Coming Out Late

Robin continues her conversation with late bloomer Dawn Noble about the core elements of PACT, a form of therapy she uses while coaching her queer clients in their relationships. Dawn helps her clients recognize their own trauma responses, what their attachment style is, and how to best co-regulate in their relationships.In this episode, you will learn…Remembering you don’t have the power to change anybody but yourself.Understanding the importance of our own attachment theories, how we co-regulate and recognizing our own personal trauma responses.How PACT therapy differs from other forms of therapy.Understanding relationships require agreements that allow you to connect, disconnect, and repair so resentment doesn’t stay.Recognizing your partner’s triggers: the bigger the response, the older the wound.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:Dawn Noble Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/Dawnanoble/Click here to book a FREE 15-minute Consultation with Dawn: https://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=24623606PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).

Dawn Noble, raised in a large LDS family, discusses the impact of her upbringing and purity culture on her journey towards embracing her true self. She shares her experience of coming out, dealing with family struggles, rushing into marriage, setting boundaries, and finding love and acceptance. The episode touches on the importance of self-love and accepting others for who they are.

In this week’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with her Mystery Guest about their coming out journey and how it has impacted her family. I’m hopeful that you’ll hear lots of good information to take with you on YOUR coming out journey! Here is a sampling of what you will hear in today’s episode:How she and her husband told their kids about their separation.Sharing big family news doesn’t have to be long and drawn out; in fact, it can be in small bites-sized pieces of information.They shared a small amount of information: (a) we’re getting separated, (b) we’re not going to be ‘husband & wife’ anymore, and c) this is what it’s going to look like for you.The concept of ‘nesting’ and what that looks like.All kids really wanna know is, “How is this change to our family going to affect me?” What has Robin been up to since her hiatus from podcasting?What does a “Leave of presence” mean to Robin?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).

Robin is back from her podcasting hiatus and ready to bring you content sure to educate, inform, entertain and make you think and hopefully grow! Robin returns with a special Mystery Guest, and together they talk about pleasure and pain, and how ‘hard’ doesn’t have to be bad. Here is a small sampling of what you will hear in today’s episode:How we are ALL ‘recovering’ from something in our lives.That our minds are “addictive”. Our minds are constantly seeking pleasure.Our desires are fleeting and don’t always bring us joy; our desires can also bring us pain, especially when seeking them in obsessive, intense ways.Our resistance to suffering and pain only brings on more pain & suffering.Hard does not have to be bad!Knowing we’re gay before we’re ten years old.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. Also, the dates for the “St. Pete (FL) Retreat” changed from April to May. St. Petersburg, FL: (May 24-27, 2024); Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024). Possible additional Retreat locations include: Pocono Mountains, PA, San Diego, CA, Los Angeles, CA.

Robin shared in last week’s episode that she plans to take a 4-week hiatus from ‘most’ of the “Coming Out Late” work that she does. And since then, she has decided to ‘come clean’ about how she’s spending these next four weeks (and the months & years beyond) - it’s not what you think she’s doing!After years of actively working her 12-Steps in one recovery Program, Robin recognized it was ‘time’ now to devote that same level of commitment to her 12-Step ACA, (Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families), Recovery Program. It is NOT for the faint-of-heart and her work will take her far beyond the next four weeks, but it is her desire, through this podcast in the next 4 weeks, to share with you some broad concepts of the ACA Program, the importance of doing this ‘work’, and what she is learning as she embarks on this journey in a deeper, more meaningful way than she has.If this is not your cup of tea don’t worry, ‘regular’ coming out late podcast episodes will start back up again in January.   Links to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.PLEASE DONATE TO THE PODCAST:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN OUR PRIVATE FB GROUP: “COMING OUT LATE”Use the following link to join our private Facebook Group, “Coming Out Late”. Answer ALL of the required registration questions, then wait to have your request approved. https://www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS & DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIESIf interested in learning more about ACA, use the following link to find resources, zoom meetings and more. www.adultchildren.org 

The holidays can be particularly challenging for those who’ve just come out. Robin shares how to handle difficult situations with care and the importance of keeping lines of communication with your children and/or family as open as possible. Robin also discusses why the New Year is a perfect time to prioritize self care!In this episode, you will learn…How to handle the holidays with your significant other or former significant other.You don't have to spend an uncomfortable holiday unless there are children involved.Suggestions for how to manage difficult feelings in the same space with others.Advice for asking your children what they expect on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.Try to be the one that initiates cohesiveness and togetherness and connectedness.The sooner our children realize and can adapt to and embrace change as something that just simply happens, and it's not something to be feared is good.The importance of making self care your number one priority.Encouragement to let go of toxic relationships—no matter who they’re with.We're gonna learn how to love ourselves or we're gonna learn how to shed our codependency because it's a new year.Links to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.PLEASE DONATE TO THE PODCAST:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN OUR PRIVATE FB GROUP: “COMING OUT LATE”Use the following link to join our private Facebook Group, “Coming Out Late”. Answer ALL of the required registration questions, then wait to have your request approved. https://www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

Robin continues her conversation with Holly and JJ in this Part Two “Coming Out Late & Trans” episode on the Coming Out Late podcast. about what it means to be transgender, the challenges of navigating relationships and gender reassignment, and why being honest with yourself and embracing who you are should always come first.In this episode, you will learn…What does it mean to be transgender?The challenges of navigating relationships.Should you or shouldn’t you? Gender reassignment is the question.Encouragement to be open to possibilities when it comes to your sexualityThe joy of transitioning and being accepted for who you truly areThe importance of being upfront about your identity after you come outAdvice for those worried about coming out to lean into your authentic selfEverybody’s body is different, medical support is crucial for your transition journey  Links to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thursday Evening8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736MEETING SCHEDULE:December 4, 18JJ (Jessica Jarrard), Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Owner of Rainbow Counseling & Consultation, a group private practice serving the LGBTQ community. www.rainbowcounselingservices.com

Robin talks with Holly and JJ about what it means to be transgender, the challenges of navigating relationships and gender reassignment, and why being honest with yourself and embracing who you are should always come first.In this episode, you will learn…Holly’s experience of feeling like a prisoner in her body and what it means to be transgenderThe importance of a supportive and accepting environment for transgender childrenBeing in a double-closet and underdressing to alleviate pain of gender dysphoriaUnderstanding which terms represent gender identityHolly’s heterosexual relationships and feeling like an imposterWhat it was like for Holly to finally come out as transgender at age 50Gender reassignment and gender affirmation surgeriesReflecting on coming out: Don’t worry about the reaction of others, fear manifests in many ways, don’t try to hide it because it’s not going to changeEncouragement to be open to possibilities when it comes to your sexualityThe joy of transitioning and being accepted for who you truly areThe importance of being upfront about your identity after you come outAdvice for those worried about coming out to lean into your authentic selfEverybody’s body is different, medical support is crucial for your transition journey  Links to Resources:JJ (Jessica Jarrard), Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Owner of Rainbow Counseling & Consultation, a group private practice serving the LGBTQ community. www.rainbowcounselingservices.comPRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736MEETING SCHEDULE:November 6, 20; December 4, 18

In this replay of episode #55, Robin introduces us to one of her listeners, Michelle, hailing all the way from Australia. Struck by a note she received from Michelle, Robin knew she had to share it with her listener’s, with Michelle’s consent of course. Robin also knew that the impact of Michelle’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Michelle herself. Michelle agreed and read her own letter, aloud to us.This episode touches upon topics which get us thinking about . . .The universal nature of coming out late, no matter where in the world we live.The effect of women in non-traditional, but male-dominated occupations.Is it a woman’s responsibility to help make a man feel ‘whole’ if he feels emasculated or threatened by a woman?Being with men, cutting off bits of myself and making myself smaller in order that they would feel like men.Many of the late in life stories include complex arrangements and rearrangements of marriages and courageous and challenging journeys. This guest doesn’t have children, and is not married.There is more to “identity” than just our sexuality.A life lived out of other people's expectations is a life dominated by fear and resentment.Am I an “L”? A “B”? Or maybe a “P”? Do we need labels?Do I now need to dress differently and wear beanies?Which life-lived is my real reality? Everything feels completely flipped upside-down, or sideways, or completely averse.Sexual identity versus cultural conditioning; internalized homophobia, people pleasing and the female anatomy.It seemed that the rainbow world offered many possibilities for stepping out of one cage and into another.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.BUY ME A COFFEE:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736MEETING SCHEDULE: November 20; December 4, 18

In this episode, Robin invites Samantha Fox back to her Show. Samantha is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist AND Lesbian Curiosity Coach. Today, they talk about the dynamic flow of our sexual attraction and desires…and SO much more!In this episode, you will learn…What is a stone-top? A stone-bottom? A switchy? And why is it important to know what YOU are?What it means to pick the best ‘external partner’ versus the best ‘internal partner’.How does ‘compulsory heterosexuality’ affect how we feel about our own sexual energy? What does society teach us to think and feel?That there really are lots of ways to be a sexual human.To think about, “...What am I attracted to? Androgynous women? Women with masc-energy? Women with fem-energy? Something in between?”Why “vulnerability” is vital to great a great flow of sexual energy between you and your partner.Why communicating about your sexual desires with your partner is critical to a healthy sex life.That sexual energy and sexual desire shouldn’t be “heavy” topics; have fun, play, experiment and explore these sides of you.The importance of doing the work on ourselves regarding “internalized homophobia”!Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass Links to resources:SAMANTHA FOX:Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.comTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoachInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at:www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass