Coming Out Late

The holidays are upon us and we have only been ‘out’ for a short while; or maybe we haven’t quite come out to everyone yet; or maybe our soon-to-be-ex ‘outed’ you to his entire family. In this episode Robin and Chris talk about the upcoming holidays and how we plan ahead, prepare for and protect ourselves from some seriously uncomfortable holiday experiences.Keys to successful holidays: transparency, openness and honest communication.Use a lifeline if you need one, and have an exit planBe ready for provocative questions by having a few pre-prepared responses.Develop a self-care practice/routine, (e.g., nourish all your sensesWanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassIf you want more conversations around navigating the holidays when you’ve come out late, check out the previous “Coming Out Late” Episode #205.LINKS TO RESOURCES:Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.comSUPPORT GROUPS:ON HIATUS UNTIL JANUARY - Happy New Year!Support the show

The holidays can be particularly challenging for those who’ve just come out. Robin shares how to handle difficult situations with care and the importance of keeping lines of communication with your children and/or family as open as possible. Robin also discusses why the New Year is a perfect time to prioritize self care!In this episode, you will learn…How to handle the holidays with your significant other or former significant otherYou don't have to spend an uncomfortable holiday unless there are children involved.Suggestions for how to manage difficult feelings in the same space with othersAdvice for asking your children what they expect on Christmas Eve and Christmas DayTry to be the one that initiates cohesiveness and togetherness and connectedness.The sooner our children realize and can adapt to and embrace change as something that just simply happens, and it's not something to be feared is good.The importance of making self care your number one priorityEncouragement to let go of toxic relationships—no matter who they’re withWe're gonna learn how to love ourselves or we're gonna learn how to shed our codependency because it's a new year.Links to resources:Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Support the show

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin makes a few Coming Out Late Announcements and clarifies a few things about where to find the special Premium Interview episodes.In this episode, you will hear Robin announce…First Premium Interview - Ep. #200: Kristin Key. Purchase it, ($5), at: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/466637Second Premium Interview - Ep. #204: Alayna Joy. Purchase it, ($5), at: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/476490MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Monday, 55 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp via Buy Me A Coffee. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Register using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHER Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp via Buy Me A Coffee. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Register using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes, 12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, $10pp via Buy Me A Coffee. Wed. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, (June 4-7, '26); For more details, email Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Support the show

In this episode, Robin announces the next evolution of the Coming Out Late podcast: Monthly Premium Interviews featuring some of the most inspiring, hilarious, and thought-provoking voices in our queer world.In this episode, you will learn… How you can access these Premium Interviews:Monthly Subscriber: Become a paid Monthly Subscriber to access the ”Premium Interviews” via Buzzsprout, ($4/month). Link to join: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2114849/subscribeOne-At-A-Time: purchase only the Premium Interviews you wish to hear, (one-episode-at-time), thru Buy Me a Coffee, ($5/episode).Kristin Key Link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/466637Alayna Joy Link: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2114849/episodes/18153682Announcing the new, FREE, monthly Queer & Sober podcast  — open to everyone, not just those living sober, (accessed wherever you find the Coming Out Late podcast). Links to access the new, monthly podcast — Queer  & Sober:Ep. #199b: (QS.01): “Announcing — A Brand New Community, Retreats & Support Circles”, (Oct. 3, 2025); https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000730020799Ep. #203: (QS.02): “Queer & Sober — Finding Belonging”, (Oct. 31, 2025); https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000734364173Find the Queer & Sober Facebook Page here: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581399773746Join the “Queer & Sober Community” Facebook Group here: www.facebook.com/groups/4196389017301591/If you’ve been listening, learning, and growing from the Coming Out Late podcast, then please express your appreciation and support Robin by buying a “virtual” coffee. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes; 12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/2533742026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 1, 2026, Virtual Retreat); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, (June 2026); For more details, email Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Support the show

In this special monthly episode of “Queer & Sober”, (a special offering thru the Coming Out Late podcast audience), Chris and Robin talk about one of the most universal parts of being human — belonging.  Chris and Robin's honest and personal reflections on what it's like to navigate recovery as a queer person and to find or build your own communities.In this episode, you will learn…The difference between fitting in (performing for acceptance) and belonging (rooted in authenticity)How queerness and sobriety both ask us to live in truth — and how that truth can feel lonely without communityWhy belonging is biological, not just emotional: how co-regulation, safety, and connection heal our nervous systemsReflections on forgiveness, courage, and community repair — how we hold each other when we don’t get it perfectThe power of “We” over “I” — moving from isolation to connection, from illness to wellnessThe birth of the Queer & Sober community — an invitation to bring your full self, without apology or performanceWanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassQUEER & SOBER COMMUNITY & RETREATS:-RETREATS - Contact Chris: genderexpansiveyogi@gmail.com-COMMUNITY - Contact Robin: comingoutlater@gmail.comSUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:EVERY Monday Evening - 60 minutes.8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingMonday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; No meeting on Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 22, or Dec. 29. Next Meeting: Jan. 5. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Wednesday - 60 minutes12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingWednesday Meeting Dates:  Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12,; Dec. 3, Dec. 17;No meetings on: Nov. 26; Dec. 24, or 31.  No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.comhttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Tuesday - 60 minutes8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingTuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.comhttps://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/2533742026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, June 2026; Charlotte, NC (September 10-13. For more details, email Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Support the show

