Coming Out Late

In this unconventional episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin takes a casual, unscripted approach this week, sharing with you a recent ‘thing’ she did. She did a ‘gay’ thing and she wants to share with you her ‘gay thing’ experience, AND share with you the things she learned about herself along the way. These ‘things’ Robin learned about herself are universal lessons we can all benefit from. She also hopes to recruit many of you to join her next year, to do this ‘gay thing’ together in one big happy gay group! Stay-tuned for Part 2 THIS WEEK!In this episode you will learn… You are stronger, wiser and more resilient than you give yourself credit for.Drop ALL expectations and ‘life’ will run like a Swiss watch!Be accountable to yourself, and take responsibility for your actions.Be yourself, and everything else will fall into place.Smile and say “please” and “thank you”.Have gratitude and show it.Ask for help. (Most people really do want to lend a hand!)Cry when needed; then blow your nose, pick yourself up and go to Plan “B”.Don’t give up on yourself.Trust the process. You are exactly where you are supposed to be in this time and place.Nothing changes if nothing changes.Feel the fear and do it anyway.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!  The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESTYou must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.

Robin continues the conversation with Late Bloomer Adriana and her husband, Darius, as they discuss managing their marriage, families, and future after Adriana's awakening of her sexuality. Topics include the challenges of leaving a long-term relationship, acknowledging and addressing feelings, taking space, dating after coming out, upcoming events for the late bloomers community, and arrangements for retreats and coaching services.

Adriana, a married woman awakening to her sexuality, discusses with her husband Darius how it has impacted their marriage and how they navigate this journey. They emphasize the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and being true to oneself. The chapter descriptions explore challenges faced, Adriana's upbringing, realizing attraction to women, navigating changes in their marriage, and future retreats and support.

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with her newest group of Coming Out Late Retreat attendees in a conversation they had immediately following their return from “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE.In this episode you will learn… What happens when we “don’t wear the uniform”?What IS ‘the uniform’?An insider’s / attendees perspective on Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE.Volunteer at queer events - its a safe and less scary way to meet new people.“...I realized at the Retreat, I’m still me. Being gay is just a part of who I am. It doesn’t change who I am as a person.”Dealing with Imposter Syndrome - and what it is.What happens when you combine ‘pack mentality’ and ‘alcohol’ at a very large event.The need and value of a “safe word”. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!  The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESTYou must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.blooming.lesbian

In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has gathered with the newest group of Coming Out Late Retreat attendees immediately following their return from “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE. You’ll hear from most everyone who attended the retreat with Robin.In this episode you will learn… Some who attended the retreat opted not to participate in the Recap gathering because, despite being in their first same sex relationship, they are not out to most people in their lives, nor divorced yet, and chose to sit this one out.An insider’s / attendees perspective on Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE.Volunteer at queer events - its a safe and less scary way to meet new people.“...I realized at the Retreat, I’m still me. Being gay is just a part of who I am. It doesn’t change who I am as a person.”Dealing with Imposter Syndrome - and what it is.What is meant by “wearing the uniform”?The need and value of a “safe word”. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!  The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESTYou must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.blooming.lesbian

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has a casual but critical conversation with another late bloomer, Sabrina, about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives - especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina broach the “Money Mindset” subject from their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences.In this episode you will learn about and hear Robin and Sabrina discuss… What IS “Money Mindset”? And how/why does that affect YOU?Three steps in budgeting: (1) try to save 10% of your income, (2) know what your monthly fixed expenses are and try to keep them at 50-60% of your income, and (3) put aside about 30% for “spending” or your “fun money”.You can only cut-back your expenses so much, but, can you renegotiate your big, big fixed expenses, (i.e., auto insurance, homeowners insurance, your mortgage to a lower interest rate, rent, etc.); the next question is, can you increase your income at all?Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, work part time, or even full time, know what value you bring to your marriage and be willing to fight for your value!Know what the rental market is in your area and determine what your income needs to be in order to move out and live on your own.If neither you and/or your spouse cannot afford to move out, then you both need to ask the question, “...how can we meet our needs within the marriage. Are you ok with me seeing someone else and you seeing someone else…?” (a.k.a., ethical non-monogamy).Whether or not you stay in the marriage, there will always be trade-offs. The questions are: What are you financially able to trade-off? And, what are you comfortable trading-off?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!  The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESTYou must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.https://www.bu

