Coming Out Late

The podcast discusses the keys to living a fulfilled life, including acceptance, surrendering, expectations, and letting go. It highlights the importance of prioritizing self-care and embracing change, as well as choosing our responses and letting go of the past. The concepts of acceptance, surrender, and letting go are explored as keys to serenity and happiness. It emphasizes the need to surrender expectations and take control of our own responses and actions.

In this episode, Robin reads a post written by a member of her “Coming Out Late” community about feeling stuck and sad while in the beginning stage of the messy middle. Robin also shares with us the outpouring of beautiful and practical support and encouragement. Grab your pen and paper because you are going to want to write down some of the really useful suggestions, as well as some of the poignant positive affirmations that the authors’ responders shared with her.In this episode, you will learn…The necessity of taking care of yourself first during this time of coming out.Why it is critically important during this journey to always protect yourself first.The importance of setting goals and making lists and why you should start with small goals for yourself first.That by setting goals and achieving them, no matter how small they are (and the smaller the better in the beginning), you will begin to feel a lot less stuck!That now is a good time to go back to school or obtain additional training so that you make yourself more marketable when seeking employment.That you need to become as financially literate as possible; and open up a separate bank account, (in your name only), in a different banking institution from any joint accounts you share with your partner.The importance of seeking 2-3 free consultations from a few different divorce lawyers - with the sole purpose of knowing and understanding what your legal rights are for the particular state you reside in.Seek therapy, (a queer therapist if possible), and encourage your partner to seek his own therapist as well.That crying and breathing - as much as you can - really IS therapeutic!That by staying committed to “kindness”, you and your partner have a better chance of going through this journey amicably and communicate effectively.That every day will come with its different feelings and those will change constantly. It is OK to feel however you’re feeling in that moment and the importance of ‘feeling ALL the feels’.Links to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5MEETING SCHEDULE:September 11, 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18https://wwSupport the show

“Coming-Out-Late Grief: It’s Real”‘Life' is full of uncertainty, discomfort and pain, as well as joy, peace and freedom. It is when we master the art of being comfortable with discomfort and uncertainty, that we have mastered the art of living life - not just surviving it.Why should our coming out late journey be any different? It is in the discomfort, the uncertainty and the grief in which our growth can occur and our souls may soar. Grief is not only an expected part of ‘life’, but it will also be an expected and painful part of our coming out late process! This journey you are on is not easy - - but it is well worth it all, in the end. And the good news is - - everyone will survive the grieving process and your coming out late journey - - it just takes time - - a lot of time and patience!In this episode, you will learn…That your grief, sadness and pain is very real, and to be expected. That mourning and grieving during your coming-out journey is ‘normal’, and doesn’t just happen once, but does lessen over time. Give yourself plenty of love, grace and space to simply ‘be’.That you are going through a metamorphosis of sorts; you will be shedding old ‘skin’ and rebirthing a new identity. With those significant changes come intense feelings; heavy, deeply-felt feelings. Feel them all. Feeling them all gives them credence and in doing so allows them to ‘pass through you’ more freely and quickly.Why it’s critical that you cry - and cry often! Let your tears flow, and flow freely and flow often. Crying is not a weakness - it is a necessary and natural process in the release of toxins and emotions that simply must come out - just like you must come out.  Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736MEETING SCHEDULE:September 25; October 9, 23; NovemSupport the show

In this follow-up episode to last week, Robin continues to answer a few more questions which were submitted by members of her Coming Out Late Facebook Group. In today’s episode of “Your Queer Questions Answered”, Robin discusses the following topics:Dividing up your marital assets don’t always have to be 50/50.Go over ALL of your expenses with a fine-tooth comb!Do you know what it costs to live in the housing you’re currently living in?Should you get rid of the house? Or budget even tighter and get a second job?What does it mean to ‘live below our means/?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.9:00pm EST / 6:00pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736MEETING SCHEDULE:September 11, 25; October 9, 23; November 6, 20; December 4, 18Support the show

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin addresses some topics brought up in her Coming Out Late Facebook Group. In today’s episode of “Your Queer Questions Answered”, Robin discusses the topic of “Coming to terms with lost time.”Here is the topic in their own words: “I wish I’d been able to have that part of me, all along. I mourn, (a bit), the life I could have had, the full relationships that could-have-been, had I known earlier.” She goes on to say, “I LOVE my kids…and my wuzband is a close friend but…there’s a sadness in me. I could’ve been my true self much earlier.” And lastly she adds, “I guess there’s a sense of my life being half over and I just now found myself”.ALL of this that we’re experiencing, (the good, bad and the ugly), is all a part of our healing journey. We must understand and accept that, and truly, truly embrace that this point in time is all about our healing.By questioning our sexuality, we are ultimately questioning EVERYTHING about ourselves and our lives - we are pioneers, trailblazers - whether we intended to be or wanted to be or not.A few tools for reconciling our past are: ACCEPTANCE, SELF-COMPASSION, and REFLECT ON THE PAST. Believe and TRUST that you are exactly where you are supposed to be in this moment, in this point in time.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom. Via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evening, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024Support the show

In this Part 2 episode of the Out & Wild Women’s Wellness Festival, Robin recaps the experiences we each had with this group of queer Festival goers, culminating the conversation asking everyone to describe one memory that has stayed with them long after they’ve returned home.In this episode you will hear the Festival attendees reflect-on… What is ONE word that describes your experience at the Out & Wild Women’s Wellness Festival? And why?Who were you before the Festival, but more importantly, who were you and how were you feeling AFTER the Festival was over?Name the one memory or experience you have taken from the Festival that stands out in your heart and in your mind above all the other possible memories?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life, then I encourage you to request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL: May 31 - June 3, 2024Look for the “Out & Wild Women’s Festival” Facebook Group.OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL - WEBSITE:https://www.beoutandabout.co.uk/out-wild-festival/SUPPORT GROUPS:There is a $5 cover charge to attend each meeting. You must Register for these and all Support Groups every week, using the links below:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP: Beginning JUNE 29th.Every OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783Meeting Schedule:Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time): June 29; July 13, 27; August 10, 24; September 7, 21; October 5, 19; November 2, 16, 30; December 14, 28.FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS: Beginning JULY 6thEvery OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),5pm PST / 8pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024Meeting Schedule:Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time): July 6, 20; August 3, 17, 31; September 14, 28; October 12, 26; November 9, 23; December 7, 21.COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/Support the show

In this unconventional Bonus episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues telling the tale of her experience getting to the Out & Wild Women’s Wellness Festival in Wales. Three flights, four different train changes, one questionable cab ride and a thoughtful car lift TO the festival was “all it took” for Robin to eventually arrive at Out & Wild! Listen to Part 2 to the crazy ups-n-downs of Robin’s journey to Wales!In this episode you will learn… You are stronger, wiser and more resilient than you give yourself credit for.Be accountable to yourself, and take responsibility for your actions.Smile and say “please” and “thank you”. Have gratitude and show it.Ask for help. (Most people really do want to lend a hand!)Cry when needed; then blow your nose and go to Plan B.Don’t give up on yourself. Growth occurs within the experiences of adversity.Trust the process. You are exactly where you are supposed to be.Drop ALL expectations!Feel the fear and do it anyway.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of your COMING OUT LATE journey, then send me an email and request the Info Sheet for my 1:1 coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like me who really ‘gets you’, and who has been through it. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Here's the Support Group Weekly Schedule:WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783MEETING SCHEDULE:Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time): June 29; July 13, 27; August 10, 24; September 7, 21; October 5, 19; November 2, 16, 30; December 14, 28. FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS:Every OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024MEETING SCHEDULE:Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time): July 6, 20; August 3, 17, 31; September 14, 28; October 12, 26; November 9, 23; December 7, 21THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:EVERY Wednesday, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/Support the show

In this 2-part Episode Robin describes what the Out & Wild Women’s Wellness Festival is all about, describing the facilities, offerings, and venue. THEN, Robin invites 15 of her closest UK-friends to join her in a recorded zoom gathering to talk about THEIR experiences at the Festival.In this episode you will hear the Festival attendees answer… What is ONE word that describes your experience at the Out & Wild Women’s Wellness Festival? And why?How has the Festival transformed you, after it was over?Name one memory from the Festival that stands out the most?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching.Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:There is a $5 cover charge to attend each meeting, each week, and you must Register for these and all Support Groups every week, through Buy Me A Coffee, using the links below:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUP: Beginning JUNE 29th.Every OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Fifty Plus & Fabulous),6pm PST / 9pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/141783Meeting Schedule:Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time): June 29; July 13, 27; August 10, 24; September 7, 21; October 5, 19; November 2, 16, 30; December 14, 28.FIFTY PLUS & FABULOUS: Beginning JULY 6thEvery OTHER Thurs. Evenings, (alternating w/Women Loving Women),5pm PST / 8pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024Meeting Schedule:Thursdays @ 6pm Pacific Coast Time (9pm East Coast Time): July 6, 20; August 3, 17, 31; September 14, 28; October 12, 26; November 9, 23; December 7, 21.COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL: 2024, May 31 - June 3OUT & WILD WOMEN’S WELLNESS FESTIVAL - WEBSITE:https://www.beoutandabout.co.uk/out-wild-festival/Support the show

In this unconventional episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin takes a casual, unscripted approach this week, sharing with you a recent ‘thing’ she did. She did a ‘gay’ thing and she wants to share with you her ‘gay thing’ experience, AND share with you the things she learned about herself along the way. These ‘things’ Robin learned about herself are universal lessons we can all benefit from. She also hopes to recruit many of you to join her next year, to do this ‘gay thing’ together in one big happy gay group! Stay-tuned for Part 2 THIS WEEK!In this episode you will learn… You are stronger, wiser and more resilient than you give yourself credit for.Drop ALL expectations and ‘life’ will run like a Swiss watch!Be accountable to yourself, and take responsibility for your actions.Be yourself, and everything else will fall into place.Smile and say “please” and “thank you”.Have gratitude and show it.Ask for help. (Most people really do want to lend a hand!)Cry when needed; then blow your nose, pick yourself up and go to Plan “B”.Don’t give up on yourself.Trust the process. You are exactly where you are supposed to be in this time and place.Nothing changes if nothing changes.Feel the fear and do it anyway.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!  The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESTYou must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/FOSupport the show

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with her newest group of Coming Out Late Retreat attendees in a conversation they had immediately following their return from “Women’s Fest” in Rehoboth Beach, DE.In this episode you will learn… What happens when we “don’t wear the uniform”?What IS ‘the uniform’?An insider’s / attendees perspective on Women’s Fest in Rehoboth Beach, DE.Volunteer at queer events - its a safe and less scary way to meet new people.“...I realized at the Retreat, I’m still me. Being gay is just a part of who I am. It doesn’t change who I am as a person.”Dealing with Imposter Syndrome - and what it is.What happens when you combine ‘pack mentality’ and ‘alcohol’ at a very large event.The need and value of a “safe word”. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSIf you are struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life. then I encourage you to send me an email and request the information sheet on my one-on-one coaching. It REALLY DOES make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who really ‘gets you’, who has been through it and who can help YOU decide what the best course of action is for YOU. Email me at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my Coaching Info Sheet.‘THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP’!The Not-Straight Support Group has always wanted to just be inclusive to ALL folx who deem themselves not-straight; we wish to attract and be inclusive to bisexuals, pansexuals, questioning persons, queers, trans-, and non-binary folx. Each week we gather to talk about whatever is in our hearts and on our minds, mostly related to some aspect of our coming out journey. You can share as little-of, or as much of your story as you feel comfortable. Show up late, leave early - just come grab some lovin’ support!  The Not-Straight Support Group meets every Wednesday at 12:30pm ESTYou must register, pay and use this link each and every week you attend.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassCOMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/FOLLOW ROBIN ON INSTAGRAM AT:To follow Robin on Instagram, go to: @late.blooming.lesbianSupport the show