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A poly guy lives in a rural area with his fiancé. He is building his own house, and hires laborers to come live with him while they build. One of the laborers started hooking up with the caller’s girlfriend without consulting the caller or gaining his consent. Now what? This guy is living in his own damn house, having sex with his own damn lady???True or False: Gay men who were bullied as kids often hook up with their former bullies.On the Magnum, the worlds collide when Dan Savage, notorious sex proponent chats with asexuality educator Cody Daigle-Orians. They do a deep dive on ace issues. Are ace folks queer? Are micro labels helpful? At what point in a relationships should ace people come out? Daigle-Orians, creator of “Ace Dad Advice” explains asexuality with clarity and patience to the sex-crazed Savage.Their new book The Ace And Aro Relationship Guide is out now.And, a gay tourist was snapping pics of some hot men, when a family saw what was going on, and took umbrage. Outrage ensued. Is it so wrong to take pictures of people out in public?This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off all mattress orders! Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now

In this lively discussion, Irish comedian Des Bishop, known for his stand-up special "Of All People," shares hilarious insights on male sexuality, including straight guys' surprising interests in butt play. He joins Dan Savage to explore the dynamics of relationships, from a woman's shocking discovery about her boyfriend's hidden family to a married woman's journey into burlesque and exploring her bisexuality. The pair also tackle the sensitive issue of a partner's declining hygiene, offering hilarious yet honest advice on maintaining intimacy.

Eli McCann, humor writer for the Salt Lake Tribune, joins to discuss the intriguing societal standards around monogamy and exclusivity. A lesbian couple contemplates spicing things up in a sex club but fears losing their exclusive bond. A man struggles with doubts after discovering his girlfriend's past with a friend, questioning trust and attachment. Plus, the emotional challenge of pet custody arises for a woman escaping an abusive relationship, raising the poignant issue of what happens to beloved pets in breakups.

Randy Rainbow, a four-time Emmy and Grammy-nominated comedian known for his sharp musical parodies, joins the discussion. They tackle an array of topics including a troubling situation involving a non-binary individual facing relationship challenges during a COVID scare. The conversation delves into the complexities of infidelity, grief, and healing, along with a humorous exploration of pregnancy fetishes and the quirks of straight relationships. Rainbow's witty insights add a delightful twist to navigating love, betrayal, and open relationships.

A man was flirting with a woman online, but his girlfriend found out. She threw him out, and messaged all their friends and family about the incident. Police were involved. Should they get back together? Dan calls him up to get all the salacious details, and you get to listen. A man has a wonderful fiancé, and they have a child together. He loves her very, very much. The problem? He is one kinky motherfucker, and she is NOT interested in dominating him. On the Magnum, Dan chats with comedian Caleb Hearon. They talk about the perils of performing masculinity, but also how some gay men really are masculine. Calebs says "I don't want to do any of this exclusive, essentialist weirdo shit- I just want to have fun and enjoy myself." Hallelujah. Also, they arbitrate a petty fight from a caller over who should pay for a couch. Oh, and you have to become a Magnum sub and listen to this interview in order to understand the headline. Some three-way condom etiquette is in order. She and her husband are going to invite another man to join them. Naturally, they will insist that the lucky lad wear a condom. But should her husband wear one too just for parity? Q@Savage.Love     206-302-2064This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $80 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com/Savage, and use the offer code Space80.

Esther Perel, a renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author, joins the conversation to shed light on the complex dynamics of infidelity and desire in relationships. Topics include whether past lovers should be revisited, the fading spark in long-term commitments, and the line between sex and eroticism. They also tackle intriguing listener dilemmas, exposing the complexities of consent and attraction. With humor and insight, Esther helps illuminate the path to rekindling passion and understanding personal needs in love.

Oh no! He broke the flirting rules. He kissed a lady and lied about it. (He lies a lot apparently.) But now, it makes her sick to look at him. What now?A man and his boyfriend just bought a house together and they are setting up one of the rooms as a nursery...because they are both adult babies. What should they tell visitors if they ask what the locked room is for?On the Magnum, it's the triumphant return of "What Are You Doing?!" A cuckold relationship with a femme-dom twist, you say? Do tell! Meet John and Maria, a seemingly "normal" couple that get super-freaky where it counts. They explain how they met, and gradually morphed into an amped-up sexual relationship. If you are interested in cuckolding, Dom/sub relationships or just want to peer in, have a listen.And, a woman heard that if her husband gets a vasectomy his semen will lose the delicious flavor she so enjoys. Is it true? Or maybe...not?Let's ask science!Q@Savage.Love          206-302-2064

A man and his girlfriend are well-matched. Except...she doesn't like to kiss and he NEEDS to kiss to get his erotic motor running. Whatever can they do? The good doctor Barak is back... but this time he's here to share his political giving strategy for this election, where your dollar is mightier than ever. And of course Dan ambushes him with a gnarly sex question. On the Magnum, what happens when a man is jealous of his...mother? Dan chats with whip smart writer Jill Filipovic about millennial/boomer divide and the seething resentments within. And, a man and his husband are finally having three-ways after 30 years of marriage. They get more excited to be with their special guest stars than they do with just each other. Is this a problem? Call us with *your* problem. (Even if it isn't a problem.) Q@Savage.Love      206-302-2064This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 25% off all mattress orders AND two free pillows! Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. We’re partnering with NOCD to raise awareness about OCD. Imagine having unwanted thoughts about your relationship stuck in your head all day no matter how hard you try to make them go away. That’s OCD. Breaking the OCD cycle takes effective treatment. Go to NOCD.com/savage to learn more.

Git along little doggie! A gay man in academia has always been into cowboys. But he fights his brain, due to the inherently problematic nature of this fetish. Can (or should) he scrub these fantasies from his mind? A woman in Berlin would like to go to Folsom Europe. But would she be welcome? Dan chats with kink educator AJ Berlin about gay male sex party spaces, and who is (and isn't) welcome. On the Magnum, Dan chats with a true unicorn- a monogamous gay man. Don Martin is an author, podcaster and prolific THIRST TRAPPER. He's been with his husband for 18 years in a very happy exclusive relationship. They talk about accepting yourself as gay, going the distance with monogamy, escaping body dysmorphia and so much more. They had a wide-ranging conversation and you are invited to listen in. And, are there any foot fetishists out there who are ladies? Anyone? Call! Tell us about it! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/savage. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $80 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com/Savage, and use the offer code Space80.This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

In this insightful discussion, a gay trans man shares his experiences navigating workplace relationships and an intriguing encounter with a bisexual boss. The conversation dives into the complexities of sexual expectations, including the pressure on men to deliver multiple orgasms. Additionally, Nancy Rose offers her perspective on the distinctions among cross-dressers, trans women, and drag queens, enriching the dialogue with insights into queer identities. The topics range from confusion in attraction to the intersection of pleasure and connection in sexual relationships.