Coming Out Late

In this episode, Robin and Chris discuss the essay Robin read in last week’s episode, written by her nomadic traveling friend, Gila. Robin and Chris break down the essay, line-by-line, and compare how Gila’s insights and words seamlessly dovetail with our experiences with coming out late in life.Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear Robin & Chris explore…"We are shaped by our experiences. Without both the challenges and the joyful moments, there is no path for growth.” -Gila MelamedHow can ‘joy’ be a catalyst for growth?Remember also,  ”The point of change [growth] comes when we can no longer stay the same.”‘Hard’ doesn’t have to mean ‘bad’.The day will come for all of us when we realize we can no longer stay the same.It’s difficult to have a compassionate heart when you’re in fear.The beauty of forgiveness lies in the freedom it gives us.Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931352025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.-KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED; -PHILADELPHIA, PA: AugustTENTATIVE; -GRAND JUNCTION, CO: early September TENTATIVESMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin shares the other blog post from her late blooming nomadic traveling friend, Gila Melamed. With this blog post, Robin and Gila force us to take a look at both that which brings us joy, and that which challenges us and makes us realize that without both there can be no growth. And without growth - we die - inside and out.Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear discussed…"We are shaped by our experiences. Without both the challenges and the joyful moments, there is no path for growth.” -Gila MelamedThe day will come for all of us when we realize we can no longer stay the same. The ‘road’ to inner peace and liberation is not all unicorns & roses - Gila describes their path like this: “.. .Even though I knew with all my heart, that following my heart was the right thing for me,  my other parts were fighting me, trying to dim my shining light, reflecting their fear so profoundly, that at times, I was on my knees with agony..People are doing their best - unfortunately it doesn’t always align with our needs for safety and comfort or our desires. Our emotional health and personal growth is contingent upon our own willingness to get curious and honest while exploring our emotions and feelings.Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931352025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. -KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025; -PHILADELPHIA, PA: July or August; -GRAND JUNCTION, CO: Early SeptemberSMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin talks about a special friend she met over two years ago - a single, female, nomadic traveler who journals her travel experiences in a blog. An intermittent reader of her blog, Robin happened across two entries in particular that she wants to share with you; one this week, and one next week. Enjoy!Here’s a sampling of what you’ll hear discussed…"In life, there is time for everything." The struggles with loneliness are real. In admitting our fears aloud, to trusted friends, we learn that we are not alone.Lessons of forgiveness, time well-spent and friendships.Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:MY NOMADIC TRAVELING FRIEND: “In Life, There Is Time for Everything.”SUBSTACK: https://substack.com/home/post/p-150225058SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931352025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.-NASHVILLE, TN: April 4-7, 2025FULL-KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July or AugustTENTATIVE-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: OctoberTENTATIVESMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin shares with us a story she came across in social media - about a woman who left her husband after a 10-year marriage, then finding herself in a nearly two-year WLW relationship, and was eventually broken-up with. Robin uses this example to illustrate the following…Where does our sense of stability really come from? Do we stay in old relationships (marriages), because they're safe & stable? What happens when we chase comfort and security outside ourselves? What can we gain by getting quiet, spending time with ourselves, asking ourselves deep questions & getting curious? Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/931352025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.-NASHVILLE, TN: April 4-7, 2025FULL-KENNEBUNK, ME: June 19-23, 2025CONFIRMED-PHILADELPHIA, PA: July or AugustTENTATIVE-GRAND JUNCTION, CO: OctoberTENTATIVESMALL GROUP COACHING: Be one of 6 late bloomers who tackle some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin interviews Gender Expansive Yoga Therapist, Chris Blais. They discuss why we must learn to practice 'courageous love' - if we are to thrive, not just 'survive' these tumultuous times!You will learn about…Practicing courageous love.R.A.I.N. - Recognize, Allow, Investigate & Nurture.Healing & honoring all our feelings. What a strong back and a soft front mean.“May we be safe. May we be happy. May we be healthy. May we live with ease. May all beings have these things.”May we all “be the change we wish to see in the world.” Mahatma GandhiWanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassRESOURCES:GENDER EXPANSIVE YOGI, Chris BlaisInstagram: @genderexpansiveyogi  Email: Genderexpansiveyogi@gmail.comEP. #164: MERCY & COMPASSION FOR ALL LGBTQ+ PEOPLE:Re: Bishop Mariann Buddehttps://www.buzzsprout.com/2114849/episodes/16494276BISHOP MARIANN BUDDE:Book: How We Learn to Be Brave: Decisive Moments in Life and FaithBook: Receiving Jesus: The Way of LoveTARA BRACH:The link to: Meeting these Times with Courageous LoveSUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.co

