

U Up?
Betches Media
U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.comWatch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches
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Aug 1, 2025 • 1h 7min
Does 'The Materialists' Hate Matchmakers?
Jared and Jordana are back with another movie review episode of The Materialists, directed by Celine Song and starring Dakota Johnson, Chris Evans, and Pedro Pascal. Spoiler alert!! J&J break down the film’s portrayal of matchmaking as cold and transactional, and ask whether Song set out to take down the matchmaking industry altogether. From red flag roommate situations to Coke-and-beer drink orders, J&J debate every messy decision and chaotic romance. Is it a rom-com, a satire, or something much darker? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 30, 2025 • 1h 11min
Is It Okay to Date Your Brother’s Best Friend?
Jordana shares her firsthand experience at a concert when she witnessed the viral moment Mr. Met fell off stage at Citi Field, breaking it down with Jared as pure comedy gold. Jared and Jordana read a listener’s email about a guy’s shy hopscotch move on a first date and debate when quirky crosses into “icky.” They dive into a friendship dilemma about hooking up with a best friend’s college fling years later, exploring honesty and boundaries. Plus, Jared calls out the major red flag of guys asking for selfies before the first date: “If a woman asks me for pictures, I’m opting out.” This episode covers hilarious fails, dating deal breakers, and navigating complicated friendships! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Jul 25, 2025 • 31min
Too Soon to Reveal Feelings?
Navigating dating in your 40s offers advantages like clarity and faster exits from the wrong relationships. A listener shares a wild first-date horror story involving a sleepwalking mishap, igniting discussions on dating boundaries. Jared and Jordana debate whether bedwetting is a dealbreaker or just a funny anecdote. They also talk about when to reveal commitment intentions and emphasize the importance of being direct as you mature. It's a mix of modern dating chaos and practical advice!

Jul 23, 2025 • 1h 22min
Is Going Out Alone a Red Flag?
Would you go to a concert solo? In this episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana play “Would You Go Alone?” and debate when flying solo feels empowering versus just sad. They break down the “casual clock” - the timeline guys follow to keep things casual while still reaping relationship benefits. Then, a listener's email sparks a debate: is groaning at helping an elderly woman a red flag or just bad timing? They also run through a list of mama’s boy behaviors, from outfit picks to dentist appointments, and ask: is it icky or just picky? If you’ve ever wondered why he keeps coming back without committing, or how much mom-involvement is too much, this episode has answers! Watch full ep here 👉https://youtu.be/xi2KPzZAAfs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 18, 2025 • 45min
How Long Is Too Long to Be Single? ft. Gals on the Go
In this episode, Jordana and Jared welcome Brooke Miccio and Danielle Carolan, co-hosts of the popular Gals on the Go podcast. They dive into their journey as college influencers and how social media shapes modern dating and relationships, especially across Gen Z and Millennial cultures. Brooke and Danielle open up about living with their boyfriends, relationship boundaries, and how to navigate shared spaces without losing your mind! Jared reacts to Brooke’s viral TikTok claiming she’s been “single since birth,” questioning if that’s a real thing, sparking a fun debate about dating timelines and how men and women perceive time differently. Full episode here 👉https://youtu.be/uqr_cPhgdxc Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 16, 2025 • 1h 16min
He Calls His Mom Every Night?!
In this episode, J&J debate whether FaceTiming your mom every night on a romantic weekend is sweet or a total ick. A listener writes in about her boyfriend buying Sydney Sweeney's bath water soap, and the hosts weigh in on whether that’s quirky or cringe. They dig into whether dating an anonymous internet troll is ever okay (spoiler: nope). Jordana’s pool is open, so they break down the unspoken rules of hosting outside vs. inside in the summer. Plus, someone in an ENM (ethically non-monogamous) relationship gets ghosted before the first date, and Jared reminds us that nothing counts until you’re actually face-to-face. Watch episode here 👉https://youtu.be/aKH7wyMgbMw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 11, 2025 • 50min
Who Really Deserves an Apology After a Breakup? ft. Atsuko Okatsuka
Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka joins J&J this week for a hilarious and heartfelt deep dive into dating, breakups, and family drama. They kick things off with a wild listener email about a broken engagement, and whether you owe the entire ex-family an apology. Atsuko shares the story of a third date turned trauma bond after her now-husband paused foreplay to sing to his mom on the phone. The trio explores how vulnerability, cultural differences, and mental health shape our relationships. They also unpack a front-row breakup at Atsuko’s comedy show and debate whether the full moon really messes with your mood (and your mom). It all wraps up with a petty game of “Apology or Nah?” that exposes just how messy post-breakup etiquette can be. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 9, 2025 • 1h 24min
Can Weight Gain Change Your Relationship?
In this episode of U Up? , hosts Jordana Abraham and Jared Fried unpack the toughest parts of dating, from breakups and body image struggles to spotting red flags versus deal breakers. They dive into an eye-opening conversation about Hinge’s new note feature, sharing expert tips on writing playful, effective messages that keep the vibe light while weeding out the wrong matches. Plus, they discuss real listener dilemmas including “Is multiple cat Instagrams a deal breaker?” and how to handle forgetfulness on dates. Whether you’re navigating relationship closure or crafting your dating profile, this episode delivers honest, funny, and relatable advice. Perfect for singles eager to improve their dating strategy and avoid common pitfalls in today’s dating apps. Tune in for candid insights and laughter-filled stories that will change the way you date! Watch full ep here 👉 https://youtu.be/Pv_Msu2Qp6o Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 4, 2025 • 53min
Are You Settling or Leveling Up?
This week’s Friday Feels episode gets deep and personal with special guest Case Kenny, author, mindfulness expert, and the man behind the viral quotes shared by Oprah, SZA, and Selena Gomez. Jordana and Jared sit down with Case to talk about his new book The Opposite of Settling and explore why the best relationships amplify who you already are. They dig into what it means to have “out of town confidence,” how optimism and trust shape our dating lives, and why independence is the real secret to intimacy. Then, it’s time for Settling or Settling Up? where J&J get Case’s take on real listener scenarios, from stingy tippers to partners who still text their ex. Can love survive political differences or a forgotten birthday? Case shares why playfulness, clarity, and self-worth matter more than a perfect love story. This episode will shift how you think about dating and maybe even yourself! Watch episode here 👉 https://youtu.be/kfP_MN82co4 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 2, 2025 • 1h 20min
Banned From Hinge for Ending It After Date 3
Jared and Jordana are kicking off the summer with a sizzling episode of U Up?, just in time for Fourth of July weekend, aka the perfect holiday to meet someone new. They dive into the difference between “main street” and “back alley” dates, and why your best romantic opportunities might be hiding in plain sight at a rooftop BBQ. A listener writes in after being kicked off Hinge by a jealous date who reported her when she didn’t want to keep seeing him after date three which brings on the game “Hinge Court,” where J&J rule on the internet’s biggest dating crimes. Plus, a heated email sparks debate: is a twin bed a red flag or just a red herring? And finally, a former sugar daddy confesses his past would you swipe right on that? This episode is packed with hot takes, dating wisdom, and enough corn-on-the-cob discourse to carry you through your next barbecue. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices


