Coming Out Late

In this episode, Robin announces the next evolution of the Coming Out Late podcast: Monthly Premium Interviews featuring some of the most inspiring, hilarious, and thought-provoking voices in our queer world.In this episode, you will learn… How you can access these Premium Interviews:Monthly Subscriber: Become a paid Monthly Subscriber to access the ”Premium Interviews” via Buzzsprout, ($4/month). Link to join: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2114849/subscribeOne-At-A-Time: purchase only the Premium Interviews you wish to hear, (one-episode-at-time), thru Buy Me a Coffee, ($5/episode).Kristin Key Link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/466637Alayna Joy Link: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2114849/episodes/18153682Announcing the new, FREE, monthly Queer & Sober podcast  — open to everyone, not just those living sober, (accessed wherever you find the Coming Out Late podcast). Links to access the new, monthly podcast — Queer  & Sober:Ep. #199b: (QS.01): “Announcing — A Brand New Community, Retreats & Support Circles”, (Oct. 3, 2025); https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000730020799Ep. #203: (QS.02): “Queer & Sober — Finding Belonging”, (Oct. 31, 2025); https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000734364173Find the Queer & Sober Facebook Page here: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581399773746Join the “Queer & Sober Community” Facebook Group here: www.facebook.com/groups/4196389017301591/If you’ve been listening, learning, and growing from the Coming Out Late podcast, then please express your appreciation and support Robin by buying a “virtual” coffee. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates: Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374Support the show

In this special monthly episode of “Queer & Sober”, (a special offering thru the Coming Out Late podcast audience), Chris and Robin talk about one of the most universal parts of being human — belonging.  Chris and Robin's honest and personal reflections on what it's like to navigate recovery as a queer person and to find or build your own communities.In this episode, you will learn…The difference between fitting in (performing for acceptance) and belonging (rooted in authenticity)How queerness and sobriety both ask us to live in truth — and how that truth can feel lonely without communityWhy belonging is biological, not just emotional: how co-regulation, safety, and connection heal our nervous systemsReflections on forgiveness, courage, and community repair — how we hold each other when we don’t get it perfectThe power of “We” over “I” — moving from isolation to connection, from illness to wellnessThe birth of the Queer & Sober community — an invitation to bring your full self, without apology or performanceWanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassQUEER & SOBER COMMUNITY & RETREATS:-RETREATS - Contact Chris: genderexpansiveyogi@gmail.com-COMMUNITY - Contact Robin: comingoutlater@gmail.comSUPPORT GROUPS:2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates: Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374Support the show

In this week’s episode Robin shares with us her perspective on the frequently asked question, “Am I Less Gay Because I Was, (or Am), Married to A Man?”. Robin also answers the question, “How did you know you were gay? Did you waiver? Did you need ‘an experience’ to know for sure?”Some of the topics you’ll hear Robin share with you are:Contempt prior to investigation; and how does that relate to being newly gay?What is ‘sexuality’? And could it really be fluid?Your truth is yours to define; if you say you’re gay, you’re gay! No one else gets to weigh-in or decide for us.“The fears we don’t face become our limits.”Heterosexual women do not lay awake at night fantasizing about other women.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:SUPPORT GROUPS:2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates: Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374Support the show

In this episode of Coming Out Late, Robin talks about feeling all the feelings while going through the coming out late journey. Consider this a pep-talk if you willIn this episode, you will learn…  How we are expected to know things we never knew before; do things we’ve never done before.How to accept, acknowledge & be with financial insecurity, loneliness and grief.Taking a look at how much we’ve grown, learned & handled over the year. Acknowledging to yourself that you are exactly where you are supposed to be right here, right now, in this momentWhy it’s dangerous to allow ourselves to idealize our pasts.Purchase a copy of the 1-hour Interview with Kristin Key! https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/466637 Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT ROBIN: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates: Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374Support the show

In this episode of Coming Out Late, Robin & Chris announce the beginning of a brand new Community - Queer & Sober: Community and Retreats. Who is Queer & Sober for? And what is Queer & Sober about? It’s about co-creating a safe, affirming community where every voice matters, joy is shared and together we thrive.Have a listen and learn more . . .  What is a Queer & Sober Community? Who is this Queer & Sober Community for?Is it just a ‘Community’?If you’re sober and queer, how would this Community help you? What are Queer & Sober Retreats? Where are they held?What defines someone as living a ‘sober’ lifestyle?What does ‘queer’ encompass? Who does it include?Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassQUEER & SOBER COMMUNITY: FACEBOOK PAGE: Follow us and ‘Like’ us! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581399773746 SUPPORT GROUPS:2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates: Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374Support the show

In this episode of Coming Out Late, Robin & Chris discuss the depth and breadth in which attending Coming Out Late Support Groups are of vital importance to us on this journey of coming out later. In this episode, you will learn . . .   Why do support groups matter, and make them feel so safe and supportive?Support Groups are where you can share your story and show up as your honest and  vulnerable self;  then,y our deeper purpose begins to emerge.Support Groups are non-judgmental spaces where you’ll quickly feel relief from isolation and resilience.  Additional benefits from attending support groups are: emotional regulation and resistance; accountability & growth; skill building in real time; The three Coming Out Late Support Groups serve as a weekly or bi-monthly anchor, therefore providing you with ongoing inspiration and hope.Support Groups afford you the opportunity to benefit from the shared wisdom, peer support and real life insights from women who are walking the same road.In Support Groups your identity is not just accepted - it is affirmed & celebrated.Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassSUPPORT GROUPS:2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates: Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374Support the show

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin and Chris invite two very special guests, barbers Wallace and Jess. Wallace & Jess are romantic partners, business partners and Owners of Locket Barber Shop in the Olde Kenzo part Philadelphia, PA.In this episode you will learn . . . How did Jess & Wallace meet? And, how did they get into barbering?What has surprised you most about running a business while also being together as a couple?Has being queer has helped or hindered their business? What is a queer-affirming haircut? And are there distinguishable nuances between a femme versus masc cut?What’s the difference between a Barbershop and a Salon? Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation.  Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS TO RESOURCES:LOCKET BARBERSHOP: Owners, Jess & Wallace (@wallacethebarber); Instagram: @locketbarber  TikTok: @locketbarber; Email: locketbarbershop@gmail.com; Locket Barbershop, 1733 North Second Street, Philadelphia, PA (Olde Kenzo) SUPPORT GROUPS:2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: Three Retreats are on the 2026 calendar, they are: Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Provincetown, MA, "Women's Week", (Oct. 15-18). Request details, by emailing Robin:  Comingoutlater@gmail.com.MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: Every OTHER Monday Evening - 50 minutes; 8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Next Meetings: Jan. 5, 19; Feb. 2, 16; Mar. 2, 16, 30; Apr. 20, (No Meeting: Apr. 13). No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: Every OTHERTuesday - 75 minutes; 8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting; Tuesday Meeting Dates: Dec. 30; January 13, 27; February 10, 24; March 10, 24, etc.; No Refunds or Credits given once Registered. https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374Support the show

In this episode, Robin introduces a particular topic or theme or idea that she hopes will help us all think a little deeper, feel a little more awakened and possibly even inspire us to act a little differently as we navigate through this journey of life and of coming out.In this episode you will consider the possibility of ‘impermanence’ and learn . . .What is the meaning of ‘impermanence’, and why is it important?How does ‘impermanence’ affect us: Emotionally? Socially? Intellectually? Mentally? Spiritually? Physically?Does the knowledge of ‘impermanence’ affect our daily lives?Does ‘impermanence’ impact our mindfulness and being present in the moment?What are the benefits of accepting ‘impermanence’?What can happen if we do not accept the idea of ‘impermanence’?By embracing ‘impermanence’, we learn acceptance and that ‘change’ is inevitable.How does the intersection of ‘impermanence’ and ‘comp-het’, ‘homophobia’, and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:1. MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: - BACK ON SEPT. 15EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingMonday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; No meeting on Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 22, or Dec. 29. Next Meeting: Jan. 5No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me and let’s chat.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/1657362. THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: - BACK ON SEPT. 17Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingWednesday Meeting Dates:  Sept. 17; Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12, No meeting on Nov. 26; Dec. 3, Dec. 17; No meeting on Dec. 24, or 31.  No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me and let’s chat.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931353. THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: - BEGINNING ON SEPT. 23rdEvery OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meetingTuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30. No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.Temporary financial assistance available. Email me and let’s chat.https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/Support the show

In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues her conversation with friend and Lesbian Curiosity Coach, Samantha Fox, to keep talking about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx. In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . . A very big part of our coming out process IS awakening to our own sexual desires, our sex drive and defining our own sensuality.The taboo of self-pleasuring, masterbation and why no one talks about it.Objectification: being the object of the male gaze.Is our outlook upon men determined by WHEN you came out? Are lifelong lesbians LESS likely to be objectified by men? Are their relationships with men different than women who come out late?The different emotional conditioning for men versus women.Sex was an obligation they did ‘for’ their husbands; it wasn’t something they liked, enjoyed or even wanted to do.What was wrong with me? Feeling ‘broken’ in our hetero relationships and in our marriages.Working through the cultural ‘learnings’ and ‘traumas’ to heal our perceived brokenness.NONE of us are ‘broken’. We are just deeply buried under layers and layers of cultural, societal, religious conditioning that needs to be undone; but NONE of us are broken.Have experiences so that you can “collect the data” about yourself and get to know WHO you are!‘Lesbian Bed Death’ is NOT exclusive to just lesbians - it occurs in ALL unhealthy relationships.Get to know your own sex drive and sexual needs and be true to your needs.Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! Not doing so in your relationships is like taking a tourniquet to your relationship and cutting off the blood supply.“Fantasizing” is such a great way to get in touch with what you like.Dispelling the Myth: Lifelong lesbians *may* not be better at sex than we are.   Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSThere is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Support the show

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin invites Samantha Fox back to talk about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx.In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . . The coming out late journey is fraught with potholes, messy-middles, and a multitude of emotions. But, what about what happens AFTER you’re through the messy middle - what then?Post the messy-middle, we are still faced with dealing with feelings and ‘people’ when we begin to date women. Just because we’re now dating women doesn’t mean we are immune from ‘relationship challenges’ and no longer have to deal with ‘personalities’.Peeling back the layers of not only comphet, (compulsory heterosexuality), but also patriarchy, misogyny, and capitalism, to realize that most, if not ALL, of our beliefs and traditions and cultural ‘norms’ need to be reinspected by each of us - least of which is the concept of monogamous relationships; or, that there is just “one person” out-there for us; or that, once in a committed relationship, that it is ‘for life’ - it may not be.To be open to the possibility that being in a relationship is an opportunity to learn and grow from within - to heal our wounds and grow. And that once a relationship may have run-its-course, that perhaps it was an experience in our life to purposefully teach us a needed lesson. “Relationships” can, and possibly *should*, be looked upon as a beautiful string of experiences with all different kinds of people.How “expectations” are the death to every and all relationships and experiences. Let go of expectations and allow yourself to experience the joy and wonder of that particular moment, and then the next moment, and the next.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASSThere is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Support the show