Coming Out Late

In this episode, Robin invites Samantha Fox back to her Show. Samantha is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist AND Lesbian Curiosity Coach. Today, they talk about the dynamic flow of our sexual attraction and desires…and SO much more!In this episode, you will learn…What IS “dynamic flow”?How does dynamic flow affect my sexual attraction and desires?What is YOUR sexual energy? And why is sexual energy important?What is a stone-top? A stone-bottom? A switchy? And why is it important to know what YOU are?What it means to pick the best ‘external partner’ versus the best ‘internal partner’.How does ‘compulsory heterosexuality’ affect how we feel about our own sexual energy? What does society teach us to think and feel?That there really are lots of ways to be a sexual human.To think about, “...What am I attracted to? Androgynous women? Women with masc-energy? Women with fem-energy? Something in between?”Why “vulnerability” is vital to great a great flow of sexual energy between you and your partner.Why communicating about your sexual desires with your partner is critical to a healthy sex life.That sexual energy and sexual desire shouldn’t be “heavy” topics; have fun, play, experiment and explore these sides of you.The importance of doing the work on ourselves regarding “internalized homophobia”!Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:SAMANTHA FOX:Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.comTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoachInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at:www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

The podcast discusses the keys to living a fulfilled life, including acceptance, surrendering, expectations, and letting go. It highlights the importance of prioritizing self-care and embracing change, as well as choosing our responses and letting go of the past. The concepts of acceptance, surrender, and letting go are explored as keys to serenity and happiness. It emphasizes the need to surrender expectations and take control of our own responses and actions.

This week Robin continues her conversation with the late bloomers from her most recent Coming Out Late Retreat to Traverse City, MI. As you’ll be able to glean from the banter, this group has grown quite close to one another, had a GREAT time, and shared a lot of very special moments and memories. Many who attended have later shared with Robin that their Retreat experience was life-changing for them. That makes my heart sing! I know this Coming Out Late Retreat had an enormous impact on ME as well!Robin’s Coming Out Late Support Groups and Retreats are quickly becoming one of the fastest ways to make new friends and build your community and tribe within this fast-growing late blooming sector of the LGBTQ+ community. Over seventy-five percent of the Phoenix Retreat attendees made their way to Michigan to attend the Coming Out Late Traverse City Retreat. Keep an eye out in Robin’s “Coming Out Late” FB Group for announcements regarding upcoming Retreats in 2024.Feeling seen and being heard.Deep conversations, vulnerable shares, laughing & shenanigan’s in a safe space is all a part of coming INTO ourselves!So many “firsts” and so many more to come!Learning and practicing the fine art of flirting, (from 2 very different approaches)!Nearly 25 late blooming strangers met in Michigan & had the time of their lives.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736MEETING SCHEDULE:October 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18

This week Robin invites the attendees from her most recent Traverse City, MI Retreat to come on the show and share their enthusiasm and experiences. Robin’s Coming Out Late Support Groups and Retreats are quickly becoming one of the fastest ways to make new friends and build your community and tribe within this fast-growing late blooming sector of the LGBTQ+ community. Over seventy-five percent of the Phoenix Retreat attendees made their way to Michigan to attend the Coming Out Late Traverse City Retreat. Keep an eye out in Robin’s “Coming Out Late” FB Group for announcements regarding upcoming Retreats in 2024.The magic of vulnerability.Building new friendships in our 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and 60’s.Experiencing our true selves when we feel safe, seen and supported.Nearly 25 late blooming strangers meet in Michigan and have the time of their lives.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736MEETING SCHEDULE:September 11, 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18

Robin shares details about her online support group “Women Loving Women”. She also dives into the powerful responses she received after posing the question “What do you wish you knew then that you’ve known now on your journey” to the women of the group.In this episode, you will learn…You can take care of yourself—you can do hard things.Fear of the unknown is the common thread that holds so many back in life.Finding the inner strength to say “Yes, I’m gay” and learning to trust yourself.There’s nothing better than living your truth.Coming out is not horrible and difficult for everyone.Feel the freedom of coming out to yourself—You don't really need to know 100% with certainty that you for sure are gay and you're coming out as gay. Just give yourself permission to explore those thoughts.Live your life and find your truth. To support Robin & Hugo, go to: www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5MEETING SCHEDULE:September 11, 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