In this episode, Robin acknowledges the crazy political climate we're currently in and how that impacts our new gay lives. She asks the question, “Should we go back in the closet after just coming out late?”You will learn about…The urgency with which we each need to get into action - as much as we can while remaining safe.. How our ‘governmental structure’, ‘democracy’, ‘freedoms’ and sense of being a ‘united nation’ are all lies and illusions.How to care for yourself during these stressful, anxiety-ridden times .How our public reactions and a direct approach communicating to our elected officials DOES really have an impact!The Rachel Maddow Show (transcribed from 2/20/25) https://www.happyscribe.com/public/the-rachel-maddow-show/maddow-to-block-trump-s-agenda-help-republican-politicians-find-their-spinesWanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135NEW! 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025Handsome Podcast LIVE Tickets - buy here: www.ryman.comhttps://www.ryman.com/event/2025-04-06-handsome-live-tig-notaro-fortune-feimster-mae-martin-at-7-pm-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? Be one of 6 late bloomers who meet for 90-minutes, in 6 sessions in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in March '25. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com to request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.Pertinent Links:-Heather Cox Richardson: https://heathercoxrichardson.substack.com/She can also be found in Facebook, Youtube and Instagram: @heathercoxrichardson-Rachel Maddow: www.rachelmaddow.com“The Rachel Maddow Show”, MSNBC-House.gov-Congress.gov-The Capitol Switchboard: (202) 224-3121

In this episode, Robin invites you into a private conversation between a bunch of late bloomers who all met in Robin’s Coming Out Late Community. After meeting one another, week after week in Robin’s three weekly support groups, a bunch of them realized they lived pretty close to one another so many of them have met one another in real life and are forming friendships and creating their local communities.You will learn about…How being a part of a community really is good for your soul. That a simple last minute zoom call between new friends can be so goofy and uplifting. How you really can name your pets ‘people names’ like David the dog or Todd the tortoise. Which one are you? Monogamy? Or, polyamory?Are you a top? A bottom? Or a switch? Or…topsy-turvy?Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135NEW! 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added). -NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025Handsome Podcast LIVE Tickets - buy here: www.ryman.comhttps://www.ryman.com/event/2025-04-06-handsome-live-tig-notaro-fortune-feimster-mae-martin-at-7-pm-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin selects a social media thread from one of her favorite Facebook Groups. The Admin. starts what turns out to be, one of the most meaningful and “therapeutic” threads that overwhelmingly aligns with Robin’s core Coming Out Late values that she simply HAD to share it. Robin strongly believes that the initial post, and the thread of comments and solicited advice that follows, could be used as a Coming Out Late handguide. The overall theme, “It Is Ok”, addresses feeling the feels, the emotional roadblocks, and thinking versus feeling, to name a few!In this episode, you will learn…“It is ok” to be afraid, to not know what you are doing, and to ask a lot of questions.“It is ok” to still want to be with men, or to not want to leave your marriage.It's okay to be a lesbian. It's okay to be a bisexual. It's okay to be Trans. It's okay to be non-binary. It's okay not to know what you are and/or choose no label at all!We are all on different journeys, and our paths and perspectives are built on our own life experiences.Lean-in to your feelings. It’s okay to feel those. Feeling your feelings is ALL you need to do. Feel and breathe.There is no urgency to *do* anything, just BE.Take the time to process the changes!There is no right way or one-way to do any of this. YOUR path is the right one.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLINKS to RESOURCES:SUPPORT GROUPS:MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135NEW! 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, (Comingoutlater@gmail.com), (more locations will continue to be added). -NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025Handsome Podcast LIVE Tickets - buy here: www.ryman.comhttps://www.ryman.com/event/2025-04-06-handsome-live-tig-notaro-fortune-feimster-mae-martin-at-7-pm-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS: Be one of 6 late bloomers tackling some of your biggest struggles in 75-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program. Email me your interest at Comingoutlater@gmail.com.