U Up?
Betches Media
U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.comWatch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches
Episodes
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Sep 5, 2025 • 44min
Are Men Wearing Shoe Lifts an Ick?
In this episode, Jared and Jordana tackle dating red flags, starting with a listener’s story about a guy wearing obvious shoe lifts, sparking comparisons to push-up bras, stuffed socks, and bald men in hats. They dive into the dreaded height conversation, unpack why “short king” talk is a lose-lose, and share their own insecurities. The duo also dishes out expert advice on solo travel in their “Go Solo?” game, weighing options like hostels, group tours, and adventure spots. Plus, Jared reveals his top tips for celebrating a birthday alone, from breakfast in town to massages and movie marathons, proving that solo days can be just as indulgent and fun! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 3, 2025 • 1h 31min
Decoding Weird Boyfriend Habits
Jared reveals a potential red flag: falling asleep to The Golden Girls, and yes, Betty White is involved. In this episode, Jordana and Jared break down texting disasters, from one-word pre-date replies to three-day gaps, and debate whether you’re genuinely excited to see someone or just excited to date. They weigh in on whether meeting the right person at the wrong time is actually real. Plus, they dissect the ultimate minimalist text: the dreaded “thumbs-up” emoji. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Aug 29, 2025 • 34min
How to Get Deep Without Scaring Your Date ft. Kat Sadler
Kat Sadler, creator and star of the Hulu series 'Such Brave Girls,' dives into her chaotic dating life and family dynamics. She discusses her disorganized attachment style and shares hilarious anecdotes about making dates cry. Kat opens up about navigating love while juggling past traumas and the influence of growing up in a single-parent household. She also compares the energy of New York and London, revealing cultural quirks, and reflects on how long-term singleness can reshape one’s identity. Prepare for laughter and raw honesty!
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Aug 27, 2025 • 1h 17min
How To Date On A Budget
The hosts share quirky first-date stories, including a memorable encounter that ended with an unexpected reaction. They tackle tricky dating dilemmas like breakup refunds after cheating and dating with invisible disabilities. There’s a humorous take on whether frugality is charming or a turn-off. They also discuss the complexities of navigating financial expectations in relationships, using amusing anecdotes to shed light on the nuances of modern dating dynamics.
Aug 22, 2025 • 48min
Spotting the Lies Before You Swipe ft. Kamie Crawford
Kamie Crawford is on the podcast, and we learn right away how she’s the 1% dater who found her boyfriend on the very first day of swiping! As the eldest of five sisters, she shares their collective conclusion on men and how she gives her sister's advice. She opens up about the unsettling realities of dating while Miss Teen USA and how men reacted to the title. The three also debate whether certain breakup moves are petty or justified, including Kamie’s infamous story of spitting on an ex’s belongings before giving them back! By the end, you’ll understand exactly why she calls it one of her proudest break-up moments. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 20, 2025 • 1h 20min
Am I Dating A Disney Adult?
Jordana kicks things off by reminiscing about Billy Joel and a second date she went on, while Jared shares a story about a voice memo mishap that didn’t go as planned. In our listener emails, we dive into issues of cheating, mistrust, and an unemployed boyfriend. Jared and Jordana also dissect an “Icky or Picky?” as one listener discovers their date is a potentially full-blown Disney Adult - yep, it's a thing. Per usual the warps with the signature Red Flag or Deal Breakers covering everything from overly passionate kissers to awkward wedding plus-one scenarios! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 15, 2025 • 1h 10min
Whitney Cummings Breaks Down Toxic Behavior & Real Friendships
This week, comedian Whitney Cummings joins J & J for a chaotic and hilarious deep dive into everything she’s done once and never again—from Ozempic to dating emotionally unavailable men. She gets into her current relationship, why she’s officially tired of mean girl energy, and her take on what makes a real friend (spoiler: they’ll tell you your outfit is trash). They also get into freezing your eggs and how men vs. women interpret toxic behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Aug 13, 2025 • 1h 23min
How to Date Intentionally When No One Else Is
This week, the hosts share Jared's amusing childhood camp story and its relevance today. They explore a hilarious listener's dating challenge success, alongside a comical round of 'Icky or Picky' about cringeworthy terms. A frustrating listener question about relationship clarity on dating apps sparks a discussion on honesty. Finally, they dive into travel compatibility and whether a partner's exclusive number-sharing during a celebration crosses a line. Buckle up for laughs and insightful advice on dating in today's world!
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Aug 8, 2025 • 47min
Long-Distance Love or Just Bad Timing?
Dive into the complexities of long-distance love with Sophie, who shares her experiences of juggling a relationship across continents. After a whirlwind romance, mismatched communication and visa struggles arise, leaving her questioning her crush's willingness to wait. The hosts explore what 'waiting' really means, the cultural clashes between UK and NYC dating, and the emotional limbo that often accompanies long-distance connections. Discover potential paths for love, and hear Sophie’s take on romantic gestures that resonate.
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Aug 6, 2025 • 1h 21min
How To Clean Up Your Feed After a Breakup
Dive into the world of social media and dating as the hosts unravel the nuances of managing your online presence post-breakup. Learn why unfollowing your ex is a vital act of self-care and discover the best strategies for handling your digital footprint—with practical tips on which ex photos to keep or delete. They also tackle the funky dynamics of friends’ social connections and discuss if it’s acceptable to follow a friend's new boyfriend. Tune in for insights on navigating the digital dating landscape!
