Coming Out Late

In this episode, Robin and Chris continue their exploratory conversation about the language and meanings behind gender identity, gender fluidity and sexuality as it pertains to our journey of coming out to ourselves, and ultimately coming out to others. Robin & Chris do not profess to be experts on these topics, but simply want to share with you their explorations and findings about their own identities up to and including present day. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!In this episode, you will hear Robin & Chris talk about…What do we mean by “following the breadcrumbs” as it pertains to our coming out late journey?Androgyny, nonbinary, intersex…what does it all mean? And how do you identify? Who are you at your core?What does Chris mean by “two spirits”? And is a third gender ‘real’? Or even possible?Are the terms androgynous and nonbinary the same?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).Support the show

In this episode, Robin invites her girlfriend Chris back on the podcast to talk about and explore the language and meanings behind gender identity, gender fluidity and sexuality as it pertains to our journey of coming out to ourselves, and ultimately coming out to others. Robin & Chris do not profess to be experts on these topics, but simply want to share with you their explorations and findings about their own identities up to and including present day. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!In this episode, you will hear Robin & Chris talk about…What IS gender identity? What does gender mean to each of us, personally?Do you know the date you came out? Let’s all celebrate our re-birthdays!Do we need labels? How important are they to you?Are we truly a binary society?WHat has been Chris’ gender journey so far?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).Support the show

Robin picks up the conversation from last week with Sex & Pleasure specialist, Whitni Miller, in this Part 2 episode of Coming Out Late. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!In this episode, you will learn…The #1 question that Whitni gets asked, A LOT! (Hint: it’s about sex!)What is “sexual desire discrepancy”?Be upfront about how important sex is to you w/potential new partners, ASAP. Know yourself and the depth of your sexual appetite/desire. Don’t think that ‘attraction’ to each other is going to make your libidos match - that’s not going to work. You can be highly attracted to each other, but desire and the arousal that fuels all of that desire is way more nuanced than just being attracted to one another.How do you feel about sex? How do you feel about yourself? And, how do you feel about yourself having sex?Our sexual desires are NOT our partner’s responsibility - they are ours!The difference between ‘spontaneous desire’ and ‘responsive desire’ - and that neither is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, AND, that you can be both! What’s more important than desire and arousal? (The answer is SO simple, yet so true!)What is ‘sexual temperament’?Everything affects our sexual desire - what are some of those things?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:If you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).WHITNI MILLER - BDE MOVES: WEBSITE: www.bde-moves.comINSTAGRAM: @bde.movesSupport the show

Whitni Miller, a sex and pleasure coach, discusses topics such as intentional monogamy, reducing inner shame, pleasure coaching, and the importance of prioritizing feeling good in relationships. The podcast explores the impact of shame culture on body exploration, the difference between performance and pleasure sex, and an exercise to reduce inner shame. Whitney emphasizes the need for curiosity over self-judgment and creating a safe space for open and vulnerable discussions about sex.

In part-two of this “Life Is Relationship” episode, Robin continues chatting with Chris about the revealing nature of relationships, and how they are the source of getting to know ourselves on deeper and deeper levels. THey also discuss!In this episode, you will learn…What happens when we make our relationships ‘conditional’?Try BEING the love you seek in other people.When we attach ourselves to the ‘outcomes’ of our desires, we end up disappointing ourselves. Grasping-for and clawing-at what we desire is looking outside ourselves.When I am ‘ok with me’, I can show up-for and be ‘ok with you’.What can I bring to this relationship? How can I show up as my best self?Community, connections and support are vital to our growth.You’re NOT ALONE - join your tribe in our Support Groups!Everything is about slowing down!Most importantly, don’t grasp for your first WLW relationship, instead, find a small circle of trusted people you can confide in and who can support you.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).Support the show

In this first of a two-part episode, Robin not only reveals who her mystery guest was from Ep. #117, but also makes an even GREATER reveal by having that guest back on. Together they discuss the ever-popular topic of ‘relationships’!In this episode, you will learn…What is meant by the brilliant comment, ‘we learn ourselves in relationship’?What does it mean to ‘come into more conscious, mindful intentions around relationships’?Understanding the benefits to pausing the process of seeking intimate relationships. It’s critical to take the time to create a relationship with yourself first, before seeking romantic, intimate relationships.Listen to your gut and listen to your intuition when you sense something doesn’t feel right! Don’t ignore the red flags you feel, see or hear!Once WE have our “Aha!” moment and come out to ourselves, how important it is to use discernment with how quickly we come out to others, with whom and how many people we come out to at first. Allow time for you to process, and your initial loved ones to process.It is essential for us to sit in the pain of waiting to ‘act’ on our knowing that we’re gay; to give ourselves and others the proper time to process.By seeking external validation, we're still looking for something outside of ourselves to confirm to us what we already know to be true within ourselves.Ask yourself, “can I be the source of the love I seek?”Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and ProviSupport the show

Robin continues her conversation with late bloomer Dawn Noble about the core elements of PACT, a form of therapy she uses while coaching her queer clients in their relationships. Dawn helps her clients recognize their own trauma responses, what their attachment style is, and how to best co-regulate in their relationships.In this episode, you will learn…Remembering you don’t have the power to change anybody but yourself.Understanding the importance of our own attachment theories, how we co-regulate and recognizing our own personal trauma responses.How PACT therapy differs from other forms of therapy.Understanding relationships require agreements that allow you to connect, disconnect, and repair so resentment doesn’t stay.Recognizing your partner’s triggers: the bigger the response, the older the wound.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:Dawn Noble Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/Dawnanoble/Click here to book a FREE 15-minute Consultation with Dawn: https://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=24623606PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).Support the show

Dawn Noble, raised in a large LDS family, discusses the impact of her upbringing and purity culture on her journey towards embracing her true self. She shares her experience of coming out, dealing with family struggles, rushing into marriage, setting boundaries, and finding love and acceptance. The episode touches on the importance of self-love and accepting others for who they are.

In this week’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with her Mystery Guest about their coming out journey and how it has impacted her family. I’m hopeful that you’ll hear lots of good information to take with you on YOUR coming out journey! Here is a sampling of what you will hear in today’s episode:How she and her husband told their kids about their separation.Sharing big family news doesn’t have to be long and drawn out; in fact, it can be in small bites-sized pieces of information.They shared a small amount of information: (a) we’re getting separated, (b) we’re not going to be ‘husband & wife’ anymore, and c) this is what it’s going to look like for you.The concept of ‘nesting’ and what that looks like.All kids really wanna know is, “How is this change to our family going to affect me?” What has Robin been up to since her hiatus from podcasting?What does a “Leave of presence” mean to Robin?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).Support the show

Robin is back from her podcasting hiatus and ready to bring you content sure to educate, inform, entertain and make you think and hopefully grow! Robin returns with a special Mystery Guest, and together they talk about pleasure and pain, and how ‘hard’ doesn’t have to be bad. Here is a small sampling of what you will hear in today’s episode:How we are ALL ‘recovering’ from something in our lives.That our minds are “addictive”. Our minds are constantly seeking pleasure.Our desires are fleeting and don’t always bring us joy; our desires can also bring us pain, especially when seeking them in obsessive, intense ways.Our resistance to suffering and pain only brings on more pain & suffering.Hard does not have to be bad!Knowing we’re gay before we’re ten years old.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. Also, the dates for the “St. Pete (FL) Retreat” changed from April to May. St. Petersburg, FL: (May 24-27, 2024); Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024). Possible additional Retreat locations include: Pocono Mountains, PA, San Diego, CA, Los Angeles, CA.Support the show