In this episode, Robin reads a post written by a member of her “Coming Out Late” community about feeling stuck and sad while in the beginning stage of the messy middle. Robin also shares with us the outpouring of beautiful and practical support and encouragement. Grab your pen and paper because you are going to want to write down some of the really useful suggestions, as well as some of the poignant positive affirmations that the authors’ responders shared with her.In this episode, you will learn…The necessity of taking care of yourself first during this time of coming out.Why it is critically important during this journey to always protect yourself first.The importance of setting goals and making lists and why you should start with small goals for yourself first.That by setting goals and achieving them, no matter how small they are (and the smaller the better in the beginning), you will begin to feel a lot less stuck!That now is a good time to go back to school or obtain additional training so that you make yourself more marketable when seeking employment.That you need to become as financially literate as possible; and open up a separate bank account, (in your name only), in a different banking institution from any joint accounts you share with your partner.The importance of seeking 2-3 free consultations from a few different divorce lawyers - with the sole purpose of knowing and understanding what your legal rights are for the particular state you reside in.Seek therapy, (a queer therapist if possible), and encourage your partner to seek his own therapist as well.That crying and breathing - as much as you can - really IS therapeutic!That by staying committed to “kindness”, you and your partner have a better chance of going through this journey amicably and communicate effectively.That every day will come with its different feelings and those will change constantly. It is OK to feel however you’re feeling in that moment and the importance of ‘feeling ALL the feels’.Links to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5MEETING SCHEDULE:September 11, 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

“Coming-Out-Late Grief: It’s Real”‘Life' is full of uncertainty, discomfort and pain, as well as joy, peace and freedom. It is when we master the art of being comfortable with discomfort and uncertainty, that we have mastered the art of living life - not just surviving it.Why should our coming out late journey be any different? It is in the discomfort, the uncertainty and the grief in which our growth can occur and our souls may soar. Grief is not only an expected part of ‘life’, but it will also be an expected and painful part of our coming out late process! This journey you are on is not easy - - but it is well worth it all, in the end. And the good news is - - everyone will survive the grieving process and your coming out late journey - - it just takes time - - a lot of time and patience!In this episode, you will learn…That your grief, sadness and pain is very real, and to be expected. That mourning and grieving during your coming-out journey is ‘normal’, and doesn’t just happen once, but does lessen over time. Give yourself plenty of love, grace and space to simply ‘be’.That you are going through a metamorphosis of sorts; you will be shedding old ‘skin’ and rebirthing a new identity. With those significant changes come intense feelings; heavy, deeply-felt feelings. Feel them all. Feeling them all gives them credence and in doing so allows them to ‘pass through you’ more freely and quickly.Why it’s critical that you cry - and cry often! Let your tears flow, and flow freely and flow often. Crying is not a weakness - it is a necessary and natural process in the release of toxins and emotions that simply must come out - just like you must come out.  Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736MEETING SCHEDULE:September 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18

In this follow-up episode to last week, Robin continues to answer a few more questions which were submitted by members of her Coming Out Late Facebook Group. In today’s episode of “Your Queer Questions Answered”, Robin discusses the following topics:Dividing up your marital assets don’t always have to be 50/50.Go over ALL of your expenses with a fine-tooth comb!Do you know what it costs to live in the housing you’re currently living in?Should you get rid of the house? Or budget even tighter and get a second job?What does it mean to ‘live below our means/?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736MEETING SCHEDULE:September 11, 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin addresses some topics brought up in her Coming Out Late Facebook Group. In today’s episode of “Your Queer Questions Answered”, Robin discusses the topic of “Coming to terms with lost time.”Here is the topic in their own words: “I wish I’d been able to have that part of me, all along. I mourn, (a bit), the life I could have had, the full relationships that could-have-been, had I known earlier.” She goes on to say, “I LOVE my kids…and my wuzband is a close friend but…there’s a sadness in me. I could’ve been my true self much earlier.” And lastly she adds, “I guess there’s a sense of my life being half over and I just now found myself”.ALL of this that we’re experiencing, (the good, bad and the ugly), is all a part of our healing journey. We must understand and accept that, and truly, truly embrace that this point in time is all about our healing.By questioning our sexuality, we are ultimately questioning EVERYTHING about ourselves and our lives - we are pioneers, trailblazers - whether we intended to be or wanted to be or not.A few tools for reconciling our past are: ACCEPTANCE, SELF-COMPASSION, and REFLECT ON THE PAST. Believe and TRUST that you are exactly where you are supposed to be in this moment, in this point in time.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024

In this part 2 episode Robin continues to celebrate her monumental milestone of producing 100 episodes of “Coming Out Late” with two very special guests - her two adult millennial daughters! For the first time ever, the three of them sit down and discuss their Mom’s coming out journey and how it impacted their lives. They discuss…What did “Gay Awareness and Representation” look like from two twenty-somethings growing up?Sexual stereotypes and what those looked like then, versus now.Reflecting on the ‘messages’ they received about homosexuality from their family of origin.Robin’s daughters reflect on inclusivity, learning about gay people growing up, and how their own personal views have evolved over time. “Sexual Fluidity”, what it means and how hard it is to wrap our heads around it.For the first time ever, Robin tells her ‘coming out’ story to her two daughters.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024