Savage Lovecast Episode 969

May 27, 2025

A caller from Nashville discusses frustration with repeated romantic rejections. A woman enjoys a casual relationship but grapples with its impending end. Randy Rainbow brings humor and insights, sharing wisdom from his new children's book. He also talks about embracing identity in a world full of haters. Another listener prepares for her first sex party, seeking fashion tips and setting boundaries. The conversation blends fun with serious relationship dynamics and encourages honest communication throughout.

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ADVICE

Ask Feedback Respectfully After Rejection

If rejected after dates, ask for feedback clearly stating you accept no for an answer.
Avoid arguing the feedback to get honest responses and possibly learn what to improve.

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Enjoy Short-Term Relationships Openly

Avoid sabotaging your short-term relationship by not anticipating the inevitable end with conflict.
Stay open to possibilities as feelings may change even if your partner moves away.

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Communicate During Sex for Pleasure

Use continuous dirty talk and clear feedback during sex to stay out of your head and improve arousal.
Encourage your partner to continue pleasuring you after he orgasms to enhance mutual satisfaction.

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A man in Nashville keeps having great dates, but then they reject him afterwards. Is it because he's a liberal Jew?

A woman is in a new, fun, casual relationship, just like she wanted. But he will be moving away in a few months, so there's a clear end date. How can they enjoy themselves knowing the end is nigh?

On the Magnum, put on your pink glasses...it's Randy Rainbow! Rainbow's political, musical theater-based parodies are what the world needs now, more than ever. He and Dan talk about his children's book ("Randy Rainbow and the Marvelously Magical Pink Glasses,") as well as being Randy Rainbow in a world full of haters, the special relationship between gay men and their grandmothers and how to have noisy sex without infuriating your uptight neighbor. This interview basically kicks off gay pride this year, so it's required listening.

And, a woman and her husband are going to try a sex party for the first time. Besides all the conversations around expectations and boundaries, she wants to know: What are the fashion do's and fashion don'ts?

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, trickster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From pegging to polyamory, BDSM to abstinence and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.