Coming Out Late

In this episode, Robin picks up where she left off in last weeks’ Episode of: “The Catalyst, Part One”, by first reminding us that catalyst relationships can and DO have one of the most significant impacts on us during the early stages of our Coming Out Late journey. While there is a certain amount of mystery and excitement surrounding a catalyst experience, Robin reminds us to proceed with caution, IF we are to proceed at all. Robin also outlines for us several necessary assumptions and considerations to think about, (preferably), before we ever even meet our catalyst. In “The Catalyst, Part Two”, Robin covers what our options are after we’ve met our catalyst, and why it is so important not to lose ourselves in this, or any future relationship(s). Examining the catalyst experience can be a very deep and complex process, and in this episode, Robin only begins to scratch the surface as to why catalyst relationships tend to be so confusing, complex and volatile. Robin also covers a variety of things that need our consideration before considering to act-on the allure of a catalyst.In this episode, you will learn…What purpose does a catalyst serve?What assumptions must be considered BEFORE we meet our catalyst?Some of the key considerations that can impact an experience with our catalyst.The three most common “types” of catalyst experiences.How to take personal inventory at all stages of our coming out journey, but especially prior to revealing ourselves to our catalyst?The #1 best way to deal with and handle the dreaded catalyst break-up!Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:Catch up by listening last week's Part 1 of: Ep. #192: Coming Out Late - the Catalyst Experience, Part 1. https://www.buzzsprout.com/2114849/episodes/17632873COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at:www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSupport the show

In this episode, Robin talks about The Catalyst and shares some insight as to WHAT a catalyst is . . . HOW the catalyst relationship is different from all other future same sex relationships . . . and WHY it’s important to understand your part, your ‘role’ in this very important, very intense first relationship with a woman. ALL women-to-women relationships are important, but there’s to be nothing like our first (catalytic) same sex relationship. There are no “silver bullets” in catalyst relationships, but understanding the nuts ‘n bolts of them, can help soothe the soul if/when our catalyst relationships end. Stay tuned for “The Catalyst: Part Two” next week.In this episode, you will learn…What IS a catalyst in a woman loving woman relationship?That “catalysts” are not always a person.The significance of the popular quote circulating among Women Loving Women circles: “You’ve never really had your heart broken until you’ve had your heart broken by a woman”.Not everyone who comes out (late) has a catalyst.What happens when your catalyst relationship starts to go south, and why?You can still purchase the recording from the June 25th Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit - all about “Relationships”. PayPal or Venmo me $27 (and send me an email so I can email you the recorded file, to Comingoutlater@gmail.com). My PayPal is: @NovareInternational, and my Venmo is: @Comingoutlater. I need your email address to send it to you.WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSupport the show

In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin discusses the topics of fear and confusion as they relate to the coming out late process. Robin explains, “...fear and confusion have been pervasively popping-up in a variety of forums where people gather for support and conversation regarding their coming out late journey’s. We need to have open and honest conversations about the common fears we experience and the mind-blowing confusion we’re hit with when coming out later in life.”In this episode you will learn… above all else, you are not alone! What you are thinking and feeling and experiencing is not only common and ‘normal’, but temporary as well.ways to dispel some common concerns and ‘arm’ you with some understanding of the coming out process, in order to help ease your overtaxed nervous systems.that we all share similar feelings of uncertainty, self-doubt, confusion, self-loathing, and a deep, deep visceral fear of the unknown at various points along our coming out transformation.there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to approach our coming out; there is no ‘right way’ to confront and resolve the relationships affected by our coming out. In fact, in many cases, we choose not to even act-on our awareness of our awakened queer identities - that for some - simply acknowledging that side of ourselves and possibly sharing that knowledge with a loved one is ‘enough’. fifty to one-hundred women, a WEEK, are requesting to join our ‘Coming Out Late’ FB Group.Worry is another form of fear. Worrying is a waste of our energy and a misuse of our imagination. “Worrying” is like praying for something that you don’t want. (What we focus on grows). Worry is also just a way to attempt to control something we have no control over.NO amount of worry is going to change the future - none. So, why worry? And if no amount of worry is going to change the future, then no amount of REGRET will change the past.But ANY amount of gratitude that you can muster-up during this phase of our awakening, WILL change the present. Any amount of gratitude WILL change the present. Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSThere is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Support the show

In this episode, Robin continues to break the mold in the world of LGBTQ podcasting by introducing us to one of her listeners, Michelle, hailing all the way from Australia. Robin was so struck by a note she received from Michelle, that she knew she had to share it with her listener’s, with MIchelle’s consent of course. Robin also knew that the impact of Michelle’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Michelle herself. So, Michelle agreed to read her own letter to Robin, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience.Whether covered directly, or implied, this episode touches upon topics which get us thinking about . . .The universal nature of coming out late, no matter where in the world we live.The effect of women in non-traditional, but male-dominated occupations.Is it a woman’s responsibility to help make a man feel ‘whole’ if he feels emasculated or threatened by a woman?Being with men, cutting off bits of myself and making myself smaller in order that they would feel like men.Many of the late in life stories include complex arrangements and rearrangements of marriage and children and Incredibly courageous and challenging journeys. This guest doesn’t have children, and is not married.There is more to “identity” than just our sexuality.A life lived out of other people's expectations is a life dominated by fear and resentment.Being honest with other women, from the very start.Am I an “L”? A “B”? Or maybe a “P”? Do we need labels? How do I flirt with a woman?Do I now need to dress differently and wear beanies?Which life-lived is my real reality? Everything feels completely flipped upside-down, or sideways, or completely averse.Sexual identity versus cultural conditioning; internalized homophobia, people pleasing and the female anatomy.It seemed that the rainbow world offered many possibilities for stepping out of one cage and into another.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSupport the show

In this week’s episode, “Things to Consider When Coming Out Late”, Robin shares with us a smattering of subject matters and insights that relate to coming out late. The five insights that Robin shares with us are:There’s power in the pause.Don’t compare yourself to other people.Your coming out late journey is yours; it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.Participating in Pride Events.Expect the unexpected and be prepared for the highs ‘n lows.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS:  ON HIATUS UNTIL Sept. 15, 2025THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: ON HIATUS UNTIL Sept. 16, 2025NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: ON HIATUS UNTIL Sept. 17, 2025COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:If you are interested in attending the last retreat of the season, to Grand Junction, CO (Sept. 4-8), then email Robin ASAP while there are still spots available. Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.comPRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSStruggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST:Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP:If you are AFAB, nonbinary, lesbian, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link:  www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .Support the show

Our coming out journey can be fraught with challenges, loss, little victories, followed up with more stress, anxiety, shame and guilt. What does our society think about these kinds of feelings and reactions? Are they considered trauma-responses? Or are we supposed to just ‘get over it’ or cope with it, independently.In this episode, you will learn . . .  About the differences between Big “T” and Little “t” trauma.How both Big “T” and Little “t” trauma were perceived decades ago, as compared to how society views and distinguishes them ‘today’.What were the few things that were considered Big “T” trauma?What is ‘trauma-informed care’?What does it mean if someone suffers from ‘cumulative stressors’? Holistic & integrated approaches to the rescue! Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:SOMATIC HEALING w/ChrisTake Care of Your Healing and Self-Care journey by purchasing a packet of 6 sessions of Chris’ Somatic Healing Series. It will be offered six times on Saturdays, (at 10am EST), beginning June 28, and six Tuesdays, (at 12 noon EST), beginning July 1st. Purchasing a 6-pack of sessions for $120, allows you to attend any six sessions listed. To Register, email Chris at: Genderexpansiveyogi@gmail.comSUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931352025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:To be put on the email list for these retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 25-27-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-8Support the show

In this week’s episode, Robin talks about the keys to living a serene and fulfilling life. Robin puts on her philosophical beret and covers topics such as “acceptance”, “surrendering”, “expectations” and “letting go” and what in the world does that have to do with coming out late?Give yourself permission to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently; because we can!Nothing changes if nothing changes.We ALWAYS have options and choices to ‘think’ and ‘do’ differently.It’s how we respond to adversity, to challenge, that defines our character.We must accept we have no control over people, places, things & situations.The key to life, to serenity, and to living a fulfilled life is ACCEPTANCE.We learn how to accept by learning how to surrender; we learn how to surrender by learning how to LET GO.We need to learn how to let go of - and live free-from - ‘desired outcomes’ and ‘expectations’.The myth about chasing ‘ideal outcomes’. What’s the probability of catching our ‘desired outcomes’? What’s the cost of chasing our desired outcomes?We’re not in the CONTROL business - that’s codependency’s job!Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931352025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:To be put on the email list for these or future retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 24-27-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7Support the show

