham's Journey Beyond Success00:10:52 - Redefining Strength: The New Pillars of Masculinity00:12:52 - Life's Curveballs: Mastering Resilience and Transformation00:17:05 - The Quest for Equilibrium: Navigating Life with Grace and Grit00:19:29 - Evolution of a Man: Markham's Insights on Lifelong Journey00:24:26 - From Force to Finesse: Reconstructing the Male Identity00:25:14 - Triumphs and Trials: Markham's Struggle and Success00:27:01 - Echoes of the Past: Lessons from Generations Before Us00:28:10 - A Radical Shift: Adopting a Healthier, Mindful Lifestyle00:32:18 - The Silence Speaks: How Meditation Changed Everything00:34:06 - Wellness as a Way of Life: Strategies for Growth and Happiness00:39:01 - Building More Than Homes: Stories of Hope and Humanity00:40:58 - Reflecting Forward: Envisioning the Future of MasculinityLinks And Resources:LinkedInMarkham RollinsRetirement TransformedThe Evolving Man by Markham RollinsHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Mar 19, 2024 • 38min
Bonus: Hector on ‘The Vulnerable Man with Christopher Veal
This episode is from your host, Hector Santiestaban’s appearance on "The Vulnerable Man" podcast. Hector opens up about the intricacies of modern masculinity, the struggles of fatherhood, and the transformative power of vulnerability. This episode will take you on a ride through Hector's experiences—from facing personal trials and embracing vulnerability to building resilience and fostering connections. With Christopher Veal guiding the conversation, they discuss how men can redefine success, embrace their emotions, and find strength in community. This incredible episode not only challenges traditional notions of masculinity but also offers hope and practical insights for men navigating the complexities of today's world. It's a must-listen for anyone interested in the evolving landscape of manhood, the significance of emotional vulnerability, and the pursuit of personal growth amidst life's challenges.Chapters:00:00:00 Meet Hector: Fatherhood, Entrepreneurship, and Beyond00:02:19 The Balancing Act: Fatherhood, Vulnerability, and Personal Resilience00:04:55 Strength in Unity: Building a Supportive Community for Men00:07:16 Unveiling Vulnerability: The Gateway to Personal Transformation00:10:30 Navigating the Challenges of Modern Fatherhood00:13:45 The Importance of Emotional Intelligence in Masculinity00:17:32 From Trials to Triumph: Stories of Resilience00:20:24 Finding Your Path: The Role of Mentorship in Personal Growth00:22:48 Redefining Success: Insights on Evolving Masculinity and Self-Discovery00:27:36 Cultivating Authentic Connections: Breaking Down Barriers00:31:22 Learning with Love: Embracing Growth and Change00:35:46 Wrapping Up: Embracing Life's Lessons with Compassion and ConnectionLinks And Resources:Christopher Veal - LinkedIn The Vulnerable Man Podcast Whole Man JourneyHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!