In this week’s episode Robin shares with us her perspective on the frequently asked question, “Am I Less Gay Because I Was, (or Am), Married to A Man?”. Robin also answers the question, “How did you know you were gay? Did you waiver? Did you need ‘an experience’ to know for sure?”Some of the topics you’ll hear Robin share with you are:Contempt prior to investigation; and how does that relate to being newly gay?What is ‘sexuality’? And could it really be fluid?Your truth is yours to define; if you say you’re gay, you’re gay! No one else gets to weigh-in or decide for us.“The fears we don’t face become our limits.”Heterosexual women do not lay awake at night fantasizing about other women.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingMonday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; No meeting on Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 22, or Dec. 29. Next Meeting: Jan. 5No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingWednesday Meeting Dates:  Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12,; Dec. 3, Dec. 17; No meetings on: Nov. 26; Dec. 24, or 31.  No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.comhttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingTuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30.No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.comhttps://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/2533742026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, (June 2026); Charlotte, NC (September 10-13). For more details, email Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Support the show

In this episode of Coming Out Late, Robin talks about feeling all the feelings while going through the coming out late journey. Consider this a pep-talk if you willIn this episode, you will learn…  How we are expected to know things we never knew before; do things we’ve never done before.How to accept, acknowledge & be with financial insecurity, loneliness and grief.Taking a look at how much we’ve grown, learned & handled over the year. Acknowledging to yourself that you are exactly where you are supposed to be right here, right now, in this momentWhy it’s dangerous to allow ourselves to idealize our pasts.Purchase a copy of the 1-hour Interview with Kristin Key! https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/466637 Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT ROBIN: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingMonday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; No meeting on Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 22, or Dec. 29. Next Meeting: Jan. 5No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingWednesday Meeting Dates:  Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12,; Dec. 3, Dec. 17; No meetings on: Nov. 26; Dec. 24, or 31.  No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.comhttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingTuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30.No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me: Comingoutlater@gmail.comhttps://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/2533742026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, (June 2026); Charlotte, NC (September 10-13). For more details, email Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Support the show

In this episode of Coming Out Late, Robin & Chris announce the beginning of a brand new Community - Queer & Sober: Community and Retreats. Who is Queer & Sober for? And what is Queer & Sober about? It’s about co-creating a safe, affirming community where every voice matters, joy is shared and together we thrive.Have a listen and learn more . . .  What is a Queer & Sober Community? Who is this Queer & Sober Community for?Is it just a ‘Community’?If you’re sober and queer, how would this Community help you? What are Queer & Sober Retreats? Where are they held?What defines someone as living a ‘sober’ lifestyle?What does ‘queer’ encompass? Who does it include?Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassQUEER & SOBER COMMUNITY and RETREATS:FACEBOOK PAGE: Follow us and ‘Like’ us! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581399773746 SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingMonday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on: Nov. 24; Dec. 22, or Dec. 29.No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Short term financial assistance available. Email me.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingTuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, 21; Nov. 4, 18; Dec. 2, 16;No meeting Dec. 30. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Short term financial assistance available. Email me.https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingWednesday Meeting Dates:  Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12; Dec. 3, 17; No meetings on:  Nov. 26; Dec. 24 or 31.  No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Short term financial assistance available. Email me.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931352026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar so far, and they are: (1) Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); (2) Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); (3) San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); (4) Lake George, NY, June 2026; (5) Traverse City, MI, (Up North Pride, Sept. ‘26). For more details, email Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Support the show

In this episode of Coming Out Late, Robin & Chris discuss the depth and breadth in which attending Coming Out Late Support Groups are of vital importance to us on this journey of coming out later. In this episode, you will learn . . .   Why do support groups matter, and make them feel so safe and supportive?Support Groups are where you can share your story and show up as your honest and  vulnerable self;  then,y our deeper purpose begins to emerge.Support Groups are non-judgmental spaces where you’ll quickly feel relief from isolation and resilience.  Additional benefits from attending support groups are: emotional regulation and resistance; accountability & growth; skill building in real time; The three Coming Out Late Support Groups serve as a weekly or bi-monthly anchor, therefore providing you with ongoing inspiration and hope.Support Groups afford you the opportunity to benefit from the shared wisdom, peer support and real life insights from women who are walking the same road.In Support Groups your identity is not just accepted - it is affirmed & celebrated.Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: ON HIATUS UNTIL SEPT. 17th2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, June 2026; Traverse City, MI, (Up North Pride, Sept. ‘26). For more details, email Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Support the show

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin and Chris invite two very special guests, barbers Wallace and Jess. Wallace & Jess are romantic partners, business partners and Owners of Locket Barber Shop in the Olde Kenzo part Philadelphia, PA.In this episode you will learn . . . How did Jess & Wallace meet? And, how did they get into barbering?What has surprised you most about running a business while also being together as a couple?Has being queer has helped or hindered their business? What is a queer-affirming haircut? And are there distinguishable nuances between a femme versus masc cut?What’s the difference between a Barbershop and a Salon? Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation.  Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:LOCKET BARBERSHOP:Owners, Jess & Wallace (@wallacethebarber)Instagram: @locketbarber  TikTok: @locketbarberEmail: locketbarbershop@gmail.comLocket Barbershop, 1733 North Second Street, Philadelphia, PA (Olde Kenzo) SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingMonday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; Not meeting: Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 122, or Dec. 29. , Dec. 5No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingWednesday Meeting Dates:  Sept. 17; Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12,; Dec. 3, Dec. 17;No meetings on: Nov. 26; Dec. 24, or 31.  No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: - BEGINNING: SEPT. 23rdEvery OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingTuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me.https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374Support the show