Coming Out Late

In this week’s episode of Coming Out Late, Robin & Chris talk with Jules Heron, Founder & Owner of Hair for Humans. Hair for Humans is a hair salon in Portland, OR and Jules, (who goes by they/them), is a stylist who specializes in gender-affirming hair cuts.Today, you’ll hear Robin, Jules & Chris discuss:Scoring a Hair for Humans cut appointment.How does Jules identify and what is their story?Top surgery, losing sensation, and gaining sensation.What is dysphoria and dysmorphia?What happens when our bodies align with how we feel?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:HAIR FOR HUMANSJules Heron, Founder - hairforhumans@gmail.comhttps://www.hairforhumans.com/IG: @hairforhumans   Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hairforhumansSUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Philadelphia, PA: (Aug. 22-25); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP:If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link:  www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .

In this week’s episode Robin shares with us her perspective on the frequently asked question, “Am I Less Gay Because I Was, (or Am), Married to A Man?”. Robin also answers the question, “How did you know you were gay? Did you waiver? Did you need ‘an experience’ to know for sure?”Some of the topics you’ll hear Robin share with you are:Contempt prior to investigation; and how does that relate to being newly gay?What is ‘sexuality’? And could it really be fluid?Your truth is yours to define; if you say you’re gay, you’re gay! No one else gets to weigh-in or decide for us.“The fears we don’t face become our limits.”Heterosexual women do not lay awake at night fantasizing about other women.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP:If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link:  www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .

In this week’s episode, “Things to Consider When Coming Out Late”, Robin shares with us a smattering of subject matters and insights that relate to coming out late. The five insights that Robin shares with us are:There’s power in the pause.Don’t compare yourself to other people.Your coming out late journey is yours; it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.Participating in Pride Events.Expect the unexpected and be prepared for the highs ‘n lows.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP:If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link:  www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .

In this week’s episode Robin continues fielding questions from her partner Chris about what it was like for Robin, to come out gay, nine years ago. Robin reveals that it had really been a ten year process before that; a process of noticing the breadcrumbs, ignoring the breadcrumbs, then noticing more breadcrumbs - over and over again - until ultimately finding herself standing in her garage with a proverbial full loaf of bread in her basket, saying to herself, “Holy Sh!t! I’m Gay!” You’ll hear Robin respond vulnerably to topics like:Robin embraces the belief that her journey happened exactly as it was meant to; that it was divine-timing.Take advantage of ALL of the resources available today: podcasts, books, Robin’s Coaching, therapy & Robin’s 3 weekly Support Groups.Expect the unexpected during the coming out process AND divorce.Create a small tribe of trusted people who can love and support you.Do you come out to everyone, or keep it to yourself for a while?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: fF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. Spaces are limited, so act now! Retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING: Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link:  www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .

Join Robin and Chris as they delve into the deeper details of Robin's late coming out journey, exploring her realization of being gay, acceptance of her identity, struggles with self-discovery, and reflections on past experiences. Discover the complexities of coming out late, societal influences, and the support system that played a crucial role in Robin's journey towards self-realization.

In this episode of “How Living Out & Proud Changed My Life”, Robin reminisces and reviews her journey to coming out to herself. Why now? Why this week? Because it was this time NINE years ago nearly-to-the-day that she said those infamous words aloud to herself, “Holy Shit! I’m Gay!” Listen to how living her life out and proud has changed her and what she’s learned along the way. Spoiler Alert: Robin is STILL learning about herself, with each passing year! Enjoy!In this episode, you’ll hear Robin talk about some of the things that she has learned about herself since coming out 9 years ago…Just how much better Robin’s life has been since coming out.All the ways in which coming out has helped shape and inform and educate Robin along the way.Has Robin, or anyone, ever regretted coming out late?Coming out is hard, usually comes at a cost, involves heartbreak and tears - so is it worth it?Wat does loving-kindness, compassion and tolerance have to do with coming out late?Robin and all of her previous phobias.Growth can only occur through changes; and if nothing changes, nothing changes.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link:https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.