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin has a casual but critical conversation with another late bloomer, Sabrina, about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives - especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina broach the “Money Mindset” subject from their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences, and not from any kind of ‘expert’ stance. Whether you are in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matters, know our financial rights and have a better understanding of our financial position in our world.In this episode you will learn about and hear Robin and Sabrina discuss… What is a “money mindset”? How do you develop a mindset around money? How does having a ‘money mindset’ affect you and your future?Have you ever thought about your relationship with money and what your journey with money has been throughout your life? How did your relationship with money first get formed? How do you feel about money, and handling money? How does ‘money’ make you feel? Do you think you are capable of handling money?Currently, what is your mindset around money? How is your relationship with money?Having a “money mindset” begins with, “...starting to notice the invisible scripts going on in your head, [surrounding money], and the automatic reactions you have in your body, [as it relates to money matters.] Stop and think about: What do you tell yourself about money and your abilities around handling money? Do you tell yourself, “...I'm bad with money..”, or, “...I'm a right-brained person, I wasn’t born to be good with money…” Or do you tell yourself, “... money is the root of all evil…”? Do you tell yourself, “...money doesn't grow on trees…”? Or, are you in a more positive frame-of-mind about money?To develop a healthy money mindset, we must first go through these three steps: First, we must become aware-of, and bring awareness-to our own beliefs around money. In order to understand our own psychology, beliefs and personal relationship with money, we must first become aware of the dialogues and scripts swirling around in our own minds. What are we telling ourselves about money?Second, after the “awareness” step, we must then ask ourselves, “...Where do my beliefs around money come from…?” For example: How did your parents talk about money? Did your primary caretakers talk to you about saving or investing? How did your primary caretakers talk to each other about money? Did your mom pay the bills or did your dad take care of everything? Were your parents spenders or savers?Once you’ve developed an awareness-of your money belief system and explored where your money beliefs come from, then lastly, it’s time to ask yourself, “...are those beliefs still serving me in living my best life…?”Improving your money mindset and becoming proactive about your awareness and understanding of money matters can incrementally impact your future financial security.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LA

In this Part 2 episode of “Coming Out Late in Phoenix, The Retreat”, Robin continues the conversation with her group of not-straight women who braved the queer wilderness in Phoenix, Arizona to attend the very first “Coming Out Late” Retreat! Mostly on their best-behavior, you will hear just how much each person grew, appreciated and reaped in the benefits of meeting and retreating in-person.In this episode you will hear Robin and the Coming Out Late Retreat group informally talk about their experiences and touching moments from the Phoenix, AZ Retreat:What are the benefits of attending an in-person Retreat with other folx who are, or have, come out late?How did the “introverts” do on this group retreat of 10-13 queer folx? What was one of the main components of the Retreat weekend that they found to be enormously helpful as introverts in SO many brand new, crowded scenarios?The value of in-person connections and support.Building your tribe and the importance of community.The importance of feeling and being safe with your gay circle of friends.What elements are valuable and critical to feeling comfortable in gay social circles.Manifesting the courage and strength to dive deep in personal growth.Wanna join other like-minded not-straight women in future Coming Out Late Retreats? Send Robin an email, requesting to be put on the Coming Out Late Retreat email list. Email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:Have I Got A Deal For YOU!The Coming Out Late podcast is teaming-up with BARB, a queer-owned & operated brand of hair styling products for people with short hair, like ME. BARB is a pomade, and is sold at select salons and Barbershops across the US, but is ALSO conveniently sold online as well. So, as part of their new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, BARB is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://www.thebarbshop.com and use (all caps) ROBIN15.THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:More dates and locations for new Coming Out Late Retreats will be announced next week.WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesom

In this highly anticipated episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin re-gathers with the group of not-straight women who braved the queer wilderness in Phoenix, Arizona to attend the very first “Coming Out Late” Retreat! Robin instigates the banter and conversation with her new forever friends as they each discuss what the Retreat meant to them. Mostly on their best-behavior, you will hear just how much each person grew, appreciated and reaped in the benefits of meeting and retreating in-person.In this episode you will hear Robin and the Coming Out Late Retreat group informally talk about their experiences and touching moments from the Phoenix, AZ Retreat:What are the benefits of attending an in-person Retreat with other folx who are, or have, come out late?How did the “introverts” do on this group retreat of 10-13 queer folx? What was one of the main components of the Retreat weekend that they found to be enormously helpful as introverts in SO many brand new, crowded scenarios?The value of in-person connections and support.Building your tribe and the importance of community.The importance of feeling and being safe with your gay circle of friends.What elements are valuable and critical to feeling comfortable in gay social circles.Manifesting the courage and strength to dive deep in personal growth.Wanna join us at Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE this weekend? We have to beds available 2 blocks from the beach. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:Have I Got A Deal For YOU!The Coming Out Late podcast is teaming-up with BARB, a queer-owned & operated brand of hair styling products for people with short hair, like ME. BARB is a pomade, and is sold at select salons and Barbershops across the US, but is ALSO conveniently sold online as well. So, as part of their new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, BARB is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://www.thebarbshop.com and use (all caps) ROBIN15.THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:We are “retreating” to:Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the these Retreats, (Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Coming

In this Part 2 episode of “Coming Out Late In A Hetero Marriage”, Robin jumps right back in with her first-ever conversation with husband David, and his wife and late bloomer, Monique, who are actually going through Monique’s Coming Out Late process in real-time, and SHARING their experiences with us! There’s LOTS to absorb, take-in and learn!In this episode you will … “Kroger Parking Lot Therapy”, and having those REAL HARD conversations and asking one another the big scary questions, and discussing the really big issues.What does David mean by, “...the grass is greener where you water it…”Discussing the “pie-chart” of an entire relationship, and which parts are in need of attention.Looking at our pasts and getting real and getting honest with one another. Doing our shadow-work - together.Women dealing with sexual obligation to please their husbands.The Key to Relationship Progress? Communication! Communication! Communication!Before throwing the baby out with the bathwater, try problem-solving through creative experimentation and mutually agreed-upon creative solutions. If they don’t work? Pivot, and try something else. (i.e., “naked-time” and “snuggle-time”)Is your marriage worth working on? Are you willing to go to any-length to “save” your marriage, AND, work together on incorporating “her” newfound queer sexuality?David & Monique answer Robin’s questions: (1) What has been the hardest part, (so far), in Monique’s Coming Out Late process? (2) What’s been the scariest part of Monique’s Coming Out Late process, so far, for each of you?Monique and David also answer: (1) What advice would you give to your younger self, knowing what you know now? And, (2) What advice would you give to others on the brink of a similar path?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life - AND the people IN your life affected by your COMING OUT LATE? Then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. I can give you references from women I am currently working with. And something I offer is unlimited, asynchronous communication IN BETWEEN our meeting sessions, so you’ll ALWAYS have me in your hip-pocket to turn to. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet. I’m reasonably priced, offer you flexible ways you can use your sessions and am always only a text away.BARB & THE “COMING OUT LATE” PODCAST TEAM-UP:Have I Got A Deal For YOU!The Coming Out Late podcast is teaming-up with BARB, a queer-owned & operated brand of hair styling products for people with short hair, like ME. BARB is a pomade, and is sold at select salons and Barbershops across the US, but is ALSO conveniently sold online as well. So, as part of their new partnership with the “Coming Out Late” podcast, BARB is offering my listeners 15% off your order when you use the Promo Code ROBIN15 at checkout. Just visit the Barb website at: http://www.thebarbshop.com and use (all caps) ROBIN15.THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:We are “