In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues her conversation about the importance of developing a money mindset in our lives; especially before, during and after our coming out late journeys. Together Robin and Sabrina, another late bloomer themselves, share their own beginner’s knowledge and personal experiences, not from any kind of ‘expert’ stance. Whether you are in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matters, know our financial rights and have a better understanding of our financial position in our world.In this episode you will learn… What IS a “Money Mindset”? And how/why does that affect YOU?Three steps in budgeting: (1) try to save 10% of your income, (2) know what your monthly fixed expenses are and try to keep them at 50-60% of your income, and (3) put aside about 30% for “spending” or your “fun money”.You can only cut-back your expenses so much, but, can you renegotiate your big, big fixed expenses, (i.e., auto insurance, homeowners insurance, your mortgage to a lower interest rate, rent, etc.); the next question is, can you increase your income at all?Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, work part time, or even full time, know what value you bring to your marriage and be willing to fight for your value!Know what the rental market is in your area and determine what your income needs to be in order to move out and live on your own.If neither you and/or your spouse cannot afford to move out, then you both need to ask the question, “...how can we meet our needs within the marriage. Are you ok with me seeing someone else and you seeing someone else…?” (a.k.a., ethical non-monogamy).Whether or not you stay in the marriage, there will always be trade-offs. The questions are: What are you financially able to trade-off? And, what are you comfortable trading-off?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931352025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:To be put on the email list for these retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.-PORTLAND, ME: June 19-22, 2025 - ONE SPOT STILL REMAINING-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 25-27-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7Support the show

Robin has a casual but critical conversation with late bloomer, Sabrina, about the importance of developing a money mindset; especially as late bloomers on our coming out late journeys. Whether in a contractual relationship, a marriage, partnered or non-partnered, it is critical that we late bloomers have a sense of money matters, know our financial rights and have a better understanding of our financial position in our world.In this episode you will learn… What is a “money mindset”? How do you develop a mindset around money? How does it affect you and your future?What's your relationship with money? What has your journey with money been throughout your life? How did your relationship with money first get formed? Do you think you are capable of handling money?What are the 'stories' you tell yourself, [surrounding money], and the automatic reactions you have in your body, [as it relates to money matters.]To develop a healthy money mindset, we must first go through three steps: 1. bring awareness-to our own beliefs around money; what are we telling ourselves about money? 2. Where do my beliefs around money come from? How did your parents talk about money? Were they spenders or savers? 3. Then ask yourself, "Are those beliefs still serving me in my life now?"Improving your money mindset, and becoming proactive about your awareness and understanding of money matters can incrementally impact your future financial security.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931352025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:To be put on the email list for these retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.-PORTLAND, ME: June 19-22, 2025 - ONE SPOT REMAINING-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 25-27-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7A NEW COMING OUT LATE OFFERING:“Quieting the Mind & Finding Stability in Your Coming Out Late Process”.A gentle, body-centered somatic healing series, led by Chris, our seasoned Somatic Worker & Yoga Therapist. TWO Saturdays remain.Saturdays: May 31, and June 7. 10am-11am EST.Drop-In Fee: $25/class.Use this links to sign-up: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/398482Support the show

In this episode, Robin announces her upcoming celebration of not only another trip around the sun, but also her 10-year Gay-Aversary! Robin can’t believe it’s already been 10 years since coming out to herself over Memorial Day weekend in 2015. You’ll hear about 10 things that Robin learned over the course of these past 10 years and share some personal stories with you as well. In this episode, you will learn . . .  We are not the same person we were when we first came out to ourselves.We are going to make mistakes and have heartache along the way.The importance of “Strategy” and “Timing” on the Coming Out Late journey.Why creating a “Dream Team” is integral to your safety and sanity!Why “Navigating Family Dynamics” and “Boundaries” are important.Education, Self-Acceptance, and Timing are key factors on this journey.  Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:A NEW COMING OUT LATE OFFERING:“Quieting the Mind & Finding Stability in Your Coming Out Late Process”.A gentle, body-centered group yoga series,, led by Chris, our seasoned Yoga Therapist.6-Consecutive Saturdays: May 3, 10, 17, 24, 31, and June 7. 10am-11am EST.Cost: $120/person for 6-week series; PLUS: Bonus 1:1 Intake Assessment w/Chrisor Drop-In Fee: $25/class.Use this links to sign-up:-Drop-In Link: ($25pp/session)https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/398482  SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931352025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:To be put on the email list for these retreats, email Robin: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.-PORTLAND, ME: June 19-22, 2025-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July 24-27-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Sept. 4-7Support the show