In this Part 2 episode Robin and Chris continue their conversation with Stevie, who is Host of her own podcast, “Queer Story Time, The Podcast”. Stevie, a queer, trans femme yoga therapist, and gender & sexuality educator, together with Robin & Chris, discuss how cultural conditioning has shaped our lives and what's required of us to healing  & liberate ourselves.In this episode, you will learn…The importance of having a more solid understanding of who we are and being okay with it.That finding that thing that gives you that inner spark and deep level of connection to yourself is all a part of establishing a solidness to your being.How our coming out journey is one of ‘uncovering’, ‘discovering’ and ‘recovering’ our true nature, our highest selves.Yoga is the cessation of the movement of the mind; we use yoga to liberate ourselves from our suffering by finding space between our thoughts.Each of us can play a part in reducing my own suffering.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:A PUBLIC APOLOGY:I wish to publicly apologize to BOTH Dr. Michelle Cromwell & Dr. Jampa Wurst, two of Stevie Inghram’s guests from her podcast, (Queer Story Time), who were both mentioned by Chris & I in this 2-part episode of Coming Out Late. We accidentally and incorrectly misgendered them both by using the incorrect pronouns. BOTH Dr. Michelle Cromwell & Dr. Jampa Wurst go by They/Them pronouns. My deepest, heartfelt apology to you both, AND to you Stevie!HOW TO FIND STEVIE INGHRAM:Queer Story Time the Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/introductory-episode-of-queer-story-time-the/id1711367302?i=1000630941312Instagram: @queertransthriving; @Future.nmd.yogiEmail: queerstorytimethepodcast@gmail.comSUPPORT GROUPS:THE MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Monday Evening - 75-minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Tuesday Evening - 75 - minutes; 8:00pm EST/ 5:00pm PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp every week. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday Afternoon - 75-minutes; 12:30pm EST/ 9:30am PST, in Zoom via Buy Me A Coffee, $5 pp, every week. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. IF you are even remotely interested in attending, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in. Spaces are limited, so act now! The Coming Out Late retreat dates are: Portland, OR: (August 15-18); Traverse City, MI: (Sept. 25-29); and Provincetown, MA: (Oct. 16-20).

Join Robin and Chris as they chat with Stevie Inghram, host of Queer Story Time, about cultural conditioning, dominant narratives, and the impact on gender identity. They discuss legislation, personal experiences, and the struggles of conforming to societal norms. Support groups and coaching services for those coming out late are also highlighted in this enlightening conversation.

In this episode, Chris decides to take the podcast reins AND the microphone from Robin and asks her some “Who Is More Likely” questions, allowing Coming Out Late listeners to gain some new perspectives about Robin AND her relationship with Chris. They hope to keep it silly, yet informative, with a few deeper questions sprinkled in there too. No judgment! Robin hasn’t seen the questions ahead of time - so you’ll be hearing them in ‘real time’ when Robin does.Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!In this episode, you will hear Chris ask Robin these questions and more…Who is most likely to stay up late?Who is most likely to lose track of time?Who is most likely to strike-up a conversation with strangers?Who is more likely to enjoy DIY projects?Who is more likely to hit the ‘snooze’ button in the morning?Who is more likely to fall asleep during a movie?Who is more likely to buy a dildo or a sex toy?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).#   #   #

In this Part 2 REPLAY of the “Coming Out Late In A Hetero Marriage” episode, Robin jumps right back in with her first-ever conversation with husband David, and his wife and late bloomer, Monique, who are actually going through Monique’s Coming Out Late process in real-time, and SHARING their experiences with us! There’s LOTS to absorb, take-in and learn!In this episode you will … “Kroger Parking Lot Therapy”, and having those REAL HARD conversations and asking one another the big scary questions, and discussing the really big issues.What does David mean by, “...the grass is greener where you water it…”Discussing the “pie-chart” of an entire relationship, and which parts are in need of attention.Looking at our pasts and getting real and getting honest with one another. Doing our shadow-work - together.Women dealing with sexual obligation to please their husbands.The Key to Relationship Progress? Communication! Communication! Communication!Before throwing the baby out with the bathwater, try problem-solving through creative experimentation and mutually agreed-upon creative solutions.Is your marriage worth working on? Are you willing to go to any-length to “save” your marriage, AND, work together on incorporating “her” newfound queer sexuality?David & Monique answer Robin’s questions: (1) What has been the hardest part, (so far), in Monique’s Coming Out Late process? (2) What’s been the scariest part of Monique’s Coming Out Late process, so far, for each of you?Monique and David also answer: (1) What advice would you give to your younger self, knowing what you know now? And, (2) What advice would you give to others on the brink of a similar path?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT GROUPS:THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).