Ep. #151: "B" is for Boobies? The ABC's of Coming Out Late, Part 1

Oct 22, 2024

Explore the vital role of boundaries in personal growth and relationships. Discover how flexible yet firm boundaries protect well-being and reflect core values. Hear anecdotes on navigating emotional challenges while coming out late, focusing on self-awareness and clarity. The conversation touches on body image issues and societal norms, adding humor to a thoughtful dialogue. Learn the significance of community support and healthy communication throughout this journey of self-discovery.

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ANECDOTE

The Boobies Anecdote

Robin and Chris share a humorous, personal story about initially framing “B” as "boobies" during the coming out late process. - They discuss the awkwardness and newness of noticing attraction as part of their journey.

INSIGHT

Boundaries Protect Well-being

Boundaries protect our well-being and help us align with our core values during coming out late. - They are essential life skills that require ongoing practice and refinement.

ADVICE

Ask Is This Okay?

Always check if situations or interactions feel okay or not okay to you. - Use pauses to reflect deeply instead of reacting immediately when unsure.

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In this Part 1 episode Robin continues the theme of “The ABC’s of Coming Out Late” and covers the letter “B”. She and her partner Chris discuss the importance of this life skill, how we should use this life skill and give real-life examples of this “B”-word in action!

Today, you’ll hear Robin & Chris cover things like:

What is a boundary and what are they so important? What are the three different types of boundaries?
Why healthy boundaries need to be flexible yet firm.
Boundaries help protect our well-being and help us to live up to our core values. Boundaries also offer us the opportunity to practice self-inquiry, self-awareness and self-care.
Boundaries are about clarity; helping others clearly understand how they can/should interact with us.
In all your human interactions, ask yourselves: “Is this okay? Or is this not okay?”
P.A.U.S.E.: Possibly Another Unknown Solution Exists. (You won’t know unless you “pause”. J.A.D.E.: Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain.
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COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: The 2024 Coming Out Late Retreat season wrapped up with 3 nights and 4 days of gay fun and deep conversations in Traverse City, MI. Keep an eye and an ear out for when and where we’ll be retreating to in 2025. Thank you to ALL who attended this year! Please Note: Provincetown, MA: CANCELED.

PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .